Why do YOU track your ovulation? Just curious... (possible TW - loss mentioned, maybe TMI?)

1faceinacrowd · November 2015

We started TTC at the end of September, but other than knowing the first day of my LMP, I didn't track anything (no charting, temping, ovulation tests, etc.). I did have some ovulation symptoms that I noticed, and we did get a BFP on 10/24, but I experienced an early MC on 10/31 at 5 weeks. So, since it's hard to say what my cycle will do post-MC, I'm charting and using O tests, not to time intercourse, but simply so that I know about when ovulation took place if we do conceive this cycle. My thing is, we have intercourse regularly (4-6 times per week) and I figure we'll definitely do it within the right window as long as we keep that up, and this whole temping and charting and taking a daily ovulation test is all exhausting to me. I've also read a lot of articles about why people fail to conceive, and one of the main points I read was that people incorrectly time their intercourse. Do people really sleep together that seldom that they completely miss almost an entire week of fertile days? Am I a total weirdo for actually wanting to have regular intercourse, even on days/weeks when I'm probably not fertile?

So, maybe it's none of my business but I'm curious - why do YOU track your bbt or take regular ovulation tests (or why do you choose not to)? I will probably be opting not to after this cycle. It just kind of sucks the fun out of what should be a really fun activity, in my opinion. But I'd like to hear the opinions of some other members!

MamaBish · November 2015

To confirm that o happened and so we can be sure to time sex appropriately.

Everyone has different sex drives and frequencies that work for them. For some people it's every day, for some it's once ever couple of weeks. None of that is weird or wrong.

Eta: ttc for me is NOT fun. We are desperate. It is what it is.

Also, I'm very sorry for your loss

sarah0985 · November 2015

I am tracking to ensure that I am in fact ovulating. (Which I haven't been able to confirm/deny yet) In the past I've had amenorrhea as well as irregular and on the longer end of cycles which could indicate late ovulation or be a sign of no ovulation. I'd rather have all the data I can have if I need to book an appointment with a doctor.
Also to try to gauge for future cycles when we should be timing. I don't use opk (too expensive where I live and shipping isn't an option)

Eta: I'm sorry for your loss
I'm with @babymish I do not really find this fun. I'm content with sex once a week. Sometimes every other week. Honestly aiming for sex 3 times a week or more than that is hard for me. I've finally gotten more on board with 2 times but it takes an honest effort on my part. The more knowledge I have about my cycle I'm hoping will make for better outcomes. And different work shifts does not make any of that easy when frequently we don't even see each other awake all work week.

virginiaham · November 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Like @MamaBish I temp/OPK to time sex and confirm ovulation. I have long cycles and thinking I was a week plus late the first chart-less go-round was awful.

There is a thread from July called "Why do you love charting?" that I loved reading. I've thought about starting a new thread along the same lines since we have so many new ladies here. But without resurrecting the thread, it's got lots of great input to read through. So sorry, I don't know how to copy/paste the link on mobile, but you can search for it in the search bar.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · November 2015

1faceinacrowd said:

We started TTC at the end of September, but other than knowing the first day of my LMP, I didn't track anything (no charting, temping, ovulation tests, etc.). I did have some ovulation symptoms that I noticed, and we did get a BFP on 10/24, but I experienced an early MC on 10/31 at 5 weeks. So, since it's hard to say what my cycle will do post-MC, I'm charting and using O tests, not to time intercourse, but simply so that I know about when ovulation took place if we do conceive this cycle. My thing is, we have intercourse regularly (4-6 times per week) and I figure we'll definitely do it within the right window as long as we keep that up, and this whole temping and charting and taking a daily ovulation test is all exhausting to me. I've also read a lot of articles about why people fail to conceive, and one of the main points I read was that people incorrectly time their intercourse. Do people really sleep together that seldom that they completely miss almost an entire week of fertile days? Am I a total weirdo for actually wanting to have regular intercourse, even on days/weeks when I'm probably not fertile?

So, maybe it's none of my business but I'm curious - why do YOU track your bbt or take regular ovulation tests (or why do you choose not to)? I will probably be opting not to after this cycle. It just kind of sucks the fun out of what should be a really fun activity, in my opinion. But I'd like to hear the opinions of some other members!

Even with regular intercourse, tracking ovulation can help you maximize your efforts but it also tells you when to test. If you know when you ovulate, you'll have a better sense of when you're due/late for AF. Especially if you know your LP. We have heard countless stories of people thinking they are late, but they're not, they ovulated later than they thought. It can save you money on tests and the stress/heartache of testing all the time. Some people, especially those who have been trying a while don't want to put themselves through testing and see BFNs if it's needed.

