People seem to get offended over silly little things. Others say stupid things all the time to everyone, no need to have a cow. The silliest things I heard so far was "why aren't you showing?". But now I hear it every other day at work. I just laugh, because there are clueless people out there.
Finally got one for this! I got on facebook and complained that I haven't had any sleep in 2 days from not being able to get comfortable, being hungry, peeing all the time etc. so SMIL gets on there and leaves the comment "Get used to it- it only gets worse once the baby gets here".
Um...I have an 11 year old. I've been down this road before- and my kid STILL doesn't let me go to sleep when I want to. I had sleepless nights while I left her in the HOSPITAL as a preemie and I had to go home. Duh, woman.
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I told my co-worker's pretty early on that I was pregnant because I am very vocal about all my pregnancy symptoms. One of the worst was EXTREME hunger so I was eating small (healthy) snacks about every hour or two (i.e. fruit, veggies, yogurt...HEALTHY STUFF!!!!!) And one of my co-workers told me I was going to gain 100 lbs the way I was eating.
I wasn't aware that eating small healthy snacks all day would make you gain 100 lbs...so freaking rude.
She still makes comments about how I just "love my food" and I am eating SO much...
My Uncle asked me, "are you still pregnant?". WTF!? Yes I am and he better be glad I am still pregnant or I would have smacked him! I should have smacked him regardless.
So my SIL's brother was married earlier this month and during cocktail hour his mother (also my SIL's mother) came up to me in front of a good friend of mine and told me that I was absolutely glowing at asked if there was something I wanted to tell her, to which I blushed and had a huge grin on my face because I wasn't sure how to handle it and said no, and then she was like but you are glowing are you sure and I said yes.
If I wanted to tell you I would and then I had to tell my friend who was one of the next on my list to tell, but seriously even though she was right how dare you ask someone who had a loss if they are pregnant. What if the answer really was no, and now I'm not sure how to tell her that I am after lying to her face. I really don't care and will let my sister in law tell her, but the balls on that woman.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
The weirdest thing this pregnancy is how many people have asked me when I am going to announce on Facebook! I have told pretty much everyone I talk to on a regular basis, including work and DHs work, but I have people saying "So when are you going to tell everyone?" and I will respond "I already have" To which they say "Oh, I haven't seen it on Facebook yet."
I just find it weird that people don't feel like my announcement is valid until I put it on social media for every acquaintance I've ever known. I've gotten this comment from multiple people, which then made me not want to even mention it on Facebook at all. Now that I am almost 20 weeks it is pretty obvious in photos so I finally got called out. I guess now I have "officially" told everyone.
I work retail and my coworker noticed me checking out the maternity section. When she asked, "why?" I very proudly told her I was pregnant again (after having a miscarriage back in March). At this point, one of my male coworkers walks by and, upon hearing I'm pregnant, says, "Can't you tell? She's fat!" I about slapped him. First, because he's WAY overweight and not one to talk, Second, because I am not fat at all. I'm actually trying to gain weight. And third, for just being rude!
Oh dear. So many to choose from since I've been pregnant so many times and show so big, so early. (tilted pelvis and super short torso)
Stranger: "How many you got in there?!" ... Me: "two or three last we looked!"
Upon telling my parents we were expecting by showing them a pic of several positive tests.. My MOM: "WHY did you take so many tests? Why did you take so many?! I don't understand why you took so many!" I explained it was because I could hardly believe it. But that didn't matter. She went on like that asking the same dumbass question for a solid 15min. Not one single word of congratulations or celebration. Just really hella worried about WHY on earth I would take 5 pregnancy tests (or however many it was)... Srsly.
Lady at Target (after saying several times how "huge" I was): "Oh, you just look miserable!" .... Yeah... I get big. But actually I felt really damn good that day. And heck.. I know I looked good too. But lol whatever.
Same lady also said "you are so huge you must be about due!" Me: "actually I have 2 months to go. And I'll get bigger!" Lady: "HOWWWWW can you get BIGGER?!" .... I didn't know if I was supposed to like inviter her over to watch me GROW or like get her contact info so I could send her a pic in a month and prove it or what so I just said "oh, I will!"
