Hunger games is okay. The story is fine, the writing is meh. It's no Harry Potter. HP is a masterpiece though in my opinion. Every detail comes full circle and it's written well.
Whoever grouped 50 shades into the same category as these two, nooooooo. I have no problem with sex but I heard these books were painful to get through bc of the level of writing. Didn't even pick it up ever.
All of this exactly. I did read the first 50 Shades, but it was AWFUL... and not because I"m a prude (although I am a little bit haha), but because it was so horribly written. The main character had such a flat and horrible personality. It's actually fanfic of Twilight, and I Hate Bella for the same reason... ridiculous, flat, boring personality and will pretty much give up anything and everything for some guy. Who is potentially abusive. Cool.
Hunger Games were a fun read.
Harry Potter is life. Like for reals.
I knew I loved you right from the beginning.
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
I'm worried sick... My doctor was on vacation last week so she called me today to talk about anatomy scan results... I was in clinic so I didn't have my phone with me, so I just got the voice mail now (after hours). She asked me to call back to chat about a couple more tests she needs to order. Now I am here worried sick about what could possibly be the issue to require "a couple more tests"??? I know the tech couldn't see the abdominal contents and lower spine very well because baby was curled into a ball, so I was expecting to have to go back to look at those parts, but I wasn't expecting to need "a couple" of tests...?!?! I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight.
It's going to be ok!!! They just need to see everything they didn't see at the AS.
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
On a completely different note: I made it almost 12 hours before telling my husband what he's getting for Christmas... it hasn't even shipped yet. The man has never once actually needed to unwrap a gift from me (birthday, Christmas, or otherwise) because I'm pathologically incapable of keeping a secret from him. He thinks it's hilarious, but now I have to think of something else to get him. I'm determined that thiswill be the year he finally has a surprise under the tree.
Ideas are most welcome. He loves coffee, beards, looking dapper, bad jokes, and hockey (Blackhawks hockey specifically), and I'm trying to keep it under $100. Gifts I've already spoiled this year are a fancy scale to track his pourover coffee skillz, a shiny bowtie that looks like it's made out of the same fabric as a disco ball, and a book of dad jokes.
I will trade you awesome ideas for the cool people in your life.
On a completely different note: I made it almost 12 hours before telling my husband what he's getting for Christmas... it hasn't even shipped yet. The man has never once actually needed to unwrap a gift from me (birthday, Christmas, or otherwise) because I'm pathologically incapable of keeping a secret from him. He thinks it's hilarious, but now I have to think of something else to get him. I'm determined that thiswill be the year he finally has a surprise under the tree.
Ideas are most welcome. He loves coffee, beards, looking dapper, bad jokes, and hockey (Blackhawks hockey specifically), and I'm trying to keep it under $100. Gifts I've already spoiled this year are a fancy scale to track his pourover coffee skillz, a shiny bowtie that looks like it's made out of the same fabric as a disco ball, and a book of dad jokes.
I will trade you awesome ideas for the cool people in your life.
My DH requested a "cool" coffee mug, but I was seriously struggling with what constitutes "cool" for him -- the ones I liked were heat-changing (he often just drinks water out of his mug because he thinks mugs makes his mustache look cooler so he wouldn't really get the most benefit out of heat-changing) or mostly geared towards my interests that he's adopted (Doctor Who, especially, but the one with the diagrams of Daleks on it was SO cool!). Eventually I just went on Shutterfly and made him a completely custom one with a logo from one of his favorite bands-- this way, even if he guesses he's getting a mug, there's no way in hell he'll figure out what's on it. You could make a mug with dad jokes on it. Or just a couple dad jokes maybe. Or Blackhawks stuff. Even better, a dad joke about hockey!
ETA: I asked DH if he knows any hockey-related dad jokes and he said no, but a team name he's seen
floating around adult league was "Hat Trick Swayze," which seems ripe for Photoshop potential.
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He has a moustache and wants a coffee mug?! Dude, I got you covered; mugs with moustache protectors. Joe brought one of these home the other day.!
Love Hat Trick Swayze, but alas... they beat the crap out of our team in last year's outdoor league. Sad memories
On a completely different note: I made it almost 12 hours before telling my husband what he's getting for Christmas... it hasn't even shipped yet. The man has never once actually needed to unwrap a gift from me (birthday, Christmas, or otherwise) because I'm pathologically incapable of keeping a secret from him. He thinks it's hilarious, but now I have to think of something else to get him. I'm determined that thiswill be the year he finally has a surprise under the tree.
