So I went for a second opinion today and I'm so glad that I did! The doctor was so understanding and really took his time to gather history and understand my cycles. He also looked at my ovaries and saw that my left one looked poly cystic. If I am not pregnant, (he did draw blood to check) then he is planing to put me on letrozole next cycle as well as a ovidrel and vaginal progesterone suppositories. He will be monitoring me a lot more closely so I feel a lot more at ease if I do have to do another cycle and I'm not pregnant.
Me 32 DH 34
Married 9/2012
TTC #2 starting 9/2019 BFP 7/13/2020! Due 3/18/2021
TTC #1 since 2/2015 Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility 9/2015
IUIs #1-#5: 9/2015-2/2016 all BFNs Moving to IVF with ICSI and PGS 5/2016-6/2016 Just kidding, BFP 4/4/2016! Spencer Elliott born 12/7/2016
Congratulations @tbyars07!! Please keep us posted on your progress!!
@erica0901 - That's great that your new RE is monitoring you more closely! And it sounds like they have a good plan in place for you.
We will also be doing IVF if 3 rounds of IUI are unsuccessful. This is only round 1 for us and I plan on doing them for back to back cycles, but I know it's a legitimate possibility for us, especially with our MFI issue. Really the only thing that scares me is the financial aspect. Especially if it is unsuccessful. It's hard for me to grasp the possibility of spending all the money and NOT getting a baby out of it.
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
@kh87 Jesus!!! That's outrageous!!! I called my office today btw and they said cervical position is an unreliable symptom of pregnancy ! So don't get down on yourself
@martinez1029 our insurance is awful. DH used to have great insurance until he changed jobs in Feb. each June we now start over with a $3000 annual out of pocket deductible which we have already met. After meeting deductible insurance helped to cover some of my testing. After testing all meds and treatments have been out of pocket. This is my first cycle that I've actually ovulated and gotten to the first IUI and we have already paid thousands. We would have to take out loans to afford IVF.
@martinez1029 it def adds stress and pressure to an already stressful situation! No cramps or AF signs today except I'm getting some acne again and I'm so HOT. I don't have a fever but I feel like I'm burning up. Last night I had anxiety and insomnia like I normally have before my period. I'm wondering if it would have come if I wasn't on the progesterone capsules. I've never used them before so I'm not sure if my period will just Come or if I have to stop them for it to Come. Are you having any symptoms?
@kh87 I usually spot before my period (even on progesterone) no spotting... im getting wicked shooting pains in my breasts, my lower back aches and stretching like cramps that radiate to my inner thighs. So some of it is normal AF some of it is unusual for me so honestly .... I have no clue what to expect lol
@martinez1029 I have no clue either. I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best. Honestly I'll be so shocked if it's positive that I think I'll have a breakdown lol
So sorry for you ladies who have to pay out of pocket. I never complain about my minimal copay and my cheap scripts because I always know there is someone out there paying huge amounts. Good luck ladies
I'm feeling so incredibly down- I wish I was more hopeful, but this lack of symptoms is not giving me much hope even though I know that it may mean nothing. I'm just so bummed out right now since I know we are taking next month off to do more tests. I'm mad at myself for not getting the HSG done sooner. I'm mad that I didn't push my husband harder on TTC a year and a half ago. I'm just mad at everything right now.
To chime in on the IVF topic, it's out of pocket for us as well and it's 10K starting and and that's not even including meds and doesn't include certain tests. My friend was at the same clinic and it was close to 20K for her.
Sorry I'm such a downer- I'm just struggling right now.
****TW: Pregnancy,
loss and children mentioned****
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w
2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger=
BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our
own** 12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
@roxgibbons I feel exactly the same way. I was miserable to DH last night. Just wanted to be left alone! As for the IVF im sorry you have to deal with that too, at least neither of us are alone in needing to pay for it out of pocket!
@Drove2U I went in for my second opinion yesterday and they did a beta, I am awaiting the results this morning, but I took a HPT this morning so I know it will be negative.
Me 32 DH 34
Married 9/2012
TTC #2 starting 9/2019 BFP 7/13/2020! Due 3/18/2021
TTC #1 since 2/2015 Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility 9/2015
IUIs #1-#5: 9/2015-2/2016 all BFNs Moving to IVF with ICSI and PGS 5/2016-6/2016 Just kidding, BFP 4/4/2016! Spencer Elliott born 12/7/2016
I actually had a really good conversation with DH during our walk this morning. I had previously devised a plan to start testing tomorrow morning at 9dpiui and he said he really thinks we should just wait until 14dpiui. He really kind of changed my whole mindset actually. Testing early isn't going to change the end result, and why should I put myself through that? There are so little things we have control of in life, and getting knocked up kind of takes the cake. We are doing all the treatments, following doctor's orders, literally everything we can to make it happen, but when it comes to whether or not one of my eggs gets fertilized and then implants, nope nothing we can do. After our conversation something just kind of changed inside of me, and I decided to let go of all the nerves and anxiety I've been feeling throughout this process. I'm not going to start testing like a neurotic person tomorrow morning. I'm just going to live my damn life and test when the doctor told me to test, and move on to the next cycle if it's negative. Worrying is such a waste of the imagination and I want to do something useful with my day.
