UO Thursday

ButterMyBiscuit

It seems like we've had a lot of UO pop up the past few days..let 'er rip!

Nerdchild

UO: Anyone who has to make a claim that they are a good person most likely isn't. 

Short. Simple. Never sweet.

ButterMyBiscuit

My UO might actually be a popular opinion BUT I don't care to see your bump if you refuse to post elsewhere on the BMB. That's like a stranger coming up to me and modeling their bump. Nope, don't care. Who are you?

summerfunxo

My UO must be that I like seeing all the bumps and don't really care if they post elsewhere lol. I find it interesting to see how different people carry and it makes me actually feel better because I don't really show for sooo long. And plus it's exciting to see all the new life that will be around us shortly!

Nerdchild

Another UO: Newbies who create new threads for things that have been discussed ad nauseum instead of using the search function, or creating an entire thread about their bump/ultrasound picture/pee stick. It's like a cat pooping outside the litter box, no one thinks it's cute and we all just want to rub your face in your mess. 

pourmeanothermocktail

I think I actually kinda like being pregnant. I mean, I lucked out and ddidn't have terrible symptoms early on. I'm starting to be uncomfortable already agnd haven't for sure felt my little leech move. I do feel like my body has been highjacked. At the same time, I feel like I'm not only doing something awesome-growing a human-but I'm also (we are all also) engaging in a huge mental, physical, and emotional challenge. I feel so tough and amazing just for living life everyday in this highjacked body. I am woman, hear me roar!

Apparently I woke up feeling a bit proud of myself, lol.

ninji15

My UO: I wish this site utilized notifications better. Like, I don't look for a day and there are 100+ or on mobile its damn near impossible to look at. 

That being said, I can't wait for a FB group so I can follow everything better. The notifications are on point. This isn't to say I don't love thebump for its freaking awesome community.  But ugh. I want to know whats going on and when I am tagged!

msuzannah

I have too many UO's to name today but sadly none of them are pg at this god forsaken hour of day. 

silvers626

My random UO is that I don't like vanity plates. Especially ones that are "Hers 1" and "His 1". Matchy matchy couples vanity plates are too douchey for me. 

soberkfell

My UO - if you ride MY bumper when I am driving 5 miles over the speed limit on city streets with traffic all around us, you do NOT have the right to flip ME off, sir. If I didn't have my son in the car and wasn't driving a rental from my dealership, I would have slammed on my brakes and let you run into the back of me since you SO wanted to be up my ass. The hormones are flowing today.

anskip

ninji15 said:

My UO: I wish this site utilized notifications better. Like, I don't look for a day and there are 100+ or on mobile its damn near impossible to look at. 

That being said, I can't wait for a FB group so I can follow everything better. The notifications are on point. This isn't to say I don't love thebump for its freaking awesome community.  But ugh. I want to know whats going on and when I am tagged!

This!! I totally agree!  If my toddler has a rough day and I don't get on until she goes to bed......there's really no point in reading 3000 updates on one thread. Soooooo frustrating!! I give up most of the time and don't read them. 

PhoebeJune1984

@ninji15 @anskip Why don't you go into your options and change your notifications? I just changed mine so it would only show when someone tags me in something, or when someone comments on a thread that I personally started. Then it doesn't show a notification for every "Love it", every post on other people's boards, etc. I went from getting hundreds of notifications, to only getting a small handful of the ones that I need. 

mandyjulie

I like Justin Bieber's new songs. 

   

jolydan

My UO and I havent seen it really around here but it's everywhere on the mommy blogs is when non French speaker use the word "Bebe" instead of baby. Especially when they write it "bèbè" which is not even the right spelling! Its bébé and It's dumb! I won't talk in French and drop "baby" in the middle of my sentence! Same thing for clothes with a random French word... No no no!

MamaBish

soberkfell said:

My UO - if you ride MY bumper when I am driving 5 miles over the speed limit on city streets with traffic all around us, you do NOT have the right to flip ME off, sir. If I didn't have my son in the car and wasn't driving a rental from my dealership, I would have slammed on my brakes and let you run into the back of me since you SO wanted to be up my ass. The hormones are flowing today.

Psa: do NOT let them rear end you while pregnant. It's a risk to your LO.

I know you were prob just venting but I am a worrier.