I have SO many more of these. These are just at the top of my head now.
FOR THIS PREGNANCY so far it's just been my grandma with: "but you're happy about it though, right?" When she found out. Lol. Yes, grandma.
This'll be baby #5 (double rainbow baby looks good so far!) and my 8th pregnancy total. I mostly just lurk... So HI!
I work in an open space office and everyone was silently working at their desk. Suddenly out of nowhere my co-worker exclaims, "So are you going to get fat?!" After I replied "what?", hoping she would realize how rude her comment was, she continued, "Are we going to see you get big?!"
Umm let me check my to-do list... Laundry, cook dinner, get fat..... I can't believe her!
The newest stupid comment I received was from my chiropractor's receptionist. She asked my due date. I told her it will be no later than the 4th. She asked how I could be so sure. I explained it will be a c-section. She immediately launched into, "Why do doctors do that nonsense?! Who wants all that scar tissue?" I have a one inch scar & two little slivers about a quarter inch to show for DD and since hubby doesn't mind I don't see what business of anyone else's it is. I get as a chiro office they push all natural everything but I calmly explained my doctor and I discussed my options thoroughly, I even spoke to several friends who had or attempted V-Bacs, and my doctor and I decided this was what was best FOR ME! I also pointed out it wasn't a topic I was up for further discussion about.
She continued to drone on about how her children practically fell out of her. Good for you lady but I'm not about to rearrange my birth plans on the advice of a woman who came from a generation who believed a nice smoke and glass of wine were good for mom's nerves and has now embraced natural alternatives with the fervor of a reformed smoker!!! I'm guessing there were other reasons her 5-6 pound babies slid right out. Ugh!!!
My mother in law made this comment, "so does everyone in town know about your condition?" Yes we live in a small town and word travels fast but we haven't told anyone yet. For some odd reason I found this comment to be offensive, am I just overreacting a little? The use of the word condition made it seem as if I have AIDS or something!
I love my FIL, but when he refers to my "condition", it drives me crazy, too. It's a baby, not an STD!
My coworker, who ALWAYS knows EVERYTHING, asked if we were getting rid of our 2 dogs. She went on to explain that dogs get jealous of babies and that it might be for the best. Who says that? I'm sure we will need to give the dogs extra attention when the baby comes and we will watch them closely, but we are not going to just get rid of them like they don't matter!
@2-Step so funny, I've gotten the same question so many times! We're not planning an "official Facebook" post- everyone we care about knows already but I'm sure it'll get out there soon enough!
@katy0990 my FIL called DH asking when we are moving our dogs outside. Thankfully DH and I have discussed this topic and agreed it would be harder on the dogs to change environments than get use to a new baby. I really just wanted to yell at my FIL but he's not really a pet person so I have to keep that in mind
Ohhh... My aunt had the best one for me so far. I've been cramping and have killer morning sickness, so I puke in the kitchen sink with a garbage disposal. It really helps standing while getting sick and was the best advice my sister has given me. My aunt told me exactly how disgusting I am and that she will never eat a thing out of my kitchen ever again. Really woman? I'm not puking on dishes and I'm certainly cleaning the crap out of it when I'm done.
My second favorite one was pretty much everyone on his family's side asked "well how did that happen?" I was so glad that for ONCE I had a snappy comeback. I said, "well when two consenting adults love each other and want a baby...." They laughed and shut up!
My mother said as soon as I told her " its not *husbands* is it? Please tell me you got drunk and had a one night stand with someone more attractive "
We've been together 8 years and there's a 15 year difference between us so I am used to commentary such as this. It took us two years to get pregnant after having a misscarige
That is terrible! My husband is 12 years older than me, and we've also been together a total of 8 years dating and married. At least if anyone still has any personal issues with that, though, they have the decency/sense to not say it to our faces!
I walked down our steps the other day with one hand on my bump and the other holding ds hand. Neighbor women sees me and goes, " oh, are you pregnant?" I smile and say yes. "Whew, I was worried you were just gaining weight" she says. I could tell by the way she scurried off that she realized her mistake, but goodness woman, I lost enough weight that I actually look pretty good. Yeah I have a bump, one that is almost all baby and I am proud of it. But you should never tell a woman she looks like she is gaining weight, pregnant or not. I think we all know that.
