Not long after one of my new (male) co-workers found out I was pregnant, he proceeded to tell me ALL about his wife's labor horror story. Even after I nicely asked him to stop, he still went on. (Because he just likes to hear himself talk)
@charley15 tell me about it! We have a boy and I'm good either way but my mom said to me this weekend "you know we'll be excited and love the new baby even if it is a boy". I nearly lost my shiz at such a stupid statement.
Yeah the "even if" part... Wtf?! You should've said, "well that's good because we'll still love it even if it has your {insert body part here- nose, eyes, etc}."
@CalebsHabibi love it! It was during a 4 day stay at my parents (thank goodness I'm home!) and I believe I said "that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard you say". My family was full of gems this weekend so I had to pick my battles. I'll love and be excited for my baby no matter comes our way and I've always said that, we're just so blessed to be able to have children (I have PCOS and have gotten pregnant quickly), but the fact that she was worried I would think that they wouldn't love a second boy?? If they were those type of people I wouldn't have them in my life. Harsh but I have no time for selfish people that only what they want.
I have another dumb comment from the same SIL that inspired this thread. I apologize in advance for the hormonal rant that's about to happen.
We are naming our little girl Alexandra Lynn.
She asked what we were going to call "Alexandria" when she gets here. I told her definitely not that since her name is Alexandra. She was all, oh I know I just mispoke. No she didn't...
Then she said, well what are you shortening it to? I told her I really didn't know and might call her by her full name or just whatever fit her personality. I'm naming her Alexandra because I love the name.
I feel like this is reasonable. I mean, we've got the important part of the name figured out. I'm not worried about nicknames. Like at all. I just want her here safe and sound.
She went on to inform me that she will be calling her Alex. She said that her husband told her she can't just decide that, but she's Aunt Heather and she can call her whatever she wants to.
I told her to not be surprised if my child doesn't answer to that, and that she really shouldn't decide things like that. She was completely unphased. I really wanted to say something more along the lines of - bitch, if you want to call a kid whatever you want, have your own...but I was as decent as I could be.
I have gone through less than many to get this point, but still more than my fair share. I do not appreciate smart ass people who, frankly, aren't even related to this kid telling me what to do - there has been a lot more that I haven't posted from this person. This is my and my husband's kid. Not theirs. We've been through a lot, and we just want the chance to be excited and get her here healthy and happy.
But the name thing is a sensative topic. Especially since my cousin, Alex, took his own life several years ago. I'm a little uncomfortable calling my child Alex because of that. Of course, she also thinks she can tell me to definitely not to call my child Lexie because my husband's family had a dog named that...apparently a dog's name is more important than my dead cousin...nice.
@kfarr26 did you tell her the name Alex holds meaning for you? Did she know you back then or are you just expecting her to read your mind about it? I personally don't see a problem with an aunt calling her niece a nickname that is just between them.
@kfarr26 did you tell her the name Alex holds meaning for you? Did she know you back then or are you just expecting her to read your mind about it? I personally don't see a problem with an aunt calling her niece a nickname that is just between them.
Yes. I told her when we first shared our name choice the significance of it. It's also my middle name. My family also participates is suicide awareness walks and raise money in his honor each year. She couldn't even be bothered to remember the correct name. Sorry, but you are giving her too much credit. Trust me.
And I have to disagree with you. She doesn't have any place to tell me what to and not to call my kid.
Just announcing that you don't care what anyone thinks, you're going to do what you want is rude. Announcing that you are going to be in the delivery room and arguing with the mother about it is rude. Telling a mother that she's terrible for not wanting her own mom in the delivery room is rude. Telling the mother she's an idiot for wanting to attempt an unmedicated birth is rude. Telling parents they have to donate their baby's cord blood two seconds after them telling you they're expecting is rude. Acting like a know it all about everything regarding pregnancy and parenting when you don't even have a kid or have ever been pregnant is rude. Or how about not acknowledging your soon to be SIL's miscarriage for weeks and telling people you're pissed that she's not coming to your wedding shower because of it?
Her own husband tells her to stop it and that she's pissing everyone off - she just acts like it's funny or gets her feelings hurt and cries that everyone is mean to her.
