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Re: Looking for some "experienced" words of wisdom....newbie.

  • LulucooksLulucooks member
    brebelle05 said:

    Expected to see something like, "you're clearly stressed out, pregnancy test is the only way, when I was going through with it here were my coping strategies...:" 

    Not, "you're not going to like what I have to say... no one can relate to you....no one is the same.... posts like this you wont get away with..." that to me does not scream support. 
    But whatever. Learned my lesson. 
    Nothing I say will sink in. And I cant delete this. So it is what it is. Definitely a lesson learned. One I think I needed. 
    No one is the same though.... any previous experiences I've had relate to you none. It won't even relate to *me* a second time because each pregnancy is different.
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    I don't even think any of you actually read my post though. If you would have read it (again, didn't understand there was a character limit), you would have understood that perhaps I just needed a friend. 

    As far as "this being for real," sorry that I am a little bit sensitive this evening and clearly ran into the wrong territory. Again, I sincerely apologize. 
    I am just still a little shocked that no one feels even the slightest bit bad about how badly I must be feeling to get this upset over something this stupid. 
    And perhaps it is hormonal, in which I would hope someone could relate. We are all individuals, yes, but that doesn't mean we can't relate to each other. 

    You all clearly have more experience with this than me. I just had higher expectations of the responses. Now I know. 
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    All I really wanted was for someone to tell me that I am not nuts for feeling like this. That I am not nuts for panicing. That my possibilities for conception are not out the window. And that these are some new things you can try to not go crazy. Thats all. 

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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    I have apologized 3 times now. 
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    edited December 2015
    my "doing everything right" comment was not judgmental. Apologies if it was perceived as such. There is a reason I put quotes around it. No other way to describe the process we have been going doing the last 7 years other than that. I am convinced that you in particular just want to argue with me and I do not understand why. I have apologized 3 times, perhaps even 4 now, so I believe that shows that I care, and am trying to see the other side. 
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    "My sincere apologies for screwing up. "

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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    Well, I am in the wrong territory though. Megzb just said so. I am probably looking for something more "discourse" like and not short and sweet. 
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    She just said this is not the place for "sunshine." I need some sunshine right now. 
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  • klstone25klstone25 member
    Let me start off by saying... 

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    Now that I got that out of my system.  

    @Brebelle05 I know its hard to interpret tone on a message board, so anything that I say should not be considered as rude.  I am truly being honest. No one here was criticizing you. One of the things I love most about this board is the true honesty of everyone. No one here is going to hold your hand and sugar coat the truth by telling you what you want to hear. Instead, if you give everyone a chance, read through some more posts, you'll see that the people here do care and will give you incredible advice.  

    My advice to you is to try not to read too much into every single gif or post. Yes, some maybe sarcastic or snarky, but they are always in good fun. In time, I hope you'll realize that.
    Me: 36  DH: 40
    Together since 2007 | Married June 2013

    TTC #1: June 2015
    BFP: 11/9/16 |  EDD: 7/22/17
       <3 DD born 7/16/17

    TTC #2: December 2018
    BFP: 2/26/19 | EDD: 11/7/19
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    TTC #3
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    Megzb510 said:
    I don't even think any of you actually read my post though. If you would have read it (again, didn't understand there was a character limit), you would have understood that perhaps I just needed a friend. 

    As far as "this being for real," sorry that I am a little bit sensitive this evening and clearly ran into the wrong territory. Again, I sincerely apologize. 
    I am just still a little shocked that no one feels even the slightest bit bad about how badly I must be feeling to get this upset over something this stupid. 
    And perhaps it is hormonal, in which I would hope someone could relate. We are all individuals, yes, but that doesn't mean we can't relate to each other. 

    You all clearly have more experience with this than me. I just had higher expectations of the responses. Now I know. 
    I am saying this as gently as possible, we did read your post and answered it. We aren't friends, we are internet strangers. You are blowing this way out of proportion. If you want a board where it's sunshine and rainbows and unicorns, this isn't your board. We do science and support of each other, but immediate support and friendship is not something you can demand. You can lurk, participate and support others ...but not flounce in and demand a specific type of support from us.

    Thank you...You're right. I am looking for something more positive. I need some "sunshine" right now I guess because I already know the science. And the science, to be frank, sucks and is frustraiting right now. As some of you know.  So I appreciate that. 
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  • brebelle05brebelle05 member
    @lulucooks, i really don't understand why you insist on bringing me down.

    I put several spaces below that phrasing indicating a separation. 
    The word sincere implies that it is a sincere apology. 

    For the record, and 5th time now, 

    I apologize for being overly emotional, causing issues, and misunderstanding the purpose of the forum. 

    There is nothing passive aggressive in that statementl. I am only saying this to be clear because it's typing. 
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  • WitandWhimsyWitandWhimsy member
    brebelle05 said:

    @lulucooks, i really don't understand why you insist on bringing me down.


    I put several spaces below that phrasing indicating a separation. 
    The word sincere implies that it is a sincere apology. 

    For the record, and 5th time now, 

    I apologize for being overly emotional, causing issues, and misunderstanding the purpose of the forum. 

    There is nothing passive aggressive in that statementl. I am only saying this to be clear because it's typing. 
    So where is the actual apology for calling us rude?

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  • LulucooksLulucooks member
    momstahp said:

    @brebelle05 I suggest taking some time to seriously lurk the board, read the newbie post for real and take some time to see how this board functions. You'll see it is full of caring supportive women who care more about keeping you grounded in the crazy TTC journey than just agreeing with every little bit of crazy we experience. We all get frustrated and crazy with this stuff, but if you learn how the board works you will get some real support and a much better experience here.

    I really don't think @Lulucooks is trying to be argumentative. To me it seems like she's trying to show you how there's two sides to this whole situation, and your approach and responses are coming off as rude to us. She's an awesome and supportive member here, so I really don't think she has bad intentions.

    I'll reiterate: take some time to seriously lurk. If you still can't see the awesome support we have here, then maybe this isn't the board for you, and that's totally fine.

    *hugs*!
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