Thank you for letting me vent... just had to get all that off my chest. Hopefully I'll feel the same way tomorrow morning and continue with this 2ww without driving myself crazy!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I am actually one of the husbands (crazy right?!) of one of the posters on this board. She can expose me as her spouse if she cares to do so, but I will leave it up to her!
This is my first post, I have lurked for awhile. But I think it is time to just say a few words on a couple different pages.
Two things:
1) I admire you all for your dedication, strength, perseverance through adversity and passion in this process. (Naturally, I especially admire the strength of my beautiful wife, who has tried so hard to stay positive throughout the past many months!) I speak for all of your DH's that may not say it enough, that deep down we know how hard it is, and wish we could make things easy, or better, or less stressful. Men (most of them) don't vocalize these things, but I wanted to say something as I read many of your stories and know how much you mean to your men!
2) As much as your DH may not show it, they see your struggles, and see it as you both struggling together. They feel the pressures to some extent too, and it isn't easy. They want you happy, they want to be happy with you as a team, and things don't always go according to plan. So, my advice: don't be afraid to give them a hug and a kiss for no reason at all, just to tell them you love them! It goes a very long way, I promise!
@wifeinraleigh28 that's the route I've taken. I stressed way too much before until I had a major meltdown that honestly freaked my DH out and gave him a shocker of a wake up call about how I had been feeling. HPT's won't change a thing, and honestly maybe it's warped but for me, I enjoy the thought of possibly being pregnant, so I don't want to find out I'm not any sooner than I have to. Backwards I know.
@bdh122 thank you for your post. It drew a tear from my heartless soul LOL. Really though, your wife is a very lucky lady!
@kh87 I'm so sorry, take some time to enjoy you and your partner today.
@wifeinraleigh28 Love it! That's exactly right, at that point it is all out of our control and up to our bodies to do the rest! Hopefully you will be strong and withstand the temptation. Remember, we are here for you if you need an extra push when you are feeling like you want to give in but are trying not to :-D
@bdh122 Thank you so much for that! It's easy to forget what's important when the constant battle of timing and checklists needs to be met with IF. Remembering not just that you want to have a child, but with who...the most important person in your life, the person who understands you like no other and accepts all of your flaws...we must remember to nurture each other through the process so that we don't lose ourselves and what we have built with our partners.
IF is definitely a testimate to the strength within a couple, challenging communication, understanding, compassion, and selflessness. We are all here, men and women alike, because we want a little one to share our love, life, and family with. Life is precious and so are the relationships that we make on our journey. Thank you all for the amount of support and encouragement that is brought to these boards!
ME: 28 Wife: 28
Together since June 2005 - Married May 2015 - TTC since July 2015
@martinez1029 I am so sorry for your BFN. I know you are hurting but I hope you find some peace today. Hugs to you my dear. I am waiting for my results now too.
@wifeinraleigh28 What you wrote is so on point. We are all doing everything in our power to get pregnant, and what you said is basically what my nurse said. We have no control of what actually happens in our uterus even with meds, IUIs and IVF. It's really a crap shoot and the process is so draining and emotional anyway, why make it worse with added stress and anxiety.
@bdh122 Thanks for pointing out the other perspective. We are all lucky to have such great men in our lives who are on this journey with us.
****TW: Pregnancy,
loss and children mentioned****
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w
2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger=
BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our
own** 12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
Thank you so much @kh87 and @vnegron87. I love having all you ladies to turn to who know exactly what it feels like to be going through all this stuff. And thank you @bdh122 for hopping in and reminding us of just how difficult it is for the men as well. My DH decided to take charge and administer all the injections that I need, and I know this way he feels like he's going through it too. I know this isn't easy on the guys either. My DH tells me all the time that it's hard for him to watch me deal with hormones and injections and disappointments when there isn't much he can do about it. It's such a tough process for everyone, but I know that we will only be stronger for it.
So sorry about your BFN @martinez1029. Will you be doing another IUI next cycle?
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Sorry to hear about all the BFN - hang in there ladies and hopefully you all have wonderful weekend plans that can take your mind off it, at least for a little bit! Enjoy all the chocolate, ice cream, sappy lifetime/hallmark holiday movies, and a nice big glass of your favorite adult beverage.
Just got a call from my RE and my HCG numbers have FINALLY started to go down and are now around 85 (from 165 on Monday). Have to go back Monday just to ensure they keep heading in that direction and DH and I also are meeting with our RE that day to come up with a new plan of action. I'm waffling between a fourth IUI with significant change in meds as I've been on clomid for the first three or jumping to IVF. Insurance covers 50% of both and while I know IVF will be much more expensive, do we bite the bullet and go that direction to give us the best odds or give IUI one more shot? I'm trying to think about it if cost weren't a factor, which way would I lean, but cost is such a HUGE factor it's hard!
