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Re: Fat baby

  • mollypuss1mollypuss1 member
    edited October 2015
    kqualls5 said:

    Sarcasm101 said:


    kqualls5 said:

    Can you all go away now? I get it. I'm terrible. My son is going to have a horrible life because mommy and daddy are going to tell him to man up if he cries over dumb things as a preteen and won't let him have tea parties or wear dresses. Now. How the hell do you close these boards from further commenting.



    Nice try. You cant tell anyone how to post and you cant close this thread.

    Maybe, instead of being so defensive, you should take a few days and really think about what all of these posters are saying. They might have some really valid points, that could help build or save your relationship with your son.

    I just figured since it's my thread originally I could close it. My bad. This community is hilarious. You're all loving and nurturing and "here to help" until someone has differing views. I don't worry about my relationship with my son. For all of my siblings and relatives and friends sons all turned out to be boyish boys (who love their parents) because of HOW THEY WERE RAISED.



    Quote fail....

    What is your definition of 'boyish'?
    If your son is gay but 'boyish' is this still ok to you? I'm confused on what 'boyish' means to you? That he doesn't play with tea sets? That he doesn't show emotions? That he's straight? What is it?
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  • kyraaDkyraaD member
    this is so sexist i cant even handle it. you realize men are human too, yes? they feel emotions just as women do, yet they are expected to "man up".
    i sure hope he turns out to be the "man" you're expecting him to be, for his sake. so heartbreaking.
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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member
    Kiek said:
    My heart hurts for little boys that are not allowed to feel and express deep emotions. What is wrong with a man having a tender sensitive heart? I was raised by one of those tender hearted men. He raised his kids to have a love for art and music, taught us to garden, loved to decorate and encouraged his kids to read and love history. he was such a wonderful dad and he raised successful children. I have a family, my sister graduated college and works full time in her field of study, my brother is in the air force and my other brother is in college. Nobody was damaged by having a sensitive dad. We benefited from being raised by someone who was himself and didn't apologize for it. So I don't appreciate when parents say they will make sure their kids fit their stereotypical gender roles. It isn't fair to the kid or the people those kid's lives will touch as they grow.

    Unfortunately I think that if the OP's son did all those things you described, it would be frowned upon and that's a shame. I'm not sure where OP lives but it's quite clear the things you listed about your dad are NOT things OP or her community/friends/family/peers would accept. It's too bad really but that's what she sees as normal and it blows me away because that's nothing like the beliefs of the area I live in and the people I know. So completely different.
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    All of you ladies that say you are heartbroken for my unborn child: chill with the melodrama.
    There's nothing wrong with male chefs. Holy shit.
    Alright, since everyone keeps asking, I would have a hard time with my son being gay. We'd accept it, and love him regardless, but it'd be rough considering we both come from Christian homes. We're taught to love the sinner and hate the sin though, so it wouldn't make me love my baby boy any less.
    "Man up" is something I'm told as a girl. It just means stop acting like a little baby. I tell my brother to man up when he makes a football play and hurts his hand and makes that "I just got shot" face. I tell my DH to man up when the dog pukes and he doesn't want to clean it up. Yes I know "acting like a girl" has a negative connotation, and I know I used it negatively, sorry feminists (not being sarcastic, seriously, sorry). I won't be forcing things my child hates down his throat after he tries them and hates them, but he will try them, and I see no harm in that. MEN ARE ALLOWED TO SHOW EMOTION. I never said they weren't. I said if he's being a girl (sorry I'll change it), if he's being a baby about something and he's not a baby, I'm going to call him out on it. Not rudely, but I'll ask him if he's 2 and if he's not 2 then why is he acting like it. I like when my DH cries over the baby kicking for the first time, or when my dad has those moments of emotionally telling all of us kids how much he loves and misses us. My father is a great balance of a man. He's the manliest person I've ever met. He hunts and he fishes and he works on trucks and he knows everything you need to know about them. But he'll do dinner (always something on the BBQ), bring my mom flowers, and watch One Tree Hill with me. I am not saying men showing emotions is bad. I am saying we will raise our son to like boy things, and teach our children not to be sensitive about everything. Even when we have a girl.
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    Guys. I grew up doing "boyish" things. I hunt and bail hay and fish and loved the dirt and know how to change my own whatever needs changed on a car. I was also a cheerleader and then a cheerleading coach and do prom & wedding makeup. I am not saying boys can't cook and girls can't bait a damn hook. Yes I stirred the pot. Some of you modest Molly's pissed me the fuck off and I started being more extreme than I should have been. It's just ridiculous how butt hurt internet strangers can get. And I'm still pissed some of you women said you were heartbroken for my son. You know nothing about this pregnancy and how much it was wanted and how many issues we've had during the pregnancy and how the health of our little one (and myself recently) is #1 priority. I want my son to enjoy gender norm things. I don't see that as a crime. I just don't.
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    Every overly sensitive adult I know has over-nurturing parents. Not exaggerating. Every single one of them. I'm not saying I won't be a nurturing mom. I'll probably be really annoying at first with all my affection and protection. But I don't think it's normal for a 15 year old boy to cry because he fell and skinned his knee up at soccer practice. And yes I know that our children are individuals, but WE ARE THEIR PARENTS AND THEIR ATTITUDES REFLECT OUR PARENTING and argue with me all you want, I'll always believe that.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

    This thread frustrates me and saddens me for the OP's son. This little boy has such weight on him already. Heaven forbid if he is overweight, effeminate and not "gender normal".