Ideas are most welcome. He loves coffee, beards, looking dapper, bad jokes, and hockey (Blackhawks hockey specifically), and I'm trying to keep it under $100. Gifts I've already spoiled this year are a fancy scale to track his pourover coffee skillz, a shiny bowtie that looks like it's made out of the same fabric as a disco ball, and a book of dad jokes.
I will trade you awesome ideas for the cool people in your life.
You could get him a beard care kit. Amazon has some, I got my dad one last year for christmas. They have things like beard combs, conditioner, lotion, and oil in them.
Hi ladies, thanks for checking on me above. I made a thread about it. Baby was found to have echogenic bowel without other reported abnormalities. It is a soft marker for aneuploidies, especially T21, but I'm trying to be reassured that my IPS gave me 1:62,000 risk of Down's. It can also mean future risk of growth restriction, or it could mean nothing at all.
I'll see the geneticist in on Thursday, and have the level 2 U.S. on Monday.
Hi ladies, thanks for checking on me above. I made a thread about it. Baby was found to have echogenic bowel without other reported abnormalities. It is a soft marker for aneuploidies, especially T21, but I'm trying to be reassured that my IPS gave me 1:62,000 risk of Down's. It can also mean future risk of growth restriction, or it could mean nothing at all.
I'll see the geneticist in on Thursday, and have the level 2 U.S. on Monday.
What is IPS? I'm so sorry for the non reassuring news and the wait. The wait is the freaking worst. How are you handling everything? I'm sending you huge, rose and lychee scented creepy internet stranger hugs.
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
I'm gonna be an AW. Just had an awesome Disney trip. Hiring a babysitter was the best idea ever. It made the visit 100% stress free. We taught DS to put his hands up in the air and say yay. He did it on "it's a small world" Hahahhaha.
I can't sleep because this child won't stop rolling around and kicking the crap out of my right lower belly. I lifted the sheets and used the light on my phone to see and it seriously looked like an animal was trying to escape from just below my belly button.
It was so crazy DH was slightly weirded out for the first time.
I've got 19 more weeks of this to go and I honestly can't imagine what this crazy movement is going to be like in the coming weeks.
I imagine at some point this movement will hurt because it's kinda uncomfortable when she does it for more than a few seconds at a time.
Hi ladies, thanks for checking on me above. I made a thread about it. Baby was found to have echogenic bowel without other reported abnormalities. It is a soft marker for aneuploidies, especially T21, but I'm trying to be reassured that my IPS gave me 1:62,000 risk of Down's. It can also mean future risk of growth restriction, or it could mean nothing at all.
I'll see the geneticist in on Thursday, and have the level 2 U.S. on Monday.
What is IPS?
I'm so sorry for the non reassuring news and the wait. The wait is the freaking worst. How are you handling everything? I'm sending you huge, rose and lychee scented creepy internet stranger hugs.
IPS = integrated prenatal screening. A combination of NT with labs around 12 weeks plus more labs at 15-16 weeks. It gives you the odds of having a baby with Down's (in my case, it was 1 in 62,000), and whether there is an increased risk for open neural tube defects or Trisomy 18.
Yes, the wait is the worst! I am feeling better today though. I am optimistic. Let's see what the geneticist has to say tomorrow.
Thanks for the hugs. Did you ever check out Dyptique?
So I met my physician today. Not sure how I feel about it. My midwife previously expressed concern about my weight and referred me to a dietician to make sure I continue to eat healthy during the pregnancy. Today I had a meeting with the physician about my health as well and she was not too happy with my weight. I got that already with my midwife, but then she started insinuating that I probably have many health problems due to my weight. She was quite surprised I didn't have diabetes or high blood pressure, and when she asked what I generally eat she was like "oh well that sounds good". She was acting like she had never met an overweight pregnant woman before and was almost reading out of a manual for people with high BMI on what to check up on. I'm not sure if I'm being too sensitive about this but it really annoyed me. And oh god the mumbling was so annoying. I barely understand Swedish as it is, but this woman was not even trying to make it easy for me and she didn't speak a word of English. Sigh.
