DH knocked it out of the park! Thanksgiving, I cooked a dinner for our neighbors and their family(8 people total). I cannot make gravy to save my life and he took that on and it was AWESOME! After dinner, that had to be at 3 so they could get to the stores(I was starting to get upset because all they wanted to do was shop), DH cleaned up the kitchen while I played with LO. Tonight he put up Christmas lights and just now made me coffee because I mentioned in passing as 'a cup of coffee would be good'. I swear sometimes I don't know who I married and wonder what the hell I was thinking and then I get these reminders...he is a keeper and does have a heart under his hard ass skin!
DH and I were having trouble communicating, to the point of finally seeing a counselor (no risk of splitting, just didn't enjoy the increasingly louder fights). The counselor said what many of you ladies have told me - we need some alone time!
We haven't managed it yet (though have some plans this weekend), but we have managed some good time alone with the baby. Way more often than not, we have family members around us - "offering" advice and whatnot. But after being our own little unit for a bit, DH and I are back to our loving selves more often than not.
Things aren't as easy as they were before LO, but they're better than they have been since September/October.
And the baby loves his daddy so much that he cannot sit still when DH walks into the room. Spazzes out, and giggles hysterically when DH kisses his face. They're adorable!
I went on a mission here as well to improve things before we get to our appointment. I started gathering all of the things I have saved throughout our relationship and put them in a box.
When I am frustrated I look at things in the box and am reminded of the good things instead of being stuck on the things that aggravated me.
DH has been awesome as well he finally is getting a break from work and has been generally more cheerful and helpful. Like you I just gush when I see him with our LO. They have such a sweet bond.
Things are looking up! Way to go to all the DH's hitting it out of the park lately.!
@jessheppell That's awful! I would text him or email him what you just told us. That he knows you don't have a car to get your LO to him and that it's unsafe for the baby to be out in that kind of weather. Stress that he's more than welcome to come and get LO to spend time with him, then save the communication in case you need it later. You just never know and it's important that it be documented if you're being cooperative and he's being unreasonable.
@JessHeppell that's really sucky that he would expect you to have your LO outside for 40 min as you make your way over there by foot in those temps. If I recall, you're in Canada... -4 for you is about 24 degrees F for us, either way still WAY too cold for an infant to be be out in the cold if he has a working car and can come get you / the baby. No good. Molly's got a point, keep a record of you showing you are trying to be cooperative but he's being obnoxious about it, just in case he decides he wants to be a further dick and try to make 'authorities' do something about custody, etc. So sad we have to think about this
After a rough morning DH is giving this mama some time to herself! He's watching the grey cup (go eskies go) with LO, there is a bottle in the fridge and I'm hoping in a bath that he ran! Ah-mazing
Never let your DH go to Home Depot unsupervised. Homie spent $1000 today!!! Are you fucking kidding me with your electrical upgrades?! Yes, some of it was our expensive ass LED Christmas lights, but good god man!!!!!!!! Mommas not happy.
Never let your DH go to Home Depot unsupervised. Homie spent $1000 today!!! Are you fucking kidding me with your electrical upgrades?! Yes, some of it was our expensive ass LED Christmas lights, but good god man!!!!!!!! Mommas not happy.
Funny but not funny. My DH once ran to Home Depot "real quick." He was gone 2 hours. I didn't even ask how much he spent. It's like they get sucked in!
Never let your DH go to Home Depot unsupervised. Homie spent $1000 today!!! Are you fucking kidding me with your electrical upgrades?! Yes, some of it was our expensive ass LED Christmas lights, but good god man!!!!!!!! Mommas not happy.
Funny but not funny. My DH once ran to Home Depot "real quick." He was gone 2 hours. I didn't even ask how much he spent. It's like they get sucked in!
Mine went today too. Took a fussy LO to "go on a drive to get her to sleep". I have no idea what he bought or how much he spent. He didn't offer and I didn't ask. He was installing baby proof outlets today though, so I can't complain!
Hubby went there are Black Friday to grab something for work but came home w/ gorgeous throw pillows and a verrrrry soft throw blanket for me so I didn't care that he took an hour longer than planned
@hoodoll82 I actually did just switch my regular throw pillows to my Christmas ones... They are just so freaking annoying because the pets lay all over them and I spend half the day fluffing them!
Throw pillows for my couch I actually use - I lean on them and lay back against them when I am couch napping with LO. I don't have any other kind of throw pillows tho, like for the bedroom, I'm not a fan of extra stuff everywhere (which is SO frustrating for me, DH wants to keep ALL the useless things)
^^^ We use our throw pillows to lay on too. They are usually all over the couch in a messy fashion. We fix them when people are coming over but that's it.
Can someone please explain the usefulness of throw pillows? For me they are "throw them on the floor when you actually want to lay down" pillows
I looooove throw pillows! We have a big leather couch so it adds warmth to the room and I love to sit in the corner of the couch and take a nap with them (when napping is possible). I even use the throw pillows on my bed lol.
I love throw pillows too. We have a leather couch and I have 5 pillows on it. I bought some fur ones from pottery barn for the winter and DH calls them the wolf pillows ha, but they are so soft! I use the throw pillows on our bed for propping myself up and laying back watching tv. We have a metal bed frame so pillows are necessary! They also are great ways to add pops of colors in a room and tie things together.
Re: DH/SO rants & raves - November
We haven't managed it yet (though have some plans this weekend), but we have managed some good time alone with the baby. Way more often than not, we have family members around us - "offering" advice and whatnot. But after being our own little unit for a bit, DH and I are back to our loving selves more often than not.
Things aren't as easy as they were before LO, but they're better than they have been since September/October.
And the baby loves his daddy so much that he cannot sit still when DH walks into the room. Spazzes out, and giggles hysterically when DH kisses his face. They're adorable!
I went on a mission here as well to improve things before we get to our appointment. I started gathering all of the things I have saved throughout our relationship and put them in a box.
When I am frustrated I look at things in the box and am reminded of the good things instead of being stuck on the things that aggravated me.
DH has been awesome as well he finally is getting a break from work and has been generally more cheerful and helpful. Like you I just gush when I see him with our LO. They have such a sweet bond.
Things are looking up! Way to go to all the DH's hitting it out of the park lately.!
Molly's got a point, keep a record of you showing you are trying to be cooperative but he's being obnoxious about it, just in case he decides he wants to be a further dick and try to make 'authorities' do something about custody, etc. So sad we have to think about this