I just realized that my last post looks like I'm totally jumping down your throat, and I promise that I'm just sensative about some of the stuff she's said and done. It's not that you asked if she knew.
I was only trying to express that there are other issues there with her. More than with the pregnancy and more than with just me in the family. She is very hard to take for everyone, and does not respect boundaries and is very rude and self centered. I let her get under my skin more than I should, I know.
Yes. I told her when we first shared our name choice the significance of it. It's also my middle name. My family also participates is suicide awareness walks and raise money in his honor each year. She couldn't even be bothered to remember the correct name. Sorry, but you are giving her too much credit. Trust me.
And I have to disagree with you. She doesn't have any place to tell me what to and not to call my kid.
Just announcing that you don't care what anyone thinks, you're going to do what you want is rude. Announcing that you are going to be in the delivery room and arguing with the mother about it is rude. Telling a mother that she's terrible for not wanting her own mom in the delivery room is rude. Telling the mother she's an idiot for wanting to attempt an unmedicated birth is rude. Telling parents they have to donate their baby's cord blood two seconds after them telling you they're expecting is rude. Acting like a know it all about everything regarding pregnancy and parenting when you don't even have a kid or have ever been pregnant is rude. Or how about not acknowledging your soon to be SIL's miscarriage for weeks and telling people you're pissed that she's not coming to your wedding shower because of it?
Her own husband tells her to stop it and that she's pissing everyone off - she just acts like it's funny or gets her feelings hurt and cries that everyone is mean to her.
I get that! I had a SIL just like that. I'm not saying YOU should call your daughter anything else, but that it's okay in my book if an aunt has a special nickname for the niece/nephew. She certainly should not call her Alex, though, especially knowing the history behind the name.
Is she married into the family? I think I'd cut her off. If you're concerned about her and mom showing up while you're in labor, you need to get your husband on the same page and not even tell anyone you're headed to the hospital. I swear you could be describing my ex-SIL. I don't miss that b*tch one iota.
She married my husband's brother. It really seems like she's trying to break him off from the family, too, and the way she treats my MIL burns me up.
The thing she said about my mom was ridiculous because I already had talked to my mom and told her that it will only be me and my husband in the labor and delivery room. She is completely fine with it and is just excited to see the baby when we're ready for visitors. Same thing for MIL. The SIL was the only one that had a problem with it...which is beyond weird to me. And I can't imagine why she thought I'd want her on there!
Also, nobody in our family on either side calls any of the existing neices/granddaughters by different names from what their parents do...so it'd be outside of the norm for her to decide to with ours. I still think it's weird to go against what everyone else calls them, anyway.
My cousin had a baby just a few weeks ago. Unfortunately he has been hospitalized for stomach problems and a staph infection in his stomach. Well when my sister called our grandma to tell her, she said, "[Cousin] never should have let [Cousin's Dad] be around the baby because had all those staph infections when he was in the hospital." My cousin's parents got bitterly divorced a few years ago and obviously grandma still blames the ex son in law for everything.
She also said that my cousin shouldn't have accepted his blood donation when she was in the hospital...
Like WTH grandma? That's not how staph infections work. I understand some people can be carriers but he's not a carrier. He contracted a staph infection years ago when he was in the hospital. My sister thinks that our aunt (cousin's mom) told our grandma that and she's just repeating it.
Anyway I was floored. Dumbest thing I ever heard and when they should all be supporting my cousin and the baby.
I've got one. My MIL decided it was ok to say "I hope the baby is still growing" when e-mailing about something completely different. I may be too sensitive but why would you say that to a pregnant woman? Yeah lady, I hope so too! SMDH.
So here's another, though it's a bit old at this point. When I got pregnant with my first I KNEW it was a boy, and when anyone asked me, I would tell them so. Everyone would just roll their eyes at me, but I knew I was right. When we found out he was a boy, I felt vindicated. I never got a "feeling" with my next pregnancy, our first loss. With our second loss I again knew it was a boy, and was again right. This time, I felt like it was a boy. My husband was willing to bet the entire house on my gut instinct at this point, but my MIL really wanted it to be a girl (for reasons that I have a hard time understanding...like, WHY DOES IT MATTER?) and even when we got the genetic testing back that said boy she said "well those things can be wrong." all smug. THEN, at a dinner a few weeks later, I'd subsequently gotten an ultrasound and sent the pic to her to keep her updated. Her husband (clearly at her insistence) told me that the baby was a girl and that he could tell from the ultrasound, and that the doctors were wrong. I was only 12 weeks at that point, so it would have been impossible to tell, but I was so horrified and irritated. I snapped back "Sorry, you're wrong, it's a BOY. And, sorry you aren't excited about your grandSON." and huffed away. What's wrong with people!?
