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The Thread Police Are Twatwaffles.

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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    AmmyBelle said:

    @sarawifenow Um ... no. Not so much. I implore you to actually read what you post. she was saying: Hey guys, maybe stop with the derailing/infantalizing/etc of other people's convos with this. Then suddenly, was basically belittled by people who were so very concerned that they themselves were being belittled (by being called names or whatever) See the difference? If not, am happy to explain further, but it's about context and message. 

    Um...yes. What you say she said is not at all what she said. She called people a$$holes, jacka$$es and twatwaffles. How is that not belittling?
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    JessicaB0627 said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 

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  • AmmyBelleAmmyBelle member
    JessicaB0627 said:
    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 
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    Oh how you make my points for me, thanks ;)
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  • JessicaB0627JessicaB0627 member
    edited January 2016
    AmmyBelle said:


    JessicaB0627 said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 

    @yogahh @sarawifenow @doozer1345 Are we the mean girls??

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    Oh how you make my points for me, thanks ;)

    ---QBF---

    This thread is ridiculous, to say the least. Might as well get some enjoyment out of it ;)
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    AmmyBelle said:


    JessicaB0627 said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 

    @yogahh @sarawifenow @doozer1345 Are we the mean girls??

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    Oh how you make my points for me, thanks ;)

    I think she is making fun of how ridiculous people are being. Want to call us names like mean girls? We will roll with it because we have made a community and stand by each other. Sorry it hurts your feelings or whatever.
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    sarawifenow said:
    @sarawifenow Um ... no. Not so much. I implore you to actually read what you post. she was saying: Hey guys, maybe stop with the derailing/infantalizing/etc of other people's convos with this. Then suddenly, was basically belittled by people who were so very concerned that they themselves were being belittled (by being called names or whatever) See the difference? If not, am happy to explain further, but it's about context and message. 
    Um...yes. What you say she said is not at all what she said. She called people a$$holes, jacka$$es and twatwaffles. How is that not belittling?
    again, look at context: the title of the post was inflammatory, sure. But the substance of the post was not. So unless you just read the top of it, you'd understand that the point carries through, even though the title was used. To put it simpler: the top was click baity but the message was not belittling - it was a call to change the tone this board has been having over the last little while. That is, the heart of the message was "people we need to change this up!" not "Bitch! Scumbag! Curr! Wanker!". 

    If you have no argument over the merit of the message, then there's nothing really for you to talk about re. this subject, since the point still stands that in it isn't hypocritical. 

    Also, and this is just a fun thought experiment, but even if it was ironic - how does that makes the response any less ironic? 
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    sarawifenow said:
    @sarawifenow Um ... no. Not so much. I implore you to actually read what you post. she was saying: Hey guys, maybe stop with the derailing/infantalizing/etc of other people's convos with this. Then suddenly, was basically belittled by people who were so very concerned that they themselves were being belittled (by being called names or whatever) See the difference? If not, am happy to explain further, but it's about context and message. 
    Um...yes. What you say she said is not at all what she said. She called people a$$holes, jacka$$es and twatwaffles. How is that not belittling?
    @AmmyBelle was referring to the original post in the UO thread from which this thread emerged after the Mean Girls (TM) shut it down.
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  • AmmyBelleAmmyBelle member
    sarawifenow said:
    JessicaB0627 said:
    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 
    @yogahh @sarawifenow @doozer1345 Are we the mean girls?? image
    Oh how you make my points for me, thanks ;)
    I think she is making fun of how ridiculous people are being. Want to call us names like mean girls? We will roll with it because we have made a community and stand by each other. Sorry it hurts your feelings or whatever.
    What? No really ... what? I didn't even mention my feelings, honey, just the point I was making being made. Honey, if you're feelings are hurt, I am happy to talk about it, but don't try and make my post into something it's not just to make yourself feel better, ok?
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  • JessicaB0627JessicaB0627 member
    edited January 2016
    AmmyBelle said:



    sarawifenow said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @sarawifenow Um ... no. Not so much. I implore you to actually read what you post. she was saying: Hey guys, maybe stop with the derailing/infantalizing/etc of other people's convos with this. Then suddenly, was basically belittled by people who were so very concerned that they themselves were being belittled (by being called names or whatever) See the difference? If not, am happy to explain further, but it's about context and message. 