HMcDade1

I HATE bump shots on dirty mirrors ... The clean freak in me wants to come wipe them off first... it's almost cringe worthy for me. 

ninji15

PhoebeJune1984 said:

@ninji15 @anskip Why don't you go into your options and change your notifications? I just changed mine so it would only show when someone tags me in something, or when someone comments on a thread that I personally started. Then it doesn't show a notification for every "Love it", every post on other people's boards, etc. I went from getting hundreds of notifications, to only getting a small handful of the ones that I need. 

@PhoebeJune1984 Thanks for the info. I have recently done this actually, still not too pleased I guess. I mainly use the app and from what I can see the notifications are completely useless there unless you are on the app all day as well. The app doesn't notify you outside of itself (on my phone anyway). Like FB, Twitter, and even email. I never see a message on my phone saying "You got tagged", "blah blah replied", or anything along those lines. So its better to just be on the PC. By the time I get to the PC its still at least 30+ notifications I have no time for. 

Its just a terrible notification system imo. The app can be pretty shotty though really.. As a person who has developed code for sites and is in an IT related field now I just feel like there could be major improvements. Who knows who they have working for them though. It could just be a small team of developers.

Main gripe/UO, it shouldn't be so difficult to be notified. 

jlgriff11

mandyjulie said:

I like Justin Bieber's new songs. 

   

dolewhipper

UO with my H and family: I want to try everything i can to go med free. I want to try hypnobirthing and I want to use the tub and I want a doula. I understand I'm not "high and mighty" by rejecting a epi and I won't get an award. Why can't you people just support me?! UGH.

kellz14

I think prune juice is delicious.

I had to drink some out of necessity - and I was like um, this actually tastes really good.

jlgriff11

I got one that ought to piss some people off.

I would be humiliated if I screamed and screamed like a moron during labor. As a first time mom, obviously I have no idea what it's like and obviously I know it's painful, but I still think if I screamed and carried on like I see some of the women do on YouTube labor videos I would never want to show my face again in that hospital. Dramatic much?

shanparadise

I'm not terrified to have twins. So many people tell me I have no idea what I'm in for, but really I'm not going to know any different. I'm a FTM, so going from no babies to any babies is a big life change. I'm just getting two at once. Also, the comments of "I just don't know how you're going to swing it" are not helpful or even close to warranted. DH and I have this. We have the support of our families and friends and a pretty rock solid relationship under that. Twins are not the end of the world. We're actually really excited. 

elenabrent

dolewhipper said:

UO with my H and family: I want to try everything i can to go med free. I want to try hypnobirthing and I want to use the tub and I want a doula. I understand I'm not "high and mighty" by rejecting a epi and I won't get an award. Why can't you people just support me?! UGH.

I am SO done with people telling me I'm "not getting a medal" for having a natural birth. Just... no. I don't judge people for having an epidural or a c-section or any other type of way to bring a child into this world. I want to try to have the baby med free, which I don't think makes me better than anyone else. I'm not telling anyone I'm some sort of champion for wanting to try it, and I definitely don't understand the motivation behind telling someone they're "not a hero". It's rude and unhelpful. 

jolydan

@jlgriff11 I'm with you on this one! I'm not a loud person day to day life and those youtube video did traumatized me a bit. In my book being in pain and screaming are not associated. I broke my back 3 years ago and while waiting to be triage at the ER I was in major pain but was focussing on breathing and concentre to not lose it and the triage nurse told me: "you must not be in serious pain, you are pretty quiet.... WTF lady!!" Do I need to pull a show to be seen faster!!

Nerdchild

@jlgriff11 I'm worried that I will just be screaming obscenities the whole time. I might come up with a few new ones. 

PleaseSendPicklesNow

People who announce MY important news on Facebook before I do SUCK.

Yesterday we finally announced the pregnancy on FB because, well, it's becoming obvious. I made a coy post announcing the pregnancy, NOT the due date or sex or name we've chosen. Only a few people know the sex or name, damnit. Of course, my husband's grandmother responded with "He is going to be such a cute little boy! I can't wait for [Baby's name] to get here!" And I didn't catch it for HOURS. Everyone saw it.

