@virginiaunicorn11 I love the merlin suit and do find that it runs true to size. It does shrink a bit if dried, even on low. You stop using the suit once baby is able to roll with it on. I third what pp said about looking for a used one to try out before shelling out 40 bucks.
Thanks, ladies! @mellymar your point about rolling was the most convincing part. Wish I'd tried it a month or two ago when y'all told me to!!! Will keep an eye out for a second hand one, but if he shouldn't roll...
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does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
That wouldn't work for me. My dude pees a lot. He doesn't mind a wet diaper, either, but it still wouldn't work. I can get away with changing him right before we leave for bowling and not again until we get home, but the diaper is SO heavy. Otherwise yeah, pretty much every other hour. Or even hourly sometimes. I'm going to have to continue to use Luvs overnight, cause SO MUCH PEE
I wouldn't think changing him 3 times a day would be good for his skin. Sitting in wet pee for hours is acidic on their skin and will eventually cause breakdown and diaper rashes. Just because he doesn't mind it doesn't mean he should stay in it! Just my two cents. I change mine anytime he's wet or poopy so About 7-8 times a day at least. I get diapers delivered every 3 weeks so it's not a big deal.
does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
3 A DAY? This is concerning, he's either not eating enough or he's sitting in wet diapers ... I would discuss this with your peds
does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
3 A DAY? This is concerning, he's either not eating enough or he's sitting in wet diapers ... I would discuss this with your peds
Is it a cost issue? i really can't imagine letting mine sit in a wet diaper for hours.
I have this problem with the person who watches lo on Friday. She doesn't change her unless it's super full. I on the other hand change her about every 2 hrs on average. It had caused a rash once or twice, which made me feel bad for her. But getting back to the original question my lo does only poop maybe twice a week and once she works up one usually an hr later another one follows.
does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
3 A DAY? This is concerning, he's either not eating enough or he's sitting in wet diapers ... I would discuss this with your peds
We normally feed baby girl 3 ounces of pumped breastmilk every three hours during the day but in the last week we increased to 4 ounces because the 3 wasnt satisfying her anymore. My local WIC office told me that's way too much and that I should be matching the ounces to her age. For example, 1 ounce for a one-month-old, 2 ounces for two-month-old, and so on. They said that although she'll take whatever I give her, I may be causing weight issues for her later on down the road. However at her last visit to the pediatrician I told them we were doing 3 ounces every three hours and they said that was perfect. I'm frustrated and not sure who to believe. My little girl will be 3 months on Monday. Do you all remember how much you were feeding your LOs at that age?
ETA: The pediatrician said the 3 ounces every three hours was perfect when she was two months old.
@messymolly08 I've always read that a baby won't overfeed itself. And, from what I've seen with my daughter, she clearly stops when she's no longer interested. That being said, 4oz is not an abnormal amount for a 3 months old! Every baby is different, but in my opinion it's really silly for them to have acted like that's a crazy amount.
@messymolly08 how about you listen to your baby, your the one who knows her best not the wic office people or the pediatrician. If your baby is still giving you hunger cues feed her the extra once.
@swaugh14 she will absolutely stop feeding when she's had enough. For example tonight at her last feeding I offered her 4 ounces and she only took 3. I feel like they are out of touch every time I go there but then again I'm a FTM so I can't turn my nose up at everything.
@dalinhardt I know, you're right. The confidence part of motherhood is something I'm still working on. I'm slowly locking it down!
That sounds crazy @messymolly08 you feed your baby whatever it needs. My 4 month old has been eating 4 ounces every 3 hours since 2 months. I had to increase it to 5 ounces this past week. A breastfed baby shouldn't eat more than he needs so if that's what your LO needs than feed your LO. Listen to your pediatrician and you baby, not WIC on this one.
@messymolly08 when my baby was less than a month old I was giving him 2oz bottles of formula. So WIC doesn't know what the hell they are talking about. If WIC continues to five you grief, ask your pedi to put something in writing for you.
Our pedi said to take their weight and divide by 2. So if your babe is 12 lbs their stomach can fit roughly 6 ounces at a feed. That seems to work for us.
@messymolly08 At 3 months, my LO was eating 4 ounces every 3-4 hours. At 4 months, she eats 5-6 ounces each feed and at night, she typically eats 5 ounces at 4:30 and then eats 7 ounces between 6 and 6:30. That's 12 ounces in less than 3 hours. She's in the 60% for weight and our ped is perfectly happy.
We use the same estimate as @hoodoll82. She's a little over 14 lb, so a 7 ounce bottle isn't a problem.