    Um...yes. What you say she said is not at all what she said. She called people a$$holes, jacka$$es and twatwaffles. How is that not belittling?

    again, look at context: the title of the post was inflammatory, sure. But the substance of the post was not. So unless you just read the top of it, you'd understand that the point carries through, even though the title was used. To put it simpler: the top was click baity but the message was not belittling - it was a call to change the tone this board has been having over the last little while. That is, the heart of the message was "people we need to change this up!" not "Bitch! Scumbag! Curr! Wanker!". 

    If you have no argument over the merit of the message, then there's nothing really for you to talk about re. this subject, since the point still stands that in it isn't hypocritical. 

    Also, and this is just a fun thought experiment, but even if it was ironic - how does that makes the response any less ironic? 

    -----QBF----


    So you and @dshannah would like to change the tone of the entire TB community? Because this is how it is everywhere. My first BMB was 3 years ago and I can assure you it was the same, actually worse, than it is now. You can call us mean girls or whatever you want, it doesn't bother me in the least. But the whole arguing seemingly just for the sake of arguing demeanor doesn't generally go over well here. This thread was her picking a fight by specifically calling us out, like anybody who read UO wouldn't know who she was talking about.
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    AmmyBelle said:
    @sarawifenow Um ... no. Not so much. I implore you to actually read what you post. she was saying: Hey guys, maybe stop with the derailing/infantalizing/etc of other people's convos with this. Then suddenly, was basically belittled by people who were so very concerned that they themselves were being belittled (by being called names or whatever) See the difference? If not, am happy to explain further, but it's about context and message. 
    Belittled?? When did she call people jackasses and twatwaffles?? Oh wait... That was the poster you're saying got belittled. Hmm.
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    AmmyBelle said:


    sarawifenow said:

    AmmyBelle said:


    JessicaB0627 said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @dshannah  - Thanks for sticking up for what you believe in! I agree that some people on this board seem to epitomize the "Mean Girl" thing (with no irony, since apparently that's the buzzword for today). 

    I joined The Bump to have allies in this very exciting and confusing (and sometimes scary) time. I had hoped that a community of women going through much the same things could support one another without becoming ... whatever it is you become when you dismiss other people with gifs because you lack emotional capacity or maturity to deal with people on the level. Or people who welcome people to the board by basically making them feel shitty right away - I don't think that's what this community is supposed to be about, and it makes me angry and sad that it seems to be what it's turned into. 

    Not sure what this thread is going to do but indicate which people to avoid,but *shrugs, I am slowly coming to terms with that as just life if you want in on this community .... 

    @yogahh @sarawifenow @doozer1345 Are we the mean girls??

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    Oh how you make my points for me, thanks ;)
    I think she is making fun of how ridiculous people are being. Want to call us names like mean girls? We will roll with it because we have made a community and stand by each other. Sorry it hurts your feelings or whatever.

    What? No really ... what? I didn't even mention my feelings, honey, just the point I was making being made. Honey, if you're feelings are hurt, I am happy to talk about it, but don't try and make my post into something it's not just to make yourself feel better, ok?

    No need to call me honey. Seriously, why are you here if you dislike the environment so much?
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  • AmmyBelleAmmyBelle member
    Given this target now on my back, might as well dig that hole deeper, to mix my metaphors. 

    @JessicaB0627  - Just because it was that way in the past doesn't mean it always has to be, right? Like voting rights, indoor plumbing, sliced bread and the internet itself - we can always do better, so why not encourage the good? 

    @doozer1345 - Asked and answered above in discussion with @sarawifenow

    Ladies (and gents who happen to be around) - I'm sorry for derailing this. Apparently my discussion on irony and such has led us away from the main point, which is this: Why do we feel the need to be so mean to posters, and why can''t we just scroll on by?
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  • Bluejay3030Bluejay3030 member
    edited January 2016
    dshannah said:


    Bluejay3030 said:

    @Bluejay3030

    What is so obnoxious about asking people to scroll past threads they don't care about?

    And when have I ever corrected anyone's spelling? 
    You're telling people to play by YOUR rules on an Internet forum, in a very superior tone...

