Tip form a new mom

mayason85

From the top of my 4  week experience:

1. I won't say sleep now- because I know you can't so just find something you can do for yourself and get some me time.

2. Take a class about breastfeeding it's not as easy as it's made out to be. Be prepared and it might be easier.

3. treasure every moment of your pregnancy: I had a harmony bell necklace (beautiful and calming- look it up) to remind me of that. I kept a journal, I did 4d sonograms and  I had an app to record and keep the heartbeat forever (Babyscope app).

Hope my tips are useful, good luck!!!!     

celainev

Thanks for your advice, it is very sweet of you.

But I can tell from your lack of history on TB that you haven't been here very long. At this point in our pregnancies (3rd trimester) we don't really enjoy getting unwanted advice. Instead, it is more useful to post on other boards that are already created and asking for advice.

Just saying.

sarahufl

I hate when people tell me to enjoy my pregnancy. Wtf does that even mean?

ecwk

sarahufl said:

I hate when people tell me to enjoy my pregnancy. Wtf does that even mean?

I thought it meant this:

soxfan9968

Enjoy the heartburn, headaches, food aversions that won't go away, force feeding myself the nutrients I need? Yeah... It's a blast! 4d sonograms are creepy to me so no. Phone apps for heartbeats are pointless. Thanks for useless advice.

@ecwk I haven't mastered that level of enjoyment! I'm still working on mastering the Rachel Green move.

ZoeyRaeJames

Uuugggh. At 37 weeks, I'm barely getting to enjoy sleep! I go to sleep at about midnight each night, toss and turn throught that "sleep time", and end up awake 2.5 hours later starving! The back to sleep, and awake at 5. That is NOTHING to enjoy. Especially the heartburn, the Braxton Hicks, the Lightening Crotch...You can NOT "just enjoy your pregnancy" when you have all that going on. Not to mention the aches and pains.

sarahufl

Let me know what I should be enjoying about being awake all night. And I still have about 17 weeks of this.

kynbar5

sarahufl said:

Let me know what I should be enjoying about being awake all night. And I still have about 17 weeks of this.

You've got way more than 17 weeks of loss of sleep!

blended10

You have to excuse op - she's basking in the glow of a new baby's love. She is like oozing love right now. She needs to share it. I remember with my son (born 5 yrs ago on thanksgiving) and I was like "Christmas carols remind me of how I feel about my baby!" To anyone who'd listen. I was delirious in love. All those crappy 9 months of pregnancy and 2 years of infertility were gone. Lol

sarahufl

kynbar5 said:

sarahufl said:

Let me know what I should be enjoying about being awake all night. And I still have about 17 weeks of this.

You've got way more than 17 weeks of loss of sleep!

Ha-ha, fair. 17 weeks of "enjoying" myself due to bring pregnant. Untold weeks due to baby.

jmathi0149

It always surprises me when people say they need to have another baby because they didn't think their last was going To be their last so they didn't really relish their last pregnancy and mentally prepare to never be pregnant again. I love that my body can make tiny humans and I know I am so blessed but I am just not good at being pregnant. I am high risk every pregnancy and an anxious paranoid mess. So when I think about this being my last pregnancy I'm over here like:

LIly436

I am sorry, but there is not much to enjoy during pregnancy, other then the fact that I am having a baby at the end. I have been throwing   up for 5 months, still not able to eat normally because of the heartburn plus all those delights other people already described. There will be no bells to remind me of this, cant wait to forget

Kiek

Awe ladies, we are all pregnant and cranky still (clearly lol)but she's on new mommy high right now I think it's sweet even if I'm feeling pretty crappy and huge right now lol

skruhmin

Nope!  Just want to snuggle my baby. 

itstheblackwidowbaby

New mommy high? What the fuck is that? Is that a side effect of sleep deprivation? (All this was typed as I stared down my 17 day old). Here's some potential useful "advice"/hope - that heartburn was GONE as soon as spawn was out.

OP, please think back to the final weeks of pregancy without rose-colored glasses. I'm sure that if anyone would have give you any of this advice towards the end you would have gone she-hulk on them.

queenwog

itstheblackwidowbaby said:

New mommy high? What the fuck is that? Is that a side effect of sleep deprivation?