I'm totally late to the party on the topic of MILs and their preference towards a certain sex but in my last pregnancy with DD, my MIL said how she hopes our next kid is a boy to carry on the family name (ya know, since I''m apparently be carrying the heir to the throne and all, not to mention that DH's cousin has two toddler boys with our last name!). I rolled my eyes at the time and changed the subject.
Fast forward to this pregnancy- we had my parents over and skyped in my out-of-town in laws in to tell them that we are having another girl (our last child and we couldn't be more excited). Everyone cheered and said congratulations and then it got quiet for a second and MIL was like "so, you're sure they're not mistaken?"
Are you kidding me? I get that you wanted a boy but we just announced that we're having a healthy baby girl- shut up and be happy to have another healthy grandchild (in addition to our daughter, DH's sister has two awesome sons).
DH knew to tell her no and change the subject really quickly on that one. That's not the first (or I'd assume last) stupid thing she'll say- love her to death but know when to keep things to yourself!
My DH and I are team green and have decided to keep the name a secret until LO is born so while texting my sister today I was letting her know when we will be home so she can plan the baby shower. Her only question was "what is the baby's name or at least the initials so people can monogram/embroider things" and I told her for like the millionth time we are not telling anyone until birth. This is her exact response "Fine...but y'all are making this very hard for me to be excited about this baby. Truthfully I'm not even excited about throwing you a baby shower bc this bull crap with the name. Sorry I just felt like I needed to be completely honest with you" Like WTF?!?!? I didn't ask her to throw me a shower she TOLD me she was throwing me a shower. So I told her I didn't want a shower and I was very sorry she couldn't be excited for her new niece or nephew just because she doesn't know the name. Sorry for the rant!!
@Peachie89 That is so annoying. We aren't keeping our name under wraps, but I understand why people do. Like, so what you can't do a monogram??? not everyone wants their kid's name all over all of their stuff. Not to mention some people consider that a safety hazard. Unbelievable that she can't get excited about a baby without a name. I am annoyed FOR you lol.Hopefully she pulls her head out of her behind.
@Peachie89 ouch! That was so ugly of her to say! I've had friends that were team green or who didn't share their name choices, and it definitely never curbed any excitement! If anything, people were more anxious and excited for them to finally spill the beans.
I'm 19 and this is my first child. I keep getting asked the same two questions over and over. "Did you plan it?!" and "When are you and him getting married?!" If we do decide to get married it will be because we want to, not because you think we "have too".
I'm 19 and this is my first child. I keep getting asked the same two questions over and over. "Did you plan it?!" and "When are you and him getting married?!" If we do decide to get married it will be because we want to, not because you think we "have too".
I'm 23 and we're not married either, that's the number one question we get asked! I usually just smile politely and say "it's on our very long list of things to do and at the bottom." Since I'm a bartender they usually leave it at that. Or I just jokingly go "I think we're going to try to bring this baby into the world first and worry about ourselves later" It's very frustrating. We will get married when we're good and ready thank you very much!
My DH and I are team green and have decided to keep the name a secret until LO is born so while texting my sister today I was letting her know when we will be home so she can plan the baby shower. Her only question was "what is the baby's name or at least the initials so people can monogram/embroider things" and I told her for like the millionth time we are not telling anyone until birth. This is her exact response "Fine...but y'all are making this very hard for me to be excited about this baby. Truthfully I'm not even excited about throwing you a baby shower bc this bull crap with the name. Sorry I just felt like I needed to be completely honest with you" Like WTF?!?!? I didn't ask her to throw me a shower she TOLD me she was throwing me a shower. So I told her I didn't want a shower and I was very sorry she couldn't be excited for her new niece or nephew just because she doesn't know the name. Sorry for the rant!!