@elasticheart13 that sucks - health care providers should assist their patients and get them pumped to be healthy, not make them feel like crap. Women have different builds and shapes; that's nothing to be ashamed of. I've also noticed that European women tend to be thinner than American women (at least in my limited experience), so when I see you post your HDBD pics I don't think morbidly obese and it's lame that your providers are making you feel that way.
@AmadorRose Thank you, in my case the BMI scale is crap because I'm very tall and apparently my BMI says I am morbidly obese lol. But I am probably a size 16/18 at my heaviest and I have zero health problems. I know it's not ideal and my weight has fluctuated my whole life due to my mental health, but today's meeting made me feel bad and I went ahead and bought a cheese calzone in protest. It sucks that I don't know how the system here works or I would request a different physician. I like my midwife so much better now lol.
@AmadorRose Thank you, in my case the BMI scale is crap because I'm very tall and apparently my BMI says I am morbidly obese lol. But I am probably a size 16/18 at my heaviest and I have zero health problems. I know it's not ideal and my weight has fluctuated my whole life due to my mental health, but today's meeting made me feel bad and I went ahead and bought a cheese calzone in protest. It sucks that I don't know how the system here works or I would request a different physician. I like my midwife so much better now lol.
@elasticheart13 I was going to say the same thing as @AmadorRose. You and I probably have a similar build, I'm tall, size 16/18 at heaviest (14 usually), but my weight has me considered 'morbidly obese' on BMI charts. My health is also very good - I've never had problems with HTN, DM, etc. I've also had fluctuations due to depression for several years. My physician has never mentioned my weight with concern because she knows my lifestyle. Even when I gained some 60# last pregnancy, she did not make a big to-do about it. (That I almost wish she would have). Chin up, sista.
@elasticheart13 I was going to say the same thing as @AmadorRose. You and I probably have a similar build, I'm tall, size 16/18 at heaviest (14 usually), but my weight has me considered 'morbidly obese' on BMI charts. My health is also very good - I've never had problems with HTN, DM, etc. I've also had fluctuations due to depression for several years. My physician has never mentioned my weight with concern because she knows my lifestyle. Even when I gained some 60# last pregnancy, she did not make a big to-do about it. (That I almost wish she would have). Chin up, sista.
Thank you, it just made me uncomfortable to be judged like that by her and I was just wondering if I was being too sensitive. Maybe I am, but at least I'm healthy
@elasticheart13 I can't say I know your specific struggle, but I've had a long struggle with my weight and it's awful. The height-to-weight BMI scale is absolutely horrible and I've stopped paying attention to it altogether because I don't like being told I'm underweight. I'm healthy and I feel relatively good, so I think that matters more than anything. If you ate nothing but snickers and Coke or I ate nothing at all, I could see how it would be a problem; but seriously, how have we not gotten past that stupid chart? Hate it, hate it, hate it. Also, why do we place so much emphasis on weight? It's honestly not as good a predictor of overall health as lifestyle and family history are. A 5'6" woman could weigh 130-200 and be healthy, her frame and muscle mass are better indicators of possible health problems in my experience. Ugh!
@elasticheart13 I can't say I know your specific struggle, but I've had a long struggle with my weight and it's awful. The height-to-weight BMI scale is absolutely horrible and I've stopped paying attention to it altogether because I don't like being told I'm underweight. I'm healthy and I feel relatively good, so I think that matters more than anything. If you ate nothing but snickers and Coke or I ate nothing at all, I could see how it would be a problem; but seriously, how have we not gotten past that stupid chart? Hate it, hate it, hate it. Also, why do we place so much emphasis on weight? It's honestly not as good a predictor of overall health as lifestyle and family history are. A 5'6" woman could weigh 130-200 and be healthy, her frame and muscle mass are better indicators of possible health problems in my experience. Ugh!
/rant over
I completely agree. I come from a very healthy family and even though my knees would appreciate losing the pounds I gained during my depression I am still fairly healthy. I go out for a run every now and then, I love swimming and I drink Coke maybe once a month. No to body shaming!
@AmadorRose Thank you, in my case the BMI scale is crap because I'm very tall and apparently my BMI says I am morbidly obese lol. But I am probably a size 16/18 at my heaviest and I have zero health problems. I know it's not ideal and my weight has fluctuated my whole life due to my mental health, but today's meeting made me feel bad and I went ahead and bought a cheese calzone in protest. It sucks that I don't know how the system here works or I would request a different physician. I like my midwife so much better now lol.
