Well, this is a tough one because I'd never want to deny my hubby the opportunity to see a band he really loves, or do something he really enjoys, but I honestly couldn't see myself in that situation anyway because I'm 100% certain my husband wouldn't even consider going out of town that close to my due date.
But to properly answer your question, as my opinion only, I wouldn't be upset at all. As long as he's being mindful to stay in contact and be available to head out at a moment's notice, I'd let him go. Of course, in our case, we live minutes from one of the country's busiest airports, so getting on a flight and coming home is super convenient.
I have never heard of that band, but bands break up and re-form all the time and these people sound young. There is a good chance they will play again and as far as being their first show reformed, that seems a bit irrelevant. Even if it was ACDC I'm not sure it would be worth potentially missing your child's birth....
I voted for him to stay home but I'm really split on it. It's tough because if you were to go into labor (not necessarily a high chance), what if he can't get on another flight fast enough and he misses it? Ugh, sucks but I think I'm sticking with my vote.
I'd say stay home. I saw LCD in concert years ago when they played at Austin City Limits and I wasn't all that impressed with the live show. Plus it's really hard to get good phone reception at music festivals when everyone is hogging all the service! No trying to be a downer, but It doesn't seem worth it to me.
This is tough, but my decision came down to which he would rather miss if he had to choose so I said not to go. It's a slim chance but what if you went into labor right after he left and he couldn't get back in time to see his child be born? If it were the month before, I'd be like heck yes go, but 9 days is just too close for my comfort. Of course it's highly unlikely that you would go into labor on that exact day and that he couldn't get back before actual delivery but it's just not a chance I would be willing to take personally (DH either). Good luck with the decision!!
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Gone but not forgotten: Identical twin boys born at 23 weeks - 2004
I'd say stay home. I saw LCD in concert years ago when they played at Austin City Limits and I wasn't all that impressed with the live show. Plus it's really hard to get good phone reception at music festivals when everyone is hogging all the service! No trying to be a downer, but It doesn't seem worth it to me.
As a Coachella veteran, there are no cell phone reception issues at this event. And there are cell phone charging stations EVERYWHERE on the grounds.
Bummer you didn't enjoy LCD, they've knocked my socks off every time I've seen them and am bummed at potentially missing this show myself as it's my exact due date.
What band is it? My answer might depend on that. If they are not old then they most likely will do a concert in the future.
Right, what band is it? Are they openers or headliners? That also might sway my decision.
It's LCD Soundsystem, and they're headlining. They broke up 5 years ago, and it's not clear whether this is a permanent reunion. While there's definitely a good chance they'll play again somewhere this year (maybe even closer to home!), they'll only have a first concert back together once. And while I was initially down with the idea of him taking a trip to NYC or something if need be to catch them in 2016, I'm thinking that having him leave on a fun trip when there's an actual baby to take care of might be more stressful than having him go when there's just the potential for a baby.
OMG I feel so old and lame, I thought LCD Soundsystem was a stereo brand! lol
What band is it? My answer might depend on that. If they are not old then they most likely will do a concert in the future.
Right, what band is it? Are they openers or headliners? That also might sway my decision.
It's LCD Soundsystem, and they're headlining. They broke up 5 years ago, and it's not clear whether this is a permanent reunion. While there's definitely a good chance they'll play again somewhere this year (maybe even closer to home!), they'll only have a first concert back together once. And while I was initially down with the idea of him taking a trip to NYC or something if need be to catch them in 2016, I'm thinking that having him leave on a fun trip when there's an actual baby to take care of might be more stressful than having him go when there's just the potential for a baby.
OMG I feel so old and lame, I thought LCD Soundsystem was a stereo brand! lol
If it makes you feel any better, if I weren't married to such a nerd, I wouldn't have the slightest clue who they are. Somebody up the line mentioned GnR (GnWho?) and while I think I may have heard of Sufjan Stevens, I strongly doubt I've ever heard anything he/she/they has/have done. You're not alone in the old and lame department!
What band is it? My answer might depend on that. If they are not old then they most likely will do a concert in the future.
Right, what band is it? Are they openers or headliners? That also might sway my decision.
It's LCD Soundsystem, and they're headlining. They broke up 5 years ago, and it's not clear whether this is a permanent reunion. While there's definitely a good chance they'll play again somewhere this year (maybe even closer to home!), they'll only have a first concert back together once. And while I was initially down with the idea of him taking a trip to NYC or something if need be to catch them in 2016, I'm thinking that having him leave on a fun trip when there's an actual baby to take care of might be more stressful than having him go when there's just the potential for a baby.
OMG I feel so old and lame, I thought LCD Soundsystem was a stereo brand! lol
If it makes you feel any better, if I weren't married to such a nerd, I wouldn't have the slightest clue who they are. Somebody up the line mentioned GnR (GnWho?) and while I think I may have heard of Sufjan Stevens, I strongly doubt I've ever heard anything he/she/they has/have done. You're not alone in the old and lame department!
Guns N Roses LOL!
ETA: sorry I keep jumping into your thread! I'm for sure a nerd and married to one as well, haha
What band is it? My answer might depend on that. If they are not old then they most likely will do a concert in the future.
Right, what band is it? Are they openers or headliners? That also might sway my decision.
It's LCD Soundsystem, and they're headlining. They broke up 5 years ago, and it's not clear whether this is a permanent reunion. While there's definitely a good chance they'll play again somewhere this year (maybe even closer to home!), they'll only have a first concert back together once. And while I was initially down with the idea of him taking a trip to NYC or something if need be to catch them in 2016, I'm thinking that having him leave on a fun trip when there's an actual baby to take care of might be more stressful than having him go when there's just the potential for a baby.