@messymolly08 At 3 months, my LO was eating 4 ounces every 3-4 hours. At 4 months, she eats 5-6 ounces each feed and at night, she typically eats 5 ounces at 4:30 and then eats 7 ounces between 6 and 6:30. That's 12 ounces in less than 3 hours. She's in the 60% for weight and our ped is perfectly happy.
We use the same estimate as @hoodoll82. She's a little over 14 lb, so a 7 ounce bottle isn't a problem.
Perfect example of my mommy brain-- Lexie's in the 50th percentile! I could've used that as ammo when they started in on me. And to soothe my own worries. Geez
@messymolly08, generally speaking I'd be more apt to listen to a doctor vs. a random person (and I know ironically I'm also a random person dishing out an opinion ), assuming the doctor made sense. In addition to what others have already said, if you're worried about giving your LO more than they need (feeding to satisfaction vs. very full), maybe try paced bottle feeding (if you aren't currently). It helps your LO control the intake a bit more.
does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
3 A DAY? This is concerning, he's either not eating enough or he's sitting in wet diapers ... I would discuss this with your peds
he is sitting in a wet diaper, he just doesn't mind it and he is definitely eating enough, he's almost 20 lbs and will be 4 months tomorrow. we dont have problems with leaks or diapers being too heavy. if hes peed a little more than usual ill change him an extra time that day, but other than that hes not bothered, we've never had a rash.
@messymolly08 At 2-3 months my baby ate 6 ounces every 3 hours, he eats 4-5 now at 5 months. He's been 95%+ in weight/height since 2 months old.. He's 20 pounds now and eats less than he did at 3... That being said, pps are right in that you have to watch your baby they will let you know what they need in that moment in time. Don't listen to statistics and literature, be in tune to your baby
does anyone else's LO have a poop day? mine will go days without a dirty diaper, then all of a sudden goes through 3 within 6 hours. its crazy. especially because I usually only change him 3 times a day total. X_X
3 A DAY? This is concerning, he's either not eating enough or he's sitting in wet diapers ... I would discuss this with your peds
he is sitting in a wet diaper, he just doesn't mind it and he is definitely eating enough, he's almost 20 lbs and will be 4 months tomorrow. we dont have problems with leaks or diapers being too heavy. if hes peed a little more than usual ill change him an extra time that day, but other than that hes not bothered, we've never had a rash.
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Exactly, he should not be sitting in a wet diaper.. How do you know he doesn't mind it does he tell you?.. It's common sense, change your baby please
^^Everyone else is probably in bed so it looks like I'm up. I can understand not changing a diaper that hardly has any pee in it, current diapers are so absorbent that they can handle multiple pees. Many of us our leaving our LO's in the same diaper for long periods overnight. But if you are leaving him in a heavy wet diaper day and night that is a lot skin contact with wet and acidic urine. I don't think just 3 diapers is the best idea long term. Even if he isn't upset by it and doesn't have rashes.
If its a resource issue there are places you can reach out to that might be able to help you with some additional diapers. If its environmental concerns you could use cloth.
Diaper changes are also a great chances for babies to get some close one on one contact with mom and dad. I am sure you already interact with him a lot but its just one more chance too sing and talk and work on language development and social interaction. My big guy (we have the two huge June15 boys I think), also loves the naked time to kick and move. The diaper adds to his weight weighing him down!
So I understand why you stuck with the thee changes since he seems okay with it but I think there are many compelling reasons to add a few more. Please don't take this as a criticism, your LO certainly looks happy and healthy and you are providing him with great nutrition. I just wanted to share the idea of diaper changes as something more. Magda Gerber (elderly baby guru) talks about them as a time to build trust with infants. I was introduced to this our cities early childhood family education and it really stuck with me. @JessHeppell
It makes me sad to think about not changing my little guy when he is wet..
I'm not sure why sometimes we don't apply the same line of thinking in all situations..
-If we soiled ourselves... Would we stay in it if we could change? -If pets soil the carpet or indoors... Would we leave it until additional accidents occurred? -If you were taking care of an older adult with incontinence protection would you leave them soiled for hours?
If we answered no to these why would we not change our baby?
I can only imagine how uncomfortable I would be if I had to sit in my pee for several hours - even though I could get through it I wouldn't enjoy it and it would likely bother me on several levels... Who's to say a baby doesn't feel the same...
I won't make any assumptions about why you might choose to change him infrequently (money, ignorance etc) but I hope that this discussion might encourage at least a few more changes a day. As a rule we change our LO at LEAST at every feeding this works out to at least 6-8 times a day.
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Also regarding eating LO was 2.5/3 ounces at 3 days old before we left the hospital. I had a crusty nurse tell me he shouldn't be fed that much but I ignored her advice. He didn't spit up any more than usual being fed that amount and he wasn't satiated until drinking that much (would still cry like he hadn't been fed yet).