    I didn't say you had, but is that your way of saying you don't care about spelling?
    See, here's the thing:

    I care deeply about spelling.  I care deeply about grammar. But, unless asked, I have never taken it upon myself to correct someone else's spelling or grammar on this board.

    Because it's not relevant, it's not helpful, and I'm not an a-hole. So I scroll on by.

    I may be more swear-y than the average Bumper, but I did create this thread to discuss an actual problem that many other Bumpers have registered and were in the process of dissecting when a gif party derailed their discussion.



    And I never accused you of correcting spelling! I just said that I edited my post to fix my spelling because I knew (from reading other posts) that it was important to you... Which you've now confirmed.

    Edit: this time, to fix the quote box rather than just saying QBF because, well...
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  • doozer1345doozer1345 member
    mmemartinez said:
    I agree that it is pretty rude when someone new is excited to post something and everyone jumps in to say there is already a post for that. The bump organizes itself by date and frequency of responses so at some point things are pushed a few pages in, especially with the pinned stuff. And that system also works to push back singleton posts. So I don't get the obsession with telling people they need to comment on the old thread. I personally have a job that makes it difficult for me to keep up with everything that has been said and when I have a question I'd rather just post it instead of having to search and worry about if it's been asked before three months ago.
    There are permanent posts that are there for God and everyone to see that even tell people to LURK and not to post duplicates and all the things you all are getting upset about. So it is frustrating for those of us who have gone by the rules, have lurked, and understand and respect how things are done around here. To dumb it down, it's like someone comes over and kicks your block tower you just spent an hour working on just bc they don't want to go by the rules of YOU JUST DON'T DO THAT. It's a showing of total disregard to those of us who went by the rules set by The Bump...Not us Fetch girls who are just out to get everyone.
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  • AmmyBelleAmmyBelle member
    @sarawifenow - I figured "honey" wouldn't get me reported or banned, I'm learning from the pros. Also, I'm here for all the reasons I stated, so if you look up at the thing I posted that you quoted - yes, that. And also, because this is a smear of an otherwise good board. People do often support one another - when someone has a loss or has a serious question, there is usually a lot of support, and that is important. I am just calling out the general level of mean that sometimes comes with that and asking all of us why we can't do better?
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    AmmyBelle said:

    @sarawifenow - I figured "honey" wouldn't get me reported or banned, I'm learning from the pros. Also, I'm here for all the reasons I stated, so if you look up at the thing I posted that you quoted - yes, that. And also, because this is a smear of an otherwise good board. People do often support one another - when someone has a loss or has a serious question, there is usually a lot of support, and that is important. I am just calling out the general level of mean that sometimes comes with that and asking all of us why we can't do better?

    Maybe if the post was originally worded in a way that wasn't offensive and mean on its own, then this could be an actual discussion.
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  • AmmyBelleAmmyBelle member
    @sarawifenow  - Right, so if it offends you, you won't listen at all - even though the likely reason for the offense is that someone is so frustrated that they've posted on a wave of emotion? Because, no one here ever did that, like, ever ... 

    But cool. You don't want to discuss it with me either, and I would argue that my post wasn't offensive, though now that I think of it, I suppose some would disagree *shrugs
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  • dshannahdshannah member
    edited January 2016
    Bluejay3030 said:
    And I never accused you of correcting spelling! I just said that I edited my post to fix my spelling because I knew (from reading other posts) that it was important to you... Which you've now confirmed.
    No. In no other post have I ever mentioned caring about spelling. Grammar, yes. When asked.

    But what you did was attribute to me a "negative" characteristic (being judgy about spelling) because you did not like something else that I posted. That's unfair, and uncalled for, and kind of shows how this conversation has gone.

     I've been supportive in the past of everyone who's been attacking me here, and many of you have been supportive of me in the past. But all that is forgotten and all that means nothing and I am not "part of the community" because I am sick and tired of other posters being censored and alienated with the type of thread policing that has been occurring here since the beginning.

    So now I'm just the whiner who can't take a joke and writes long persnickety posts because I have a stick up my ass. Rather than the person who's trying to say maybe some of you should take the sticks out of your own asses and let the board be what its posters want it to be.