Mlight28 · November 2015

Very sorry for your loss.
Yes, sex drives greatly vary.
Usually we would only BD once or twice weekly. For really good chances, it's best to be in the three days surrounding ovulation: Two before and the day of. So even twice weekly, we may have missed it completely.
Even if we had sex every day, I would still like to know what my body is doing. It is very comforting to me to know that I AM ovulating. It's also good for me to be aware of the fact that I may have a short luteal phase. I feel like I will have a head start if we need to go in for testing or medical interventions.
Also, as @mamabish said, TTC is no longer a fun activity, as much as I wish it could be.

vampirina · November 2015

I just started tracking my BBT, and to be honest I'm not sure I'll stick with it (yet) because taking my temperature in the AM is annoying the crap out of me. I'm only on day three so we'll see if it becomes a part of my regular routine or not.

That's awesome that you have intercourse pretty regularly! But not everyone is the same. H and I very so much month to month (or even week to week) that I think it might be helpful to have an idea of when we really need prioritize the deed over, you know, just going to bed, or getting into the office early, or traveling this week for work vs that week (H travels for about a week each month, but he can schedule it). Depending on you and your husband your fertile window might be shorter than a full week as well. Every body is different. Knowing exactly when O will likely occur can occur can help some couples conceive faster.

Most of the reason why I decided to start charting is straight up curiosity. You can learn so much about your body and fertility through charting your BBT that you just can't get otherwise. I've always been curious about it even when not TTC, but now that I am TTC I have a bit of extra motivation to try it out.

And I'm sorry for your loss.

1faceinacrowd · November 2015

I'm only on day 3 as well and I'm already annoyed with it too...lol. Plus, we sometimes do the deed in the morning, and he always wakes up first so I totally missed getting my temp on day 2 because I didn't want to kill the mood by telling him I needed to take my temperature first...Haha.

And thank you..

DumbledoresArmy · November 2015

I do it because DH and I have horribly busy schedules and we are always soooo tired that we really don't do it that much. Left to our own devices... we would probably do it once a week. Also, I have really long irregular cycles so I have no idea when/if I'm ovulating.

ShallowSeas · November 2015

I started temping because I wanted to make sure I was ovulating, but then found out that I was completely missing my O date. I'm also temping so I have something to show my RE if and when I have to go to my appointment next month.

jsassy · November 2015

I'm sorry for your loss.

I do it because I want to get pregnant... and because it doesn't suck the fun out of anything for me. And I'm not a weirdo.

0SeaMonkey0 · November 2015

This is actually an interesting question.

For me it's to time sex and to confirm that I'm actually ovulating.

When not ttc, we normally have sex once every week or two. We're perfectly happy with that. I agree with pp that ttc is NOT fun for me either. DH and I love each other very much, but we have a hard time getting in the mood to BD as often as is needed to have a good chance of conceiving, and having sex when you don't feel like it is really awful.

I also have PCOS which means my cycles are really long, not very regular and sometimes I just don't ovulate. When we first started ttc #1, I thought I educated myself but the reading I did told me that we should have sex at least EOD starting on cd 10 and ending a few days after a positive opk. Well when you have 35 day cycles and pretty much never turn an opk that's a lot of sex! We never had sex just for fun anymore, there was a lot of guilt if someone wasn't in the mood for a few days, we were pretty miserable.

This time around I've learned a lot about how to be more accurate with our timing. We still try hard during my FW but because we know what we're doing, we actually enjoy having lots of sex during that time because we know that once it's over we can take a break without feeling guilty, and just have sex when and if we feel like it, no strings attached.

1faceinacrowd · November 2015

0SeaMonkey0 said:

This is actually an interesting question. For me it's to time sex and to confirm that I'm actually ovulating. When not ttc, we normally have sex once every week or two. We're perfectly happy with that. I agree with pp that ttc is NOT fun for me either. DH and I love each other very much, but we have a hard time getting in the mood to BD as often as is needed to have a good chance of conceiving, and having sex when you don't feel like it is really awful. I also have PCOS which means my cycles are really long, not very regular and sometimes I just don't ovulate. When we first started ttc #1, I thought I educated myself but the reading I did told me that we should have sex at least EOD starting on cd 10 and ending a few days after a positive opk. Well when you have 35 day cycles and pretty much never turn an opk that's a lot of sex! We never had sex just for fun anymore, there was a lot of guilt if someone wasn't in the mood for a few days, we were pretty miserable. This time around I've learned a lot about how to be more accurate with our timing. We still try hard during my FW but because we know what we're doing, we actually enjoy having lots of sex during that time because we know that once it's over we can take a break without feeling guilty, and just have sex when and if we feel like it, no strings attached.

