Wtf to YouTube. I just watched a natural twin vaginal delivery (Jess' Fam if you're curious) and now I'm kind of terrified. And hoping I can get through delivery without screaming. I was secretly hoping that was just something they did for effect in movies.
Sorry if I'm wrong and you want a med free delivery but my supervisor just gave birth 6 weeks ago and just used nitrous oxide during contractions it doesn't last very long but she didn't need an epidural and said it helped a lot;) Might be helpful if you have to have a longer birth
@jlgriff11 during contractions with my DD I swear I sounded like a goat. I heard myself every time and kept thinking WTF, why is that sound coming out of me!? After the epidural I remember I said "oh good, I dont sound like a goat anymore!" Everyone laughed.....
@iamautumn I don't want to pile on. I can see you're struggling and PPs have pretty much covered it. But I can't help myself - I've seen how damaging a stepmother who resents her stepkids can be. Damaging to the child's self-esteem, damaging to their relationship with their bio-parent who allows it, and damage to relationships between the half-siblings when there is favouritism.
I just want to say, please please please try to stop getting defensive, and try to reflect on the things that you have shared on this board about your feelings towards your stepson (there have been several quite shocking comments you have made, including wishing your stepson would disappear). Try to put yourself in his shoes.
I'm hoping that the things you've shared here are just you venting, things that you NEVER say or show to your stepson, and that he feels incredibly loved and valued by you and your husband, but all I can react to is how you have presented your relationship and feelings towards him, not on what I hope is true. I hope that you'll try to understand that the ladies here are only responding to the things that YOU have shared. We don't know you. We don't know your stepson. We're reacting to the statements you have made about your stepson and the fact that many posters are feeling shocked and afraid for your stepson's sense of self and security within his family should tell you something about the way you are presenting this relationship to us. Reflect on the things that you've said, and reflect on whether your treatment of him has been what he needs and deserves as a traumatized 8 year old child with PTSD. I understand that dealing with a child with abandonment issues and PTSD must be very stressful and draining, and I hope you can get help in dealing with it if that's what you need.
@ButterMyBiscuit I freaking HATE comments on pregnancy bodies. The only appropriate thing to say to a pregnant woman is "you look beautiful" (or some other variation). I hate to say - it only gets worse. "Are you sure there's not twins in there??" "You're about to pop!" (actually I have 2 months to go, asshole) "Oh my god you're huge!" I had a patient say to me during my first pregnancy, when I told him I was pregnant: "Oh that's great! I noticed you had gained some weight and I was worried you were letting yourself go." I was polite to the rude people first time around, not so much this time. When people told me they could tell I was pregnant at 10 weeks I told them there was no baby bump yet, it was just my leftover belly from my first baby, but thanks for pointing it out. I got a lot of awkward "noo... because you're glowing!" comments. Bullshit. I'm sick of trying to make people feel less awkward because they have no manners and are now embarrassed by their rudeness. Maybe I'll spare some other pregnant (or not pregnant! I've had the "how far along are you?" question between DD and this pregnancy and it sucked) woman from being hurt and embarrassed.
@jlgriff11 DH wasn't super weird about it but would have felt uncomfortable getting a face full of milk, so I just wore a bra during sex for the first while to avoid it, until my supply regulated. My boobs were so sensitive in the beginning that they were off limits, anyways, so it was a good reminder for him to keep his hands off in the heat of the moment.
@blissylissy86 we were team green with DD (and will be again) for lots of reasons, but one of my favourite things about it was how pissed off my brother and SIL were.
Wtf to YouTube. I just watched a natural twin vaginal delivery (Jess' Fam if you're curious) and now I'm kind of terrified. And hoping I can get through delivery without screaming. I was secretly hoping that was just something they did for effect in movies.
