I wasn't a screamer last time. I did swear a bunch, though. And the nurses kept telling me, "stop pushing with your face." I wish I could have pushed with my face.
I wasn't a screamer either...I just would get REALLY IRRITATED when the nurse kept yelling, "BREATHE!" I'm not gonna forget to breathe, dammit!
People don't like the fact that I do not want photos of my kid posted on social media that aren't posted by myself or DH. Yes, social media is great to keep in contact with people, but I don't need to see 20 pics a day of your baby. Also, I'm leery of the security on FB, and have seen stories of pics getting hijacked for memes and people passing them off as their own. I want to ask people, including family, not to post pictures on social media. My husband thinks that's unreasonable, and we can't control what people post. I say if we ask them not to and they still do it, then they are disrespectful assholes who can go fuck themselves. I'm probably paranoid, but just something I feel strongly about.
I'm leery of over-exposure of kids online too. I started a private IG account and my fb profile is locked way down. I am thinking of making some requests of friends/family about how they share photos of this baby. I'm sure some people will think that's extreme, but that's okay. Basically nothing about parenting goes without comment from someone.
QBF.
My family feels the same way (by family, I mean at least me/DH, my mom and dad---not sure about inlaws yet). I plan on posting only a few pictures, and I get really irritated thinking about other people posting pictures of my kid. I just think that's not very considerate. Sometimes I'll see my friends' kids show up in other mutual friends' pictures, and it just weirds me out. Do you have to post a group picture from the kid's preschool? Just let the school do that, or whatever.
People don't like the fact that I do not want photos of my kid posted on social media that aren't posted by myself or DH. Yes, social media is great to keep in contact with people, but I don't need to see 20 pics a day of your baby. Also, I'm leery of the security on FB, and have seen stories of pics getting hijacked for memes and people passing them off as their own. I want to ask people, including family, not to post pictures on social media. My husband thinks that's unreasonable, and we can't control what people post. I say if we ask them not to and they still do it, then they are disrespectful assholes who can go fuck themselves. I'm probably paranoid, but just something I feel strongly about.
@kcossey528 this is totally doable but you may have to be firm. My bff has strict rules about social media and her kids. She posts some pictures of her kids on instagram (better privacy policies) but nobody is allowed to post any pics of her kids on Facebook. As far as I know everyone has respected her rules, although she's gotten some comments and complaints about it. Good luck and I hope your friends/family members respect your wishes! Little tip - if people refuse to follow your rules you can report their pics of your LO to Facebook, let them know it's your child and was posted without your consent, and they will remove it for you.
My UO is based on my current mood and not my philosophical approach to education. Today I believe your child should have to be toilet trained before being allowed to start kindergarten.
I JUST cleaned dried up child shit hidden under a toy box in my classroom. It was disgusting. I am annoyed.
Tomorrow I will go back to my love of all children and diehard belief that they deserve FAPE despite their ability but today.... UGH!
I had a third grader poop her pants today.
Once a first grader decided to take his poop and leave it on the windowsill.
@kcossey528 and @kellz14 We are very strict about our children's photos on social media. It was annoying getting everyone on board, but we told them before DD was born. So far, we haven't had any issues and she's almost 18 months. Hope your family and friends are cooperative!
People who announce MY important news on Facebook before I do SUCK.
Yesterday we finally announced the pregnancy on FB because, well, it's becoming obvious. I made a coy post announcing the pregnancy, NOT the due date or sex or name we've chosen. Only a few people know the sex or name, damnit. Of course, my husband's grandmother responded with "He is going to be such a cute little boy! I can't wait for [Baby's name] to get here!" And I didn't catch it for HOURS. Everyone saw it.
I am SO PISSED. I wanted to announce those things myself, eventually, when I'm ready. I'm PGAL and don't like talking about the details much with people I am not VERY VERY close to. I'm still nervous. And when I did finally announce it to the world, I wanted to make it special.
The worst part? I got no sympathy frm my husband. He just shrugged it off, like "Don't be mad at my grandma."
At least admit that your family is tacky, dude.
We found out today we're having a boy. We told DH's mom first because she threw a hissy fit over not being the first one to find out we're pregnant. Before we had a chance to call everyone we wanted to tell personally she had posted it on facebook. I'm pissed but my DH has the same attitude as yours. It's our news to share on our own timeline and I wanted to put something online on our own terms. Not impressed.
Sometimes you just have to scream! I'm not a loud person and not the type to scream over pain. I actually was fine for the most part, but when my son was crowning I let out a really loud scream. Honesly I think it helped!
@jennyleigh16 I am so sorry that happened to you, too. And especially sorry that your husband didn't have your back. What is wrong with people?!
Today I complained about it to my mother. She said, "Old people don't understand that there is such a thing as Facebook etiquette. You can't be mad." Like hell I can't! It's like this: If they don't know the etiquette, and they want to use it, it's their responsibility to learn the etiquette.
Basically... They can lurk until they learn how to not suck!!
I don't like coffee. At all. When I was pregnant the 1st time everyone said, "just you wait until the baby is born! You'll drink coffee!" Nope.
