@stephweinstein So what you're saying is you're watching my laundry pile grow alongside my bump? LOL
FFFC: We're team green. When the circumcision discussions start I fully plan to stick with our go-to line for this topic "Wether our baby has a penis or a vagina, we will not be circumcising it." DH feels super strongly that he was mutilated and that having a penis doesn't make it circumcision while having a vagina constitutes mutilation. Politically I guess we're pretty charged in this area. I feel like I have to stand by DH with this one because if it were me with a circumcised vagina wanting to make the personal political, I know he'd stand up beside me. F*ck this is going to be a flamey Friday...
@stephweinstein So what you're saying is you're watching my laundry pile grow alongside my bump? LOL
FFFC: We're team green. When the circumcision discussions start I fully plan to stick with our go-to line for this topic "Wether our baby has a penis or a vagina, we will not be circumcising it." DH feels super strongly that he was mutilated and that having a penis doesn't make it circumcision while having a vagina constitutes mutilation. Politically I guess we're pretty charged in this area. I feel like I have to stand by DH with this one because if it were me with a circumcised vagina wanting to make the personal political, I know he'd stand up beside me. F*ck this is going to be a flamey Friday...
Nope not flamey because it is your parental decision. Who am I to disagree with what you do with your child?
@stephweinstein So what you're saying is you're watching my laundry pile grow alongside my bump? LOL
FFFC: We're team green. When the circumcision discussions start I fully plan to stick with our go-to line for this topic "Wether our baby has a penis or a vagina, we will not be circumcising it." DH feels super strongly that he was mutilated and that having a penis doesn't make it circumcision while having a vagina constitutes mutilation. Politically I guess we're pretty charged in this area. I feel like I have to stand by DH with this one because if it were me with a circumcised vagina wanting to make the personal political, I know he'd stand up beside me. F*ck this is going to be a flamey Friday...
I actually 100% agree with you and your husband ... My husband was the one fighting me on that choice, and it was difficult since he is a man who actually has a penis, whereas I do not. Luckily we won't have to get into it for a while now. That's great you two are on the same page!
FFFC: I can only stand when people complain about their spouse, so much. I get that we all need to vent, and there are two sides to every story. But if your spouse is a douchecanoe to you all.the.time......I don't want to hear about you constantly complaining about it, but never doing anything about it. After awhile, zero f*cks are given. There are some things I would change about MH (horrible at making decisions, procrastinator, sometimes had a bad attitude), but there are a lot of great things about him too.....he always makes sure that DD and I are taken care of, he is respectful of me, in ten years....he has not given me one reason to question if he is being unfaithful. He may not be the most romantic, but he shows that he cares in other ways. Like today, I am leaving to go out of town (just DD and I, with my friend and her DD) and just realized yesterday, that my oil needs to be changed. He not only made the appointment, he is scheduling his day so he can run out to my work, swap cars, get it in for an appointment, and get it back to me before I head out of town after work. And knowing him, he will see that it has 1/2 a tank, and will stop and fill it up on his way back to my work. I have several friends that only complain about their spouse, and have nothing good to say. And it is always the same complaints over and over again. These spouses also are super disrespectful of their SO, in front of others...some are cheating and they know about it....and as soon as their spouse hands them flowers and says "sorry" everything is swept under the rug. I will lend an ear to a certain extent, but if the person isn't taking any steps to get help for their marriage, themselves, or to realize they deserve better and kick him/her to the curb....then I get tired of hearing about it and finally stop giving a damn.
@PhoebeJune1984 This is one of many reasons why not having a lot of friends can be an extremely positive thing. The less BS I have to hear, the better.
@PhoebeJune1984 I'm with you there. If your partner is a shithead in every story you tell, I start tuning it out. Ditto to gratuitous stories about how awesome your husband is. Every once in a while is great, but if it's all you're contributing to the conversation/friendship, I'm not interested.
@elenabrent@ButterMyBiscuit Word. I think that one of the things that starts to annoy me even more, is when they complain about having the kids 24/7 and never getting a break (which is true, because heaven forbid their spouse parent for awhile or change a dirty diaper).....but then decide to have more kids, and then b*tch and complain about the fact that now they have 2-3 kids to take care of on their own, because spouse won't do sh*t.