My sister is also pregnant, and they are not finding out gender until birth. At her baby shower a few weeks ago she was opening the present from her grandmother (were half sisters). It was a beautiful blanket that grandmother had made, grandma had said she had trouble picking fabrics because she didn't know the sex and it was very stressful for her (she's about 90 and was trying to make an old age joke) my very snippy (lol) sister popped off with "omg we HAVE to find out the sex so we don't stress out grandma" very common response for her. I thought it was hilarious and busted out laughing. My sister didn't find my laughter so funny
@kfarr26 my family is just one of this families that uses full names. My aunt, however, tried to call me Katy. I just would look at her weird and wouldn't respond( because I wasn't used to responding to that). I hated it. She stopped pretty quickly. It's really rude to announce it and be defiant like that but what ever you pick will stick I'm sure.
@kfarr26 my family is just one of this families that uses full names. My aunt, however, tried to call me Katy. I just would look at her weird and wouldn't respond( because I wasn't used to responding to that). I hated it. She stopped pretty quickly. It's really rude to announce it and be defiant like that but what ever you pick will stick I'm sure.
Thank you! Everyone else in my husband's family and also in mine thought that announcement was super weird and very rude. We just don't call kids whatever we feel like - it's really seen as pretty disrespectful by everyone else. It almost came off as, "I don't like the name you've chosen, so I'm going to call her something I think is better."
I also get tons of comments that I won't be raising her girly enough. I might start asking why they think it would be so terrible for her to take after her mother and be interested in more than her appearance and shopping. So far I've let those comments go in one ear and out the other, but I have to admit it's getting old.
Wow, we're having the opposite issue with finding out the gender. My husband and I did want to find out the sex (yay, girl) but his parents thought this was ridiculous and don't want to know. So we're keeping it to ourselves (which is fine) because we're afraid someone will tell them.
Urgh,
my bro-in-law is driving me nuts. Ever since he found out that I'm having a
girl he's been going on about how I'm not doing it right.
Girls shouldn't have
blue rooms. (Even though both my sister and I did)
Harry Potter isn't girlie enough.
"If it has to have Harry
Potter, then there has to be a lot of Hermione." (Um, why?)
"It's my first
niece. I want...." <---That one burns me because it's my first daughter. He already has a daughter.
"You know what would be awesome? Cosplay curtains.
You should put cosplay curtains." (I'm in my local cosplay community, and I still have no idea wtf he means by "cosplay curtains". Cosplay is generally homemade costumes.)
He
now also has his "pretty pretty princess" 9 year old daughter in on it, too, and he's
trying to convince her to call me "Weird Aunt Lexi" because of it. Because that's going to make the hormonal pregnant woman so happy....
@lexievelyn8179 Omg. Maybe we can get my crazy SIL and him together and they can ride off into the sunset! I so feel for you on all of this!
I also have a BIL with two extreme girly girls making dumb comments. Every time he ends with "....I have two girls. You'll understand one day," or "...you have so much to learn about little girls." Um? I am a girl...I believe my 27 years of experience in possession of a vagina and ovaries and all the wonderfulness that comes with them lends more experience on the subject than his three years of fathering. Juuuuust saying.
Yesterday, I took a final exam for one of my classes. While signing out, a professor stops me and goes, "about 8 months with a boy huh?" I reply, no, about 5 months with a boy and a girl. He then says " ah, I can see that you are having a boy, your belly is tilted down and your butt is getting pretty big. That means your having a boy. You just look bigger than 5 months". A) stop perving by looking at my butt don't judge my butt, I have always had a big butt and you mentioning it doesn't help C) yes I know I have a big baby belly, believe me, I ache with how big I have gotten D) babies were riding low as I had been stuck in a very uncomfortable chair for the last 2 hours, they tend to move upward if I am up walking which makes it harder to breath. My belly isn't "tilted". Another professor stopped as he was making his comment on my size, the second professor whispered to him and then they walked off together. Hoping the first professor gets reamed for harassment or something.
This didn't happen to me personally (although I've had my share of dumb comments so far!) but when a coworker announced that him & his GF were expecting my boss asked if they are planning on keeping it!!
