Ok it went pretty much as expected. I find it ironic that we sell our company as a "women-owned, employee-focused business" but do not offer any kind of paid leave, but I didn't expect there to be paid leave so no huge deal there.
I don't have to exhaust my PTO before taking FMLA and HR lady doesn't believe I have to before STD either, so that's good.
I can't take days that I have not yet accrued, but I will be rolling over ~2 weeks and will accrue about a week before that anyway (can only carry 3.5 weeks at a time) so again, no big deal. I do still accrue PTO while I am out.
She is going to work with me on a partial work-from-home proposition to my bosses and is confident that it shouldn't be a big deal so that is a (hopefully) huge win for me as people at my company traditionally don't work from home - they are very old school.
She has no idea how my benefits are paid or by whom during leave and will follow up.
I feel like she didn't know much but she is new-ish and I am the first gal to be pregnant here in over a year. Our last HR "rep" is actually our office manager who is just awful to deal with so I guess I got the better end of that even with her not having all the answers to my questions.
Thanking my lucky stars I had the foresight to buy STD insurance when I started here a year ago as I know there is a significant waiting period before you can use it. Overall it's a pretty dismal policy, but better than some so I won't complain too much. Also thankful my company is big enough to qualify for FMLA (just by the new hairs I found on my chinny chin chin though).
ETA: @labacker that is a fantastic idea. If working from home a couple days a week doesn't pan out I am definitely going to inquire about doing something like this.
also ETA: sorry for the dear diary post. I have been stressing about this for a while now, especially about how she would react to my working form home proposition and just needed to both vent and let a sigh of relief out at the same time!
The thread on "natural birth" makes me feel so unprepared. I have no birth plan or even have any ideas of where to begin. :-S
I mean , this maybe should be saved for UO, but I feel like having an extensive birth plan is like asking God/the fates / whatever to throw you a curveball ... I think having preferences and general outlines can help when saying " ok I have hit this thresh hold this is what I want to do" but babies are going to do what babies are going to do. I knew a girl that planned her birthing experience to the minute and it didn't end up anything like what she spent hours upon hours planning for.
I think the problematic word here is "Plan", and I guess maybe it causes some women to believe that they actually get to plan out every aspect of labor. I think they should call them Labor Preferences Lists or something. Or Intervention Preferences list.
I was very aware of the unpredictable nature of birth, even going into my first, which I think is what led me to avoid things like Hypnobirthing and the Bradley Method. I'd had friends who had really put their faith in one of those, and both of them felt like the method failed them. My friend who tried Hypnobirthing felt particularly betrayed by the method, because I guess she really didn't expect the "surges" or contractions to feel painful. The fact that they DID feel painful to her threw her off entirely, and she ended up with what she refers to as a traumatic birth.
I think that learning about all of he different methods and techniques is a good idea, but to go into labor with flexibility and a toolbox full of options that you can use under different circumstances, to cope with the pain. And of course, despite our best planning and preparations, sometimes baby just doesn't cooperate. I know someone whose baby flipped breech in the week leading up to labor. Nothing they did got that baby to flip back, and she wasn't so overly committed to "natural" labor to insist on trying a vaginal breech birth.
If baby's having heart decelerations, obviously that's unsafe and could lead to stillbirth, so at that point all of your techniques and preferences go out the window. However, good birth planning involves looking at all possibilities, including C-Section, and informing yourself about the choices you might have under different scenarios.
The thread on "natural birth" makes me feel so unprepared. I have no birth plan or even have any ideas of where to begin. :-S
I mean , this maybe should be saved for UO, but I feel like having an extensive birth plan is like asking God/the fates / whatever to throw you a curveball ... I think having preferences and general outlines can help when saying " ok I have hit this thresh hold this is what I want to do" but babies are going to do what babies are going to do. I knew a girl that planned her birthing experience to the minute and it didn't end up anything like what she spent hours upon hours planning for.
My short list for planning was : Who is in the room Meds or no meds And what type of intervention would I be willing to have and when
C-section is scheduled this time so that makes it easier for me.
* I should add I am a habitual list maker and planner by nature , you should see my packing list for vacation next week!
I think the problematic word here is Plan, and I guess maybe it causes some women to believe that they actually get to plan out every aspect of labor. I think they should call them Labor Preferences Lists or something. Or Intervention Preferences list.
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Real true confession... I wrote a draft of mine... its 1 page, bullet pointed and broken down by phase/stage...
