MY UO: I'm not upset about giving up alcohol for the next 9+ months. Don't get me wrong, I love beer, and will likely partake again after giving birth. But I won't miss hangovers, or worrying about having a DD or safe travels, or all that nonsense. And yay getting to order shakes instead.
Me: 32, DH: 38
Married 1/14/12
NTNP Since 12/13, TTC Since 1/15
BFP: 11/4/15 Found out we were having TWINS 12/9/15 EDD: 7/11/16 Born: 6/29/16
My UO: I don't know if I like kids. I've never been particularly fond of other people's kids but I'm super excited about this baby so it's kinda weird. I also work with adolescents and I love it but I've just never been crazy about toddlers and such.
My UO: I don't know if I like kids. I've never been particularly fond of other people's kids but I'm super excited about this baby so it's kinda weird. I also work with adolescents and I love it but I've just never been crazy about toddlers and such.
Don't worry it is totally different when it is yours. Also don't freak out if you have a couple days in the beginning where you say "holy shit did I just make a huge mistake! I don't like kids!" That passes too!
UO: I'm not excited for my announcement. Telling the parents and ILs this weekend and I just feel awkward.
I am right there with you. I tried to explain my non-excitement for telling people to my husband and he didn't get it. I just don't want to be fussed over.
I could not agree more with all that can't stand the big reveal, followed by the impending advice. That is honestly nothing I am looking forward to! If I could hide it, I'd probably conceal this pregnancy for 8 months just to avoid a good 5 months of those conversations. What's the proper response?! Listen and look disinterested? Give them a real piece of your mind? Im sure I'll reach my breaking point with some people sooner than others. Sadly one is the MIL!
@MotherOfDucks and @kdm06c It is always amazing to me that people say to me "you have your hands full" as if it is an insult. And then they laugh at you or something too. I always think of this saying now though and smile to myself:
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@MotherOfDucks and @kdm06c It is always amazing to me that people say to me "you have your hands full" as if it is an insult. And then they laugh at you or something too. I always think of this saying now though and smile to myself:
LOVE this!!! And so true!!
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UO: I am pretty sure I don't like being pregnant (even though I definitely think it is worth it and I am oh so excited to have this baby). I don't understand people who enjoy pregnancy, and my symptoms aren't even that bad! No sushi, no booze, no soft cheeses?! ugh and I know I am forgetting things.
I hear you @IB113 !! It does get better though. The first half just sucks - all these things you can't do, you feel sick, you're scared of something going wrong, etc. I had a physically difficult pregnancy with DD - a lot of complications, pain and discomfort, but I really loved being able to feel her moving once the kicks started. I would never say I enjoyed being pregnant with her but I did love the kicks and movements and really missed them when she was born. I hope you find at least one thing you love about pregnancy! But even if you don't, it'll be worth it in the end
Unpopular opinion: whenever people post that they're pregnant and single, or dating the dad but not married, I cringe. Marriage, then sex, then babies.
My UO, I disagree with everything about this statement. I actually enjoyed sex before I got married. It's called being responsible, and anyone having/raising a baby and doing a great job as a single parent should not be judged by other people. Marriage then sex then babies...it's going to be 2016 not 1951.
*edit* Raised by a single mom, and it took my dad 25 years to realize how to be a good father.*
My UO: I'm tired of people (whom have never been pregnant) tell me or suggest what I should and shouldn't eat, do, act, or whatever it may be. I'm researching everything, and I'm not doing anything that would jeopardize my unborn baby or myself, but the opinions of others are ridiculous!
If I want to gather ideas on nurseries, showers, or photo shoots...That's my decision. If I want to have a sip or 2 of coffee in the morning... That's my decision.
Since when does being pregnant mean you also have a sign on you're forehead that says, "give me all your unwanted opinions and advice on my unborn child!?"
@reyesdnh is this your first? I'm sorry to say it gets worse once you're showing. It's so bizarre - but it's like people assume when you're pregnant that your body becomes community property. People will try to touch you, will comment on your weight and the shape of your body, will comment on your swollen ankles. Will ask you about your cervix!! And then the baby comes and they'll comment on your weight loss, ask about your breasts, comment on how the baby looks, what they eat, what they're wearing, if their face is messy, whether you stay at home or go back to work, how you discipline, it's endless. Pretty quickly you learn phrases that sound semi-polite but mean "back the hell off" and you'll also really stop giving a damn about anyone disagreeing with your parenting choices!
@IB113 the first trimester isn't great...but you do get some energy back in the 2nd tri. And then the 3rd tri get uncomfortable (especially towards the end), but it is so cool when you feel the baby move. And then they respond to things - from what you are eating, to noises they hear, to you giving them a little bump. It just becomes amazing at some point. I remember thinking 3 days after DD was born how strange it was to not be protector in her by having her inside me anymore. And laying her on my belly and wondering how she was ever in there!
So yeah, it is hard to like being pregnant right now when you are exhausted, feeling sick, and feel far from glowing, but this do change.
TTC Since January 2012
Me:37 DH:34 DX July 2013: Unexplained Infertility New DX Dec 2013: DOR
My UO: I don't know if I like kids. I've never been particularly fond of other people's kids but I'm super excited about this baby so it's kinda weird. I also work with adolescents and I love it but I've just never been crazy about toddlers and such.
@Heathereaddy you'll be fine! I have a friend who legitimately hated kids. She loves her own fiercely and is pregnant with her third. It's also okay to sometimes not like a stage with your kids, but they grow so quickly that by the time you're used to the status quo they're changing to the next stage!
I don't agree that "every mom knows what's best for her child."
To me, that's a very naive and idealistic viewpoint. There are some pretty ignorant, negligent, or otherwise incompetent mothers out there.
Is giving your 3 month old a breadstick to suck on at Olive Garden what is best for your child? How about letting your 9 month old chew on/play with a plastic bag? How about not strapping down your 18 month old's car seat? The best thing?
I don't think so, and it doesn't take a Rocket Surgeon to figure that out.
Moved in at 1 month, engaged at 6, married at 11.5 months. It was so fast the the husband's best friend and planned best man boycotted our wedding on the grounds that we were snubbing his religion and destroying the sanctity of marriage by getting married too soon. That same guy is currently a 29 year old party boy, been dating the same girl for 3 years and has no plans to become engaged or move in together and has never been in a truly serious relationship in his life. Not the person I'd take relationship advice from.
Re: UO Thursday
MY UO: I'm not upset about giving up alcohol for the next 9+ months. Don't get me wrong, I love beer, and will likely partake again after giving birth. But I won't miss hangovers, or worrying about having a DD or safe travels, or all that nonsense. And yay getting to order shakes instead.
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I don't agree that "every mom knows what's best for her child."
To me, that's a very naive and idealistic viewpoint. There are some pretty ignorant, negligent, or otherwise incompetent mothers out there.
Is giving your 3 month old a breadstick to suck on at Olive Garden what is best for your child? How about letting your 9 month old chew on/play with a plastic bag? How about not strapping down your 18 month old's car seat? The best thing?
I don't think so, and it doesn't take a Rocket Surgeon to figure that out.