I had my own "dumb things people said" moment yesterday. DH and I were talking about when LO gets older and "throwing the football around" (his words), and I say, yeah you can totally play fetch with him! (I meant to say catch, but was looking at my dog). Sentences and words are hard. :-(
Some of these are so terrible. People are AWFUL. I am so sorry to all of your dealing with these you know what's!
My MIL is understandably very excited about her first grandchild, but she has a nack for making things about her. Well she doesn't want to come to my shower because she is going out of town a week after, okie dokie. So she wanted to throw me one where she lives because she wants to invite all of her friends from work, that I don't know, and neither does my husband!
She literally called the other day and said how she'd printed and hung up our announcement pictures at work (which I don't care about necessarily) but kept saying "oh they are all just so happy for ME" "they want to come to the shower to celebrate ME being a grandma" like okay lady have a private party with your work friends then and don't drag me into it. Like, she literally wants to throw me a shower to have an excuse to have a party with her co workers and I don't want to spend my weekend with a bunch of strangers.
@SarahFoley725 are you my twin?! I am dealing with almost the exact same thing!! Every convo is about her being a grandma, and her friends' reaction to HER news. None about how I'm feeling, how the baby is etc. so odd!!
@SarahFoley725 my mom does this, too! My brother and his wife just had their first a few weeks ago and my mom was thrown a grandma shower. I thought that was super weird and it kinda annoyed me. I understand becoming a grandma is very exciting, too, but my mom had her two kids and her spotlight. I felt like it took away from my sister-in-law a bit.
She did the same thing about my surgery in May. It was all about how she felt, and I constantly had to hear what person I had no idea who was that was asking about her or me. Yeah, I just lost half of my reproductive system due to a huge cyst I was blissfully unaware of a month earlier, was diagnosed with endometriosis, was still grieving from my miscarriage right before the surgery, and didn't know if I'd be able to naturally conceive my own child...but let's all stop and see how she's coping with that. Wtf?
In other words, I so feel for you on this one. Try to ignore it the best you can! At the end of the day, she loves you and is very excited for you, too...she just doesn't have a filter
Here's one, today at a 2nd birthday party, someone started making comments of having twins and how terrible it is. He says to me at least you had a boy and a girl at once, now you're done! No reason to have more right? I looked at him, looked at my obviously pregnant body and back up at him. Needless to say, he felt stupid.
Here's one, today at a 2nd birthday party, someone started making comments of having twins and how terrible it is. He says to me at least you had a boy and a girl at once, now you're done! No reason to have more right? I looked at him, looked at my obviously pregnant body and back up at him. Needless to say, he felt stupid.
Ha, I'd have told him it was triplets and walked away.
My male cousin who just had a baby in January with his wife goes "you're gonna be breastfeeding right? Can I give you some advice? You should buy a thing of formula just in case you don't produce enough."
Um no, that's 1. not supportive of my decision to exclusively breastfeed. I don't care what you and your wife did, I'm not her, and this is what I want.
2. When I'm getting frustrated with nursing and that tub of formula is there I don't want to go to it in a moment of weakness and exhaustion and ruin all the efforts I had made towards exclusively BFing my kid. Unless it is absolutely necessary like my baby is losing weight or something, I'm going to see a CLC until I get it down pat. However you choose to feed your baby is up to you, I don't care as long as your baby is fed and happy!
My husband comes from a military family so they're kind of scattered everywhere. My MIL, does not care for my husband's grandmother, which I find funny because I get along well with Grandma and not so much with my MIL.
Anyway, grandma is planning to come stay with my MIL&FIL until the baby gets here so my MIL says to me "yeah so feel free to have her early but just not too late". Ummm I'm sorry but I'm going to let my kid cook as long as she needs to. I'm not wishing for her to come early just so you don't have to deal with your MIL. It's probably a stupid thing to be irritated about but it really bothers me when people put their convenience before what's important for a child.