Including I DON'T want an episiotomy and if it happens for the love of God don't use dissolving stitches after because I am allergic to them and break out in hives
I also included "cussing at my husband" as part of my pain relief strategy
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Sup y'all. That was a fucking long day at school. My patience with my kids is at an all time low. Anyway @SarahFoley725 hope everything is going better for you since you posted!!!
@flowerpower5838 hells to the yeah on the student loans!! DH is almost done with his so I get how excited you are! I fortunately never had any myself, college is soooooooooooooooo much cheaper in Europe!! Hopefully my dual citizenship baby will go to college there!
@SparkE82 that is AWESOME!!!! I love that story so much!
I don't even know wtf my birth plan is. Go to hospital, take all of the drugs, have baby, go home...? Does that count? Can I please join the procrastinators group???
UGH you guys I just got a phone call that my anatomy scan for tomorrow has to be rescheduled for some undetermined future date, due to some insurance snags that are still not ironed out. So now I'm in limbo. I wanted to see my little baby.
UGH you guys I just got a phone call that my anatomy scan for tomorrow has to be rescheduled for some undetermined future date, due to some insurance snags that are still not ironed out. So now I'm in limbo. I wanted to see my little baby.
Eurgh. Sorry dude One good thing is that you still have it to look forward to. Mine was last Friday and now it's a bit of an anticlimax, I want to go again!!!!!
I've been watching this documentary show called Twice Born or something like that, about women who receive "bad" news at their anatomy scans, and then go on to this hospital in Philly where they actually perform surgery on the unborn baby while inside the womb.
It's really amazing what they can do, but some of the stories are just heartbreaking. I'm not really sure why I'm watching it, I guess I'm a masochist, heh. But I was really looking forward to going to my ultrasound tomorrow so i can make sure that all is well in there.
UGH you guys I just got a phone call that my anatomy scan for tomorrow has to be rescheduled for some undetermined future date, due to some insurance snags that are still not ironed out. So now I'm in limbo. I wanted to see my little baby.
Mine was pushed back two weeks (was supposed to be 10/28 and is now 11/11) so I feel your pain! I hope it gets sorted out soon.
Ok seriously pregnant with stomach flu can suck it. I swear it's taking me twice as long to get over this, ahem, crap as it normally would. Grrrrrrrrrr just ready to feel good.
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DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Ok seriously pregnant with stomach flu can suck it. I swear it's taking me twice as long to get over this, ahem, crap as it normally would. Grrrrrrrrrr just ready to feel good.
My love it is simply in support of hoping you feel better soooonnnn!!
I've been watching this documentary show called Twice Born or something like that, about women who receive "bad" news at their anatomy scans, and then go on to this hospital in Philly where they actually perform surgery on the unborn baby while inside the womb.
It's really amazing what they can do, but some of the stories are just heartbreaking. I'm not really sure why I'm watching it, I guess I'm a masochist, heh. But I was really looking forward to going to my ultrasound tomorrow so i can make sure that all is well in there.
Sorry that really sucks to have that letdown. Hopefully they can reschedule soon and you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
skruhmin I hope you are feeling better soon! Any stomach issues when you are PG suck much less the stomach flu!
@kitteh81 Sorry it has to be rescheduled. I would be disappointed too.
PSA Carters is having a really good sale with free shipping which hardly ever happens. Almost everything is 40% and then you can get use code tiny2040 to get an additional 20% off 40.00. I love carters stuff but don't usually buy it since its expensive. I feel in love with their little gentleman stuff with mustaches on it. This kid can have some new stuff right since a girl would be getting all new clothes?
I need an intervention. I can't stop eating sushi. I get the cooked stuff obviously but I have never wanted sushi so much in my life. I think about it all the time, it's really pathetic.
@kitteh81 I'm sorry your appointment got changed. Mine is next week and I'm equal parts excited to see her and disappointed I won't see her again for who knows how long.
Sup y'all. That was a fucking long day at school. My patience with my kids is at an all time low.
I don't even know wtf my birth plan is. Go to hospital, take all of the drugs, have baby, go home...? Does that count? Can I please join the procrastinators group???
I have been so short tempered with my students as well! Then I spent three hours after school with the police hunting down a perent of a child who has been sick since 9am this morning, vomiting and fever. We found her literally 3 min. after calling CYFD. Oh and Grades are due Wednesday at 1 and I have not even started!!
My plan sounds about the same as yours! OB keeps asking if I want to take birthing classes... I'm like yes but who has time for that?!?
@JLaVO888 Eurgh, that sucks!! Where was this mom of the year? Ahh grading, the most loathed part of the job
2 of my classes are awesome and the other can be absolutely amazing or an absolute nightmare. Definitely doesn't help when I'm already so hormonal and easily irritated!!