Maybe she's legit taking drugs to cope with new mommy sleep deprivation and this post is her way of being like, "whoa, man... whoa. This is faaaaar out."

Idk. But keep your advice to yourself. Glad you're happy but for real, nobody asked for advice and it's rude to volunteer crap like that. Get a blog, post on Facebook, or find a thread someone legit asking for advice on.

Mamabeagle

itstheblackwidowbaby said:

New mommy high? What the fuck is that? Is that a side effect of sleep deprivation? (All this was typed as I stared down my 17 day old). Here's some potential useful "advice"/hope - that heartburn was GONE as soon as spawn was out.

OP, please think back to the final weeks of pregancy without rose-colored glasses. I'm sure that if anyone would have give you any of this advice towards the end you would have gone she-hulk on them.

Hallelujah for an end to the heartburn.

DrillSergeantCat

I'll say the first two tips are good ones. Probably most of us don't do enough for ourselves right now and I gave up BFing my oldest after a week because it hurt and I didn't know there were things I could do. The last one, though, there are some things to enjoy about pregnancy during the last trimester, but there's far more that sucks balls. 

dragonfly321

DrillSergeantCat said:

The last one, though, there are some things to enjoy about pregnancy during the last trimester, but there's far more that sucks balls. 

Yeah.... Like not having a baby pushing on my everything anymore. That's about where I'm getting to look forward to.

DrillSergeantCat

dragonfly321 said:

The last one, though, there are some things to enjoy about pregnancy during the last trimester, but there's far more that sucks balls. 

Yeah.... Like not having a baby pushing on my everything anymore. That's about where I'm getting to look forward to.

I enjoy feeling him kick when he doesn't kick so hard it takes my breath away. I detest and will not look back fondly on the heartburn, hip and pelvis pain, carpal tunnel pain, or lack of sleep caused by all of the above. 

dragonfly321

I won't miss the sciatica sending random, crippling twings down my right butt and leg when walking.

mamacastro

^^ or the hip/thigh pains that get so bad it literally hurts to move by the end of the day

Bigboobsmcgee

queenwog said:

New mommy high? What the fuck is that? Is that a side effect of sleep deprivation?

Maybe she's legit taking drugs to cope with new mommy sleep deprivation and this post is her way of being like, "whoa, man... whoa. This is faaaaar out." Idk. But keep your advice to yourself. Glad you're happy but for real, nobody asked for advice and it's rude to volunteer crap like that. Get a blog, post on Facebook, or find a thread someone legit asking for advice on.

OP is being rude?! WTAF is wrong with you? Jesus people.

Kiek

OP walked into the hormonal lions den lol. I thought it was sweet because she's got that new mommy glow(because apparently there is a lot of butt hurt over saying "new mommy high" lol) even though I'm not super thrilled with all my third trimester discomfort. Sciatica and chasing around a 2 year old, not fun.

kyraaD

Bigboobsmcgee said:

queenwog said:

itstheblackwidowbaby said:

New mommy high? What the fuck is that? Is that a side effect of sleep deprivation?

Maybe she's legit taking drugs to cope with new mommy sleep deprivation and this post is her way of being like, "whoa, man... whoa. This is faaaaar out."

Idk. But keep your advice to yourself. Glad you're happy but for real, nobody asked for advice and it's rude to volunteer crap like that. Get a blog, post on Facebook, or find a thread someone legit asking for advice on.

OP is being rude?! WTAF is wrong with you? Jesus people.


yeah, i dont see any rudeness coming from OP. she was just trying to be helpful, despite her advice being clearly unwanted.

i will say this: in no way am i treasuring this pregnancy. counting down the weeks until this is over!! IF I'm going to miss anything about it, it'll be my LO moving/kicking. but even then, his kicks hurt

edit: spelling fail.

kelseyg002

Oh man. So much whining! Be nice or don't comment. I have all the crazy aches and pains only 5 weeks left for me, but to see someone so happy about their brand new baby just gets me so excited to meet my little girl. Not bitch.

kristib1027

kelseyg002 said:

Oh man. So much whining! Be nice or don't comment. I have all the crazy aches and pains only 5 weeks left for me, but to see someone so happy about their brand new baby just gets me so excited to meet my little girl. Not bitch.

