Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Are you getting the tdap shot in third tri? *when will you get the tdap shot (what week)?* Thanks!
Married: May 16th 2015
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themisssarahk said: Your argument holds zero water here.
OP don't listen to one person who is risking her children's lives and others because of her choice. Our infants if we don't get the vaccination or boosters while pregnant run the risk of dying and catching dead and gone diseases, that vaccines had been preventing. All because of people like her who refuse to vaccinate.
You want to see what it looks like when a baby who can't get vaccinated gets whooping cough look here and if you can rationalize doing this to your child I have zero respect for you.
trigger warning this hard to watch!
eta: Words are hard and to add trigger warning.
Here's the really scary part: My mother was given two options after I was seen by MULTIPLE doctors in the e.r., some who had been called down from PICU; Option A was to admit me for hydration and pain management until my inevitable death. Option B my mother could take her 4 year old home to die with family, because it was Christmas Eve and there was nothing they could do at the hospital besides cut through my pain until I died.
My mother took her child home to die on Christmas Eve, put me in a cold bath, and lanced every single one of my chicken pox to drain the pus, so at least I wouldn't look so swollen in my casket. Thankfully, draining the infection saved my life, and my fever broke by morning. Merry Fucking Christmas, your doctor advising you not to vaccinate almost killed your kid. I NEVER missed a vaccination after that.
So little miss 'I don't vaccinate my children' I hope you don't have to learn the same lesson my mother did. Most likely your kids will just get a preventable illness that they can fight just fine, but kills the immunosuppressed kid in their class. And before you argue that immunosuppressed kids aren't in school, my friend in 3rd grade attended every class she could while fighting BRAIN CANCER, which she miraculously survived AND didn't get any archaic illness from all of us because my school required all children have vaccinations. Boom.
Your attitude chafes my hide not because I know better from the hundreds of thousands of qualified people doing very good research, but because I have lived through a completely preventable situation. I. Almost. Died. because someone with YOUR mindset was working in a trusted profession. You can bet I switched pediatricians after that.
Since my 5yr old started school we have been fighting one thing after another. Right before Christmas this year he brought home another cold and my 1yr old and 3yr old were admitted into the hospital with RSV and pneumonia shortly after. It was the scariest thing in my entire life. Watching them struggle to breathe, having to hold them down while they were screaming and scared to death so the Dr could breathing treatments and such on them. I would have done anything, ANYTHING, to be able to prevent it or take it away from them. ANYTHING. I couldn't imagine the guilt I would have felt if I could have prevented all that with a shot that I refused.
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Congrats antivaxxers, my dogs have more compassion than you.
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Married: May 16th 2015
Married: May 16th 2015
Unfortunately you get to choose what to do with your own child even if that means putting them at risk for diseases . Worse though is You then went state how you don't care that doing this put others peoples children's at risk.
I just can't with you anymore ugh I'm disgusted by the level of selfishness.
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My guess is the admin deleted her comments entirely because I can't see them either, but its not just a blank post, there's no post from her at all. It's a shame because I would have loved to keep going at it, especially her BS MTHFR causing vaccine reactions nonsense but if she can't actually reply, it kind of defeats the purpose.
Married: May 16th 2015
That's why anti-vaxx sentiment makes me want to tear my hair out. I'm literally listening to people (who want to talk to me about their "research") that tell me their degree from Google University puts them in a position to CHOOSE to take my daughter's life into their hands because they want to. That infuriates me.
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