Birth plan shman. I feel like I've got eons until my DD!
I love how this thread is a refreshing breath of normal amongst some of the crazy shit to be seen around the other boards!!
@ecwk Aparently in class.... All day. I dk! Her phone is disconnected and she wasn't home and she only had one emergency contact listed which we found out later she had written down the number incorrectly. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed I don't get sick after holding her little girls hair back while she vomited and hanging out in the germ infested nurses office for an hour while she slept.
My class is a dream this year... So thankful. My hormones just don't have the patients that I usually have with the maturity level of 20 6 year olds all day.
This board is awesome to read. I don't even bother with the others unless I'm bored.
So, last night I was scanning through a few boy name sites and by some miracle we've named our son. This was literally about a 15 minute process and we happen to love the name! Yay! I was seriously worried because I had zero boy name ideas lol.
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Yikes! We're a bunch of sickies lately! Hope everyone's feeling better this morning!
@kynbar - you give me hope. I'm not going to tackle boy names too aggressively until after we know for sure what we're having, but right now I have zero ideas. Congrats on choosing! (Are you going to share?)
Married 7.29.05 :: DD1 5.11.10 :: DD2 1.23.13 :: Baby Boy due 3.13.16!
Today is injection day, flu shot day, and I get to see the doctor today. I hope to get more answers out of him than I've gotten since my a/s. The tech wasn't very helpful, and while the nurse called me about scheduling my follow-up, she only told me I have a low-lying placenta, so I don't know if that means its only close to my cervix, or if its covering it at all...
Let's just hope today kinda flies by so I can just go!
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Y'all finally got me....I woke up sneezing and blowing my nose. I HATE this time of year because Texas can't get it together. 55 in the morning....90 in the afternoon. All of the changes confuse my body.
On my way to work I was in the process of making a right turn when some A Hole in his giant Bubbah Truck started honking at me like crazy. Apparently, I was turning fast enough. He sped out next to me yelling and waving his hands at me only to get stuck at the very same light.
I hope everyone has a good day today, but this Tuesday sure feels a lot like a Monday.
@SarahFoley725 I hate this Texas weather right now. Happy to be heading west in just a few weeks. And I agree. Today does feel an awful lot like a Monday.
My IC (interstitial cystitis) was acting up bad last night. Cried myself to sleep around 1 I think? I was in so much pain. Chronic bladder scarring and pregnancy seem to not play well together. Had ambitions to clean the house today, but after 4 hours of sleep, a nap might be in order before I ever accomplish anything.
@bntfroggie I'm sorry!!! I hope everything is fine, I'm sure it will be (:
@2goofykids I envy your trip. I am hoping my husband has been picking up on my hints of flat out saying I need a break/vacation badly. I also didn't know you were in Texas! I'm Houston area.
@SarahFoley725 I'm in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. Sort of in the middle of it in a weird little suburb d: we've had some less than pleasant temperature changes this week already. Not a fan!
@2goofykids- I am close to Austin and have been hating the weather here too. It sucks when its 50 in the morning and 85 in the afternoon! Don't get me wrong the 85 is nice after 100 degree weather I just wish it would stay one way of the other. The weather changes along with a fire that has been going on here for the last week have made me soo sick. Using my inhaler way too much!
On another note why are my tickers missing? Weird?
4 Discussions started and 6 replies in your history and now you want to know if you're crazy, which I'm leaning towards yes since you lady, are not liking our responses.
4 Discussions started and 6 replies in your history and now you want to know if you're crazy, which I'm leaning towards yes since you lady, are not liking our responses.
4 Discussions started and 6 replies in your history and now you want to know if you're crazy, which I'm leaning towards yes since you lady, are not liking our responses.
Yesterday bump police.... Today bump bullies. All in days work, ladies.
I wish people would just be honest when they post. For example:
Man I really just need to vent about XYZ. I really don't care what your opinions are because I feel this way and you can't change my minds so don't bother in telling me that I am overreacting or irrational.
Because lezbehonest, that's what they're thinking whether they say it or not.
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Ok it went pretty much as expected. I find it ironic that we sell our company as a "women-owned, employee-focused business" but do not offer any kind of paid leave, but I didn't expect there to be paid leave so no huge deal there.
I don't have to exhaust my PTO before taking FMLA and HR lady doesn't believe I have to before STD either, so that's good.
I can't take days that I have not yet accrued, but I will be rolling over ~2 weeks and will accrue about a week before that anyway (can only carry 3.5 weeks at a time) so again, no big deal. I do still accrue PTO while I am out.
