We have a major conundrum on our hands, folks. It turns out that my husband's all time favorite band has reunited after breaking up 5 years ago, and they will be headlining at Coachella on April 15, 9 days before baby is due. Unfortunately, the concert is in California, but we're in Chicago. If this were happening any time but within 2 weeks of our due date, we'd be purchasing him a plane ticket for his birthday tonight. However, under the circumstances, I'm inclined to say that it's probably a bad idea. He has countered with the idea that he could fly out of Chicago on the afternoon of the 15th, and back on the morning of the 16th, missing less than 24 hours at my side. Obviously, if I was in labor at the time, he'd skip the trip. Additional tour dates may or may not be announced, but currently this is the only gig they have scheduled.
Because internet strangers are the best source of relationship advice, I'm asking your opinions. He has agreed to abide by the wisdom of the ladies of April '16. What say you? Do I crush his dreams or do we take a walk on the wild side?
Husband Conundrum--Should he stay or go? 133 votes
Husband goes to Coachella!
Re: Husband Conundrum--Should he stay or go?
But more importantly is his favorite band that is reuniting GnR or LCD Soundsystem? This will be considered when I vote lol
And @emgee27, it's LCD. He's currently serenading me with the chorus of "All My Friends" every time a vote for Coachella comes in.
Why don't you come too and we can waddle around together hahaha!
I think it comes down to what you are both comfortable with - will you have a bff or family member on standby in case you go into labor and need help until he is back? And back to my "regret" point from earlier - which would he regret more: missing the band or missing baby (potentially).
Good luck! (and sorry I couldn't trick him into thinking my username was you )
Chances are you'll go even past your due date. It's highly unlikely you'll go into super fast labor at the drop of a hat so theoretically he could make it home in time for the birth part. Have a plan on how to communicate so that he can change plans as soon as possible. Have a back up person in Chicago who can help him out with computer access too, I'm case it's easier for them to change his flight for him as he makes his way to the airport. Have an airport plan. (Super easy to pick up a taxi or uber at Coachella.)
Just make sure to have someone you trust and feel comfortable with lined up to be your in-the-meantime person.
Hope any of this helps! Just trying to give ya some peace of mind if he's away
Honestly, I really like @WBORDERS motto on this, provided he takes the precautions mentioned by @emgee27 . Mr. AGK2015 if you're here, I hope you plan something awesome for your incredible wife, because very few men are lucky enough to have a wife that would even consider letting you fly across the country so close to her due date.
I'm a HUGE "Who-vian" and David Tennant fanatic. He's coming to Wizard World Comicon a few weeks before my due date. I wanted SO BADLY to get VIP tickets to meet him, but my last pregnancy I gave birth unexpectedly 4 weeks prior to my due date, so I just can't chance it......it's so unpredictable.
It's a huge bummer, but sometimes sacrifices need to be made.
If he doesn't go, your kid will be reminded of this for a lifetime- in a loving way, I'm sure!
Trip insurance will be a must, and he'll be on the first flight out of California the next morning, but I'm thinking I'm going to send him. We'll figure out a contingency plan for the unlikely circumstance that I go into labor without him. Thanks for making me think, ladies.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
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Book on Southwest, so if baby comes early, he can move the flight or cancel and not face a penalty.
Also, that way, if another show is announced at a better time, you can use that money to fly elsewhere to see it.. And I'm sure you could sell a coachella ticket!
the odds of you actually going into labor after he leaves and delivering before he returns the next day are exceedingly small. Obviously if something happens before he leaves he will cancel and if he takes off and the small chance you go into labor there is a great chance he could be back before you have the baby. Labor at the beginning does not have to be some crazy stressful thing they show in the movies. I labored about 12 hours at home, 9 of them by myself before my husband was home from work. I went grocery shopping during this and then just hung at home timing my contractions. And baby still didn't show up until the following morning. If you are a calm person I think you'll be just fine.
Its not that easy when the closest airport is at least 90 minutes away.
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@fbanke42 - I definitely will NOT be going, and I'm fine missing it. Even if I were allowed to get on a plane, and willing to take the risk of delivering away from home, I'm not much of a concert-goer. Besides, from what I gather this band is kind of the soundtrack to a certain period in his life that predates me and involves some really special friendships... if anybody goes to keep him company, it should be those guys, not me.
Moral of the story: Husbands should stay with us the last month of pregnancy as we never know when LO will come! A matter of priorities, in my opinion...
Right, what band is it? Are they openers or headliners? That also might sway my decision.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016