Duuuuude....you weren't getting the help the first time around, why did you think it was going to be any different the second or third time around?! You couldn't even have girl time once every two months, for 2-3 hours, without getting guilted so badly about having that time to yourself and spouse having to "babysit" (ummm.....its called PARENTING!), that you would always cancel on girl time. Did you seriously think that you would EVER have time to yourself again, if you had another kid?
FFFC #2 - Earlier I clicked back on the forum page and got a "this web site has been blocked" message on my work computer. I tried re-loading it a couple times, getting the same message. So I figured my bumping at work days must be over - I was found out. Clicked on the link in my favorites after lunch, and BAM - back in business. I was feeling guilty/worried I was in trouble earlier, but now I'm probably going to spend most of my afternoon on here.
@PhoebeJune1984 Some folks enjoy playing the victim and then whining to anyone within earshot. When I get that vibe from someone, I'm all..
I had a friend who only ever wanted to complain about her husband, and then she got pregnant and only ever wanted to talk about how horrible pregnancy was. When she had her baby she immediately hated it, the baby was manipulating her, she would let the newborn watch endless TV (unsupervised, without her in the room), and she would scream at it for crying. She clearly needed a lot of help and I was as supportive as I could be, but I was really relieved when we moved a few months after her kid was born.
I'm so over the kids I've been watching lately. For real it's nonstop hitting, cussing and not listening. He's 3. I literally called my mom crying the other day because I couldn't deal anymore.
I've found people who are in distress tend to fall into 3 categories 1. People who want to be helped and can benefit from support of friends 2. People who want to be helped, friend support helps some, but mostly need professional counseling to get through major stuff 3. People who do not want to be helped but want to make their complaints known.
I try not to let myself feel guilty or frustrated by #3 people because people who really don't want help cannot be helped... #2 I try to be there for but realize there's only so much I can do... And I hope I can help people in #1 because I'm sure I'll want the same some day. Though I'm human and I suck a lot at this sometimes.
I'm so over the kids I've been watching lately. For real it's nonstop hitting, cussing and not listening. He's 3. I literally called my mom crying the other day because I couldn't deal anymore.
Wait.....are we working the same job?! Sounds like my nanny boy (who is also three).
My mom is throwing me a gender reveal party. It's just family, no gifts, at a pizza place but I still feel like a attention whore.
Wait.......sex reveal, or gender reveal? Because it seems pointless to plan this far....several years...in advance for something like a gender reveal....
And because this is my favorite GIF....its totally getting used right now...
My mom is throwing me a gender reveal party. It's just family, no gifts, at a pizza place but I still feel like a attention whore.
Wait.......sex reveal, or gender reveal? Because it seems pointless to plan this far....several years...in advance for something like a gender reveal....
And because this is my favorite GIF....its totally getting used right now...
I know the difference between the two. I simply called it gender reveal because that's what it's called. No need to start the sex vs gender debate.
My mom is throwing me a gender reveal party. It's just family, no gifts, at a pizza place but I still feel like a attention whore.
Wait.......sex reveal, or gender reveal? Because it seems pointless to plan this far....several years...in advance for something like a gender reveal....
And because this is my favorite GIF....its totally getting used right now...
I know the difference between the two. I simply called it gender reveal because that's what it's called. No need to start the sex vs gender debate.
Oh damn I was just starting to get my popcorn ready.
I confess: I find it sort of creepy and weird that they gave us u/s pics of my baby's genitalia. Also, the U/S tech used the word gender on the pics and I didn't even rip her a new one.
I confess: I find it sort of creepy and weird that they gave us u/s pics of my baby's genitalia. Also, the U/S tech used the word gender on the pics and I didn't even rip her a new one.
I asked to see the genitalia during my anatomy scan, she ended up taking a photo of it and giving it to me. It's nowhere online but I found it hilarious. Thankfully my tech said sex though, maybe she was mirroring me when I told her I knew what the sex was.
I bought my crib off craigslist for 100 bucks bungee jumped the ish out of my car to get it to fit and I feel zero shame about my child having a used crib with some marks from another random kid. Granted I will try to hide them but I just can't afford 300-700 dollars on a crib
I confess: I find it sort of creepy and weird that they gave us u/s pics of my baby's genitalia. Also, the U/S tech used the word gender on the pics and I didn't even rip her a new one.