Sorry if I'm wrong and you want a med free delivery but my supervisor just gave birth 6 weeks ago and just used nitrous oxide during contractions it doesn't last very long but she didn't need an epidural and said it helped a lot;) Might be helpful if you have to have a longer birth
I'm actually not against pain meds, I figured I'll decide once I'm there what I can handle, and obvs there's no guarantee I'll be able to have them vaginally anyway since one could be this way and one could be that way, who knows. But I want to prepare myself for lots of different outcomes and methods so I am ready for whatever they end up throwing at me. But I think her labor and delivery was the most intense sounding I've ever seen. Lol. Its scary! I'm more worried about how an epidural will feel on my lower back since I already have excessive lower back pain (I have some grinding and bone spur issues there )
@jlgriff11 I have been having the same fear about an epidural due to all my sciatic pain. The nice thing about the nitrous I've learned is the mother controls it and breathes it in when she wants it lasts a few breaths and then leaves the system so you can have as much or little as you once and no needles there which intrigues me. I need to do more research but it's nice to know it is an option at my hospital
WTF BUMP APP? it's always shitty and logs me out after like one minute etc. But today every time I tried to look at the HDBD thread, it froze my phone! Sorry ladies, your cute little bumps are too much for my phone to handle I guess! Also it took me like 15 attempts to make it all the way through this thread.
WTF to people who shouldn't marry others with children, yet still do. That's about as much as I can say on the matter without freaking the heck out... Just like I would do in person. Internet anonymity or no, I'm still going to tell someone when they're acting absurd and need to re-think their life choices.
I too was resented by my step-mother once she gave birth, so I feel for that kid. Oh, and yes. I'm judging.
Wtf bladder. As if continuing to throw up non stop wasn't bad enough lets just lose all control! I had previously joined the "piddle your pants" club but I just threw up and full on peed my pants. Not just a drizzle but enough to soak through everything and go down my legs. Pregnacy is so beautiful.
Wtf bladder. As if continuing to throw up non stop wasn't bad enough lets just lose all control! I had previously joined the "piddle your pants" club but I just threw up and full on peed my pants. Not just a drizzle but enough to soak through everything and go down my legs. Pregnacy is so beautiful.
I've learned to run to the bathroom as I'm throwing up, kick off my pants and lay down a towel for when I lose all control of my bladder. Pregnancy is.not.sexy.
I went out to dinner last night for some nachos that I've been craving for days. They were so yummy. I got home and threw EVERYTHING right back up. Also, I need to chew chips better.
Mommy to an angel baby and a sweet little girl Earth side.
@Racso12 my puppy has gotten kennel cough before. The breeder told us to go to whole food and get the human medicine below. She said it's like a common cold for dogs and it will go away in a few days. We gave him the cough syrup at night mixed with honey and one of the pills at night and/or morning depending on he was doing. The rumex crispus is dry coughs worsened by cold air and the drosera rotundifolia is used for a spasmodic dry cough worsened at night and by heat. I hope this helps you with paying the cost for an office visit from a vet.
Thanks for the info! I wish we had a whole foods nearby. Are the pills human medicine as well? His case seems pretty mild so hopefully the antibiotic will knock it right out. The vet did say if it gets so bad he's coughing through the night she will recommend a cough syrup.
@Racso12 The little blue bottles are homeopathic remedies. They are not fda regulated, mostly because they are little uniform sugar pills that are lightly sprayed with teeny tiny doses of herbal concoctions, and therefore not really considered harmful, nor have they proven to offer statistically significant and regular benefits. You should always consult your vet, as there may be a risk of allergic reaction.
To be fair, as part of an ethnographic project I enrolled myself and my oldest dog in homeopathic care (myself for anxiety/depression, her for separation issues and nervous peeing-all bladder problems ruled out by vet, it's behavioral). My 'remedy' served as a way for me to process my own thoughts and develop coping mechanisms while having the placebo of taking a harmless 'pill' that didn't alter my body chemistry (self-healing ideal is totally in line with homeopathic thought). My dog, not being a rational being who can pop a pill and try to understand why she pees when she gets excited, has had no results.
Tl;dr: Blue bottles=homeopathic remedies which, in personal experience, allows you to mentally correct imbalance manifesting in improvement of physical symptoms.
I'm more worried about how an epidural will feel on my lower back since I already have excessive lower back pain (I have some grinding and bone spur issues there )
@jlgriff11 I have been having the same fear about an epidural due to all my sciatic pain. The nice thing about the nitrous I've learned is the mother controls it and breathes it in when she wants it lasts a few breaths and then leaves the system so you can have as much or little as you once and no needles there which intrigues me. I need to do more research but it's nice to know it is an option at my hospital
I have chronic lower back pain and sciatic pain and the epidural didn't bother it. I think it is up higher than I thought it would be. I was REALLY nervous about getting the epidural, but it was quick. I just dug my head into DH's chest and squeezed his arms- I had a contraction while I was getting it and had a lot of back labor. I just kept repeating, "I can do this, I can do this." H and the nurse were saying it to me also, so that helped. I think a lot of it is mind over matter, honestly. I was freakishly calm during my labor (which isn't me) but I think that had a lot to do with things going pretty smoothly! Going into it with a positive attitude works wonders as well as staying calm. One thing that I learned during our birthing class is that the longest contraction duration is 90 seconds, so I kept thinking that through the really bad ones!