*Trigger* When explaining placenta previa to the Dentist I work for yesterday he told me "oh, that's what my wife had....I came home and thought someone had shot her one day, then our son came 3 months early." Awesome. Thanks for that...trying to be positive over here and not worry about worst case scenario.
Yesterday, I took a final exam for one of my classes. While signing out, a professor stops me and goes, "about 8 months with a boy huh?" I reply, no, about 5 months with a boy and a girl. He then says " ah, I can see that you are having a boy, your belly is tilted down and your butt is getting pretty big. That means your having a boy. You just look bigger than 5 months".
A) stop perving by looking at my butt
don't judge my butt, I have always had a big butt and you mentioning it doesn't help
C) yes I know I have a big baby belly, believe me, I ache with how big I have gotten
D) babies were riding low as I had been stuck in a very uncomfortable chair for the last 2 hours, they tend to move upward if I am up walking which makes it harder to breath. My belly isn't "tilted".
Another professor stopped as he was making his comment on my size, the second professor whispered to him and then they walked off together. Hoping the first professor gets reamed for harassment or something.
I seriously would file a complaint with the college.
I don't understand why people feel comfortable talking about a pregnant woman's figure, anyway. Outside of compliments such as "you are looking fantastic!" just why?
I had an older woman in another department at work announce last week that I'm looking "more round" in front of a group of about a dozen or more other coworkers - male and female. It wasn't outright rude, but it wasn't really all that nice either. I just made a joke like I normally do when I'm uncomfortable, so no biggie...but yeah. Please don't call me round, lady. It's weird.
I had someone tell me that I was blossoming when I saw them at a party the other day. It pissed me off because I had my coat on and my stomach barely shows through that. So then I said to them what you meant to say was here comes fatty right? HA HA pretty sure that mistake wont be made again.
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My partner said 'as long as I can look in your eyes I'll see your beauty within.' I was like yeah that's nice and all but are you saying you can't see the beauty of me being 6 months with your little boy? To be fair I dont think anything he could say about my appearance right now would sink in nicely... I wish on him sympathy fat. Laughs
My partner said 'as long as I can look in your eyes I'll see your beauty within.' I was like yeah that's nice and all but are you saying you can't see the beauty of me being 6 months with your little boy? To be fair I dont think anything he could say about my appearance right now would sink in nicely... I wish on him sympathy fat. Laughs
I honestly think my husband has gained sympathy weight and my BIL makes fun of him for it all the time!! Lol
Went to the dentist the other day and confessed I had been slacking on my brushing a bit because it had been triggering my morning sickness, and he looked at me skeptically and said "That's just a myth, toothbrushing doesn't make you sick." Um, ok, I must have made up the dozen times I had to put down my toothbrush and vomit.
Went to the dentist the other day and confessed I had been slacking on my brushing a bit because it had been triggering my morning sickness, and he looked at me skeptically and said "That's just a myth, toothbrushing doesn't make you sick." Um, ok, I must have made up the dozen times I had to put down my toothbrush and vomit.
Of course it's a myth...cause he's a man. I cannot brush my teeth first thing after getting up, either. Even if the brushing doesn't trigger it, the spitting does. Every. Single. Time. Your dentist is an idiot.
Brushing my teeth in the morning has always made me sick. It instantly makes my stomach turn. I'm basically letting my teeth fall out now that I am pregnant. Where did he get the idea that it's a myth? Does he think squirrels are a myth? I feel like he doesn't know what the word means. It sounds like he's searching for the word super-common.
Ohh man my dentist totally understood tooth brushing was a trigger (uhh but everything is). I had my 2nd (and 3rd and 4th) cavity ever during my first pregnancy. I had a clear X-ray 2 months before I got pregnant and has 3 cavities on my back teeth a month after my LO was born. One of the biggest things I did wrong (besides not brushing my back teeth well, stupid gag reflex) was brushing my teeth after I threw up. I threw up multiple times a day and would brush my teeth immediately afterwards. Apparently rinsing/mouthwash is better because you're not rubbing stomach acid into enamel.
