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June 2016 Moms
mrsschmity
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The odds of NOT having a miscarriage
mrsschmity
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I remember saving this link a while back, and it helped ease my mind a bit when I first read it. Since we normally only hear about the sad outcomes, I figured it might be worth sharing some positive facts about how many women go on to have healthy pregnancies.
I hope some of you find this reassuring!
I hope some of you find this reassuring!
Re: The odds of NOT having a miscarriage
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Thank you thank you!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
I'm sorry you lost your baby but I think you completely missed the point of this thread. If you look at this board, you'll see that there been a good 10 miscarriage threads just in the past 2-3 days. At one point yesterday, I counted 6 on the front page alone. The thought of miscarrying is terrifying and seeing the reality of that loss thrown in your face over and over again with next to no positive threads about healthy pregnancies can be really hard on a person who is already emotional from hormones. I'm sorry if this comes off as harsh but please, just let us have one happy, hopeful thread without coming and raining on the parade.
Wow telling someone that had a MMC that they are raining on the parade is a bit harsh. While it may be hard seeing all the posts about miscarriages unfortunately that's the reality. There is no guarantee.(not even after 12 weeks). I understand it may be hard to read those posts especially when our hormones are all over the place, but that's no reason to be harsh.
There are countless other threads of miscarriage on this board, you could start one yourself if you really wanted to (although based on your profile, I am not entirely sure you are even part of this BMB, I apologize if I'm wrong). This was the one place that was supporting the idea that people actually have healthy pregnancies from time to time and you tried to take that away. Based on the number of positive threads vs negative threads on this board, it seems like 80% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. We're all aware that miscarriages can happen, we aren't idiots, but taking the one happy thread and raining on it, I'm not going to play nice and just say sorry for your loss. There's a place for talking about your lost baby (which again, I'm sorry for your loss, I can't imagine going though that myself) but it isn't on the one thread about how pregnancies can end in a baby.
There are countless other threads of miscarriage on this board, you could start one yourself if you really wanted to (although based on your profile, I am not entirely sure you are even part of this BMB, I apologize if I'm wrong). This was the one place that was supporting the idea that people actually have healthy pregnancies from time to time and you tried to take that away. Based on the number of positive threads vs negative threads on this board, it seems like 80% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. We're all aware that miscarriages can happen, we aren't idiots, but taking the one happy thread and raining on it, I'm not going to play nice and just say sorry for your loss. There's a place for talking about your lost baby (which again, I'm sorry for your loss, I can't imagine going though that myself) but it isn't on the one thread about how pregnancies can end in a baby.
This post was about the chance of not having a miscarriage. I only stated my experience in being the 2% chance of still having one.
You are on a pregnancy board and the reality is that a lot of us will end up having a miscarriage and if you can't handle that or If that rains on your parade maybe you shouldn't be here. Its ignorant and inconsiderate of you to say how hard it is for you to read about pregnancy losses and telling us where we are allowed to post.
And for the record I am currently expecting and due June 20th, but thanks!
We are aware that miscarriages happen, but having a miscarriage story sprung on you when you are on a "chance of not having a miscarriage" thread is not okay. On TTGP, it was common courtesy to post a warning if you were going to talk about miscarriage and it wasn't evident from the title of the thread.
My mom experienced 4 miscarriages before succeeding in getting pregnant and I am terrified I have inherited whatever caused her to have that happen. I dont open the miscarriage threads because I know I can't deal with it. Not giving people that option isn't okay, especially on a thread like this.
Like I said earlier, I don't want to make this a big thing that takes away from the message of the initial topic. Miscarriages are rare and I'm sorry you had to go through that but please choose where you post such stories more wisely in the future.
Please refrain from commenting any further negative comments on this thread as I'd like to keep it as what it was intended for.
Thanks.
TBH, I actually have been avoiding this thread Bc I looked into the stats and realized they excluded my category from the original table Bc I'm high risk and us older infertile Isabelles skew the curve for the lower risk gals. It's hard to know I'm different and face it. The stats aren't universal but do apply to the vast majority of the ladies here, even those who've had loss before--which can provide a really positive support when they are dealing with anxiety.
While it's hard, I know that if the worst happens and I post my goodbye, I'll add in the specifics so others don't feel my risks are necessarily theirs. I think this is a great thread for us bumpies. Thank you again for posting!