Rave: My hubby KILLED IT tonight!!! Today was our Thanksgiving celebration w/ his side of the family and I was beyond stressed out about it. Besides the logistics of keeping LO on her schedule, me on my pumping schedule, and traveling 2 hours away from home w/ her, I have about had it with my MIL and her overbearing ways. Let me tell you guys, today could not have possibly gone smoother!!
I got DD down in the guest room pretty much as soon as we got there (30 minutes before FIL/MIL) so MIL was immediately forced to take a backseat. Then when she woke up for her bottle, DH took her into the living room to satisfy the dozens of requests to meet her lol. As soon as the bottle warmer finished doing its thing he brought her back into the bedroom to me so she could eat in peace. We both decided that it was way too loud out with the rest of the fam so we kept her in the back bedroom napping for most of the day. Our DD is going through a phase where she doesn't like to be held by other people for very long; she gets fussy. As soon as MIL started in with trying to say she was colicky, DH headed her off and said "No, you just need to stand up when you hold her or give her back to us." When she started to argue with him he said "Trust me, I know my daughter." which shut her right up!
The best part: She kept saying she had gas pains which was absolutely incorrect. She just didn't want to be held by MIL. We were all sitting in the living room, MIL holding DD, when DD finally released a poop she'd been working on for a couple of days lol. Obviously a very loud noise. MIL said "Ah! See? She had gas." DH and I told her "Nope, that's a poop." MIL just continued to pat DD on the back and say it was colic/gas. I said "Babe, please go check her." And what did he find? POOP! I don't think I've been so happy to change a diaper in all my life! DH brought her over to me and said "I'm telling you Mom, we know our daughter."
He also shut them down when FIL tried saying we should stop swaddling her "so much" (the only time we swaddle her is at night). DH said "Why?" And FIL responded that it will stunt her growth. DH just kept asking him to elaborate until it was clear that FIL was talking out of his ass and eventually had to admit that he didn't know of any science behind that little nugget of wisdom.
I am so unbelievably grateful to him for his support today. I felt like he was an extension of my brain; before I even had the chance to realize something was about to get on my nerves, he was there to take care of it. That man is truly the love of my life.
Rant - yet another time where I've been up for an hour already with LO and he just sleeps on, undisturbed. He'll get up in 3-4 hours and tell me to go nap. No, asshole, that's not how it works for me, and you know it. Stop fronting like you've done your part when all you've done is throw out a sentence for an offer you know isn't going to help me at all.
Rave: DH doesn't help much because LO is a Mommas boy and freaks out if he's not attatched to me for longer than an hour, but DH offers a lot. Every time he gets off of work he takes LO so I can make lunch (cooking keeps me sane) and hands him back after I eat, which is about when LO starts getting mad. It works out really well, but I'm still exhausted and honestly look like a zombie. So, last night, in his sleeping pill high, DH rolled over and went on a five minute speech about how I am a good mom and I'm more beautiful now than I even was when we met and all of that adorable stuff that reminds me why I married and reproduced with this man.
I may get no sleep. I may not have done my eyebrows in over a year. I may have an airplane worth of bags under my eyes. But je still thinks I'm pretty, and that is such a good feeling.
Rave - we have friends coming to visit from SoCal. They're not staying with us but we'll be spending a lot of time at our house, so we needed to clean it. Yesterday DH cleaned the kitchen and the downstairs bathroom (including the toilet!) and he is going to vacuum the house today.
Rant - just once I'd like for him to be the one to get up when LO wakes at night, or be the one to get up with LO for the day when LO is ready to start his day before dawn.
To be fair, I haven't asked him to take a night / morning shift. But it would also be nice if he said 'hey, I'll get up with LO overnight and tomorrow morning, OK?'
Rave: DH cleaned and organized the house yesterday.
Rant: DH cleaned the house yesterday while LO and I were celebrating thanksgiving at my brother's. I told him he didn't have to go, but I thought he would. I thought wrong.
@mellymar I feel you. I don't ask either because I just feel like, why do I always have to freaking ask. DH said to me the other day, "I just can't wake up at 5:30 am." Ha. You could if there was no freaking choice.
To be fair to DH, I don't really have many rants, he is amazing! One thing though that drives me a little crazy.. Why does it take him 30+ minutes to go to the bathroom?? I definitely don't get that luxury, and it would also help to have him come take over when he gets home from work instead of spend 30 minutes in there. Sorry that might be TMI haha..
I mean, it's only fair right? I can efficiently poop in under 3 minutes, including hand washing and answering 16 questions for DS. I think you can finish up in less than five without company so after that point, you'd better believe I'm sending in reinforcements.
DH had reached his breaking point and went to put his two week notice in yesterday. The owner freaked and started crying and nearly had a panic attack. He is now putting a proposal together for more money and being moved into a better position. We will reevaluate in the spring if things haven't improved he's moving on. So proud of him for taking a stand. We were both over the bullshit, stress, and lack of appropriate compensation. Yay for raises!!!
@lovethatcolosun That's great! I know you've put up with a lot from his employer.
Since my supply has been low, I've tried to add in one more pump a day. I was complaining to DH about it and he asked if I was going to go Office Space on my pump when I'm done breastfeeding. I thought that was a great idea. He still makes me laugh.
DH (the D stands for something else right now) left the deep freezer with my 1000oz of milk in it open all night in the garage after he got a Klondike bar at 11pm. I'm not even checking on the milk in fear I may have a breakdown. It was below freezing overnight but I didn't find it open until 11a.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
I'm just going to pretend it didn't happen. It was 44 degrees at 11am so nothing bad could've happened RIGHT(what I keep telling myself)? Also...mistakes happen so I made one angry phone call to him and am just moving on. But it would be pretty fitting for our BF journey for all my milk to spoil, right?! Haha!