I have a very minor form of spina bifida (can't tell by looking at me) where the bottom few vertabrae don't totally close around my spinal cord. I was really freaked out that that would impede the epidural somehow. I was assured it wouldn't. I honestly have no recollection of pain associated with the epidural. After being induced, going pain med free for a while, and having the worst imaginable back labor, I then had to wait about an hour after deciding to finally get an epidural, since the anesthesiologist was dealing with other emergent situations. That man is my personal hero. I immediately had the warm, fuzzy feeling of a nice wine buzz. I was really opposed to all meds prior to DD1's labor and now I'm going into this pregnancy realizing we can't always go by our intended "birth plan" and I'm fully ready and willing for the epidural this time around. That was the best!
I did not have a great epidural experience. I had to lie on my right side the entire labor(this was not a result of the epi) and so it only worked on my right side. I could feel everything on my left. I also had a dull ache in my back for a few months after. But even with all of that I am still planning on getting the epi. I am hoping I don't have to be on my side this time and I will deal with the ache afterwards (but hopefully that won't happen again also). For the little bit of time that I got the full effect of the epi it was awesome!
Ok weird epi question, since I know nothing and have not done nearly enough research on the whole birth process. After an epi can you lay on your back? In my mind you have something sticking out of your spine so you wont be able to lay back without laying on it which would seem painful? Again may be a stupid question.
Ok weird epi question, since I know nothing and have not done nearly enough research on the whole birth process. After an epi can you lay on your back? In my mind you have something sticking out of your spine so you wont be able to lay back without laying on it which would seem painful? Again may be a stupid question.
Ok weird epi question, since I know nothing and have not done nearly enough research on the whole birth process. After an epi can you lay on your back? In my mind you have something sticking out of your spine so you wont be able to lay back without laying on it which would seem painful? Again may be a stupid question.
I didn't even notice it. There's a very thin/flexible tube coming out of your back but you can move fine- at least I did.
Wtf to YouTube. I just watched a natural twin vaginal delivery (Jess' Fam if you're curious) and now I'm kind of terrified. And hoping I can get through delivery without screaming. I was secretly hoping that was just something they did for effect in movies.
I went an watched all three of her birthing videos. Oh my.. That woman is a beast! I hate pain and get an epidural every time. My mom screamed so loud the nurses told her to be quiet because she wouldacare the other moms. Haha If you scream, you scream. Whatever helps you get the babie out.
I know I'm late to the party but I really wanted to weigh in.
@iamautumn I know you abandoned this thread because you wouldn't be able to dig yourself out of this hole. I bet you are still reading this thread though. I hope these replies was a HUGE wake up call for you. All of the responses you got are 100% true. This kid is 8 years old, EIGHT. He doesn't get to make the rules, you and DH do. Those parenting decisions should include protecting and LOVING this child. As if he was your own. I can guarantee he can feel the hostility that you show towards him. Get out of bed, make the kid breakfast (you know, since cereal isn't the best choice of breakfast everyday) and dressed, check his homework and get him on the bus on time. You signed up for this the day you wed your DH. DSS is your responsibility when your DH is at work and when he's home too. It's a joint effort. Get it together before the new baby comes.
I.just.cant.even.right.now Oh but JIC you don't come back in here, YGPM
Dolewhipper - No, you'll get a coaching first, then a discuss, then a reprimand. then they'll attempt to fire you. And they can't say anything as long as you smile!
Wtf to my father in law who asked me In front of everyone while we were at my 5 year old son's swim class. "Are you ok? Millie you look sick!" (I was at the end of my first trimester then) I was wearing glasses, I usually wear contacts and he thought I was sick?! Wtf?! I'm exausted! Tired from work all day and kids all day. I'm a teacher...and then swim then dinner and this busy life is never ending! I wanted to slap him in the face! Then I responded, "No not sick...just carrying a baby!" I'm usually the sweet kind and rarely bitchy...but omg!!!! He had the nerve to say "but a little one!" Uhm no he didn't! I had to go off, "Actually it's pretty big...I am just not showing because I stay fit and healthy. And the first trimester is when you are the most exhausted." That is called ignorance from a man that just doesn't know! He divorced when my husband was 1 and never remarried. How sad?! Anyways...My husband couldn't believe that his dad said that! Wtf?! At 67 you should know better!!!!
