UO Thursday

BostonBaby1

Okay ladies... It's time to hear your opinions of the unpopular sort.

My UO: I don't find it amusing at all to try to guess the sex of other people's babies. I'm not looking forward to all the Ramzi Theory threads that may pop up soon.

ButterMyBiscuit

I also don't care to help other people name their babies. It's your kid and they have to live with your decision. Why does my opinion matter?

brielle330

I really don't love the ticker change threads. They seem like a supreme waste of time...like, I don't really care that we all had our first day of our last period on a Monday in October. Plus all of those questions are so repetitive and answered in the daily symptom threads! Maybe I'm just grumpy.

dolewhipper

UO: I'm not excited for my announcement. Telling the parents and ILs this weekend and I just feel awkward. 

BostonBaby1

brielle330 said:

I really don't love the ticker change threads. They seem like a supreme waste of time...like, I don't really care that we all had our first day of our last period on a Monday in October. Plus all of those questions are so repetitive and answered in the daily symptom threads! Maybe I'm just grumpy.

Maybe more of a FFFC but it all my time on TB, I've never once opened a ticker change thread. I'm strictly mobile so I don't even know what a ticker looks like!

*typo

brielle330

@bostonbaby1 I figured it would be an UO since everyone (even those who aren't on a ticket change day) posts in them. I'm afraid of FFFCs! #livinginfear

mckcak23

dolewhipper said:

UO: I'm not excited for my announcement. Telling the parents and ILs this weekend and I just feel awkward. 

I agree. At first I was super excited to tell people, and I still like the idea of telling people, but when I go to do it im super awkward. I have no clue what to say. My normal now is just waiting for a lull in conversation to be like oh by the way, im pregnant.... In my head im super smooth and elegant in how I tell people. In reality its totally a word vomit moment that is awkward for everyone involved. 

brielle330

@mckcak23 I told my boss "I'm kind of a little bit pregnant." To which she responded, "I didn't know you could be a little bit pregnant." So smooth.

SparkySunshine

The word "pregnant" is weird and I don't like saying it. I actually think it's worse than all the cutesy variations of it: preggers, prego, preggie

I have other UOs, but I don't think our board is ready for politics!

MrsRo731

dolewhipper said:

UO: I'm not excited for my announcement. Telling the parents and ILs this weekend and I just feel awkward. 

@dolewhipper - I'm with you on this. I don't like big, flashy announcements and I just feel awkward in general telling people. I felt the same way in my first pregnancy. 

Taymiller

I hate telling people I am pregnant because then they know we have sex. Yea I am weird like that. I don't care about friends and stuff but telling my dad and grandparents, eww I don't like it.

SparkySunshine

@BostonBaby1 I was wondering why nobody called out the "post first ultrasound pic here!" Post. In it OP clearly intended for everyone to Ramzi theory everyone else. So in that case, Ramzi posts are already here

Taymiller

brielle330 said:

I really don't love the ticker change threads. They seem like a supreme waste of time...like, I don't really care that we all had our first day of our last period on a Monday in October. Plus all of those questions are so repetitive and answered in the daily symptom threads! Maybe I'm just grumpy.

I get this. Our ticker change in j14 was were all the rants and raves and questions, how far along and GTKY and our symptoms were literally just symptoms, nothing else just "I am sick and barfy". I liked that much better. I never open the symptoms thread because there is too much in there.

BostonBaby1

SparkySunshine said:

@BostonBaby1 I was wondering why nobody called out the "post first ultrasound pic here!" Post. In it OP clearly intended for everyone to Ramzi theory everyone else. So in that case, Ramzi posts are already here

That's why I don't look at it!!! It makes me stabby.

Another UO: Sex disappointed gets me so incredibly upset. I freaking hate that.

pourmeanothermocktail

UO: I really like alcohol. Having a few very small sips per week of DH's wine or whatever isn't a problem.

MsBeachNJ

@dolewhipper I agree... I am seeing all of my close girlfriends tomorrow night and I had planned to tell them all then as its really the only time that we'll all be together before I go public... we are 11 weeks tomorrow. I don't know if its because I'm nervous that I haven't had a second U/S (its next Friday at 12 weeks) or if I just don't know how to tell them... or that 2 of our other friends who are pregnant and recently announced will be there so its kinda like, oh man another one? Idk... DH is like, aren't you excited to tell them? And I'm really not... I can't come up with how to tell them... and I really am not looking forward to it. I wish I was! 

IB113

UO: I am pretty sure I don't like being pregnant (even though I definitely think it is worth it and I am oh so excited to have this baby).  I don't understand people who enjoy pregnancy, and my symptoms aren't even that bad!  No sushi, no booze, no soft cheeses?! ugh and I know I am forgetting things.

LinzerBinzer

Should we have a separate "gender guesses" thread?