This! And I find it creepy and weird that my mom asked for it when I didn't send it to her with the rest of the ultrasound pictures.
I texted the picture of his balls to my best friend because she asked for the money shot. We both agreed it could have easily been a satellite photo of Iran. I would clearly never put it anywhere on the internet for anyone to see. Just like I wouldn't do that with a picture of his penis after it was outside of my uterus.
As long as it's safe, that's all that matters! I am getting a used crib from my sister that has been used for her two kids. I'd definitely be shopping Craigslist if she wasn't giving me hers.
I confess: I find it sort of creepy and weird that they gave us u/s pics of my baby's genitalia. Also, the U/S tech used the word gender on the pics and I didn't even rip her a new one.
They asked us yesterday if we wants pictures of our babies' genitalia. While baby boy's junk was clearly up on the screen. We respectfully passed. But I have been impressed that every tech has said sex instead of gender. One did say "do you know what you're having?" and I said "hopefully humans but I would be okay with kittens". She looked mortified.
@megstervt I'm leaving the circumcision decision up to my fiance. As a man he is more than capable of making that decision for our son (if in fact it is a boy)
My mom is throwing me a gender reveal party. It's just family, no gifts, at a pizza place but I still feel like a attention whore.
Wait.......sex reveal, or gender reveal? Because it seems pointless to plan this far....several years...in advance for something like a gender reveal....
And because this is my favorite GIF....its totally getting used right now...
I know the difference between the two. I simply called it gender reveal because that's what it's called. No need to start the sex vs gender debate.
that's what other people call it who are ignorant to what it really means or they don't care. If you know the difference, you should say it correctly.
I bought my crib off craigslist for 100 bucks bungee jumped the ish out of my car to get it to fit and I feel zero shame about my child having a used crib with some marks from another random kid. Granted I will try to hide them but I just can't afford 300-700 dollars on a crib
I bought my cribs at Walmart, with good reviews (and I reviewed them on other websites as well), the Dream On Me Synergy 5-in-1 Crib in white (it's really really basic and plain) for $99.
When you got to buy two, no way am I spending $499 on a crib. I have no regrets.
Re: FFFC
FFFC: We're team green. When the circumcision discussions start I fully plan to stick with our go-to line for this topic "Wether our baby has a penis or a vagina, we will not be circumcising it." DH feels super strongly that he was mutilated and that having a penis doesn't make it circumcision while having a vagina constitutes mutilation. Politically I guess we're pretty charged in this area. I feel like I have to stand by DH with this one because if it were me with a circumcised vagina wanting to make the personal political, I know he'd stand up beside me. F*ck this is going to be a flamey Friday...
Married May 16th, 2015
EDD July 1st
July16 May siggy challenge "May the Force be with you"
I will lend an ear to a certain extent, but if the person isn't taking any steps to get help for their marriage, themselves, or to realize they deserve better and kick him/her to the curb....then I get tired of hearing about it and finally stop giving a damn.
July BMB May Signature Challenge
I make my husband get me cravings all the time and if I wake up in the middle of the night I would have no issues making him run out and grab it...
sorry thats at all I've got this week, not very juicy
Married May 16th, 2015
EDD July 1st
July16 May siggy challenge "May the Force be with you"
Duuuuude....you weren't getting the help the first time around, why did you think it was going to be any different the second or third time around?! You couldn't even have girl time once every two months, for 2-3 hours, without getting guilted so badly about having that time to yourself and spouse having to "babysit" (ummm.....its called PARENTING!), that you would always cancel on girl time. Did you seriously think that you would EVER have time to yourself again, if you had another kid?
July BMB May Signature Challenge
July BMB May Signature Challenge
1. People who want to be helped and can benefit from support of friends
2. People who want to be helped, friend support helps some, but mostly need professional counseling to get through major stuff
3. People who do not want to be helped but want to make their complaints known.
I try not to let myself feel guilty or frustrated by #3 people because people who really don't want help cannot be helped... #2 I try to be there for but realize there's only so much I can do... And I hope I can help people in #1 because I'm sure I'll want the same some day. Though I'm human and I suck a lot at this sometimes.
And because this is my favorite GIF....its totally getting used right now...
July BMB May Signature Challenge
When you got to buy two, no way am I spending $499 on a crib. I have no regrets.