Be nice or don't comment? But that's not how the Internet or forums work!! Hahha

Beckah31

ecwk

Edit gif fail

nik6499

Tips from an old very pregnant mom:

Clench when you sneeze....... It's important
Perfect your FU smile, you are going to use it a lot because a lot of people are going to tell you how to do shit because evidently we didn't get this far in life without their help
Pregnancy is different for everyone, I'm very happy if you are a pregnancy unicorn and it was wonderful and glittery rainbows, I'm as big as a whale, uncomfortable as ass and damnit I feel like I pee a little a lot, so I'm sorry if I'm excited to say goodbye to my sausage toes and fat ass. It doesn't mean I am any less grateful about my pregnancy or love my baby any less, it just means I'm done
Breastfeeding is a bitch, anyone who tells you otherwise has never done it. It's hard work with a steep learning curve, but you can get there. And if you can't, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding your baby.
You are not going to be perfect, you are going to screw up, you are going to cry, you are going to ask yourself a thousand times what the hell you were thinking. And then at 3 am when you feel like you just can't do it anymore this adorable little human is going to give you this look, like you are the only person on the planet and suddenly the rest of the shit doesn't matter and you feel like all the shit and Puke and sleepless nights are worth it.... And then it all starts over again.

Cherish the moments you want to cherish. The rest is just pages in a book no one else will ever read.

eliseandbaby

I can tell you are blissfully in love with new baby. Sorry you walked into "a hormonal lions den" as one poster put it. I guess we are all just so tired, but congrats on your new bundle anyhow. I hope to feel like you do in a few weeks.... I'm ready to Bye Felicia this whole pregnancy. I think that's a saying now? I'm tired.

PrimRoseMama

I'm not pregnant & posts like these never go over well. Generally, telling other people what to do or how to feel is not warmly received.

Also, fresh baby- lovings and cuddles are not really an excuse to post obnoxious things & try to pass them off as wisdom.

soxfan9968

I'm getting really tired of people calling the other people that that don't agree with op "hormonal." I'm a grown up and am aware of my feelings. I know how I would've reacted to unsolicited advice before pregnancy, during, and after. My hormones haven't affected my ability to process independent thought. Unwanted advice is always unwelcome, regardless of whether or not I'm pregnant.

If you agree with op or sympathize with her, congratulations. You are more than welcome to do so and post about it. However, don't make excuses for my response or anyone else's. Make yourself accountable for your own post. I don't agree with her post or her advice, that does NOT make me hormonal. As pp noted, not everyone is pregnant.

Lastly, this whole concept of ignoring threads and not replying if you don't have anything nice to say is absurd. It's the Internet and an open forum. Anyone is allowed to reply as as long he/she doesn't violate the TOU. Clearly the people you're asking to "ignore" threads don't believe in that mentality. However, if you're preaching it, you must believe and you should take your own advice. ETA: again, telling people what to do and how to act or feel doesn't go over well. That includes telling people when or how to reply.

tripledaggerWed95976

I'm super glad OP is basking in the glory of having an amazing new baby, but coming to the third tri to give totally unsolicited advise seems like a really random choice. I'm sure her intentions were good, but It made her come off as a know-it-all. We all have unique and personal child-rearing and parenting experiences-- so, to tell us how we should think/feel/act and how we should be experiencing things is pretty close minded in my opinion.

Edited for clarity

PedsIsHardcore

Also the OP obviously didn't take into consideration those having pregnancy complications. I am a type 1 diabetic and this is my 2nd baby. I am miserable! I am on work restrictions and I end up in L&D at least once a week because of something new happening, like last night's severe headaches, blurry vision and me passing out. Enjoy my pregnancy? You have to be high to think I'm going to enjoy the fact my placenta is starting to fail and I'm only 30 weeks. I am hormonal because I am pregnant.

sarahufl

soxfan9968 said:

I'm getting really tired of people calling the other people that that don't agree with op "hormonal." I'm a grown up and am aware of my feelings. I know how I would've reacted to unsolicited advice before pregnancy, during, and after. My hormones haven't affected my ability to process independent thought. Unwanted advice is always unwelcome, regardless of whether or not I'm pregnant. If you agree with op or sympathize with her, congratulations. You are more than welcome to do so and post about it. However, don't make excuses for my response or anyone else's. Make yourself accountable for your own post. I don't agree with her post or her advice, that does NOT make me hormonal. As pp noted, not everyone is pregnant. Lastly, this whole concept of ignoring threads and not replying if you don't have anything nice to say is absurd. It's the Internet and an open forum. Anyone is allowed to reply as as long he/she doesn't violate the TOU. Clearly the people you're asking to "ignore" threads don't believe in that mentality. However, if you're preaching it, you must believe and you should take your own advice. ETA: again, telling people what to do and how to act or feel doesn't go over well. That includes telling people when or how to reply.