I totally agree with @BostonBaby1 and will be so sad if our u/s thread turns into a Ramzi thread. It hasn't yet, so maybe we need to give it an outlet for when it does start to happen. I love looking at all of the pictures though, so I would be a fan of keeping any gender thread separate from just u/s.

ETA: I also hate the ticker change and symptoms threads. I rarely read them bc they get too long and unwieldy.

lilurbanik

Here's an UO:
I know it's for support, and I know I'm a horrible person for thinking this but... I hate the "I'm no longer pregnant" threads. As a FTM, it makes miscarriage seem really common.

LinzerBinzer

@lilurbanik I sometimes feel the same way, but then when it's someone we know well I'm glad they said something. I'd probably just go away and not post about it.

born2run911

BostonBaby1 said:

SparkySunshine said:

@BostonBaby1 I was wondering why nobody called out the "post first ultrasound pic here!" Post. In it OP clearly intended for everyone to Ramzi theory everyone else. So in that case, Ramzi posts are already here

That's why I don't look at it!!! It makes me stabby.

Another UO: Sex disappointed gets me so incredibly upset. I freaking hate that.

I don't really think this is a UO. I would hope more of a popular opinion.

I think a lot of people hope for one sex or another during pregnancy, but once the baby is here you realize it doesn't really matter because you would love the little critter either way.

MrsRo731

lilurbanik said:

Here's an UO: I know it's for support, and I know I'm a horrible person for thinking this but... I hate the "I'm no longer pregnant" threads. As a FTM, it makes miscarriage seem really common.

Miscarriage is really common, unfortunately. Many of the women on here haven't shared the news with anyone else so I think it's good to be able to tell someone even if they are internet strangers.

Here's my UO: I don't like when people say "I'm a FTM so..." Doesn't matter if it's your first or your fifth - pregnancy is scary.

MotherOfDucks

@BostonBaby1 I hate sex disappointment too! It's a baby. Be happy. But I'm kind of a grump. Lol. I don't care what sex the baby is. I like to find out at birth.

My UO is that I hate it when people tell me that I have my hands full when they see me with all my kids. Not looking forward to showing and going out with 3 kids. I know my hands are full. They are my damn hands.

Or people who complain about their 3rd trimester being uncomfortable. Yes. It's awful. Be happy anyway. You got a third trimester. I sat around during what was supposed to be mine two babies in a row throwing stuff at my TV during TLC specials where people having sextuplets were somehow better at staying pregnant than me...

I might be crazy. Please, carry on...

stillcozy

My UO is I personally get upset about pregnant women drinking,even though I know there some studies that some alcohol is okay. I work with kids with FASD and it is by far the worst possible diagnosis a child can have and they did nothing to deserve to have it because it is 100% preventable and when your brain is Swiss cheese it is not likely to reach full typical functioning. It just seems very selfish to me. I may get flamed but until you work with these kids on a daily basis you don't realize the full Impact this disability has.

stephweinstein

lilurbanik said:

Here's an UO: I know it's for support, and I know I'm a horrible person for thinking this but... I hate the "I'm no longer pregnant" threads. As a FTM, it makes miscarriage seem really common.

I think there should be a rule that if the second post after your intro is "I have bad news" you shouldn't be allowed to post.  If you haven't been engaging at all why share now? To scare people?

knitmama

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

My UO is I personally get upset about pregnant women drinking,even though I know there some studies that some alcohol is okay. I work with kids with FASD and it is by far the worst possible diagnosis a child can have and they did nothing to deserve to have it because it is 100% preventable and when your brain is Swiss cheese it is not likely to reach full typical functioning. It just seems very selfish to me. I may get flamed but until you work with these kids on a daily basis you don't realize the full Impact this disability has.

I completely agree. Although I do believe that there are NO studies showing that any amount of alcohol is safe.
It's problematic because some women can have a glass of wine here and there and the infant shows no immediate effects (although it can show up as cognitive disorders in elementary school). Others can have the same random glass of wine and that baby will have significant developmental delays.

The amount can't be standardized, so the safest course is no alcohol because you don't know. We do know that it affects the baby, a small amount of alcohol will intoxicate a fetus. I don't give alcohol to an infant, so why give it to an unborn baby?

stillcozy

knitmama said:

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

My UO is I personally get upset about pregnant women drinking,even though I know there some studies that some alcohol is okay. I work with kids with FASD and it is by far the worst possible diagnosis a child can have and they did nothing to deserve to have it because it is 100% preventable and when your brain is Swiss cheese it is not likely to reach full typical functioning. It just seems very selfish to me. I may get flamed but until you work with these kids on a daily basis you don't realize the full Impact this disability has.

I completely agree. Although I do believe that there are NO studies showing that any amount of alcohol is safe.
It's problematic because some women can have a glass of wine here and there and the infant shows no immediate effects (although it can show up as cognitive disorders in elementary school). Others can have the same random glass of wine and that baby will have significant developmental delays.