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
@dancegurl1118 I am seriously beyond jealous of your huge stash. Why don't you thaw a bag and smell it? It's only bad if it smells, right?
My thawed milk smells weird, but it's not bad.
I'm pretty sure, like @janit368 said, as long as it didn't thaw completely, you're fine. And, yesterday when I thawed a bag in the fridge all day, it was still pretty frozen when I went to pour it in the evening.
I think you're all good! And good thing you noticed at 11 am, not 11 pm tonight!
DH (the D stands for something else right now) left the deep freezer with my 1000oz of milk in it open all night in the garage after he got a Klondike bar at 11pm. I'm not even checking on the milk in fear I may have a breakdown. It was below freezing overnight but I didn't find it open until 11a.
(Indrawn hiss of breath) Ooooohhhhhh. Oh my. I'm literally speechless with how much trouble your DH is in. But yes, you are correct in everybody makes mistakes, and the right way to handle it was the way you handled it. And yes, I'm sure the milk is fine. But oooooohhhhhh.
also, my DH is mad at your DH for wasting all that energy to power the freezer while it was open (figures. Men, sheesh)
@dancegurl1118 I hope your stash is ok! I got a little sick to my stomach reading that for you. I told my DH nothing else is allowed in the breast milk deep freezer But mine wanted to put fish in it not ice cream.
And then today he didn't use the 12oz I defrosted last night so I had to toss it. If I didn't know any better I would say this man is trying to ruin my breastfeeding plans...
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
I think DH has been replaced with a male equivalent of Mary Poppins.. He has been so incredible this past week, on Monday LO & I had to fly to the other side of the country on 3 hours notice as my Aunty was critically ill. I flew in tonight and the beautiful man has cleaned the whole house, changed all the sheets, sold all of LO's stuff I've been meaning to and made freezer meals for us for the week to come
I think DH has been replaced with a male equivalent of Mary Poppins.. He has been so incredible this past week, on Monday LO & I had to fly to the other side of the country on 3 hours notice as my Aunty was critically ill. I flew in tonight and the beautiful man has cleaned the whole house, changed all the sheets, sold all of LO's stuff I've been meaning to and made freezer meals for us for the week to come
my "husband" is demanding to see LO at 3:30 today saying that if i dont bring LO to the apartment we both lived in, that im denying him his son. i dont drive, he knows i dont drive, he makes a point of reminding me every time i was upset with him. i told him im not walking LO the 40 minutes across town (its -4) he tells me im denying him. he can drive either one of his vehicles down here and see LO, or pick up LO and take him to the apartment for a bit, or we can meet somewhere and he can take LO off my hands. this man is so aggravating and looking back our relationship has been so unhealthy im wondering why i even stayed with him to the point of marriage or even a child together.
my "husband" is demanding to see LO at 3:30 today saying that if i dont bring LO to the apartment we both lived in, that im denying him his son. i dont drive, he knows i dont drive, he makes a point of reminding me every time i was upset with him. i told him im not walking LO the 40 minutes across town (its -4) he tells me im denying him. he can drive either one of his vehicles down here and see LO, or pick up LO and take him to the apartment for a bit, or we can meet somewhere and he can take LO off my hands. this man is so aggravating and looking back our relationship has been so unhealthy im wondering why i even stayed with him to the point of marriage or even a child together.
If he wants to see him that bad he can go to you. Horrible he'd want you and your LO out in -4 degree weather. That is way too dang cold for a baby.
Re: DH/SO rants & raves - November
Rant - yet another time where I've been up for an hour already with LO and he just sleeps on, undisturbed. He'll get up in 3-4 hours and tell me to go nap. No, asshole, that's not how it works for me, and you know it. Stop fronting like you've done your part when all you've done is throw out a sentence for an offer you know isn't going to help me at all.
So, last night, in his sleeping pill high, DH rolled over and went on a five minute speech about how I am a good mom and I'm more beautiful now than I even was when we met and all of that adorable stuff that reminds me why I married and reproduced with this man.
I may get no sleep. I may not have done my eyebrows in over a year. I may have an airplane worth of bags under my eyes. But je still thinks I'm pretty, and that is such a good feeling.
Rant - just once I'd like for him to be the one to get up when LO wakes at night, or be the one to get up with LO for the day when LO is ready to start his day before dawn.
To be fair, I haven't asked him to take a night / morning shift. But it would also be nice if he said 'hey, I'll get up with LO overnight and tomorrow morning, OK?'
Rant: DH cleaned the house yesterday while LO and I were celebrating thanksgiving at my brother's. I told him he didn't have to go, but I thought he would. I thought wrong.
@mellymar I feel you. I don't ask either because I just feel like, why do I always have to freaking ask. DH said to me the other day, "I just can't wake up at 5:30 am." Ha. You could if there was no freaking choice.
Rant: He's already playing up the recovery time. Dude. I gave birth. I have no sympathy for you.
Me, my bump app, and a nice long pee.
Since my supply has been low, I've tried to add in one more pump a day. I was complaining to DH about it and he asked if I was going to go Office Space on my pump when I'm done breastfeeding. I thought that was a great idea. He still makes me laugh.
I'm pretty sure, like @janit368 said, as long as it didn't thaw completely, you're fine. And, yesterday when I thawed a bag in the fridge all day, it was still pretty frozen when I went to pour it in the evening.
I think you're all good! And good thing you noticed at 11 am, not 11 pm tonight!
also, my DH is mad at your DH for wasting all that energy to power the freezer while it was open (figures. Men, sheesh)