I never really thought about the fact that it would lose all of its appeal/fun after a while if you're constantly doing it when you're not in the mood. Ugh, yeah...that sounds terrible. I feel kind of lucky because I have a naturally high drive (for a woman anyway).. I forget that some people just don't want/need it that often. You'd think Mother Nature would give all women a higher drive so they'd really want it when they NEED to have it, you know?!

AndiPandi127 · November 2015

It is my understanding that depending on your guy's sperm health, doing it too much can keep you from getting pregnant, too, so if it takes you a while to get KU, you might want to temp to actually slow down to EOD/every 40 hours around ovulation.

I don't feel bad about my sex drive, nor should anyone else. I think mine's pretty moderate and I still feel stressed when it's purposeful.

Winnie81_Old · November 2015

I think everyone has a different sex drive, so there really isn't a "norm". Me and DH have been TTC for 5ish years and we have gone through all the stages of having/not having a sex drive. Some months it's exhausting but we are always happy afterwards, and other months we can't keep our hands off each other. Something that I've learned recently is that I always thought I KNEW when I was ovulating, because of the positive OPK and cramps, but having scans done confirmed it was not always ovulation, or I was fixing to but a day later. Most doctors I've spoken with want me to have sex every other day, not every day. Charting helps us pinpoint much better than and OPK.

Hummingbird125 · November 2015

I'm tracking to find out 1) IF I ovulate and 2) When. I've always had long/irregular cycles, so this is a question for me. ***IF*** after a few cycles I see that I do ovulate at approximately the same point in my cycle, I may stop tracking, just because it does cause me stress.

In regards to the sex stuff... I think H and I both have a pretty average drive - On average, we DTD about 3-4 times a week, but it helps to know when my FW (if it EVER HAPPENS /end rant) to make SURE that we HIO during that time period. Without knowing it was FW, yeah, we probably would still have sex but if either one of us were sick, or stressed, or had other shit going on that may push sex to the backburner, knowing it was my FW would probably "inspire" us to make sure it happened, even if we weren't totally into it. Also...we do sexual things that do NOT have any shot of making a baby, and we sometimes do those in place of intercourse... so again, if we know it's FW, we'd also be more likely to have baby-making relations.

mom2adoodle · November 2015

*****loss mentioned******

I started temping/charting after my chemical pregnancy. I got pregnant that time by simply getting lucky and having sex every other day around what I predicted my fertile window was. I knew my cycle might change after the miscarriage (I was quite regular before, but with long cycles) and I'm glad I did! Otherwise I would have zero idea what was going on for me.

NovaSaysNo · November 2015

First, I'm so sorry for your loss.

DH and I have recently decided to move from TTC to NTNP. Really I think we're just trying to pretend we're NTNP when we're really still TTC, but now it's less stressful... kind of.

I was going to start temping and set up a fancy chart but it's so difficult with my job. I work shift work (usually nights) 4 10's (ten hour shifts, four days/nights a week). At least two days a week I'm awake for over 24 hours (sometimes closer to 36) and I don't really have a "rest time" during those hours. That can change in the future, but I don't want to ask for too many favors before I'm even KU. I also have insomnia and have fairly regular bouts where I only sleep 1-3 hours at a time for a few weeks at a time. That's why I don't have a chart or temp, but I'll still use OPKs because I'm a complete nerd and think they are fun to watch. Yes, I was that kid that would test the pool water multiple times a week because I liked watching the colors on the stick change.

As for the sex drive thing; I have always had an incredibly high sex drive. When DH and I were younger (22ish) we would have sex every day, and my body could actually handle it just fine (no bleeding, tearing, or pain). Actually for a while we would have sex multiple times a day, every day. That lasted about a month before we both decided if we didn't eat more often we might not make it. Mountain Dew was a food group back then.

Now, I suffer from some really weird medical issues and it's basically impossible for us to have sex more than once a week and sometimes that's pushing it (now there is usually bleeding, tearing, and pain). I still have the high sex drive though but can't do anything about it. We are hoping that going off birth control (hormones and all that jazz) will help my body function somewhat normal again. Doc says it's worth a shot. We'll never get back to those crazy 1-3 times a day thing because now we have netflix and I like to eat. Also, I haven't had Mountain Dew since then. It's been six years.