The amount can't be standardized, so the safest course is no alcohol because you don't know. We do know that it affects the baby, a small amount of alcohol will intoxicate a fetus. I don't give alcohol to an infant, so why give it to an unborn baby?

I agree I don't believe the studies are factual based on the same things you posted I know they existed

vtulch

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation is very selfish.

lilurbanik

@MrsRo731 but it's really not common, statistically speaking. Only 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, so you have an 80-90% change of carrying to term. But, honestly, I wasn't nervous about it until I started reading threads here.

Also, as a FTM, I have no idea what to expect. I didn't even know what being pregnant felt like until it happened. I only specify that as a justification for my ignorance on pregnancy.

stephweinstein

vtulch said:

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.

No.  Leaving your 3MO alone while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.  Leaving your child with their grandparents makes you a responsible person. Maybe you or I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving a baby that young but that DOES NOT make you a bad parent.

vtulch

stephweinstein said:

vtulch said:

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.

No.  Leaving your 3MO alone while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.  Leaving your child with their grandparents makes you a responsible person. Maybe you or I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving a baby that young but that DOES NOT make you a bad parent.



With all due respect this is why this thread is called Unpopular Opinion. But on second thought maybe bad parenting was a bad choice of words. Selfish would be more appropriate.

stephweinstein

vtulch said:

vtulch said:

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.

No.  Leaving your 3MO alone while you go on vacation makes you a bad parent.  Leaving your child with their grandparents makes you a responsible person. Maybe you or I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving a baby that young but that DOES NOT make you a bad parent.

With all due respect this is why this thread is called Unpopular Opinion. This is my opinion and I respect yours.

This thread is open to flame, as you mentioned.

vtulch

@stephweinstein It sure does no doubt about it! But you're right my initial choice of words was terrible. I definitely take it back and changed it to selfish because that's really what I meant to say.

vtulch

Another UO I love Christmas but I can't stand all the Christmas songs they've only just begun and they're already driving me crazy!

stephweinstein

vtulch said:

@stephweinstein It sure does no doubt about it! But you're right my initial choice of words was terrible. I definitely take it back and changed it to selfish because that's really what I meant to say.

I don't disagree

MrsRo731

lilurbanik said:

@MrsRo731 but it's really not common, statistically speaking. Only 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, so you have an 80-90% change of carrying to term. But, honestly, I wasn't nervous about it until I started reading threads here. Also, as a FTM, I have no idea what to expect. I didn't even know what being pregnant felt like until it happened. I only specify that as a justification for my ignorance on pregnancy.

@lilurbanik - I understand reading the loss threads are hard, but it's reality. I don't think bc you are scared that means others shouldn't be allowed to share their pain, especially when they may not have anyone else to talk to. 

As far as the 'FTM' - I'm more talking about when someone says something that isn't specific to being a FTM. There are a lot of them if you look on these threads. If I have spotting, for example, I'm still going to be just as anxious with this pregnancy as I was with my first. It really doesn't change anything. 

lilurbanik

MrsRo731 said:

lilurbanik said:

@MrsRo731 but it's really not common, statistically speaking. Only 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, so you have an 80-90% change of carrying to term. But, honestly, I wasn't nervous about it until I started reading threads here.

Also, as a FTM, I have no idea what to expect. I didn't even know what being pregnant felt like until it happened. I only specify that as a justification for my ignorance on pregnancy.

@lilurbanik - I understand reading the loss threads are hard, but it's reality. I don't think bc you are scared that means others shouldn't be allowed to share their pain, especially when they may not have anyone else to talk to. 

 

Hence, my unpopular opinion...

Taymiller

vtulch said:

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation is very selfish.

I disagree. But I also have never left my son for longer than a couple hours, he is almost 18 months. I need a vacation!

vtulch

Taymiller said:

I'll probably get flamed for this but my UO is that I think leaving your 3 month old with the grandparents while you go on vacation is very selfish.

I disagree. But I also have never left my son for longer than a couple hours, he is almost 18 months. I need a vacation!

I welcome your disagreement. This is why it's an unpopular opinion

MrsRo731

lilurbanik said:

lilurbanik said:

@MrsRo731 but it's really not common, statistically speaking. Only 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, so you have an 80-90% change of carrying to term. But, honestly, I wasn't nervous about it until I started reading threads here. Also, as a FTM, I have no idea what to expect. I didn't even know what being pregnant felt like until it happened. I only specify that as a justification for my ignorance on pregnancy.

@lilurbanik - I understand reading the loss threads are hard, but it's reality. I don't think bc you are scared that means others shouldn't be allowed to share their pain, especially when they may not have anyone else to talk to. 

 

Hence, my unpopular opinion...

Right... but people are allowed to disagree. It's nothing personal.

noelietrex

UO: I don't think trying to tell other people what to do is okay. Everyone knows what's best, but only for themselves and their babies. No one knows what's best for someone else.