Hey ladies. I've been a little MIA because I've been really down lately. I started this pregnancy overweight and I'm sharing this experience with my very thin sister. She is only about 5 weeks ahead of me and she has been feeling her baby move for the past 3 weeks. For the past 2 we can all feel him kicking at her stomach.
She has a beautiful pregnancy belly and everything just seems so great for her. As for me, I can sometimes feel my baby move inside but don't have the opportunity to share this with my boyfriend because you can't feel her kick my stomach.
I'm 18 weeks in a few days and I read online that if you are over weight you may never feel the baby and you may not actually ever look pregnant, just fat. I've wanted to experience pregnancy as long as I can remember and I'm just so sad that I'm not getting the full experience. Are there any overweight moms who can share their experience or advice? I've been losing weight since being pregnant, but I still don't feel or look pregnant really.
Re: overweight & not feeling baby
DS2 5-18-2014
DD1 EDD 6-21-2016
As far as not looking pregnant, that mostly only applies to severely obese women also. By week 20 to week 24, I bet you'll look super cute and pregnant. I only know one person who never looked pregnant, and she was probably 350+ pounds, and had her baby early at 25 weeks.
I only started feeling the baby move last week (18 weeks) but my hubby still can't feel him kicking through my tummy... Doctor says he might be able to feel baby by the time we get to 22 or 24 weeks! I think it's just different for everyone.
For reference I was 5'6" and a size 5
This is my second pregnancy, so at 16 weeks I've felt a couple flutters but nothing crazy. I think I was closer to 20 weeks before I felt my first baby kick. There are a lot of factors that will play a part in when you feel your baby kick (amniotic fluid levels, placental location, activity of baby and what time they are active).
You will feel your baby. My daughter used to have hiccups constantly. I was late to work one day because I refused to move until her hiccups stopped because I loved feeling them.
Whether or not you feel baby isn't really a matter of weight. I'm over-weight and could feel baby SUPER early. (This is my 4th pregnancy.) I haven't felt baby in a while and I'm 17 weeks today, but many people (big and small!) don't feel their babies until they're 22 weeks!
You WILL look pregnant, and you and your BF WILL feel baby.
My number one suggestion is to not stress over anything. (But of course that's not going to happen. Mom's love the stress!) (Me included.)
But yes, every baby is different. I felt my first at 16 weeks, second at 14, never felt my third (lost at 19 weeks) and just now felt this one at 16 weeks. I'm slightly overweight after so many pregnancies (4 in 4 years) but wasnt with my first. Weight hasn't seemed to make any difference. Believe me, you'll feel them soon enough!
Don't worry about this. And try not to compare to other pregnancies. My friend had no morning sickness with her pregnancy and it used to drive me nuts. Really not worth the added stress. Try to focus on yourself and your baby, maybe get some pampering this week - nails, shopping, etc. it's all really stressful and you deserve a break!
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