@wifeinraleigh28 no I'm meeting with specialist tomorrow to vocalize my frustrations and Also discuss more effective treatment
I'm sorry but I'm extremely bitter right now.... Is IUI a joke?!? Because I'm feeling very played right now along with all these other BFN's .... I mean seriously does it really work that well?!??!?!???
I'm so angry and sad at the same time and I'm sorry but I can't control how I feel at this moment. I want to be optimistic but my emotions are getting the best of me
So sorry about all these BFNs. And I'm sorry you're feeling so frustrated @martinez1029. I know it can feel that way, but IUI can be successful, however we know that the chances are less than 20% so unfortunately, there will be a lot more BFNs than BFPs. And I think that anyone who gets a BFP with IUI does consider themselves one of the lucky ones! Hang in there, we're here for you. I hope you can be kind to yourself today and keep your hopes up for your next move!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Re: November IUIs
I'm testing Thursday (tomorrow) as well! Yikes! The time is almost here!
NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
EDD: 8/10/16
8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
TTC #2 starting 9/2019
BFP 7/13/2020!
Due 3/18/2021
TTC #1 since 2/2015
Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility 9/2015
Moving to IVF with ICSI and PGS 5/2016-6/2016 Just kidding, BFP 4/4/2016!
Spencer Elliott born 12/7/2016
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
TTC #2 starting 9/2019
BFP 7/13/2020!
Due 3/18/2021
TTC #1 since 2/2015
Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility 9/2015
Moving to IVF with ICSI and PGS 5/2016-6/2016 Just kidding, BFP 4/4/2016!
Spencer Elliott born 12/7/2016
Good luck everyone else!! I'll be checking here often.
I'm taking my first hpt tomorrow.
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
TTC #2 starting 9/2019
BFP 7/13/2020!
Due 3/18/2021
TTC #1 since 2/2015
Diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility 9/2015
Moving to IVF with ICSI and PGS 5/2016-6/2016 Just kidding, BFP 4/4/2016!
Spencer Elliott born 12/7/2016
08/2015 at home IUI = BFN
IUI #4 - 08/2016 - 100MG Clomid + Ovidrel = ???
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I am actually one of the husbands (crazy right?!) of one of the posters on this board. She can expose me as her spouse if she cares to do so, but I will leave it up to her!
This is my first post, I have lurked for awhile. But I think it is time to just say a few words on a couple different pages.
Two things:
1) I admire you all for your dedication, strength, perseverance through adversity and passion in this process. (Naturally, I especially admire the strength of my beautiful wife, who has tried so hard to stay positive throughout the past many months!) I speak for all of your DH's that may not say it enough, that deep down we know how hard it is, and wish we could make things easy, or better, or less stressful. Men (most of them) don't vocalize these things, but I wanted to say something as I read many of your stories and know how much you mean to your men!
2) As much as your DH may not show it, they see your struggles, and see it as you both struggling together. They feel the pressures to some extent too, and it isn't easy. They want you happy, they want to be happy with you as a team, and things don't always go according to plan. So, my advice: don't be afraid to give them a hug and a kiss for no reason at all, just to tell them you love them! It goes a very long way, I promise!
All the best to you all,
Brian
@bdh122 thank you for your post. It drew a tear from my heartless soul LOL. Really though, your wife is a very lucky lady!
08/2015 at home IUI = BFN
IUI #4 - 08/2016 - 100MG Clomid + Ovidrel = ???
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Just got the results- it's a BFN for me too.
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
Sorry to hear about all the BFN - hang in there ladies and hopefully you all have wonderful weekend plans that can take your mind off it, at least for a little bit! Enjoy all the chocolate, ice cream, sappy lifetime/hallmark holiday movies, and a nice big glass of your favorite adult beverage.
Just got a call from my RE and my HCG numbers have FINALLY started to go down and are now around 85 (from 165 on Monday). Have to go back Monday just to ensure they keep heading in that direction and DH and I also are meeting with our RE that day to come up with a new plan of action. I'm waffling between a fourth IUI with significant change in meds as I've been on clomid for the first three or jumping to IVF. Insurance covers 50% of both and while I know IVF will be much more expensive, do we bite the bullet and go that direction to give us the best odds or give IUI one more shot? I'm trying to think about it if cost weren't a factor, which way would I lean, but cost is such a HUGE factor it's hard!
@wifeinraleigh28 no I'm meeting with specialist tomorrow to vocalize my frustrations and Also discuss more effective treatment
I'm sorry but I'm extremely bitter right now.... Is IUI a joke?!? Because I'm feeling very played right now along with all these other BFN's .... I mean seriously does it really work that well?!??!?!???
I'm so angry and sad at the same time and I'm sorry but I can't control how I feel at this moment. I want to be optimistic but my emotions are getting the best of me
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20