I went to Home Depot with my husband to pick out new flooring for the nursery and the living room. We bought some but it didn't fit in our car so we had to put it on will call and come back with our truck. All they needed from me was the receipt but my wonderful pregnant brain misplaced it within two minutes of the cashier giving it to me. An hour later we are finally leaving after working it out, I am starving and crying because I feel so dumb. And hungry.
The gas station attendant was mean to me when I couldn't figure out how to use the pump and walked over to his window for help. It kept asking me for a rewards card and I kept pressing "NO" and it still wouldn't take my debit card. "Ma'am it's not a touch screen!" *queue waterworks*
DH told me over the phone that he wants more independence and he wants to do "whatever he wants to do" and that he "already has a mother." He told me to stop making plans for us on our weekends. He told me that he's not going to do house chores on the weekends anymore. Bawling....seriously it sucks when you feel like you have no support from your life partner. ugh. Hopefully he's just really moody and just taking it out on me. Otherwise, it's going to be a shitty weekend.
@rnyland1 ...he's just not going to do chores anymore? Is he 12?! Joking aside, I am sorry...I hope he's just having a bad day because that is ridiculous. Hang in there.
@rnyland1I'm sorry - I'm totally in the same boat as you, and it sucks. My DH is "so stressed at work" right onw that he really needs his "me time." In order to make things easier on him, he's requested that I change my, DS's and my mom's schedules for the week to drop off DS by or before 7am so that I can work from 7:30-3:30 and be home in time to make sure dinner is on the table when he gets home from work (apparently the man is incapable of eating a damn snack in the afternoon and thinks we still live in the 1950s). This way, though, he can hole himself up in our basement to play video games by himself earlier in the evening. I've been giving him the silent treatment for the past 2 days, which I know isn't the most mature approach and likely won't solve anything, but I'm too hurt and pissed off to "communicate" right now. It sucks not feeling supported - feel free to PM me if you want to vent! Guys suck sometimes.
@soberkfellugh...my DH is a "gamer" as well. He's very avid about having his "me time" to play video games but tends to complain whenever I take time for myself. I've actually hired a once a month cleaning service to come by the house so I don't have to bear the burden of major housework anymore in addition to my full-time job...but that doesn't change the fact that we still have daily food preparation, finances, dishes, trash, child/pet duties, and weekly laundry and grocery shopping. I wish there was a way to get him to "lean in" even a little bit more. He does help with some things but HATES dealing with and basically refuses to participate with food prep/cooking, dishes, or laundry (without a battle anyway), and in no way, shape, or form deals with any financial matters. I also hate doing all of those things, so I get pretty ragey having to do those things myself - or just letting everything go. I suppose there's worse things in life than a messy house with piles of dishes/laundry and relying on fast food/frozen food? Maybe I should loosen up a bit. *tears* because now I think I'm not a good enough wife!
@soberkfellugh...my DH is a "gamer" as well. He's very avid about having his "me time" to play video games but tends to complain whenever I take time for myself. I've actually hired a once a month cleaning service to come by the house so I don't have to bear the burden of major housework anymore in addition to my full-time job...but that doesn't change the fact that we still have daily food preparation, finances, dishes, trash, child/pet duties, and weekly laundry and grocery shopping. I wish there was a way to get him to "lean in" even a little bit more. He does help with some things but HATES dealing with and basically refuses to participate with food prep/cooking, dishes, or laundry (without a battle anyway), and in no way, shape, or form deals with any financial matters. I also hate doing all of those things, so I get pretty ragey having to do those things myself - or just letting everything go. I suppose there's worse things in life than a messy house with piles of dishes/laundry and relying on fast food/frozen food? Maybe I should loosen up a bit. *tears* because now I think I'm not a good enough wife!
No. He is not a good enough husband. He needs to grow uo before his child does.
@rnyland1 you certainly are not a bad wife. I have to believe they don't realize how childish they're being. But if we don't somehow communicate with them how their actions or inaction make us feel, we'll end up with one more baby to take care of, plus a lot of anger and resentment.