The BMI scale is 100% bullshit. According to it, I am obese for my height. Um no. You feel healthy and have zero health problems to show for it. And you look good mama! Don't sweat it
Let me start by saying that you are gorgeous and your size looks perfect on you. I am also heavy; my BMI is always in the overweight range. Sure enough, I am not lean either, but we know that BMI is not a perfect measure of body fatness (I've published a few papers on this if you have an interest. Measures of central obesity appear to be a better way to go) - muscle weights, too!
Having said this, as a physician I do get concerned when my patients reach BMIs > 30 Kg/m2 (not saying this is the case with you, I have no clue what your BMI is, just telling you my practice); and much more concerned if there is central obesity (well, we are all centrally obese during pregnancy so that doesnt count for us hehehe). I have learned through the years that 'sugar coating' weight issues when talking to patients is not an effective strategy for behavioral change. I am certainly not rude, but I do need to push the point across, and that means saying some things the patient may not like to hear. But it is when we hear this things about potential future health hazards, that often we are more motivated to change. I'm just saying this so you don't get angry about your encounter, use it as a chance to reflect on some thing you are doing right, and some things you can improve on, and work on these issues with your doctor's direction.
@thaisac1 Your papers sound interesting. Never heard of central obesity measures My BMI is 35, and my old physician was very aware of this. I have always been able to lose weight with calorie counting, but for various reasons I would always gain it all back with more. DH is also quite concerned about my weight and I know I should do something about it as I am aware of the risks. I just didn't like the way she was almost shaming me for it. But I am using this pregnancy to reflect over my food choices and exercise levels and my main motivation right now is to teach my son how to live healthy and not pass on our bad habits. DH loves junk food and he has so many problems with his esophagus and I am 100% sure it's diet related, so I am hoping to be able to help the both of us. Would you recommend I focus more on my diet now during the pregnancy or working out more?
@thaisac1 I'm going to work my central obesity into conversation now - it's my goal for the day
The demographic I work with is pretty specific, but one reason the BMI scale annoys me is because I know entirely too many people who are just solid muscle mass and have a "BMI" of upwards of 35. The man I'm specifically taking about had thighs as big as my waist; he was a boxer, in his mid-30's, and very muscular. My heaviest weight pre-pregnancy was 134 (but I'm only 5'1") and was told that I was overweight when I was in the smallest clothing and best shape of my life. Then, I became depressed, stopped working out and ate maybe once a day and was considered healthy because I lost 30 lbs. All 30 was muscle mass. I agree that real BMI can be a good indicator of health, but the height/weight BMI is crap in my experience. I can look at someone and know with some certainty whether they are healthy (central obesity!) without looking at the number on the scale.
@thaisac1 I'm going to work my central obesity into conversation now - it's my goal for the day
The demographic I work with is pretty specific, but one reason the BMI scale annoys me is because I know entirely too many people who are just solid muscle mass and have a "BMI" of upwards of 35. The man I'm specifically taking about had thighs as big as my waist; he was a boxer, in his mid-30's, and very muscular. My heaviest weight pre-pregnancy was 134 (but I'm only 5'1") and was told that I was overweight when I was in the smallest clothing and best shape of my life. Then, I became depressed, stopped working out and ate maybe once a day and was considered healthy because I lost 30 lbs. All 30 was muscle mass. I agree that real BMI can be a good indicator of health, but the height/weight BMI is crap in my experience. I can look at someone and know with some certainty whether they are healthy (central obesity!) without looking at the number on the scale.
I know that my ideal weight would be around 50-60 pounds lighter, and even then I would be considered very overweight according to the BMI scale lol. I would look very silly if I were to lose 100 pounds to be considered "normal"
Random, I just wanted to AW. My boss told me how she started going back to the gym and it motivated me to want to start going again since my energy has returned. So I plan on attending a kickboxing class on Tuesday and I'm really excited! Thing I like about classes is that I can do it at my pace and moderate anything so I think it's going to be fun since I haven't moved around very much lately outside of walking to my car.