OMG I feel so old and lame, I thought LCD Soundsystem was a stereo brand! lol
If it makes you feel any better, if I weren't married to such a nerd, I wouldn't have the slightest clue who they are. Somebody up the line mentioned GnR (GnWho?) and while I think I may have heard of Sufjan Stevens, I strongly doubt I've ever heard anything he/she/they has/have done. You're not alone in the old and lame department!
I think being young is lame. Older music is better.
I say let him go. My dh missed one of ours because he was doing something he had always wanted to. If it was happening at any other time, then he would have scheduled it differently, but couldn't. I knew he would be gone and I was okay with it. Neither of us have any regrets. It doesn't sound like he'd be gone all that long.
I vote definitely no. DD (our first) was born 9 days early, and I was in labor within 12 hours of DH getting back from a quick overnight out of state business trip.
Also, I hope we all have very uneventful third trimesters, but with DD I was having weekly ultrasounds for growth from 35-38 weeks and had been advised that at pretty much any of them we could be told to go home for our bags (6 blocks away) and head to the hospital for induction. Obviously in that situation you could cancel before he actually left, but I wouldn't want to deal with the stress of re-selling flight and show tickets if anything were to happen.
DH and I go to Coachella every year, but we decided that childbirth is too unpredictable to chance it. He was excited about some of the bands, but he ultimately decided he can live without going. If it was his favorite band he may have a different opinion. On the flip side, if your H doesn't go, a lot of the same bands tend to do the festival circuit all over. I've noticed that many times Lollapalooza and Coachella have similar headliners. The year Outkast was a headliner at Coachella they even did smaller festivals like Loufest in St. Louis. So there may be other options if he misses Coachella this year. Either way good luck..it's a tough decision!
I wanted to vote yes so badly but I couldn't after my last labor. We didn't know it, but we were in a similar situation last time. Only instead of a concert it was golf at Congressional. And instead of a few days before my due date it was a few weeks. But most importantly, instead on being halfway across the country, it was only 5 minutes from my house...he still didn't make it. As he was getting in the car to leave my water broke. By the time he would have been on the first tee I was being rushed to the hospital. By the time he would have been on last tee I was getting ready to push. By the time it would have taken him to get to me had he been in a different state, the baby had been born. Labor can happen very quickly in an emergency situation so be prepared for that. Sod's law: assume your water is going to break the second he gets on the plane to LA and shuts off his phone.
Thanks for all the input, ladies. I have to admit, when Joe and I first started talking about this, the idea of posting a poll on The Bump was floated as a convenient, tongue-in-cheek way to scapegoat someone other than me as dreamcrusher (and to inject a little humor into a disappointing decision). We could pose the question to everybody else, and safely assume that y'all would encourage us to do the responsible thing. Neither of us expected it to be even close, let alone for the "Yeas" to outnumber the "Nays." I can't quite decide whether to apologize for trying to make y'all the bad guys when you're actually pretty cool or to question your collective sanity.
Nonetheless, we promised to abide by the wisdom of The Bump... and after some further discussion about the potential pros and cons, we officially bought a pass to Coachella when they went on sale today. We're still not entirely certain that he'll use it, because the potential drawbacks are kind of scary... but if we change our minds as the time draws closer we can always re-sell the ticket. It also turns out I have just enough miles that we should be able to get him home on a Southwest non-stop first thing the next morning for no charge (assuming he doesn't have to turn right back around and get on another plane, that is!), so things seem to be falling into place.
I believe LCD announced yesterday a new album coming this year and a tour (no cities or dates yet,) so there's always a back up plan if you guys change your minds. He'll always be able to sell that Coachella ticket if need be, even if it's just at face value.
Re: Husband Conundrum--Should he stay or go?
But to properly answer your question, as my opinion only, I wouldn't be upset at all. As long as he's being mindful to stay in contact and be available to head out at a moment's notice, I'd let him go.
Of course, in our case, we live minutes from one of the country's busiest airports, so getting on a flight and coming home is super convenient.
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Baby #2 due 4/26/16!
Of course it's highly unlikely that you would go into labor on that exact day and that he couldn't get back before actual delivery but it's just not a chance I would be willing to take personally (DH either). Good luck with the decision!!
Bummer you didn't enjoy LCD, they've knocked my socks off every time I've seen them and am bummed at potentially missing this show myself as it's my exact due date.
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ETA: sorry I keep jumping into your thread! I'm for sure a nerd and married to one as well, haha
Also, I hope we all have very uneventful third trimesters, but with DD I was having weekly ultrasounds for growth from 35-38 weeks and had been advised that at pretty much any of them we could be told to go home for our bags (6 blocks away) and head to the hospital for induction. Obviously in that situation you could cancel before he actually left, but I wouldn't want to deal with the stress of re-selling flight and show tickets if anything were to happen.
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Nonetheless, we promised to abide by the wisdom of The Bump... and after some further discussion about the potential pros and cons, we officially bought a pass to Coachella when they went on sale today. We're still not entirely certain that he'll use it, because the potential drawbacks are kind of scary... but if we change our minds as the time draws closer we can always re-sell the ticket. It also turns out I have just enough miles that we should be able to get him home on a Southwest non-stop first thing the next morning for no charge (assuming he doesn't have to turn right back around and get on another plane, that is!), so things seem to be falling into place.