@SarahFoley725 ugh, that's one of the comments that bother me too. My mother is constantly saying things like "well, you're having the baby on the weekend right cause I have to work" or the one that bothered me the absolute worst so far was "you remember grandma passed on the 29th (I'm due the 28th) so maybe you could have the baby then". Talk about annoying
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@SarahFoley725 ugh, that's one of the comments that bother me too. My mother is constantly saying things like "well, you're having the baby on the weekend right cause I have to work" or the one that bothered me the absolute worst so far was "you remember grandma passed on the 29th (I'm due the 28th) so maybe you could have the baby then". Talk about annoying
Because we have any say whatsoever in when baby comes....smh at people who say that stuff.
Some of these are so terrible. People are AWFUL. I am so sorry to all of your dealing with these you know what's!
My MIL is understandably very excited about her first grandchild, but she has a nack for making things about her. Well she doesn't want to come to my shower because she is going out of town a week after, okie dokie. So she wanted to throw me one where she lives because she wants to invite all of her friends from work, that I don't know, and neither does my husband!
She literally called the other day and said how she'd printed and hung up our announcement pictures at work (which I don't care about necessarily) but kept saying "oh they are all just so happy for ME" "they want to come to the shower to celebrate ME being a grandma" like okay lady have a private party with your work friends then and don't drag me into it. Like, she literally wants to throw me a shower to have an excuse to have a party with her co workers and I don't want to spend my weekend with a bunch of strangers.
Holy crap! That's unbelievable! I wouldn't want to be involved in that either!
@SarahFoley725 ugh, that's one of the comments that bother me too. My mother is constantly saying things like "well, you're having the baby on the weekend right cause I have to work" or the one that bothered me the absolute worst so far was "you remember grandma passed on the 29th (I'm due the 28th) so maybe you could have the baby then". Talk about annoying
Because we have any say whatsoever in when baby comes....smh at people who say that stuff.
lol I am dealing with silly stuff like this too! My mom was so set on me NOT telling her the gender when I find out this coming Wednesday. Now that my hubby and I are having a little reveal party that same night with my grandmother, brother, aunt and uncle, she now wants to know BEFORE my grandmother (her mother in law). My parents live in Florida, so they can't be here for the reveal, but she wants me to find out, tell my husband, then tell her before the rest of the family. Ugh... why can't one awesome surprise not be so complicated by another person?! I get she wants to know, she is the grandmother, but I want to do this fun reveal without issue!
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The silliest things I heard so far was "why aren't you showing?". But now I hear it every other day at work. I just laugh, because there are clueless people out there.
Finally got one for this! I got on facebook and complained that I haven't had any sleep in 2 days from not being able to get comfortable, being hungry, peeing all the time etc. so SMIL gets on there and leaves the comment "Get used to it- it only gets worse once the baby gets here".
Um...I have an 11 year old. I've been down this road before- and my kid STILL doesn't let me go to sleep when I want to. I had sleepless nights while I left her in the HOSPITAL as a preemie and I had to go home. Duh, woman.
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I told my co-worker's pretty early on that I was pregnant because I am very vocal about all my pregnancy symptoms. One of the worst was EXTREME hunger so I was eating small (healthy) snacks about every hour or two (i.e. fruit, veggies, yogurt...HEALTHY STUFF!!!!!) And one of my co-workers told me I was going to gain 100 lbs the way I was eating.
I wasn't aware that eating small healthy snacks all day would make you gain 100 lbs...so freaking rude.
She still makes comments about how I just "love my food" and I am eating SO much...
My Uncle asked me, "are you still pregnant?". WTF!? Yes I am and he better be glad I am still pregnant or I would have smacked him! I should have smacked him regardless.
If I wanted to tell you I would and then I had to tell my friend who was one of the next on my list to tell, but seriously even though she was right how dare you ask someone who had a loss if they are pregnant. What if the answer really was no, and now I'm not sure how to tell her that I am after lying to her face. I really don't care and will let my sister in law tell her, but the balls on that woman.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
At this point, one of my male coworkers walks by and, upon hearing I'm pregnant, says, "Can't you tell? She's fat!"