@kfarr26, we named our second daughter Isabelle and I swore I would never ever call her Issy. Well, long story short Belle didn't fit her and she was dubbed Busy Issy. My mil has always called her Isa, it's just between them and she hates it if anyone else calls her that. It's just my Mil's nickname for her and it's sweet. I don't like the nickname but then again I also hated the nn Issy until I realized it fit her. She's 13 now and still is my Busy Issy.
Anyone else having a problem with overbearing SO? I haven't slept "normal" in weeks. Only getting 5 hours of sleep at night. So I woke up at 1am this morning and around 8, I finally decided to go get an iced latte from dunkin. And oh my word, my fiancé FLIPPED on me for drinking coffee bc it was "too much caffeine". So he threw it away... I literally started tearing up. This will be a fine day...
Re: Dumb Things People Have Said?
I'll love and be excited for my baby no matter comes our way and I've always said that, we're just so blessed to be able to have children (I have PCOS and have gotten pregnant quickly), but the fact that she was worried I would think that they wouldn't love a second boy?? If they were those type of people I wouldn't have them in my life. Harsh but I have no time for selfish people that only what they want.
We are naming our little girl Alexandra Lynn.
She asked what we were going to call "Alexandria" when she gets here. I told her definitely not that since her name is Alexandra. She was all, oh I know I just mispoke. No she didn't...
Then she said, well what are you shortening it to? I told her I really didn't know and might call her by her full name or just whatever fit her personality. I'm naming her Alexandra because I love the name.
I feel like this is reasonable. I mean, we've got the important part of the name figured out. I'm not worried about nicknames. Like at all. I just want her here safe and sound.
She went on to inform me that she will be calling her Alex. She said that her husband told her she can't just decide that, but she's Aunt Heather and she can call her whatever she wants to.
I told her to not be surprised if my child doesn't answer to that, and that she really shouldn't decide things like that. She was completely unphased. I really wanted to say something more along the lines of - bitch, if you want to call a kid whatever you want, have your own...but I was as decent as I could be.
I have gone through less than many to get this point, but still more than my fair share. I do not appreciate smart ass people who, frankly, aren't even related to this kid telling me what to do - there has been a lot more that I haven't posted from this person. This is my and my husband's kid. Not theirs. We've been through a lot, and we just want the chance to be excited and get her here healthy and happy.
But the name thing is a sensative topic. Especially since my cousin, Alex, took his own life several years ago. I'm a little uncomfortable calling my child Alex because of that. Of course, she also thinks she can tell me to definitely not to call my child Lexie because my husband's family had a dog named that...apparently a dog's name is more important than my dead cousin...nice.
And I have to disagree with you. She doesn't have any place to tell me what to and not to call my kid.
Just announcing that you don't care what anyone thinks, you're going to do what you want is rude. Announcing that you are going to be in the delivery room and arguing with the mother about it is rude. Telling a mother that she's terrible for not wanting her own mom in the delivery room is rude. Telling the mother she's an idiot for wanting to attempt an unmedicated birth is rude. Telling parents they have to donate their baby's cord blood two seconds after them telling you they're expecting is rude. Acting like a know it all about everything regarding pregnancy and parenting when you don't even have a kid or have ever been pregnant is rude. Or how about not acknowledging your soon to be SIL's miscarriage for weeks and telling people you're pissed that she's not coming to your wedding shower because of it?
Her own husband tells her to stop it and that she's pissing everyone off - she just acts like it's funny or gets her feelings hurt and cries that everyone is mean to her.
I was only trying to express that there are other issues there with her. More than with the pregnancy and more than with just me in the family. She is very hard to take for everyone, and does not respect boundaries and is very rude and self centered. I let her get under my skin more than I should, I know.
The thing she said about my mom was ridiculous because I already had talked to my mom and told her that it will only be me and my husband in the labor and delivery room. She is completely fine with it and is just excited to see the baby when we're ready for visitors. Same thing for MIL. The SIL was the only one that had a problem with it...which is beyond weird to me. And I can't imagine why she thought I'd want her on there!
Also, nobody in our family on either side calls any of the existing neices/granddaughters by different names from what their parents do...so it'd be outside of the norm for her to decide to with ours. I still think it's weird to go against what everyone else calls them, anyway.