I believe he started regularly taking 4oz around 1.5/2months and this seems to be enough per feeding for him, however sometimes he will take another 4 ounces only an hour later as he gets ready to go to sleep for the night.
TL DR:
Re diapers: Put yourself in your babies shoes if it's not okay for you it's not okay with them... don't risk neglect issues, or skin/health issues.
Re food: Listen to your baby, you and your baby know him/her the best.
Eta: Realized I was being a bit of a presumptuous ass in the first post.. and that's unfair. We are in flame free so I'll try stay true to that... Just the poor little guy I'm sure it doesn't seem to bother him but can you really know at this point? Maybe it doesn't bug him enough to make him cry but I'm sure he'd prefer to be clean and dry.
Not much more to add but I will say that with my LO's cloth diapers they get really cold when wet and they haven't been changed. I have a very non fussy baby who won't cry when wet but I can't believe that he is overly happy in a heavy, cold wet diaper. I don't want to wait until he's freaking out to make assumptions on his needs
I think I change LO's diaper too often... He just loves to be nekkid!! It makes me happy.
I know we've talked a lot about alcohol on these threads but I have this irrational fear of getting drunk now that LO is in the picture. Do you ladies take care of LO while drunk? I'm scared I'm going to drop him or something! Forever sober.
@rrcameron21 I haven't been drunk since baby. And the most I had at once is 2 1/2 drinks which made me feel tipsy. I made dh watch her for a few hrs that night. So I understand your fear. My question is for ep mama's have any of your supplies increased due a recent growth spurt? My boobs had been regulating themselves the past 3 weeks since starting work. But this week I went to producing about 10 oz more a day and feeling engorged most of the time. No one seems to be doing the feeding l/o thread this month. So didn't know where this goes.
A last point on diapers - the company's website will provide a minimum number of diapers that babies should be going through. For Pampers, it's 6-7. I thought that was really low but I think I might just have a heavy peer with my LO.
@JessHeppell even if LO doesn't seem to mind, I'd recommend checking with the company and at least using their minimum recommended amount.
@rrcameron21 I'm EBF so haven't been drunk in a million years, but I used to rage it. Rather irresponsibly. But no, taking care of the baby while drunk is not something DH and I do. (I'm mentioning my old habits because I feel I am way more tolerant of alcohol use in my life than many other people are.)
Flame-free anecdote: I once asked DH to hold the baby in bed, early morning, after a long night of tequila drinking (him, not me). Neither of us realized he was still drunk. He sat LO up, and then laughed when LO toppled over. I grabbed the baby, and even though no harm no foul, it was a great lesson for us. Drunks have terrible judgment. DH hasn't been drunk since then (2 months ago).
@rrcameron21 I have also had some drinks but have not gotten drunk since LO. I did get a smidge tipsy once or twice but each time DH was here and wasn't as bad as me. Even tho, to put it into perspective, I felt pretty much right as rain within the hour. I honestly wouldn't even call it a proper tipsy. Just was at that point where I began to feel a bit of change. I'm also fairly tolerant of alcohol use, but I'm not knocking back shots or anything
@rrcameron21 last night was the most I've drank since LO and I only had 2 glasses of wine (the second was a very full glass though). I then drank a water and felt okay by the time we got home. So, yes, it makes me nervous. I get really bad hang overs too, and that makes me even more nervous.
I think I change LO's diaper too often... He just loves to be nekkid!! It makes me happy.
I know we've talked a lot about alcohol on these threads but I have this irrational fear of getting drunk now that LO is in the picture. Do you ladies take care of LO while drunk? I'm scared I'm going to drop him or something! Forever sober.
No when I decide I want to drink again (we formula feed) then I'll make sure LO isn't around. Half is a selfish thing of if I'm going to get drunk I want to be sleeping in and be hungover in peace the other is I don't feel responsible looking after a baby when I'm drunk. I'd worry I'll bring her into our bed and roll on her or something. growing up I never saw my parents drunk, and as an adult I think I've seen them drunk once or twice. I am wanting the same for LO.
With the nappy thing, change him. It would of been horrible to sit in a maternity pad for 8 hours at a time. Teach him that he should mind being unclean like that.
@rrcameron21 If we're drinking at home, one of gets to indulge, the other gets 1-2 drinks all night and is on parent duty. The only time we get to drink together is when the grandparents are around and we don't have to be responsible. That hasn't actually happened since LO because of breastfeeding when they're little. She's big enough now and takes bottles so the next time we get the opportunity, we'll take it.
Yeah honestly I'm more afraid of a really bad hangover. That would bring on one my headaches full force and them to take care of a baby... I would die.
Yeah honestly I'm more afraid of a really bad hangover. That would bring on one my headaches full force and them to take care of a baby... I would die.