     I hate Ramzi Theory posts as much as the next person, but I'll be damned if I'm going to make the poster feel ridiculous by insulting them with a gif party.
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    AmmyBelle said:

    @sarawifenow  - Right, so if it offends you, you won't listen at all - even though the likely reason for the offense is that someone is so frustrated that they've posted on a wave of emotion? Because, no one here ever did that, like, ever ... 

    But cool. You don't want to discuss it with me either, and I would argue that my post wasn't offensive, though now that I think of it, I suppose some would disagree *shrugs

    I never said I wouldn't discuss it with you. What I will not do is discuss topics like this when people like OP create a thread specifically to complain about and name call a group of posters. Want to discuss board tone? Great! Start a thread that doesn't call people names in it.
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  • JessicaB0627JessicaB0627 member
    @dshannah Also, we can't physically police threads because we don't have that authority. They did away with mods and we are not BGs. So really you could just scroll on past whatever was said that bothered you so much.
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    dshannah said:

    Fixed it.  

    And OMG do you people not know how to *not* comment on something that doesn't concern you?

    You shut down the UO post (talking about board policing) with a gif party, and I bring the discussion here and you still can't stay away?  You're like dogs to vomit. 

    tl;dr See the OP. Scroll the f*ck on.

    This isn't "bringing the discusssion here." The discussion there had descended into people just posting and not having meaningful discourse, and then unto talking about talking. What you have done here is a thinly veiled passive aggressive note pass which seeks to fracture the board. And that's phrasing it nicely.
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  • Bluejay3030Bluejay3030 member
    edited January 2016
    dshannah said:


    Bluejay3030 said:
    And I never accused you of correcting spelling! I just said that I edited my post to fix my spelling because I knew (from reading other posts) that it was important to you... Which you've now confirmed.
    No. In no other post have I ever mentioned caring about spelling. Grammar, yes. When asked.


    But what you did was attribute to me a "negative" characteristic (being judgy about spelling) because you did not like something else that I posted. That's unfair, and uncalled for, and kind of shows how this conversation has gone.


     I've been supportive in the past of everyone who's been attacking me here, and many of you have been supportive of me in the past. But all that is forgotten and all that means nothing and I am not "part of the community" because I am sick and tired of other posters being censored and alienated with the type of thread policing that has been occurring here since the beginning.


    So now I'm just the whiner who can't take a joke and writes long persnickety posts because I have a stick up my ass. Rather than the person who's trying to say maybe some of you should take the sticks out of your own asses and let the board be what its posters want it to be.


     I hate Ramzi Theory posts as much as the next person, but I'll be damned if I'm going to make the poster feel ridiculous by insulting them with a gif party.
    Okay, I hear you. For what it's worth, I truly don't understand why you would take yourself, and everyone else, so seriously in an environment like this one.
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
    edited January 2016
    lalala2004 said:

    sarawifenow said:

    AmmyBelle said:

    @sarawifenow  - Right, so if it offends you, you won't listen at all - even though the likely reason for the offense is that someone is so frustrated that they've posted on a wave of emotion? Because, no one here ever did that, like, ever ... 

    But cool. You don't want to discuss it with me either, and I would argue that my post wasn't offensive, though now that I think of it, I suppose some would disagree *shrugs

    I never said I wouldn't discuss it with you. What I will not do is discuss topics like this when people like OP create a thread specifically to complain about and name call a group of posters. Want to discuss board tone? Great! Start a thread that doesn't call people names in it.
    Actually, it is against the TOU to start threads to complain about the tone of the board, which is why this thread is against the TOU.
    True. @lalala2004 very true.
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    AmmyBelle said:
    @sarawifenow  - Right, so if it offends you, you won't listen at all - even though the likely reason for the offense is that someone is so frustrated that they've posted on a wave of emotion? Because, no one here ever did that, like, ever ... 

    But cool. You don't want to discuss it with me either, and I would argue that my post wasn't offensive, though now that I think of it, I suppose some would disagree *shrugs
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    edited January 2016
    @dshannah, by calling me out in The UO thread, I take it that you wanted to "scold" me? That's definitely the vibe I get from your explaination of it...

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