I am SO PISSED. I wanted to announce those things myself, eventually, when I'm ready. I'm PGAL and don't like talking about the details much with people I am not VERY VERY close to. I'm still nervous. And when I did finally announce it to the world, I wanted to make it special.

The worst part? I got no sympathy frm my husband. He just shrugged it off, like "Don't be mad at my grandma."

At least admit that your family is tacky, dude.

thebigoaktree

HMcDade1 said:

I HATE bump shots on dirty mirrors ... The clean freak in me wants to come wipe them off first... it's almost cringe worthy for me. 

Don't look at my dirty basement floor in my pic, you're going to get super mad.

dolewhipper

elenabrent there will come a point when I'll be "done" with hearing the comments and make a juicy status on FB threatening family with visiting privileges. H has already heard it; I told him if he doesn't want to support me I can have this baby on my own with the doula and he can sit outside. He shut the fuck right up after that. 

jlgriff11

@Nerdchild  I was watching Jess Fam's video on naturally birthing her twins and she was like "SHIT FUCK FUCK WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING TO ME" and screamed the whole time. I was traumatized.

MamaBish

jlgriff11 said:

I got one that ought to piss some people off.

I would be humiliated if I screamed and screamed like a moron during labor. As a first time mom, obviously I have no idea what it's like and obviously I know it's painful, but I still think if I screamed and carried on like I see some of the women do on YouTube labor videos I would never want to show my face again in that hospital. Dramatic much?

I just tried not to be rude to people. But I did make some noise, it was hard not to. But I am very proud of my ability not to swear and scream at people to just get on with it, lol



For me, I don't care how anyone brings their baby into the world, as long as all make it through safely. Give me the drugs. I'll take them!!

p.s. Any woman who has a baby in any way should be given a medal, that shit's hard!

HMcDade1

thebigoaktree said:

HMcDade1 said:

I HATE bump shots on dirty mirrors ... The clean freak in me wants to come wipe them off first... it's almost cringe worthy for me. 

Don't look at my dirty basement floor in my pic, you're going to get super mad.

My basement is gross too. 

The smudges drive me nuts in general, dog noses, finger prints, and even yuck tooth paste marks. Just wipe that stuff off and then take the picture .. It takes 2 seconds. 

PhoebeJune1984

PleaseSendPicklesNow said:

People who announce MY important news on Facebook before I do SUCK.

Yesterday we finally announced the pregnancy on FB because, well, it's becoming obvious. I made a coy post announcing the pregnancy, NOT the due date or sex or name we've chosen. Only a few people know the sex or name, damnit. Of course, my husband's grandmother responded with "He is going to be such a cute little boy! I can't wait for [Baby's name] to get here!" And I didn't catch it for HOURS. Everyone saw it.

I am SO PISSED. I wanted to announce those things myself, eventually, when I'm ready. I'm PGAL and don't like talking about the details much with people I am not VERY VERY close to. I'm still nervous. And when I did finally announce it to the world, I wanted to make it special.

The worst part? I got no sympathy frm my husband. He just shrugged it off, like "Don't be mad at my grandma."

At least admit that your family is tacky, dude.

Duuuuude.....not cool grandma!

This just happened to my friends brother as well. They announced to family the sex, and then went to his side of the family and announced the sex. Neither one posted on FB, and I got on and saw that one of her family members wrote "OMG.....I am so excited to be an aunt! Cannot wait to meet my nephew!!" and tagged pretty much EVERY family member imaginable, so it showed up on all of their FB pages as well. One person wrote "So excited! Finally someone posted the results on FB!" I commented and said "Something tells me that the PARENTS of the baby might have wanted to be the ones to announce important news like this on Facebook, before someone else took the liberty of doing so......" And text my friends brother and his wife to let them know what had just happened (they don't get on FB often, so it could have been a day or so before they noticed). They jumped on real quick and deleted it, but they were still pretty pissed. They had even asked family to keep it off social media.

PhoebeJune1984

 I hate Starbucks coffee. It tastes like burnt beans, covered in sugar. If someone says its the greatest coffee, I instantly assume they have never had decent flavored coffee before.

There, I said it. 

jlgriff11

PhoebeJune1984 said:

 I hate Starbucks coffee. It tastes like burnt beans, covered in sugar. If someone says its the greatest coffee, I instantly assume they have never had decent flavored coffee before.

