@Atlast111 it was really an odd situation. My two good friends couldn't believe that she actually admitted being jealous of me and that I was willing to forgive so quickly. They look at it as her wishing DS was sick too. I really think what it came down to is she was/is angry because her baby is sick and I was just who she took her anger out on because I was there and had a baby at the same time. She deals with a lot of deamons and is in recovery so I think sometimes she has a hard time dealing with her emotions. The thing that kills me most about all of it is our kids are close in age and they will probably never have a super close relationship because of all of it. She is also step mom to my older neice and nephew (8 & 11) who DD absolutely adores and because of her issues DD rarely gets to see them. I really tried for a long time but I've given up putting myself out there. You can only take so many excuses and rejections before you just chose not to try anymore.
Sounds a lot like the friend I had to let go of after 15 years of friendship. She had a lot of very deep rooted issues. I'm much happier now without having to deal with it all. It's too much of a strain for both you and your family.
That's a real bummer that she sounds genuinely mad. When I was pregnant with #2, there were 3 other co-workers pregnant and we were all due within a month of each other. Oddly enough, we all had boys. One was so disappointed she was having a boy, she literally cried for a month and was kind of hateful toward people having girls. I get disappointment. I don't get the actually being mad thing.
Now, my cousin and my husband's cousin are both due in May and obviously I'm in June. It's all of ours 3rd child so everyone is pretty chill. One has found out she's having a girl -- she has a boy and girl as well as I do. My cousin will find out around the same time as us. She doesn't really care. I have my heart set on boy but feel like it's a girl. I certainly won't be mad if someone else gets what I want.
My favorite cousin on my mom's side is pregnant with twins and due a month before I am--it was so fun to get to to share our news with each other, and it's even more fun to have someone to commiserate with at holiday gatherings. Our girls are close in age, so it's fun that we'll have more cousins of the same age running around at family get-togethers, growing up together. Geez, I'm getting kinda misty thinking about it. These hormones are killin' me!
Sounds like my cousin...she is 5 weeks ahead of me and before her or I got pregnant she used to tell me she'd be pissed at me if I got pregnant first or quickly. I had a very hard time telling her since I didn't know what her reaction was going to be but luckily she was ok since she got preg first (I don't get it). Now she just talks to me like I'm dumb and don't know anything...on the flip side I have another cousin that is due 2 days after me and she is amazing.
My sister is 4 years younger than me and has been married for two years and they were trying for a baby. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years and we'd decided we wouldn't be having children. So my sister found out she was pregnant and then I found out I was pregnant a while later. We were in complete shock. I'm 6 weeks behind my sister. They just had a gender reveal party last night (it's a girl!) and I still haven't told anyone we are pregnant too. My mom and sister kind of had a falling out a while ago and it's so awkward that they didn't even show up for the party last night. I feel weird about revealing my pregnancy because I have a feeling my mom will make a big deal of it to get under my sisters skin. It's so childish, I know. I DO NOT like drama. I'm going to have to tell them all soon though because I'm 12 weeks and starting to show.
My DH's cousin is pregnant and she and I were in the same grade together at school. She's due in May but I announced a couple weeks before her (I couldn't contain my excitement anymore!). So I was a little upset but mostly because the majority of the family doesn't like her side of the family (her, her brother and sister, mom and dad). Long story short, her family is the reason that Grandma had to sell her house and get rid of most of her stuff she's collected over the years since she had to move.
I feel that people are more excited for my husband and I because were more involved with the rest of the family and more helpful and we've been together longer (wedding was way more fun too lol) while everyone knows the crap they pulled! So knowing that they like me more than her is nice. I know, it sounds awful!
My sister in law is 3 months ahead of me and happens to be an OB/ GYN. It's been great to have someone to talk to about how I feel and kinda talk me through what I'm feeling. This is her second and my first. I also have two really close friends that are also pregnant at the same time.
My SIL and I are due 2 weeks apart. It's the second kiddo for both of us. We're excited, but I think MIL is stressing about doubling her grandkids in such a short time frame.
Ugh, that sounds like something oldest SIL would be mad at me about.
My other SIL is pregnant but I don't want to tell her. She is a grade a B and was awful to us when we opened up to family about our fertility issues. And once she saw how hurt DH and I were, she said she was just joking because she's too high and mighty to apologize. She's mentioned to me a million times how she wants to be pregnant at the same time, to which id just roll my eyes. She'll find out around Christmas along with the rest of the fam, but will have her baby soon enough after that. So her buddy buddy pregnancy club with be easy enough to avoid.
I also decided to put my foot down with her if she starts telling me what to while pregnant. She's already told me she hopes I get pregnant soon so she could give me her extra breast milk. I've never been pregnant nor have had a baby, so why does she think I can't produce any breast milk? Because she's a grade a B.
Yes, my sister and I are expecting only 1 week apart! We're super excited to share this even though we live in different states. Second baby for both of us.
Re: Anyone else pregnant at the same time as a family member?
Now, my cousin and my husband's cousin are both due in May and obviously I'm in June. It's all of ours 3rd child so everyone is pretty chill. One has found out she's having a girl -- she has a boy and girl as well as I do. My cousin will find out around the same time as us. She doesn't really care. I have my heart set on boy but feel like it's a girl. I certainly won't be mad if someone else gets what I want.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
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I feel that people are more excited for my husband and I because were more involved with the rest of the family and more helpful and we've been together longer (wedding was way more fun too lol) while everyone knows the crap they pulled! So knowing that they like me more than her is nice. I know, it sounds awful!
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
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My other SIL is pregnant but I don't want to tell her. She is a grade a B and was awful to us when we opened up to family about our fertility issues. And once she saw how hurt DH and I were, she said she was just joking because she's too high and mighty to apologize. She's mentioned to me a million times how she wants to be pregnant at the same time, to which id just roll my eyes. She'll find out around Christmas along with the rest of the fam, but will have her baby soon enough after that. So her buddy buddy pregnancy club with be easy enough to avoid.
I also decided to put my foot down with her if she starts telling me what to while pregnant. She's already told me she hopes I get pregnant soon so she could give me her extra breast milk. I've never been pregnant nor have had a baby, so why does she think I can't produce any breast milk? Because she's a grade a B.