Why do YOU track your ovulation? Just curious... (possible TW - loss mentioned, maybe TMI?)

MissAmeliaPond

FloridaStanley said:

OP said: "To me, it's important to wake up 10 minutes early for a quickie on days when we both know we won't be able to later. " I have a relationship with my husband outside of sex, thank you very much. If I'm not going to see him all day I'm not waking up 10 minutes early for a quickie. I might wake up 10 minutes early and have coffee with him and talk. Our relationship isn't based on sex.

I completely agree with @FloridaStanley and @izza2, too. FWIW, the relationships I had when I was younger that revolved around sex went up in flames because the relationships themselves were vapid, insubstantial, and we lacked having vital things in common outside of physical attraction and sharing a few laughs. DH and I of course went through the "can't keep our hands off each other" phase as well, but life happened, we grew up a little more, and our relationship is still extremely strong - stronger than it's ever been, in fact - without having sex 4-6 times per week. 

ETA: more words

BostonBaby1

Also OP, your DH (congratulations on that BTW) is 27 years old. Hopefully for both of you, he will still be able to do it as much as he does now in 15 years.

* edited because I just remembered that these posts stay up forever.

Knottie42853364

Wow, sex 5-6 times per week? If only my 10 hour shifts at work and 2 hour commutes and full time grad school allowed for so many spontaneous/romantic/intimate encounters!

Satire aside, OP operates under the assumption that people who do not have sex "regularly" do not "want" to. What a presumptuous statement. And that's notwithstanding that libidos vary from woman to woman as much as labia.

I track my fertility (and my intercourse) because I like to be aware of my body, and should I become pregnant, I will have a very accurate date of conception (that is useful knowledge, by the by.)

skilouise

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KyCat

Knottie42853364 said:

Wow, sex 5-6 times per week? If only my 10 hour shifts at work and 2 hour commutes and full time grad school allowed for so many spontaneous/romantic/intimate encounters!

Satire aside, OP operates under the assumption that people who do not have sex "regularly" do not "want" to. What a presumptuous statement. And that's notwithstanding that libidos vary from woman to woman as much as labia.

I track my fertility (and my intercourse) because I like to be aware of my body, and should I become pregnant, I will have a very accurate date of conception (that is useful knowledge, by the by.)

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NamelessAria

Just wanted to say @kmcc14 your reply made me laugh so much. Thank you for that. I needed a good laugh today.

Lilybee8614

1faceinacrowd said:

We started TTC at the end of September, but other than knowing the first day of my LMP, I didn't track anything (no charting, temping, ovulation tests, etc.). I did have some ovulation symptoms that I noticed, and we did get a BFP on 10/24, but I experienced an early MC on 10/31 at 5 weeks. So, since it's hard to say what my cycle will do post-MC, I'm charting and using O tests, not to time intercourse, but simply so that I know about when ovulation took place if we do conceive this cycle. My thing is, we have intercourse regularly (4-6 times per week) and I figure we'll definitely do it within the right window as long as we keep that up, and this whole temping and charting and taking a daily ovulation test is all exhausting to me. I've also read a lot of articles about why people fail to conceive, and one of the main points I read was that people incorrectly time their intercourse. Do people really sleep together that seldom that they completely miss almost an entire week of fertile days? Am I a total weirdo for actually wanting to have regular intercourse, even on days/weeks when I'm probably not fertile? 

So, maybe it's none of my business but I'm curious - why do YOU track your bbt or take regular ovulation tests (or why do you choose not to)?  I will probably be opting not to after this cycle. It just kind of sucks the fun out of what should be a really fun activity, in my opinion. But I'd like to hear the opinions of some other members!

As much as I understand why some ladies got upset, I'll just skip over that and answer the question.

DH and I have been TTC since Feb 2015. Well, I thought that was the plan. I was using a fertility app that wasn't FF and I was following what they were telling me was my FW. But, fast forward to September 2015, when I discovered TB and FF, I realized that my timing had been off by a few days all this time. So I started temping to really get to know my body. I had first read about it back in February but I figured that it would be "too much work" to do something daily. So I didn't start then.

At this point, I kind of regret it, as we have had no BFP and we basically "wasted" all those months. But then again, we are more financially stable then we were 10 months ago, so I guess that's a plus. But still, it was still heartbreaking not too get a BFP all tat time. So now, this is only my second month temping, and although we had shitty timing this month since DH was sick. I'm still glad that I am temping since it has shown me that I am actually ovulating.

I also have a sister who had been TTC for 6 years, so I know the hardship that one can go through. So I figured to chart so I had information to give my doctor if the time ever came for that situation.

DH and I do BD on a regular basis, but that can also vary from week to week or month to month. If I look at my previous app, where I input every single time that we did BD. Its quite astonishing to see the little hearts randomly throughout the month. Of course, we tried to time it right with FW but like I mentioned before, this app was off, so we obviously missed it every single month. But that's besides the point. We try to BD during non FW as well, at least for us, it keeps it from being too much of a chore when FW does come around.

I understand that we all have different routines and different lifestyles, but we are all on here for one reason, to help each other out while we are TTC. No need to by so catty and bitter towards each other.

PrimRoseMama

Lilybee8614 said:

1faceinacrowd said:

I understand that we all have different routines and different lifestyles, but we are all on here for one reason, to help each other out while we are TTC. No need to by so catty and bitter towards each other.

Hold the bus...
A) Not everyone here is actively TTC. Some are benched for medical reasons, financial reasons or what have you. So no, we are not all here for the same reason.

It's not "catty" to point out how someone's choice of words is potentially hurtful or offensive. Catty implies baseless snark that came out of nowhere or irrational dislike. I assure you all the reasons we've explained to OP are legitimate, rational & anything but catty.

C) Bitter is a very loaded word. No one here is bitter that OP prefers sex as often as she does. No one here is insecure with their own sex life. I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that anyone is bitter? It's incredibly offensive & hurtful to lob that word in the direction of anyone that has been diagnosed with infertility.

D) Having a sibling that suffers from IF in no way means that you "get it". In fact, your insensitive & thoughtless use of the word bitter (or worse yet the potential that you knew exactly the reaction you would get using it here) demonstrates that you do not have a compassionate heart for anyone that's been trying for a year or longer

So please, @Lilybee8614 , explain to me how calling us names (catty & bitter) is at all helpful, kind or supportive of anyone at any point in their TTC experience? Seems to me that you might consider practicing what you preach before passing judgment on any of our attitudes.

bumptara

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