There, I said it. 

I only drink Starbucks coffee when I get like four extra shots of espresso for nights I needed to stay up- the taste was bitter enough on it's own to keep me up. The large vanilla chai, however, is to die for.

Kellyj103

summerfunxo said:

My UO must be that I like seeing all the bumps and don't really care if they post elsewhere lol. I find it interesting to see how different people carry and it makes me actually feel better because I don't really show for sooo long. And plus it's exciting to see all the new life that will be around us shortly!

I agree! 100% I JUST started going on here and actually commenting. I didn't know the hate would be so strong for the posts by non regulars. I like to see how other people carry and how big they're getting.I'm nosy AF. And also, lately, I'm feeling like the chubby girl in Mean Girls, "I wish I could bake a cake with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat it and be happy" so I'm going to be happy for you, even if I "don't know you". 

silvers626

@PleaseSendPicklesNow That is so not cool. People need to mind their own damn business. My mom outed us on FB and I wasn't ready to say anything myself. People are so selfish. I had to tell my mom - this is NOT YOUR BABY!

thebigoaktree

HMcDade1 said:

thebigoaktree said:

HMcDade1 said:

I HATE bump shots on dirty mirrors ... The clean freak in me wants to come wipe them off first... it's almost cringe worthy for me. 

Don't look at my dirty basement floor in my pic, you're going to get super mad.

My basement is gross too. 

The smudges drive me nuts in general, dog noses, finger prints, and even yuck tooth paste marks. Just wipe that stuff off and then take the picture .. It takes 2 seconds. 

It actually drives me nuts the way it looks, because we're allowing my brother to live with us and it's all his stuff. I told DH last night as soon as the cleaning bug hits me, it's all going in a trash bag. Where are stuff is on the other side, everything is in boxes and stacked nicely. 

ButterMyBiscuit

Kellyj103 said:

summerfunxo said:

My UO must be that I like seeing all the bumps and don't really care if they post elsewhere lol. I find it interesting to see how different people carry and it makes me actually feel better because I don't really show for sooo long. And plus it's exciting to see all the new life that will be around us shortly!

I agree! 100% I JUST started going on here and actually commenting. I didn't know the hate would be so strong for the posts by non regulars. I like to see how other people carry and how big they're getting.I'm nosy AF. And also, lately, I'm feeling like the chubby girl in Mean Girls, "I wish I could bake a cake with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat it and be happy" so I'm going to be happy for you, even if I "don't know you". 

Nope, not what I meant at all. I mean, for example, a poster who has never introduced themselves and has never participated in ANY other threads just shows up and posts a HDBD picture. If I can look on their post history and all I see is HDBD posts, I am not interested in their picture. It's a total AW move. This is a community and if we were all in a room discussing our pregnancies, it would be pretty awkward for a stranger to walk in, flash their belly and leave. Right?

jlgriff11

Kellyj103 said:

summerfunxo said:

My UO must be that I like seeing all the bumps and don't really care if they post elsewhere lol. I find it interesting to see how different people carry and it makes me actually feel better because I don't really show for sooo long. And plus it's exciting to see all the new life that will be around us shortly!

I agree! 100% I JUST started going on here and actually commenting. I didn't know the hate would be so strong for the posts by non regulars. I like to see how other people carry and how big they're getting.I'm nosy AF. And also, lately, I'm feeling like the chubby girl in Mean Girls, "I wish I could bake a cake with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat it and be happy" so I'm going to be happy for you, even if I "don't know you". 

HMcDade1

@Kellyj103 no one said they hated non regulars, @ButterMyBiscuit literally said she wanted other people to participate more! You can be all smiles and rainbows, but just comment on more than one or two threads -  that's the HUGE distinction. If you're only on here to show us your bump it's kind of weird. 

mamafox14

PhoebeJune1984 said:

 I hate Starbucks coffee. It tastes like burnt beans, covered in sugar. If someone says its the greatest coffee, I instantly assume they have never had decent flavored coffee before.

There, I said it. 

YES! STARBUCKS IS GARBAGE. Their espresso drinks are doable in a caffeine apocalypse life or death desperation kind of way. But their regular coffee is so gross, I'd rather give up coffee all together than drink it. Luckily the PNW has way better coffee to choose from just about anywhere you look.