My cousin had a baby just a few weeks ago. Unfortunately he has been hospitalized for stomach problems and a staph infection in his stomach. Well when my sister called our grandma to tell her, she said, "[Cousin] never should have let [Cousin's Dad] be around the baby because had all those staph infections when he was in the hospital." My cousin's parents got bitterly divorced a few years ago and obviously grandma still blames the ex son in law for everything.
She also said that my cousin shouldn't have accepted his blood donation when she was in the hospital...
Like WTH grandma? That's not how staph infections work. I understand some people can be carriers but he's not a carrier. He contracted a staph infection years ago when he was in the hospital. My sister thinks that our aunt (cousin's mom) told our grandma that and she's just repeating it.
Anyway I was floored. Dumbest thing I ever heard and when they should all be supporting my cousin and the baby.
Fast forward to this pregnancy- we had my parents over and skyped in my out-of-town in laws in to tell them that we are having another girl (our last child and we couldn't be more excited). Everyone cheered and said congratulations and then it got quiet for a second and MIL was like "so, you're sure they're not mistaken?"
Are you kidding me? I get that you wanted a boy but we just announced that we're having a healthy baby girl- shut up and be happy to have another healthy grandchild (in addition to our daughter, DH's sister has two awesome sons).
DH knew to tell her no and change the subject really quickly on that one. That's not the first (or I'd assume last) stupid thing she'll say- love her to death but know when to keep things to yourself!
Like WTF?!?!? I didn't ask her to throw me a shower she TOLD me she was throwing me a shower. So I told her I didn't want a shower and I was very sorry she couldn't be excited for her new niece or nephew just because she doesn't know the name.
Sorry for the rant!!
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
It's very frustrating. We will get married when we're good and ready thank you very much!
I also get tons of comments that I won't be raising her girly enough. I might start asking why they think it would be so terrible for her to take after her mother and be interested in more than her appearance and shopping. So far I've let those comments go in one ear and out the other, but I have to admit it's getting old.
I also have a BIL with two extreme girly girls making dumb comments. Every time he ends with "....I have two girls. You'll understand one day," or "...you have so much to learn about little girls." Um? I am a girl...I believe my 27 years of experience in possession of a vagina and ovaries and all the wonderfulness that comes with them lends more experience on the subject than his three years of fathering. Juuuuust saying.
A) stop perving by looking at my butt
C) yes I know I have a big baby belly, believe me, I ache with how big I have gotten
D) babies were riding low as I had been stuck in a very uncomfortable chair for the last 2 hours, they tend to move upward if I am up walking which makes it harder to breath. My belly isn't "tilted".
Another professor stopped as he was making his comment on my size, the second professor whispered to him and then they walked off together. Hoping the first professor gets reamed for harassment or something.
Like seriously?! What. The. Fuck.
When explaining placenta previa to the Dentist I work for yesterday he told me "oh, that's what my wife had....I came home and thought someone had shot her one day, then our son came 3 months early."
Awesome. Thanks for that...trying to be positive over here and not worry about worst case scenario.
I had an older woman in another department at work announce last week that I'm looking "more round" in front of a group of about a dozen or more other coworkers - male and female. It wasn't outright rude, but it wasn't really all that nice either. I just made a joke like I normally do when I'm uncomfortable, so no biggie...but yeah. Please don't call me round, lady. It's weird.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I was like yeah that's nice and all but are you saying you can't see the beauty of me being 6 months with your little boy?
To be fair I dont think anything he could say about my appearance right now would sink in nicely... I wish on him sympathy fat. Laughs
DS2 due 12/12/18
Brushing my teeth in the morning has always made me sick. It instantly makes my stomach turn. I'm basically letting my teeth fall out now that I am pregnant. Where did he get the idea that it's a myth? Does he think squirrels are a myth? I feel like he doesn't know what the word means. It sounds like he's searching for the word super-common.
One of the biggest things I did wrong (besides not brushing my back teeth well, stupid gag reflex) was brushing my teeth after I threw up. I threw up multiple times a day and would brush my teeth immediately afterwards. Apparently rinsing/mouthwash is better because you're not rubbing stomach acid into enamel.