I've had coffee once in the last two years. The white mocha with marshmallow shot was delicious. But once I stopped drinking coffee after college I can't handle it when I had it again.
People don't like the fact that I do not want photos of my kid posted on social media that aren't posted by myself or DH. Yes, social media is great to keep in contact with people, but I don't need to see 20 pics a day of your baby. Also, I'm leery of the security on FB, and have seen stories of pics getting hijacked for memes and people passing them off as their own. I want to ask people, including family, not to post pictures on social media. My husband thinks that's unreasonable, and we can't control what people post. I say if we ask them not to and they still do it, then they are disrespectful assholes who can go fuck themselves. I'm probably paranoid, but just something I feel strongly about.
Legally, you're the parents of a minor and no one can post a photo without your consent. Though every time I flag MIL's posts of DD for this nothing happens...
On the topic of people other than the parents posting pictures of my child on social media, in addition to the matter of security, I'm also just put off that someone is posting a picture of a child that isn't theirs. My MIL posted a picture of DS a couple weeks ago on FB. She didn't say anything about it being her grandson, and when people commented about how cute he was, she just said, "Thank you!" It just rubbed me the wrong way. He's not your kid! It was like she was taking credit as if she were his mother. Maybe I'm just overly sensitive in general about anything she does right now, though, because she's been consistently pissing me off.
@jennyleigh16 I am so sorry that happened to you, too. And especially sorry that your husband didn't have your back. What is wrong with people?!
Today I complained about it to my mother. She said, "Old people don't understand that there is such a thing as Facebook etiquette. You can't be mad." Like hell I can't! It's like this: If they don't know the etiquette, and they want to use it, it's their responsibility to learn the etiquette.
Basically... They can lurk until they learn how to not suck!!
I'd blame a lack of facebook etiquette except that she's extremely manipulative at the best of times. She needs all the focus to be on her, as evidenced by the train wreck she derailed into our wedding a few months ago. She threw a fit the day before the wedding, demanded we move the rehearsal dinner, told me we ruined her life by not inviting her to her ex-husband's house the day before that (its been 20+ years and she hasn't moved on), scowled in all the wedding photos...I could go on. This is after she no-showed to my shower, the nail appointment we booked and the rehearsal dinner she demanded was moved. Somehow my BIL's wife and I are the only ones who see the manipulation. Her sons cater to her. I've often legitimately wondered if she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as she exhibits quite a few of the symptoms.
I had someone on my fb post a picture of her son, his little bits all out in the open, am I wrong for thinking that's a little much or not ok?
@thebigoaktree definitely not wrong. I have a Facebook friend who I used to work with, who posts naked pictures of her kids relatively often (like, full frontal naked pics, not just the glimpse of a butt cheek - although I personally wouldn't be comfortable with either online). I cringe every time. If you want those pictures for your family album, that's a personal choice, but once you post something on Facebook you don't own it anymore. People can save or screenshot your pictures and upload it ANYWHERE they want. What is likely an innocent photo taken by the parents can turn into something else if it gets into the wrong hands. This friend actually once posted a naked picture of her son and his little friend! Pretty quickly the picture was removed, I assume the friend's mom asked her to take it down. I would be horrified if a friend or family member did that to DD. I don't know if I would ever trust them with her alone again.
@DobbysSock I totally report things like that the second I see them. I also report when I see family members creating pages for their children. I hate that shit. There is some sort of scrapbook option for photo albums so creating a Facebook page for a 3 year old is ridiculous.
@jennyleigh16 In your case, I definitely think it was a manipulative move for attention. She sounds like a certain member of my own family who I have long suspected might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I hope things don't get harder when the baby arrives, and she finds it harder to manipulate situations because the baby's needs come first. God help us both!!!!!
@jennyleigh16 In your case, I definitely think it was a manipulative move for attention. She sounds like a certain member of my own family who I have long suspected might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I hope things don't get harder when the baby arrives, and she finds it harder to manipulate situations because the baby's needs come first. God help us both!!!!!
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She's already started some crap with my step-MIL over DH's nephew. SMIL commented on BIL's fb post saying "grandma and grandpa love you (nephew)" and MIL commented below ".... love, your REAL grandmother". I've already told DH if I see any of that crap with our son I'm shutting that down real fast. The more people who love our child the better, family doesn't always mean a blood relation, and I will not allow that woman to use our son as a pawn to manipulate others. Hell no. She lives 4 hours away, so that helps. Good luck!!
I just bought a bunch of sex-specific baby clothes in the hope that I'll get to keep them, but knowing that I can also return everything once we have our anatomy scan/ultrasound in two weeks if needed. The sales were just too good to pass up!
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Once a first grader decided to take his poop and leave it on the windowsill.
Kids are gross.
Edit: gif fail
No, that doesn't take the place of actual respect. I think if one wants to be disrespectful, go ahead and own it!
Today I complained about it to my mother. She said, "Old people don't understand that there is such a thing as Facebook etiquette. You can't be mad." Like hell I can't! It's like this: If they don't know the etiquette, and they want to use it, it's their responsibility to learn the etiquette.
Basically... They can lurk until they learn how to not suck!!
Married: May 16th 2015