@thaisac1 I'm going to work my central obesity into conversation now - it's my goal for the day
The demographic I work with is pretty specific, but one reason the BMI scale annoys me is because I know entirely too many people who are just solid muscle mass and have a "BMI" of upwards of 35. The man I'm specifically taking about had thighs as big as my waist; he was a boxer, in his mid-30's, and very muscular. My heaviest weight pre-pregnancy was 134 (but I'm only 5'1") and was told that I was overweight when I was in the smallest clothing and best shape of my life. Then, I became depressed, stopped working out and ate maybe once a day and was considered healthy because I lost 30 lbs. All 30 was muscle mass. I agree that real BMI can be a good indicator of health, but the height/weight BMI is crap in my experience. I can look at someone and know with some certainty whether they are healthy (central obesity!) without looking at the number on the scale.
I know that my ideal weight would be around 50-60 pounds lighter, and even then I would be considered very overweight according to the BMI scale lol. I would look very silly if I were to lose 100 pounds to be considered "normal"
I've never really put much thought to BMI because it doesn't take into account SOOO many things... but I got curious after reading all the posts so I looked mine up... and sure enough... obese! I know I'm a little on the heavy side, but not 35lbs! The "Normal" range it gave me was insane!!! The lightest I have ever been in my adult life was still 5lbs heavier than the high side of normal, and that was when I was a size 4 and looked scary skinny for my bone structure.
@thaisac1 Your papers sound interesting. Never heard of central obesity measures My BMI is 35, and my old physician was very aware of this. I have always been able to lose weight with calorie counting, but for various reasons I would always gain it all back with more. DH is also quite concerned about my weight and I know I should do something about it as I am aware of the risks. I just didn't like the way she was almost shaming me for it. But I am using this pregnancy to reflect over my food choices and exercise levels and my main motivation right now is to teach my son how to live healthy and not pass on our bad habits. DH loves junk food and he has so many problems with his esophagus and I am 100% sure it's diet related, so I am hoping to be able to help the both of us. Would you recommend I focus more on my diet now during the pregnancy or working out more?
I tried to upload the papers here but PDFs are not allowed. I will see if I can send it to you via PM. I am sorry you felt that your physician was shaming you for it. I am sure it was not the direct intention, but some people have better interpersonal skills than others as you know.
I am not an OB but in general I would recommend cleaning up your diet - you don't want to restrict calories, but you want to chose foods that will not only give you calories but also the nutrients that you and your baby needs ... For instance, a doughnut will give you the same calories as a bowl of hearty lentil soup, although one will be empty calories and the other one will be packed with good nutrients for both of you. The way our bodies handle these different types of food also matters, as the sugary doughnut goes straight to your hips (hehe), while the lentil soup won't make you gain weight because your body will actually use calories to digest it and the protein and fiber will keep you satisfied for longer. And so on...
Exercising is also important to maintain our muscle tone and cardiovascular conditioning during pregnancy. You don't want to do anything too heavy, but simply walking for instance is a way to add a little calorie burn to your day and keep your CV system more conditioned.
Does anyone else feel weird about their bump? I love seeing everyone else's bump grow but any time I catch my reflection in a mirror I'm like WTF is that?!?
This random thought inspired by the realization that I look pregnant in my scrub top.
Does anyone else feel weird about their bump? I love seeing everyone else's bump grow but any time I catch my reflection in a mirror I'm like WTF is that?!?
This random thought inspired by the realization that I look pregnant in my scrub top.
I don't have a bump - I just look fat. So yeah I feel weird and also sad.
On a different note, am I full of myself for cursing my awesome cooking skills? I made super yummy Indian lamb biryani and I keep going back for more even though I am full
Does anyone else feel weird about their bump? I love seeing everyone else's bump grow but any time I catch my reflection in a mirror I'm like WTF is that?!?
This random thought inspired by the realization that I look pregnant in my scrub top.
I don't have a bump - I just look fat. So yeah I feel weird and also sad.
No worries. I was trying to find a dress to hide it for a family function on Saturday since I'm not sure if my extended family knows and would rather spend the time mourning my Grams and catching up with my immediate family (who I haven't seen since June) than answering questions about my central obesity (I did it!) from people I haven't spoken to in years. Plus, I have a short torso so it's just pushing straight out.