This. I got one of the worst migraines after having two glasses of wine last week. Screaming babies and throbbing headaches are torture. Now I'm afraid to drink again. So not worth it.
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but if we are going somewhere and hes going to be in the carrier ill change him before we leave then around 3pm or so (and before bedtime again)
But getting back to the original question my lo does only poop maybe twice a week and once she works up one usually an hr later another one follows.
ETA: The pediatrician said the 3 ounces every three hours was perfect when she was two months old.
@dalinhardt I know, you're right. The confidence part of motherhood is something I'm still working on. I'm slowly locking it down!
We use the same estimate as @hoodoll82. She's a little over 14 lb, so a 7 ounce bottle isn't a problem.
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If its a resource issue there are places you can reach out to that might be able to help you with some additional diapers. If its environmental concerns you could use cloth.
Diaper changes are also a great chances for babies to get some close one on one contact with mom and dad. I am sure you already interact with him a lot but its just one more chance too sing and talk and work on language development and social interaction. My big guy (we have the two huge June15 boys I think), also loves the naked time to kick and move. The diaper adds to his weight weighing him down!
So I understand why you stuck with the thee changes since he seems okay with it but I think there are many compelling reasons to add a few more. Please don't take this as a criticism, your LO certainly looks happy and healthy and you are providing him with great nutrition. I just wanted to share the idea of diaper changes as something more. Magda Gerber (elderly baby guru) talks about them as a time to build trust with infants. I was introduced to this our cities early childhood family education and it really stuck with me. @JessHeppell
I'm not sure why sometimes we don't apply the same line of thinking in all situations..
-If we soiled ourselves... Would we stay in it if we could change?
-If pets soil the carpet or indoors... Would we leave it until additional accidents occurred?
-If you were taking care of an older adult with incontinence protection would you leave them soiled for hours?
If we answered no to these why would we not change our baby?
I can only imagine how uncomfortable I would be if I had to sit in my pee for several hours - even though I could get through it I wouldn't enjoy it and it would likely bother me on several levels... Who's to say a baby doesn't feel the same...
I won't make any assumptions about why you might choose to change him infrequently (money, ignorance etc) but I hope that this discussion might encourage at least a few more changes a day. As a rule we change our LO at LEAST at every feeding this works out to at least 6-8 times a day.
--
Also regarding eating LO was 2.5/3 ounces at 3 days old before we left
the hospital. I had a crusty nurse tell me he shouldn't be fed that much but I ignored her advice. He didn't spit up any more than usual being fed that amount and he wasn't satiated until drinking that much (would still cry like he hadn't been fed yet).
I believe he started regularly taking 4oz around 1.5/2months and this seems to be enough per feeding for him, however sometimes he will take another 4 ounces only an hour later as he gets ready to go to sleep for the night.
TL DR:
Re diapers: Put yourself in your babies shoes if it's not okay for you it's not okay with them... don't risk neglect issues, or skin/health issues.
Re food: Listen to your baby, you and your baby know him/her the best.
Eta: Realized I was being a bit of a presumptuous ass in the first post.. and that's unfair. We are in flame free so I'll try stay true to that... Just the poor little guy I'm sure it doesn't seem to bother him but can you really know at this point? Maybe it doesn't bug him enough to make him cry but I'm sure he'd prefer to be clean and dry.
I know we've talked a lot about alcohol on these threads but I have this irrational fear of getting drunk now that LO is in the picture. Do you ladies take care of LO while drunk? I'm scared I'm going to drop him or something! Forever sober.
My question is for ep mama's have any of your supplies increased due a recent growth spurt? My boobs had been regulating themselves the past 3 weeks since starting work. But this week I went to producing about 10 oz more a day and feeling engorged most of the time.
No one seems to be doing the feeding l/o thread this month. So didn't know where this goes.
@JessHeppell even if LO doesn't seem to mind, I'd recommend checking with the company and at least using their minimum recommended amount.
@rrcameron21 I'm EBF so haven't been drunk in a million years, but I used to rage it. Rather irresponsibly. But no, taking care of the baby while drunk is not something DH and I do. (I'm mentioning my old habits because I feel I am way more tolerant of alcohol use in my life than many other people are.)
Flame-free anecdote:
I once asked DH to hold the baby in bed, early morning, after a long night of tequila drinking (him, not me). Neither of us realized he was still drunk. He sat LO up, and then laughed when LO toppled over. I grabbed the baby, and even though no harm no foul, it was a great lesson for us. Drunks have terrible judgment. DH hasn't been drunk since then (2 months ago).
With the nappy thing, change him. It would of been horrible to sit in a maternity pad for 8 hours at a time. Teach him that he should mind being unclean like that.