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  • kalanieileenkalanieileen member
    This thread is literally going nowhere.
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  • mamacastromamacastro member
    kqualls5 said:

    All of you ladies that say you are heartbroken for my unborn child: chill with the melodrama.
    There's nothing wrong with male chefs. Holy shit.
    Alright, since everyone keeps asking, I would have a hard time with my son being gay. We'd accept it, and love him regardless, but it'd be rough considering we both come from Christian homes. We're taught to love the sinner and hate the sin though, so it wouldn't make me love my baby boy any less.
    "Man up" is something I'm told as a girl. It just means stop acting like a little baby. I tell my brother to man up when he makes a football play and hurts his hand and makes that "I just got shot" face. I tell my DH to man up when the dog pukes and he doesn't want to clean it up. Yes I know "acting like a girl" has a negative connotation, and I know I used it negatively, sorry feminists (not being sarcastic, seriously, sorry). I won't be forcing things my child hates down his throat after he tries them and hates them, but he will try them, and I see no harm in that. MEN ARE ALLOWED TO SHOW EMOTION. I never said they weren't. I said if he's being a girl (sorry I'll change it), if he's being a baby about something and he's not a baby, I'm going to call him out on it. Not rudely, but I'll ask him if he's 2 and if he's not 2 then why is he acting like it. I like when my DH cries over the baby kicking for the first time, or when my dad has those moments of emotionally telling all of us kids how much he loves and misses us. My father is a great balance of a man. He's the manliest person I've ever met. He hunts and he fishes and he works on trucks and he knows everything you need to know about them. But he'll do dinner (always something on the BBQ), bring my mom flowers, and watch One Tree Hill with me. I am not saying men showing emotions is bad. I am saying we will raise our son to like boy things, and teach our children not to be sensitive about everything. Even when we have a girl.

    So much ignorance here it makes me cringe. As a Psychology major and having received a degree in Psychology i'm so irritated by the damage you will cause in your children's future. This way of thinking is harmful and dangerous and can set these poor children up for so much pent up anger/anxiety/depression. I wish you could just know how harmful this is
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    edited October 2015
    mamacastro said:

    kqualls5 said:

    All of you ladies that say you are heartbroken for my unborn child: chill with the melodrama.
    There's nothing wrong with male chefs. Holy shit.
    Alright, since everyone keeps asking, I would have a hard time with my son being gay. We'd accept it, and love him regardless, but it'd be rough considering we both come from Christian homes. We're taught to love the sinner and hate the sin though, so it wouldn't make me love my baby boy any less.
    "Man up" is something I'm told as a girl. It just means stop acting like a little baby. I tell my brother to man up when he makes a football play and hurts his hand and makes that "I just got shot" face. I tell my DH to man up when the dog pukes and he doesn't want to clean it up. Yes I know "acting like a girl" has a negative connotation, and I know I used it negatively, sorry feminists (not being sarcastic, seriously, sorry). I won't be forcing things my child hates down his throat after he tries them and hates them, but he will try them, and I see no harm in that. MEN ARE ALLOWED TO SHOW EMOTION. I never said they weren't. I said if he's being a girl (sorry I'll change it), if he's being a baby about something and he's not a baby, I'm going to call him out on it. Not rudely, but I'll ask him if he's 2 and if he's not 2 then why is he acting like it. I like when my DH cries over the baby kicking for the first time, or when my dad has those moments of emotionally telling all of us kids how much he loves and misses us. My father is a great balance of a man. He's the manliest person I've ever met. He hunts and he fishes and he works on trucks and he knows everything you need to know about them. But he'll do dinner (always something on the BBQ), bring my mom flowers, and watch One Tree Hill with me. I am not saying men showing emotions is bad. I am saying we will raise our son to like boy things, and teach our children not to be sensitive about everything. Even when we have a girl.

    So much ignorance here it makes me cringe. As a Psychology major and having received a degree in Psychology i'm so irritated by the damage you will cause in your children's future. This way of thinking is harmful and dangerous and can set these poor children up for so much pent up anger/anxiety/depression. I wish you could just know how harmful this is
    How is it ignorant and dangerous to have my son participate in stereotypical male things? I'll agree I've been a little asshole in above posts. But I'm pretty sure the one you just decided to say is ignorant and tell me I'm going to fuck my child up by parenting how I am is the least ignorant thing I've posted on here. I know so many men raised this way and not one of them will refer to their childhood as damaging or dangerous.
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