Tip form a new mom

Re: Tip form a new mom

• PedsIsHardcore member

  December 2015

  Bigboobsmcgee said:

  
  

  PedsIsHardcore said:

  
  

  Also the OP obviously didn't take into consideration those having pregnancy complications. I am a type 1 diabetic and this is my 2nd baby. I am miserable! I am on work restrictions and I end up in L&D at least once a week because of something new happening, like last night's severe headaches, blurry vision and me passing out. Enjoy my pregnancy? You have to be high to think I'm going to enjoy the fact my placenta is starting to fail and I'm only 30 weeks. I am hormonal because I am pregnant.

  
  

  
  
  You do realize the OP's post wasn't a personal jab at you, right? She clearly wasn't trying to hurt people. People can take ANY post on TB and spin it to be negative. It must be exhausting.

    
  

  No one is spinning it to be negative, but she didn't care about anyone at all that would read her post. To me, she seems to have done it to be like "Well...I'm a mom now so I know better and this is my crapy advice."

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• ccoleeman member

  December 2015 edited December 2015

  I think expecting posters (especially drive-bys) to take into account the specific pregnancy situation of every possible person in their audience comes across as thin-skinned. Many of us have been on these boards for months, and OP is obviously just posting and ghosting, so why take it to heart? I think taking a random dear diary/dumb post as a direct assault against our mothering skills/pregnancy experience is just looking for something to be offended by. We all know better than that. She posted a useless thread that could've died days ago.
  
  Eta: FFS she misspelled the topic of the damn thread. Anyone really think you should have to defend yourself against a person who doesn't spell check from telling you how to experience your pregnancy? There are going to be plenty of people with far greater credibility giving unsolicited advice. I'm surprised at this stage of the game we haven't learned how to take unsolicited advice with a grain of salt- I'm sure after kids it just gets worse!
  

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• eliseandbaby member

  December 2015

  @ccoleeman you are very right!

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• Bigboobsmcgee member

  December 2015

  ccoleeman said:

  I think expecting posters (especially drive-bys) to take into account the specific pregnancy situation of every possible person in their audience comes across as thin-skinned. Many of us have been on these boards for months, and OP is obviously just posting and ghosting, so why take it to heart? I think taking a random dear diary/dumb post as a direct assault against our mothering skills/pregnancy experience is just looking for something to be offended by. We all know better than that. She posted a useless thread that could've died days ago. Eta: FFS she misspelled the topic of the damn thread. Anyone really think you should have to defend yourself against a person who doesn't spell check from telling you how to experience your pregnancy? There are going to be plenty of people with far greater credibility giving unsolicited advice. I'm surprised at this stage of the game we haven't learned how to take unsolicited advice with a grain of salt- I'm sure after kids it just gets worse!

  Yes, yes, yes! Well said.
  

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• Bigboobsmcgee member

  December 2015

  PedsIsHardcore said:

  PedsIsHardcore said:

  Also the OP obviously didn't take into consideration those having pregnancy complications. I am a type 1 diabetic and this is my 2nd baby. I am miserable! I am on work restrictions and I end up in L&D at least once a week because of something new happening, like last night's severe headaches, blurry vision and me passing out. Enjoy my pregnancy? You have to be high to think I'm going to enjoy the fact my placenta is starting to fail and I'm only 30 weeks. I am hormonal because I am pregnant.

  You do realize the OP's post wasn't a personal jab at you, right? She clearly wasn't trying to hurt people. People can take ANY post on TB and spin it to be negative. It must be exhausting.

    
  

  No one is spinning it to be negative, but she didn't care about anyone at all that would read her post. To me, she seems to have done it to be like "Well...I'm a mom now so I know better and this is my crapy advice."

  How do you know she didn't care? She seemed to have pretty good intentions to me and is obviously very happy after having her baby but those moms or soon to be moms on here that are lacking confidence in themselves are letting this bother them when it really shouldn't.
  

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  December 2015

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