So, my SIL (DH's older sister) finally tied the knot in August and has herself a honeymoon baby due at the end of April. When I first told I was expecting as well, she was stoked and so was I I. Then she found out the sex, and is going through the whole gender disappointment thing - which I understand, as I had some of it with DD in my 1st go round. However... While we were maternity clothes shopping - since my STM blump/bump is showing pretty fast - she said she would be pissed if I was having a boy since she wanted a boy. I brushed it off as a joke, but part of me feels she wasn't joking. Or maybe it's my pregnancy hormones getting to my brain. I'm hoping my SIL and I can stay happy for one another well past our deliveries.
Anyone else pregnant with a sister/SIL/cousin? If so, what has your experience been like so far?
Re: Anyone else pregnant at the same time as a family member?
That said -- it seems like it's the kind of situation that amplifies whatever underlying feelings there are, maybe? For us, there are lots of little spats and tensions most of the time (don't get me started about some of the wedding drama), but this really brought out the deep loving bond we have. If you're in a relationship where there might be tensions beneath the surface, I could see how concurrent pregnancies could make that bubble up.
I hope it was just a hormonal moment! This could be such a special experience for the two of you to share. And how fun to have cousins so close in age!
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Being pregnant with SIL on DH's side, however, was wonderful. She and I are also very close and even lived next door to each other at the time. We had boys so I've been able to hand clothes down to her and the boys are really close now.
I hope that you and yours can stay close and get along. Its such a hormonal time
About 4 weeks after I told my brother and SIL I was pregnant they announced they were too. I was a little scared in the beginning because the competition started straight away on who was going to tell my mum first. I caved (I wanted to enjoy this pregnancy) so they told everyone first. Unfortunately my SIL just had a miscarriage around 6 weeks. So now I have to be very careful sharing things. I am waiting on them to ask instead of me telling anything.
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
She always swore she'd never have kids so it's hilarious that she'll be the first if our "group" to be having one.
Though I'll admit I did struggle with a little bit of (totally ridiculous & irrational) jealousy on Sunday when my SIL had her son. But now that I've met the little man I'm too in love with him to be upset.
The only bad part about it was MIL who was always comparing us. "Well SHE found out the sex at 14 weeks how come you have to wait until 20? SHE can eat that how come you can't? Why does SHE do this or that and you don't?" It was extremely annoying and DH finally had to say something to her. Even when the babies were young she would compare them. Thankfully the cousin moved away from MIL and now they don't keep in touch much. The cousin lives closer to us so we visit them in the summer. It's fun.
I really hope that your SIL was just joking or if she wasn't she gets over it fast. I know my situation is completely different and I don't mean to scare you. I just wanted to offer you a different perspective.
I should add I was pregnant with these two last time as well. I found out I was pregnant 4 days after 1 gave birth and the other announced 3 weeks before I had my twins.
I'm also hoping my BFF will get some good news on the IVF side of things soon and she will be able to get pregnant as well. I have been nervous to tell her, although she has been adament that she will be excited for us and knows we have been struggling for 2 years for this baby.
She's since had a third and I am now due with number 3. My due date is 6 days before her 3rds, 1st birthday! If I go late again, the cousins may share a birthdate (a year apart).
J+E ~ 08/25/2007 DD#1 ~ 05/11/2010 DD#2 ~ 09/25/2013 DD#3 ~ 06/09/2016 Baby #4 Due ~ 01/16/2023