Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *** The Official Random Thread of All Random Threads for March 2016 ***
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
It just really bothers me when people think a kid has a problem just because they are active and like to play. Then when you tell a mom that you think there is a problem with her kid you better know what your talking about: mama'so are often compared to mama bears for reason.
Edit @skruhmin I understand what you meant now, lol. When I read it at first I thought it meant your water broke when you sneezed.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
With this one, I already told her I didn't want her there and that we are doing a c-section anyway. I told my doctor that she will not be allowed to see us while in the hospital and that I plan on telling the hospital to put her on the 'do not allow' list. Apparently, she did not understand me though.
She just called to cause my eldest sister told her that if mom manages to make it here from Texas that my sister will make sure mom doesn't bother me till I am ready. She is upset with me cause she thinks that she deserves to be there.
Ever tell someone something and they act like you are speaking another language? Your left wondering "what, did I stutter? Or are you just that stupid?" I told you months ago that you were not going to be there.
Not really winning or angry, just wondering if I can find a 'stupid' sticker to start handing out.
So a really great pee story:
DH has been bugging me to do stuff with him for hours but I've still been pretty irritated. Anyway I was taking a bath and he decided to crawl in with me. I told him I was going to pee on him, jokingly of course, but he kept jacking with me so much that I started laughing uncontrollably hard and yep...peed on him.
Yikes, what a day @red3ye!! People are so thick sometimes. It befuddles me to read things like this!!
Well it's already 2016 where I am. Happy New Year to you all!!! This year will be so amazing for us
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
@ecwk @MrsLeanMeanClean
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
I had a pediatrician once tell me my oldest might have mental retardation when we took him in when he was 2 1/2 years old because he started crying because he remembered that was the place that gave him shots and he didn't like it. I was pregnant at the time and my husband had to hold me back because I was about to jump the stupid Doctor. I told her she was fired and grabbed his chart from her hands and walked out. His new pediatrician told me that lady was an idiot and should have her license revoked he was so pissed for me that he reported her don't know if anything happened but I know my friends with kids that went there switched also after I told them what she said. I know she lost a lot of business.
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
Someone in their marketing division must have considered themselves a genius for calling it the "Final Push" sale.
Har har MM.
Happy New Year's, everyone!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
For the first time in 6 years i wasn't said at midnight because of what not came. This year my DH and i were wishing eachother a very happy new year with an almost 30 week bump between us. Best nye ever!
Or you can go to Carters.com and type in Rugby Hoodie.
I'm sorry I can't remember what you are having (or if you are team green). The rugby socks are adorable too. The numbers of the rugby shirts make me think that the people who designed them do not understand the significance of the jersey numbers in the game.
Thanks for all the love and support ladies. My mom no longer can make me mad, I don't care for her enough to get upset when she acts so stupid. The other woman probably would have gotten hurt if it weren't for the fact that she easily out weighs me by at least 50 pounds and she had back up while I was alone with ds.
Our night was pretty mellow. Girls pulled confetti poppers all over the living room and blew horns around 10pm, so I figured that was good enough and fell asleep. Woke up right before midnight to both girls asleep, just in time to kiss DH and fall back asleep.
But then I was woken up around 2:30 or 3 am when my toddler woke up totally pissed at the world and throwing the tantrum of the century, which lasted about an hour. I'm surprised she didn't wake up the whole neighborhood. She finally fell back asleep, and about 30 minutes later my 6 yr old coke up in a massive coughing fit. Grrr, this year already hates me.
Started winter break off with a case of headlice, then my oldest got this never ending cough crud which hits hardest at night. My toddler and I seem to have finally caught it too, yay. Oh, and the toddler woke up from yesterday's nap with pink eye in BOTH eyes. Probably why she was so pissed in the middle of the night. FML I'm so tired.
Bwhahahahaha
https://www.scarymommy.com/babypod-vaginal-sound-system/?utm_source=FB
Happy New year everyone! This is the year we'll all have babies! And the bump says it's time to start putting together the hospital bag.... Oh my goodness it's getting real!
@2goofymoms I have ben completely avoiding packing the hospital bag for multiple reasons. (I fear I will grossly over pack and it seems like just the activity to push my labor/birth/parenting anxieties into the light.) But last night my friend gave me the cutest Vera Bradly Bag. (I could give two shits about name brands but apparently its a really nice bag. DH asks me "Is she famous or something?" To which I replied "I have no freaking idea?") Anyhow, its the perfect size for my hospital bag so now I'm finding the task a little more approachable.
@JLaVO888 I loved the article these came from- and I most relate to the one I picked l. It was a toss up between that and the not getting sneakers on my feet but I figured both consist of bending over...and I've ben. Having the WORSt time with that! Seriously last night I was trying to get into my box of chocolates when the paper fell to the floor (the one that tells you which chocolate is where...). I looked at it, said "f*ck it!" And left it there!
We just got home from my mother's birthday lunch (yes she is a New Years baby). We had a great time
@2goofykids I am sorry that your MS has returned. Mine never went away so I feel your pain
@kitteh81 pooooooor LO. Pink eye is the WORST
I seriously can't believe 2016 is here THE BABIES ARE COMING.
P.S. I know we have talked about this before but at what point do we want to start on our FB group?