Wait, they still use height/weight as measures for BMI??? Shouldn't they get your actual BMI if they're concerned about it? I'm thin and I gonna go see what mine is because I bet I'm considered overweight!!
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for April Mamas**
I knew I loved you right from the beginning.
I'll see the geneticist in on Thursday, and have the level 2 U.S. on Monday.
I'm so sorry for the non reassuring news and the wait. The wait is the freaking worst. How are you handling everything? I'm sending you huge, rose and lychee scented creepy internet stranger hugs.
It was so crazy DH was slightly weirded out for the first time.
I've got 19 more weeks of this to go and I honestly can't imagine what this crazy movement is going to be like in the coming weeks.
I imagine at some point this movement will hurt because it's kinda uncomfortable when she does it for more than a few seconds at a time.
I'm not sure if I'm being too sensitive about this but it really annoyed me. And oh god the mumbling was so annoying. I barely understand Swedish as it is, but this woman was not even trying to make it easy for me and she didn't speak a word of English. Sigh.
/rant over
You feel healthy and have zero health problems to show for it. And you look good mama! Don't sweat it
Let me start by saying that you are gorgeous and your size looks perfect on you.
I am also heavy; my BMI is always in the overweight range. Sure enough, I am not lean either, but we know that BMI is not a perfect measure of body fatness (I've published a few papers on this if you have an interest. Measures of central obesity appear to be a better way to go) - muscle weights, too!
Having said this, as a physician I do get concerned when my patients reach BMIs > 30 Kg/m2 (not saying this is the case with you, I have no clue what your BMI is, just telling you my practice); and much more concerned if there is central obesity (well, we are all centrally obese during pregnancy so that doesnt count for us hehehe). I have learned through the years that 'sugar coating' weight issues when talking to patients is not an effective strategy for behavioral change. I am certainly not rude, but I do need to push the point across, and that means saying some things the patient may not like to hear. But it is when we hear this things about potential future health hazards, that often we are more motivated to change. I'm just saying this so you don't get angry about your encounter, use it as a chance to reflect on some thing you are doing right, and some things you can improve on, and work on these issues with your doctor's direction.
Let me know if you have any specific questions.
@thaisac1 Your papers sound interesting. Never heard of central obesity measures
The demographic I work with is pretty specific, but one reason the BMI scale annoys me is because I know entirely too many people who are just solid muscle mass and have a "BMI" of upwards of 35. The man I'm specifically taking about had thighs as big as my waist; he was a boxer, in his mid-30's, and very muscular. My heaviest weight pre-pregnancy was 134 (but I'm only 5'1") and was told that I was overweight when I was in the smallest clothing and best shape of my life. Then, I became depressed, stopped working out and ate maybe once a day and was considered healthy because I lost 30 lbs. All 30 was muscle mass. I agree that real BMI can be a good indicator of health, but the height/weight BMI is crap in my experience. I can look at someone and know with some certainty whether they are healthy (central obesity!) without looking at the number on the scale.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
I am sorry you felt that your physician was shaming you for it. I am sure it was not the direct intention, but some people have better interpersonal skills than others as you know.
I am not an OB but in general I would recommend cleaning up your diet - you don't want to restrict calories, but you want to chose foods that will not only give you calories but also the nutrients that you and your baby needs ... For instance, a doughnut will give you the same calories as a bowl of hearty lentil soup, although one will be empty calories and the other one will be packed with good nutrients for both of you. The way our bodies handle these different types of food also matters, as the sugary doughnut goes straight to your hips (hehe), while the lentil soup won't make you gain weight because your body will actually use calories to digest it and the protein and fiber will keep you satisfied for longer. And so on...
Exercising is also important to maintain our muscle tone and cardiovascular conditioning during pregnancy. You don't want to do anything too heavy, but simply walking for instance is a way to add a little calorie burn to your day and keep your CV system more conditioned.
This random thought inspired by the realization that I look pregnant in my scrub top.
I signed up for a pregnancy swimming class that focuses on child birth and breathing techniques, quite excited for that kind of exercise!
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
No worries. I was trying to find a dress to hide it for a family function on Saturday since I'm not sure if my extended family knows and would rather spend the time mourning my Grams and catching up with my immediate family (who I haven't seen since June) than answering questions about my central obesity (I did it!) from people I haven't spoken to in years. Plus, I have a short torso so it's just pushing straight out.