A long time friend's dad just died. I knew him and he was a really nice guy. My dad died 12 years ago and I just had a dream that DD was visiting him and didn't know what to call him. I explained to him, well, she doesn't see you very much. Then I woke up.
@whataboutscience so sorry you had a bad dream and for the loss of your dad and friends father. She may not see him but I like to believe our beloved ones watch out for us here
Its almost 1am. I just got done watching "Miss You Already". OMG.....do NOT watch that movie! So sad! On top of it, my husband has the stomach flu, and not DD has a fever...so I am waiting to see if she comes down with it. We were suppose to go to a celebration of life for our friends daughter (and her boyfriend) who were murdered a few weeks ago, but now I don't think we are going to be able to make it. We also had prior arrangements to go to a Blazer game for an event for my husband, and we had to call them this evening and let them know that we weren't going to be able to make it because of the flu bug. I am currently sleeping in the guest room, while my husband has literally locked himself in the master bedroom since Wednesday morning...and hasn't come out. DD knows that he is in there, and misses him so much, that last night we Facetimed (us in the dining room, and him in the bedroom), just so she could see him.
@PhoebeJune1984 I am so sorry for your loss how awful. Secondly so sorry you have so much sickness in the house hoping dd doesn't catch it and you were able to get some sleep!
@Lindsayleigh1989 Thanks! I think that DD has it, because her's is starting the same way as my husbands (and now his dad has it too...and it is starting the same way). Now I am just hoping that I don't get it! I haven't had the stomach flu in 10 years, so I am trying to hold on tight to that record and keep it going!
@PhoebeJune1984 I am so sorry to hear about your friends. I hope you get to go to the celebration of life for closure on such a horrible situation.
I cry over everything little thing at this point, happy or sad. Most recently though, I cried because my DH was in the mood and I really really was not! I feel so bad that I'm not because I love him to death and want to be close with him but I just am not feeling it, especially when my little boy is being super active and wiggly! He says it's totally fine, but I'm being insecure about the whole thing and feel like I'm letting him down. I feel like a bad wife, which seems ridiculous now but at the time it made me bawl. I'm excited for the day my hormones stop making me feel so vulnerable!
Today is my dad's birthday. He passed away some years ago but this day is still pretty tough. My sister also just sent a pic of his gravestone with flowers. I also didn't do myself any favors by watching The Help and now Forrest Gump. So many tears.
my friend implied that I was a shitty mom for scheduling my dissertation defense date before the baby arrives because I'll be putting undue stress on myself and the baby. I want to defend before so that i can graduate, get a job and contribute more to my household which includes taking care of LO. Of course this baby is a priority over everything else but I see nothing wrong with trying to get my Ph.D. before she arrives. I'm totally all in my feelings right now.
No way that's amazing ... Getting your Ph.D before baby is a being a GOOD mother in my eyes. You're setting a wonderful example for your child!
Also, to your other post, my dad passed away 2 almost 3 years ago now. It kills me that he won't be here to be a grandfather to this baby. Sometimes I just look at a picture of him sitting on our bookshelf and get very emotional. We will just have to share all the wonderful memories of them with our children so they can know how great they were. ❤️❤️
I'm really sad because the transmission is done in my car. And we aren't going to fix it - not worth all that money when the car isn't even worth that much. I've had the car since I was 16! My very first car! Ugh. So many memories, and I'm so comfortable in it. We're selling it for parts after our other car is out of the shop... And won't be able to buy a new one for a little while. I'm sure we'll be able to survive with one car for our little family, but it's going to be really difficult!!
I miss my husband. His assistant quit recently and he's been at work non-stop like 15 days in a row. Yesterday, it was raining and I had to do groceries alone and I had a complete meltdown as I was carrying my wet groceries to my car. My husband is so good at doing groceries and cleaning especially when I'm too tired to go at it alone. His new assistant starts next week so I'm hoping things will change.