I wanted to throw that out there to show a different side of TTC, I mean, *cough*cough* NTNP. There are many illnesses/issues that can make having sex EOD not an option. That's all the more reason to track your cycle. Also, as other PPs have said, having a ton of sex (like everyday) isn't really beneficial when TTC. Having sex once a week or more- in my case- isn't great either, but we all work with what we have. This is why timing, charting, OPKs, and the like are really helpful. Our bodies all "run" differently and the best way to see how your body runs is by doing all of those things. Or, you could pretend your NTNP and be delusional about it like me. Not implying anyone NTNP is delusional, but I know what I'm trying to trick myself into believing. This is basically me right now:

So I just refreshed my screen and a ton of ladies have left great comments since I started typing earlier. I would scale mine down now that some things have been covered, but that means I would sit here staring/editing for another 30 min to an hour. Nope. I want chips.

gardeniagirlknits · November 2015

Eta: sorry for your loss

Temping for me, has a lot more perks than just for baby making... When my temp is consistently lower than it should, it points to hyperthyroidism which means my thyroid Meds need to be adjusted.

Also, I do not always ovulate bc of this problem... So it's nice to know which cycles I shouldn't get my hopes up and which tww's I allow myself to drink wine. Not to mention the fact that my ob gyn likes to know if I'm not able to confirm an ovulation.... She preaches TCOYF. Anovulatoon many times is the cue that something isn't quite right. So far, TTC charting has caught a) hypothyroidism which lead to the finding of b) hashimotos an autoimmune disorder c) which required testing that subsequently caught thyroid cancer. Oh and d) massive cyst on one of my ovaries. Edit to add that all of these tests were ordered by my obgyn who did the labs bc my chart were so insane

I am so grateful for charting, I want to temp chart for the rest of my life (I say this now... Lol, I may change my mind). I LOVE LOVE LOVE knowing my body this well.

My hubs occasionally travels for work too. Charting helps bc sometimes he has control over when during That month or week he gets to be away from home.

Also, I wish I had that sex drive. I just don't.... Once a week is more than enough for me. I do It more than that just because we want a baby. judge me if you must on that one... I know it sounds bad.

I also do not think it's fun anymore. Was at first. After a year, i lost that excitement and just became bitter. The thought of never being called mommy scares me so much that I have a hard time enjoying anything.

Lulucooks · November 2015

I like knowing exactly what is happening.

Last month I ovulated earlier than normal, the days leading up to it we were on vacation, with 8.5 y/o DD so no chance for sexy time. I knew we had no real chance at pregnancy since we didn't have sex till we had been home a day. Which was a day after ovulation. Had I not been temping and using OPKs I would not have known that we had no chance, which would have made the BFN and/or AF more difficult to handle. Though after this long, it's not so bad.

This month I know we have a pretty decent shot, after we have 12 of these pretty decent shots I know we will need to look into medical interventions. We had 12 NTNP and I have no idea what happened those months after getting off BC. Did I ovulate every month? Did we even remotely come close to having sex during my fertile window? How many months did we not even have a shot? I just don't know. I don't like not knowing, that's the stressful thing to me

kcolly32 · November 2015

I chart and temp because my cycles have been long and irregular since coming off BCPs. I also wasn't sure if I even ovulated during my cycles. We've been NTNP for a while now without success so I figured our timing is off. I started temping to understand my cycle better but we've also increased the amount of BDing this past cycle too.

MrsDho11 · November 2015

Sorry for your loss.

First cycle I just did OPKs, and this cycle I've added in temping. I do it because I watched my sister deal with IF due to PCOS that caused her to never O for 5 years. At this point, if I can confirm that I am in fact ovulating, that is the much less stressful option than the fear that our journey will be as long and emotionally difficult as it was for her and my BIL.

MrsDho11 · November 2015

virginiaham said:

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like @MamaBish I temp/OPK to time sex and confirm ovulation. I have long cycles and thinking I was a week plus late the first chart-less go-round was awful. There is a thread from July called "Why do you love charting?" that I loved reading. I've thought about starting a new thread along the same lines since we have so many new ladies here. But without resurrecting the thread, it's got lots of great input to read through. So sorry, I don't know how to copy/paste the link on mobile, but you can search for it in the search bar.

I believe this is the link you're looking for:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12604514/why-do-you-love-charting

ETA: quoted the wrong thing, had to fix it!

benicode · November 2015

To validate ovulation, time sex best for conception, and better understand my body.