She is going to work with me on a partial work-from-home proposition to my bosses and is confident that it shouldn't be a big deal so that is a (hopefully) huge win for me as people at my company traditionally don't work from home - they are very old school.
She has no idea how my benefits are paid or by whom during leave and will follow up.
I feel like she didn't know much but she is new-ish and I am the first gal to be pregnant here in over a year. Our last HR "rep" is actually our office manager who is just awful to deal with so I guess I got the better end of that even with her not having all the answers to my questions.
Thanking my lucky stars I had the foresight to buy STD insurance when I started here a year ago as I know there is a significant waiting period before you can use it. Overall it's a pretty dismal policy, but better than some so I won't complain too much. Also thankful my company is big enough to qualify for FMLA (just by the new hairs I found on my chinny chin chin though).
ETA: @labacker that is a fantastic idea. If working from home a couple days a week doesn't pan out I am definitely going to inquire about doing something like this.
also ETA: sorry for the dear diary post. I have been stressing about this for a while now, especially about how she would react to my working form home proposition and just needed to both vent and let a sigh of relief out at the same time!
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
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Real true confession... I wrote a draft of mine... its 1 page, bullet pointed and broken down by phase/stage...
Including I DON'T want an episiotomy and if it happens for the love of God don't use dissolving stitches after because I am allergic to them and break out in hives
I also included "cussing at my husband" as part of my pain relief strategy
That was a fucking long day at school. My patience with my kids is at an all time low.
Anyway @SarahFoley725 hope everything is going better for you since you posted!!!
@flowerpower5838 hells to the yeah on the student loans!! DH is almost done with his so I get how excited you are! I fortunately never had any myself, college is soooooooooooooooo much cheaper in Europe!! Hopefully my dual citizenship baby will go to college there!
@SparkE82 that is AWESOME!!!! I love that story so much!
I don't even know wtf my birth plan is. Go to hospital, take all of the drugs, have baby, go home...? Does that count? Can I please join the procrastinators group???
One good thing is that you still have it to look forward to. Mine was last Friday and now it's a bit of an anticlimax, I want to go again!!!!!
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@kitteh81 I'm sorry your appointment got changed. Mine is next week and I'm equal parts excited to see her and disappointed I won't see her again for who knows how long.
My plan sounds about the same as yours! OB keeps asking if I want to take birthing classes... I'm like yes but who has time for that?!?
Ahh grading, the most loathed part of the job
2 of my classes are awesome and the other can be absolutely amazing or an absolute nightmare. Definitely doesn't help when I'm already so hormonal and easily irritated!!
Birth plan shman. I feel like I've got eons until my DD!
I love how this thread is a refreshing breath of normal amongst some of the crazy shit to be seen around the other boards!!
My class is a dream this year... So thankful. My hormones just don't have the patients that I usually have with the maturity level of 20 6 year olds all day.
This board is awesome to read. I don't even bother with the others unless I'm bored.
#bedbumping (not the physical kind)
Today is injection day, flu shot day, and I get to see the doctor today. I hope to get more answers out of him than I've gotten since my a/s. The tech wasn't very helpful, and while the nurse called me about scheduling my follow-up, she only told me I have a low-lying placenta, so I don't know if that means its only close to my cervix, or if its covering it at all...
Let's just hope today kinda flies by so I can just go!
On my way to work I was in the process of making a right turn when some A Hole in his giant Bubbah Truck started honking at me like crazy. Apparently, I was turning fast enough. He sped out next to me yelling and waving his hands at me only to get stuck at the very same light.
I hope everyone has a good day today, but this Tuesday sure feels a lot like a Monday.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
My IC (interstitial cystitis) was acting up bad last night. Cried myself to sleep around 1 I think? I was in so much pain. Chronic bladder scarring and pregnancy seem to not play well together. Had ambitions to clean the house today, but after 4 hours of sleep, a nap might be in order before I ever accomplish anything.
*BFP #1- 11/12/12, m/c 11/16/12 @ 6 weeks
*BFP #2- 1/23/13 EDD 10/4/13
*Emma Rose: 10/8/13
*BFP #3- EDD 03/9/16
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@2goofykids I envy your trip. I am hoping my husband has been picking up on my hints of flat out saying I need a break/vacation badly. I also didn't know you were in Texas! I'm Houston area.
Texas party
*dances*
Now we just need someone from San Antonio....
I wish people would just be honest when they post. For example:
Man I really just need to vent about XYZ. I really don't care what your opinions are because I feel this way and you can't change my minds so don't bother in telling me that I am overreacting or irrational.
Because lezbehonest, that's what they're thinking whether they say it or not.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016