I bought a box of those little already-portioned Chips Ahoy cookies at the store yesterday afternoon.... Went to get a pack today and my husband had already eaten EVERY SINGLE ONE. I cried. He just got back from the store with more.
Last night's meltdown, brought to you by stress & hormones! At 8:30 last night DH decides that he needs to organize all of our papers for a tax meeting tonight that he has known about since last week. Recently moving has been making things interesting - needless to say we looked for an hour for last year's taxes even though the advisor said he has it saved so we don't need to bring them with. Then at 9:30 he decides that we need to fill out some paperwork for our 1st house since we are moving forward with a renter. Add that to the stress of the work day, daylight savings time, feeling unorganized at home and at work, feeling behind with baby stuff and the fact that the new puppy keeps dragging my underwear out of the laundry hamper and through the house - yep. Waterworks. Then DH laughs at me when I break down and tell him everything. Because apparently my underwear strewn throughout the house was just hilarious. Blubbering waterworks.
I finally watched the latest episode of How to Get Away With Murder. Holy sh*t. Loud sobs. My poor husband kept reminding me, it's just tv! It's not real! We hate Analise, anyway!
I cried last night because my 19mo old said "tank you momma". Also I'm very overwhelmed with house hunting, which I can't even start her nursery till we find/buy said house.
The sleep situation at my house has just gotten worse and worse. It's been months. I brought my daughter to the pediatrician today just to make sure she didn't have an ear infection, etc. she's perfectly healthy.
The dr wants us to try cry it out with her. We've tried it before but we're too weak. I am willing to try it again but it seems so mean, especially now that I'm pregnant and HORMONES and such.
I'm tired, upset, and so sore from having her sleep with us. Dreading tonight.
1st trimester- the crisis was McDonald's shake machine did not.work. After a very long day at work, I just wanted a.chocolate shake since it was the only thing that seemed to soothe my belly at the time of.constant morning sickness.
2ND trimester- my cat and dog got in a fight and my dog hurt my cat. I've been very sad and crying since i t happened even though he seems okay. I just feel so bad and normally I.would handle it fine but the hormones are making me ugly cry about it.
The sleep situation at my house has just gotten worse and worse. It's been months. I brought my daughter to the pediatrician today just to make sure she didn't have an ear infection, etc. she's perfectly healthy.
The dr wants us to try cry it out with her. We've tried it before but we're too weak. I am willing to try it again but it seems so mean, especially now that I'm pregnant and HORMONES and such.
I'm tired, upset, and so sore from having her sleep with us. Dreading tonight.
This is not for the faint of heart. Or pregnant ladies. Horrible.
randishane011804 I feel your pain! We put an offer on a house last night and it seems so overwhelming. Worst case scenario is a 60 day contingency for us to sell our house + 45 day closing process = beginning of July. Holy time crunch, Batman! And then I can set up the nursery.... ugh.
This morning it was because DD didn't have anything green to wear to daycare and I didn't want her to be the only one left out. It wasn't a big deal to me until this morning. So DH watched her while I ran to Walmart and got something. Stupid hormones. Also, DD is 21 months and couldn't care less.
The sleep situation at my house has just gotten worse and worse. It's been months. I brought my daughter to the pediatrician today just to make sure she didn't have an ear infection, etc. she's perfectly healthy.
The dr wants us to try cry it out with her. We've tried it before but we're too weak. I am willing to try it again but it seems so mean, especially now that I'm pregnant and HORMONES and such.
I'm tired, upset, and so sore from having her sleep with us. Dreading tonight.
This is not for the faint of heart. Or pregnant ladies. Horrible.
Not for the faint of heart at all!! Our 19 mo old went through this recently. It took him an hour, AN HOUR, of screaming and crying till he went to sleep!! I'm pretty sure I was crying as hard as he was in my pillow. Granted he was angry crying and I was emotional I can't take my kid crying like this I need to go save him crying. Good Luck!! P.S. it was worth it, it took 2 day for him to get back to his normal schedule.