CoonMom · November 2015

I track to confirm if/when I ovulate. I want to have something to show a RE if it gets to that point. Sex is not fun at all for me, in fact most of the time it's painful. I push through because I want to be a mother more than anything in the world.

momstahp · November 2015

For many of the reasons others have mentioned: to confirm that I have/when I have ovulated, to know when is a reasonable time to test (LP length), and of course if I should test at all (if our timing with sex was good or not). Charting hasn't sucked the fun out of sex for me, and can be a relief instead of being in limbo during wonky cycles like "should I take an HPT? An OPK? Did I even ovulate? Wut?"

hunnybunny17 · November 2015

1faceinacrowd said:

Do people really sleep together that seldom that they completely miss almost an entire week of fertile days?

Yes.

I'm sorry for your loss. I have highly irregular cycles that are rarely the same length, ranging from 30-100+ days. I began tracking my BBT so I could know when in my long cycles I O. Then I came to realize I almost never O at all. Technically, I don't need to track now since I'm doing monitored cycles, but it makes me warm and fuzzy inside seeing on the chart that my body is doing what it should.
ETA if sexy time was up to my husband, we would do it only one or twice a month.

Malibu45 · November 2015

@1faceinacrowd ...if you don't mind me adding to your question? I'm just curious how many months most women continue to chart for ? I was chatting/temping for several months and learned my bodies patterns/cycles. I stopped because it got to be too much but I'm still not pregnant and sometimes I wonder if I am ovulating a completely different time then when I used to. Does that make sense ? Wondering if I should go back to temping but maybe just the few days leading up to ovulation and stop once I've confirmed ovulation.

Malibu45 · November 2015

Maybe it's just me but I found temping to cause me more stress because every morning before I even opened my eyes I was reminded that we are still TTC. It held me back from "not stressing" about it lol

Lulucooks · November 2015

@Malibu45. I personally won't stop till I'm KU or back on HBC.

But I can't deal with not knowing what's going on.

tinypikachu · November 2015

*loss mentioned*

DH and I started officially TTC back in late August. I'm a total nerd and control freak so I had been getting ready for months, I started reading What to Expect and lurked on here and a couple other boards for about four months before I started my account. I wasn't sure about temping so I didn't do it on my first month.

I've always thought I've known when I ovulate and was lucky enough to get this confirmed with an ultrasound when I was younger. On our first month, I ended up feeling my usual O symptoms 4 days late and we hadn't BD'd for three days before this. I knew in the back of my mind I O'd late but I wasn't charting or keeping a schedule and took the BFN really hard (I later realized AF was 4 days late because of late O date). So I started temping just so I could feel in control of my cycle. We BD'd EOD as soon as AF left and I got my telltale O symptoms early on CD 11 so we BD'd that day even though we weren't going to. We got lucky (there's only 20% chance to conceive each month) and got KU on the second cycle but ended up losing the baby a number of weeks later.

I will continue to chart for two reasons: 1) I love being in the loop and knowing exactly when I've O'd so I can have a "paper trail" that I can look back on. I always feel ovulation and after going to doctors about it (it can get quite painful for me) I've gotten confirmation that it happens on the day I get my symptoms but our bodies aren't perfect, you never know when you have an off cycle. 2) I want to see what my body does after a MC and if it will go back to my normal or if my cycles will change, as well as how soon after the MC I will O, even if we're NTNP for a couple of months.

Temping for me was stressful at first because I don't typically sleep more than 1-2hrs at a time but I found my temps were still very accurate and temping ended up being a way to not feel anxious.

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benicode · November 2015

Malibu45 said:

@1faceinacrowd ...if you don't mind me adding to your question? I'm just curious how many months most women continue to chart for ? I was chatting/temping for several months and learned my bodies patterns/cycles. I stopped because it got to be too much but I'm still not pregnant and sometimes I wonder if I am ovulating a completely different time then when I used to. Does that make sense ? Wondering if I should go back to temping but maybe just the few days leading up to ovulation and stop once I've confirmed ovulation.

It is very possible that you could be ovulating a completely different times in your cycle than you have previously. Temping won't be effective if you aren't consistent.

ETA

Malibu45 · November 2015

Thanks for the input ladies ! I'm going to go back to temping and hope it's my last time !

LadyMillil · November 2015

I like to know what's going on and when AF will arrive.

By tracking my cycles I was able to identify a problem that is likely preventing pregnancy. I was able to show my doctors that I am ovulating each month and could tell them that my problem started as soon as I O.

