@kalanieileen I don't really want to start one... Just throwing the idea out there... Although it may be a moot point because as @NachosAndPeaches pointed out, most people don't use the search bar and would just make one anyway.
Also Nachos, I understand where you're coming from, I really do, but it comes across as super harsh when anytime someone posts something they get attacked. It probably isn't your intention to be that way, but it's coming across to a lot of people like "on Wednesdays we wear pink" and "you can't sit with us" and it's not just you doing it. I use the mobile app as well, so it annoys me from time to time, but it's just part of the deal.
How was your previous birth month board different? I hop back and forth between this one and March, and the March board has sooo much more participation on it! No one gets attacked for "annoying boards" either.
It was before the bump imploded and they didn't moderate everything. Lol! But I definitely am starting to feel close to a lot of the regs on here. It just takes some time. Hence the reason i have no interest in the fb group until later.
Also OP, I have nothing against you and don't even mind if people on this board want to play with these tests and discuss them. It's just that usually such posts with no other participation or introduction mean they are drive bys and that gets annoying. Everyone is welcome to participate, but think of it as a big social group. It's awkward if a stranger suddenly approaches and asks a random non important question without an introduction or participation in other conversations. It's social etiquette and makes a difference. Now if a new user came in and introduced ten selves and then asked a more relevant question warranting support etc, thats totally different.
And yes it may seem like "on Wednesdays we wear pink" but in several years these traditions have stayed with the bump. On Wednesdays we do HDBD, on Thursdays we do UO, on Fridays we do FFFC. It's just how it's done. It's not done to exclude anybody but when someone doesn't lurk first and understand the culture and these general guidelines, it's annoying!
Very well written! I agree with everything you've said here.
As a continuation: I feel like I've gotten to "know" NachosAndPeaches over the past few weeks because she has posted quite a bit, and while I don't agree with everything she has said, I very much value her opinions and look forward to her point of view.
What do you mean you don't agree with everything I say? No longer friends.
Just kidding, creepy internet stranger hugs bc that was really sweet!!!! (I wanna do the heart in eyes smiley face emoji but mobile bumping deletes my emojis)
BumpAdmins are going to close this thread for its "unwelcoming tones" in 3.....2....1......
See that makes me kind of sad! But we know it's gonna happen. But I feel like my explanation comparing it to a true social situation made a lot of sense. Everyone's welcome, just say hello and take a part of the conversation before you randomly change the subject, amiright?
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
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@NachosAndPeaches everything you said is exactly how I feel about the sudden influx of new people here. Like, if you're going to stay and participate, that's awesome! The more the merrier. But the numerous drive-byes take away from the overall tone and support of the board. I'm kind of a stubborn asshole and will probably never 100% agree with anyone, I value the advice and perspective of the women here who I feel as though I've come to know. When I had a loss, the women on the February BMB were hugely supportive. But it's difficult to really build a community when constant drive-byes are derailing conversation.
April 2016 is actually quite tame compared to March 2016, haha. posts like this get eaten alive over there. it's quite entertaining, to be honest.
Shiiiit you're right! I just lurked over there and wished I had joined their snark gif party. Ima have to push this baby out of me a month sooner so I can join them lmao jk jk.
April 2016 is actually quite tame compared to March 2016, haha. posts like this get eaten alive over there. it's quite entertaining, to be honest.
Shiiiit you're right! I just lurked over there and wished I had joined their snark gif party. Ima have to push this baby out of me a month sooner so I can join them lmao jk jk.
hahah, yeah it's fun being apart of the March BMB we certainly arent afraid to tell it how it is!
There are so many posts about peeing on things that if people would take 2 seconds to type " baking soda"( or whatever else they are into peeing on ) in the search bar under any board you will get a ton of results and your answer. Why do people feel the need to start a new discussion on this topic every few days????
Re: Urine and baking soda test?
@NachosAndPeaches everything you said is exactly how I feel about the sudden influx of new people here. Like, if you're going to stay and participate, that's awesome! The more the merrier. But the numerous drive-byes take away from the overall tone and support of the board. I'm kind of a stubborn asshole and will probably never 100% agree with anyone, I value the advice and perspective of the women here who I feel as though I've come to know. When I had a loss, the women on the February BMB were hugely supportive. But it's difficult to really build a community when constant drive-byes are derailing conversation.
Too much of this going on.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016