I about slapped him. First, because he's WAY overweight and not one to talk, Second, because I am not fat at all. I'm actually trying to gain weight. And third, for just being rude!
Stranger: "How many you got in there?!" ... Me: "two or three last we looked!"
Upon telling my parents we were expecting by showing them a pic of several positive tests..
My MOM: "WHY did you take so many tests? Why did you take so many?! I don't understand why you took so many!"
I explained it was because I could hardly believe it. But that didn't matter. She went on like that asking the same dumbass question for a solid 15min. Not one single word of congratulations or celebration. Just really hella worried about WHY on earth I would take 5 pregnancy tests (or however many it was)... Srsly.
Lady at Target (after saying several times how "huge" I was): "Oh, you just look miserable!"
.... Yeah... I get big. But actually I felt really damn good that day. And heck.. I know I looked good too. But lol whatever.
Same lady also said "you are so huge you must be about due!"
Me: "actually I have 2 months to go. And I'll get bigger!"
Lady: "HOWWWWW can you get BIGGER?!"
.... I didn't know if I was supposed to like inviter her over to watch me GROW or like get her contact info so I could send her a pic in a month and prove it or what so I just said "oh, I will!"
I have SO many more of these. These are just at the top of my head now.
FOR THIS PREGNANCY so far it's just been my grandma with:
"but you're happy about it though, right?" When she found out.
Lol. Yes, grandma.
This'll be baby #5 (double rainbow baby looks good so far!) and my 8th pregnancy total.
I mostly just lurk... So HI!
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Umm let me check my to-do list... Laundry, cook dinner, get fat..... I can't believe her!
She continued to drone on about how her children practically fell out of her. Good for you lady but I'm not about to rearrange my birth plans on the advice of a woman who came from a generation who believed a nice smoke and glass of wine were good for mom's nerves and has now embraced natural alternatives with the fervor of a reformed smoker!!! I'm guessing there were other reasons her 5-6 pound babies slid right out. Ugh!!!
My MIL is understandably very excited about her first grandchild, but she has a nack for making things about her. Well she doesn't want to come to my shower because she is going out of town a week after, okie dokie. So she wanted to throw me one where she lives because she wants to invite all of her friends from work, that I don't know, and neither does my husband!
She literally called the other day and said how she'd printed and hung up our announcement pictures at work (which I don't care about necessarily) but kept saying "oh they are all just so happy for ME" "they want to come to the shower to celebrate ME being a grandma" like okay lady have a private party with your work friends then and don't drag me into it. Like, she literally wants to throw me a shower to have an excuse to have a party with her co workers and I don't want to spend my weekend with a bunch of strangers.
She did the same thing about my surgery in May. It was all about how she felt, and I constantly had to hear what person I had no idea who was that was asking about her or me. Yeah, I just lost half of my reproductive system due to a huge cyst I was blissfully unaware of a month earlier, was diagnosed with endometriosis, was still grieving from my miscarriage right before the surgery, and didn't know if I'd be able to naturally conceive my own child...but let's all stop and see how she's coping with that. Wtf?
In other words, I so feel for you on this one. Try to ignore it the best you can! At the end of the day, she loves you and is very excited for you, too...she just doesn't have a filter
Um no, that's 1. not supportive of my decision to exclusively breastfeed. I don't care what you and your wife did, I'm not her, and this is what I want.
2. When I'm getting frustrated with nursing and that tub of formula is there I don't want to go to it in a moment of weakness and exhaustion and ruin all the efforts I had made towards exclusively BFing my kid. Unless it is absolutely necessary like my baby is losing weight or something, I'm going to see a CLC until I get it down pat. However you choose to feed your baby is up to you, I don't care as long as your baby is fed and happy!
Anyway, grandma is planning to come stay with my MIL&FIL until the baby gets here so my MIL says to me "yeah so feel free to have her early but just not too late". Ummm I'm sorry but I'm going to let my kid cook as long as she needs to. I'm not wishing for her to come early just so you don't have to deal with your MIL. It's probably a stupid thing to be irritated about but it really bothers me when people put their convenience before what's important for a child.