DH's schedule changes every week. Most week we are on opposite schedules. During those weeks it can be hard to have the opportunity for sex. Knowing when my FW is means that we can make sure we have sex - we are both more amenable to being woken up at strange hours when there is baby potential.

skilouise · November 2015

I'm exhausted just reading about the idea of having sex 4-6 times a week.

Basically, outside of the FW I pretty much live by the Liz Lemon rule of no weeknight sex. It's a good rule. People have work in the morning!

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Edited late to see if TB has stopped being a TW about posting gifs from mobile.

Edit again- nope. Seriously Bump, get your ish together.

PrimRoseMama · November 2015

Um, because life, kids, business trips & illness make sex 4-6 times a week an extraordinarily unrealistic goal for me.

Get down with yo-bad-self, but sex frequency like you describe tends to be abnormal for the average married couple.

Are you a newly wed? Because H & I had sex that much the first 2 years of marriage & then real-life trout-slapped us pretty good.

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MissAmeliaPond · November 2015

PocketFullofShells said:

This rubbed me the wrong way. I'll own it, but you're presumptions about others' sex lives is insensitive, IMHO.

To answer your question, yes. We do have sex seldomly and without temping I'd have no idea when my FW was. I don't find it exhausting at all; in fact, it has helped quiet the crazy that can sometimes accompany TCC.

But you know, good for your active sex life

I agree with @PocketFullofShells here. This post definitely rubbed me the wrong way, and I kind of feel like OP was going for the #humblebrag with the "we naturally have sex 4-6 times per week." I know tone is difficult to read through the computer screen, but that's how I took it. No offense, OP, just tossing in my two cents.

NamelessAria · November 2015

I temp, chart, OPK and all that for a couple of reasons.

It isn't uncommon for me to have anovulatory cycles and if I didn't ovulate I don't have to be tempted to symptom spot and all that nonsense.
I have very irregular cycles. Ya know like 28, 35, 48, 30, 57 days type of irregular. If I wasn't temping I'd have absolutely no idea when my period is late and consequently I'd have to assume every cycle will probably be 60 days for testing purposes. No thanks.
Unfortunately, although my sex drive is high similar to yours OP my DH's sex drive is considerably lower. He's 100% happy having sex 1-2 a month. We tried NTNP for awhile and I realized the chances of us getting our 1-2 times of sex each month timed correctly was just next to nothing. Especially since DH isn't ever really going to just want sex 2 days in a row or something. So now I can just wait to have sex till I know I'm likely to ovulate soon (thanks OPKs) and then at least we have 1 well timed day.
Having no control over this whole TTC process is absolutely maddening. I need to feel like I'm doing something useful to help make my dreams of having a baby come true. Not charting, temping, doing OPKs and such is far more stressful for me than doing all that. As someone else put it: it helps control all the crazy that comes with TTC.

Basically, if I didn't want a baby as much as I do I probably wouldn't bother. I'd just go back to NTNP and be fine with whatever happened. I do however desperately want a take-home rainbow baby.

gardeniagirlknits · November 2015

Edit to take out the arrow in my post, I didn't realize that would change how others say my post) technical troubles... Ugh.

@PrimRoseMama I think she mentioned in another post that she was getting married on Wednesday. Pre trout slap made Me laugh super hard

penelope4612 · November 2015

I temp because:

-I like to know when my FW is, to either HIO or avoid (if TTA)

-I like to know when my period is coming

-I like to know when I should take a pregnancy test (when TTC)

If you hang around, you'll notice that every 0.5 seconds there is a post asking "could I be pregnant? My period is a week late but I keep having negative pregnancy tests" and everyone says "you probably ovulated later than usual" but the poster has no idea because they weren't temping. If you don't want to temp, that's cool, but it's the only way to confirm ovulation. Please don't be that person.

Also, I agree with other posters, your sex life may change over time. I had way more energy for regular sex when I was in my 20s than I do in my 30s. The same is true for going out and drinking, staying up til 2am, etc. Life happens and what is true for you now may not always be true.

sldp123 · November 2015

AshVA said:

I'm exhausted just reading about the idea of having sex 4-6 times a week.

Basically, outside of the FW I pretty much live by the Liz Lemon rule of no weeknight sex. It's a good rule. People have work in the morning!

Edit: QBF
This made me laugh. It IS a good rule, hahaha. And yes, 4-6 times a week is so far out of the realm of possibility for us. If we did it 4-6 times in a month when not TTC that would be a good month, because life.

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