On the topic of gender. I get annoyed when I tell someone about being preg and they immediately ask if I know what Im having..um no its too early. AHHHH. Is that all that matters to you?
Re: WTF Wednesday?!?!?
After the epidural I remember I said "oh good, I dont sound like a goat anymore!" Everyone laughed.....
I just want to say, please please please try to stop getting defensive, and try to reflect on the things that you have shared on this board about your feelings towards your stepson (there have been several quite shocking comments you have made, including wishing your stepson would disappear). Try to put yourself in his shoes.
I'm hoping that the things you've shared here are just you venting, things that you NEVER say or show to your stepson, and that he feels incredibly loved and valued by you and your husband, but all I can react to is how you have presented your relationship and feelings towards him, not on what I hope is true. I hope that you'll try to understand that the ladies here are only responding to the things that YOU have shared. We don't know you. We don't know your stepson. We're reacting to the statements you have made about your stepson and the fact that many posters are feeling shocked and afraid for your stepson's sense of self and security within his family should tell you something about the way you are presenting this relationship to us. Reflect on the things that you've said, and reflect on whether your treatment of him has been what he needs and deserves as a traumatized 8 year old child with PTSD. I understand that dealing with a child with abandonment issues and PTSD must be very stressful and draining, and I hope you can get help in dealing with it if that's what you need.
I was polite to the rude people first time around, not so much this time. When people told me they could tell I was pregnant at 10 weeks I told them there was no baby bump yet, it was just my leftover belly from my first baby, but thanks for pointing it out. I got a lot of awkward "noo... because you're glowing!" comments. Bullshit. I'm sick of trying to make people feel less awkward because they have no manners and are now embarrassed by their rudeness. Maybe I'll spare some other pregnant (or not pregnant! I've had the "how far along are you?" question between DD and this pregnancy and it sucked) woman from being hurt and embarrassed.
@jlgriff11 DH wasn't super weird about it but would have felt uncomfortable getting a face full of milk, so I just wore a bra during sex for the first while to avoid it, until my supply regulated. My boobs were so sensitive in the beginning that they were off limits, anyways, so it was a good reminder for him to keep his hands off in the heat of the moment.
@blissylissy86 we were team green with DD (and will be again) for lots of reasons, but one of my favourite things about it was how pissed off my brother and SIL were.
I too was resented by my step-mother once she gave birth, so I feel for that kid. Oh, and yes. I'm judging.
Thanks for the info! I wish we had a whole foods nearby. Are the pills human medicine as well? His case seems pretty mild so hopefully the antibiotic will knock it right out. The vet did say if it gets so bad he's coughing through the night she will recommend a cough syrup.
To be fair, as part of an ethnographic project I enrolled myself and my oldest dog in homeopathic care (myself for anxiety/depression, her for separation issues and nervous peeing-all bladder problems ruled out by vet, it's behavioral). My 'remedy' served as a way for me to process my own thoughts and develop coping mechanisms while having the placebo of taking a harmless 'pill' that didn't alter my body chemistry (self-healing ideal is totally in line with homeopathic thought). My dog, not being a rational being who can pop a pill and try to understand why she pees when she gets excited, has had no results.
Tl;dr: Blue bottles=homeopathic remedies which, in personal experience, allows you to mentally correct imbalance manifesting in improvement of physical symptoms.
Edit: better words
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edited because words are hard
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@iamautumn I know you abandoned this thread because you wouldn't be able to dig yourself out of this hole. I bet you are still reading this thread though. I hope these replies was a HUGE wake up call for you. All of the responses you got are 100% true. This kid is 8 years old, EIGHT. He doesn't get to make the rules, you and DH do. Those parenting decisions should include protecting and LOVING this child. As if he was your own. I can guarantee he can feel the hostility that you show towards him. Get out of bed, make the kid breakfast (you know, since cereal isn't the best choice of breakfast everyday) and dressed, check his homework and get him on the bus on time. You signed up for this the day you wed your DH. DSS is your responsibility when your DH is at work and when he's home too. It's a joint effort. Get it together before the new baby comes.
I.just.cant.even.right.now
Oh but JIC you don't come back in here, YGPM