@kgrgreen I totally feel your pain! Good Luck, I hope it goes well for you! We aren't even there yet, we can't agree on what part of town to move to. This area is closer to my work, but this area is closer to your work, the kids will have to go to private school over here. UGH!! Not to mention we need to bump our credit score up another 30 points if we want to interest rate/monthly payment for the cost of houses we need
The sleep situation at my house has just gotten worse and worse. It's been months. I brought my daughter to the pediatrician today just to make sure she didn't have an ear infection, etc. she's perfectly healthy.
The dr wants us to try cry it out with her. We've tried it before but we're too weak. I am willing to try it again but it seems so mean, especially now that I'm pregnant and HORMONES and such.
I'm tired, upset, and so sore from having her sleep with us. Dreading tonight.
This is not for the faint of heart. Or pregnant ladies. Horrible.
Not for the faint of heart at all!! Our 19 mo old went through this recently. It took him an hour, AN HOUR, of screaming and crying till he went to sleep!! I'm pretty sure I was crying as hard as he was in my pillow. Granted he was angry crying and I was emotional I can't take my kid crying like this I need to go save him crying. Good Luck!! P.S. it was worth it, it took 2 day for him to get back to his normal schedule.
Thank you! I am hopeful. My daughter was sweet as pie this morning and had been extra happy today! I still feel so guilty.
Ran across an ad for Babycenter on FB - read the article/clicked through the pictures, and now it's all I can do not to burst into tears at my desk. Really trying to enjoy these next few months while DS is my only child!!
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poor husband was so confused why I burst into tears. We ended up going on a short walk but I fee bad for getting so emotional.
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"Ma'am it's not a touch screen!"
*queue waterworks*
I cry over everything little thing at this point, happy or sad. Most recently though, I cried because my DH was in the mood and I really really was not! I feel so bad that I'm not because I love him to death and want to be close with him but I just am not feeling it, especially when my little boy is being super active and wiggly! He says it's totally fine, but I'm being insecure about the whole thing and feel like I'm letting him down. I feel like a bad wife, which seems ridiculous now but at the time it made me bawl. I'm excited for the day my hormones stop making me feel so vulnerable!
Also, to your other post, my dad passed away 2 almost 3 years ago now. It kills me that he won't be here to be a grandfather to this baby. Sometimes I just look at a picture of him sitting on our bookshelf and get very emotional. We will just have to share all the wonderful memories of them with our children so they can know how great they were. ❤️❤️
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I'm just it ignore her as I feel like I'm making the best decision for my LO by finishing my degree before she arrives.
Yes, we'll both have to tell our babies how great their grandfathers were!
Last night's meltdown, brought to you by stress & hormones!
At 8:30 last night DH decides that he needs to organize all of our papers for a tax meeting tonight that he has known about since last week. Recently moving has been making things interesting - needless to say we looked for an hour for last year's taxes even though the advisor said he has it saved so we don't need to bring them with. Then at 9:30 he decides that we need to fill out some paperwork for our 1st house since we are moving forward with a renter. Add that to the stress of the work day, daylight savings time, feeling unorganized at home and at work, feeling behind with baby stuff and the fact that the new puppy keeps dragging my underwear out of the laundry hamper and through the house - yep. Waterworks.
Then DH laughs at me when I break down and tell him everything. Because apparently my underwear strewn throughout the house was just hilarious. Blubbering waterworks.
I don't care. It was so so so sad.
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The dr wants us to try cry it out with her. We've tried it before but we're too weak. I am willing to try it again but it seems so mean, especially now that I'm pregnant and HORMONES and such.
I'm tired, upset, and so sore from having her sleep with us. Dreading tonight.
2ND trimester- my cat and dog got in a fight and my dog hurt my cat. I've been very sad and crying since i t happened even though he seems okay. I just feel so bad and normally I.would handle it fine but the hormones are making me ugly cry about it.
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https://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/031315-saying-goodbye-to-an-older-sibling-before-birth/#prclt-VGh812Ee