Truth. All of this. But especially the "don't be so whiny and hormonal part" I am not so hormonal I am not in control of my emotions and thoughts. I know what I am saying and doing at all times and I still think OP sounds ridiculous.

eliseandbaby

soxfan9968 said:

I'm getting really tired of people calling the other people that that don't agree with op "hormonal." I'm a grown up and am aware of my feelings. I know how I would've reacted to unsolicited advice before pregnancy, during, and after. My hormones haven't affected my ability to process independent thought. Unwanted advice is always unwelcome, regardless of whether or not I'm pregnant.

If you agree with op or sympathize with her, congratulations. You are more than welcome to do so and post about it. However, don't make excuses for my response or anyone else's. Make yourself accountable for your own post. I don't agree with her post or her advice, that does NOT make me hormonal. As pp noted, not everyone is pregnant.

Lastly, this whole concept of ignoring threads and not replying if you don't have anything nice to say is absurd. It's the Internet and an open forum. Anyone is allowed to reply as as long he/she doesn't violate the TOU. Clearly the people you're asking to "ignore" threads don't believe in that mentality. However, if you're preaching it, you must believe and you should take your own advice. ETA: again, telling people what to do and how to act or feel doesn't go over well. That includes telling people when or how to reply.

Yea, youre right about not just blaming hormones on how people respond. I think I kind of did this in my previous post but I apologize b/c I do hate when people blame my "hormones" for how im reacting... Just trying to keep the peace I guess.

Bigboobsmcgee

tripledaggerWed95976 said:

I'm super glad OP is basking in the glory of having an amazing new baby, but coming to the third tri to give totally unsolicited advise seems like a really random choice. I'm sure her intentions were good, but It made her come off as a know-it-all. We all have unique and personal child-rearing and parenting experiences-- so, to tell us how we should think/feel/act and how we should be experiencing things is pretty close minded in my opinion. Edited for clarity

A know-it-all? Wow.

Bigboobsmcgee

PedsIsHardcore said:

Also the OP obviously didn't take into consideration those having pregnancy complications. I am a type 1 diabetic and this is my 2nd baby. I am miserable! I am on work restrictions and I end up in L&D at least once a week because of something new happening, like last night's severe headaches, blurry vision and me passing out. Enjoy my pregnancy? You have to be high to think I'm going to enjoy the fact my placenta is starting to fail and I'm only 30 weeks. I am hormonal because I am pregnant.

You do realize the OP's post wasn't a personal jab at you, right? She clearly wasn't trying to hurt people. People can take ANY post on TB and spin it to be negative. It must be exhausting.

  

eliseandbaby

You do realize the OP's post wasn't a personal jab at you, right? She clearly wasn't trying to hurt people. People can take ANY post on TB and spin it to be negative. It must be exhausting.

  

... I like you @Bigboobsmcgee

**edited because typing with fat fingers is hard

tripledaggerWed95976

Bigboobsmcgee said:

tripledaggerWed95976 said:

I'm super glad OP is basking in the glory of having an amazing new baby, but coming to the third tri to give totally unsolicited advise seems like a really random choice. I'm sure her intentions were good, but It made her come off as a know-it-all. We all have unique and personal child-rearing and parenting experiences-- so, to tell us how we should think/feel/act and how we should be experiencing things is pretty close minded in my opinion.

Edited for clarity

A know-it-all? Wow.


Yes, in my OPINION, telling people how they should be feeling about their pregnancy = know-it-all. You are free to have your opinions on this site as am I. I didn't attack OP, I wrote my post in as kind of words possible, I even pointed out that I'm sure her intentions were good... so I'm really not sure why you are calling me out but ok..