UO (Unpopular Opinion) Thursday

Spylon · September 2015

missnc77 said:

MrsCase14 said:

I think Channing Tatum is super overrated. He's not THAT gorgeous (not saying he's not good looking, mind you) and his acting is just meh. I have not seen the Magic Mike movies and have no interest in seeing them.

TAKE THAT BACK

LOL!!!! Alright, alright, I will watch Magic Mike at some point, I swear.

avidkeo · September 2015

TheThornBird said:

So, maybe I misunderstand people sometimes, but it seems like some women only have sex with their SO to conceive. I've heard things like, "last month we only had sex on the day I ovulated so I know that's when we conceived!"

This is so weird to me. Sex is fun. We do it all the time. I have no idea when we conceived, because it could have been any of, oh, I dunno, all the days?

And I imagine that sex is completely awkward. "Hey honey I'm just going to lay here and read a baby book while you deposit your sperm in me".

I get if someone can't for medical reasons, but otherwise people should be getting naked and having fun!

Clearly you have never actually tried to conceive. When you spend months trying to get pregnant, and you know there are actually only 5 days in a cycle you can get pregnant, so you you save all your energy and attention for those 5 days because you want to maximise your chances of getting pregnant, yeah sex becomes a chore and really difficult. Also those people may well have had sex outside of ovulation but its pointless to mention it, so they are actually saying "I only had sex on the day I ovulated during our fertile window".

And also, if you already have kids, getting the energy to have sex can be hard enough when TTC, let alone any other time of the month!

Believe it or not, getting pregnant can be blimmin hard, and on a given month there is only a 20% chance.

chottomotto · September 2015

I don't understand fawning over men who aren't my husband, celebrities included.

Sharra13 · September 2015

Agree with the college thing to some extent--some careers are ALL about experience and no class can help you with that. I don't get the point of going to college to be an artist or actor, especially.

On the sex thing: I really enjoy sex during. But when I was on the pill, I had pretty much NO drive and never WANTED to have sex. (watch my favorite TV show before bed or get sweaty with hubby...hmmm...meh). Then I got off the pill and finally realized how much more awesome sex was! Never want to get back on them again. Yuck. Pregnancy has decreased my drive again but not nearly as bad as being on the pill.

OK, I am sure I will be totally banned from this board after this, but here goes. I am SO OVER all the breast feeding Nazi craziness. No one wants to see you boob out. Just be friggin' discreet and shut up about it and it will be a non-issue. It's Not. That. Hard. I know women who are totally chill about the whole thing and it doesn't bother anyone around them. Then there are those women who just WANT to cause an issue and whip it out with a challenging look on their face, hoping for a confrontation, post pics all the time because it's so "beautiful"... To be fair, I am on the more conservative side anyway, when it comes to the body. I don't like super low-cut tops or super high-cut bottoms, I think thongs are gross. I don't think anyone's "bits" should be hanging out, in any situation.

sincerelymom · September 2015

I don't like that women feel obligated or pressured to keep their pregnancies a secret during the first several weeks. I think it's totally fine if you want to keep things private... But I don't think it should be, like, taboo to share your news early if you want. The implication is that you should keep an early loss private/to yourself. Again, that up to the individual woman, but we shouldn't feel pressured either way to keep things hush-hush.

BuzzBee614 · September 2015

sincerelymom said:

I don't like that women feel obligated or pressured to keep their pregnancies a secret during the first several weeks. I think it's totally fine if you want to keep things private... But I don't think it should be, like, taboo to share your news early if you want. The implication is that you should keep an early loss private/to yourself. Again, that up to the individual woman, but we shouldn't feel pressured either way to keep things hush-hush.

This. I'm an open book and told people I was pregnant when I found out. Not some grand AW announcement or on social media, but I told close friends and family as well as some people I work with. When people ask why I'm not drinking, I just say because I'm pregnant. Some people are mortified I'm telling people this early and I totally get why some women don't want to until 1st trimesters over, but it's MY decision. Whether you want to keep it a secret or want to tell people, there should be no stigma and every woman should be able to do what she wants.

LovingLife! · September 2015

mrsjlopez12 said:

I think bare belly bump pics are gross. Sorry, I know an unborn child is beautiful but let's keep your shirt on. Thanks!

AMEN SISTER!!!

lionstigersbears · September 2015

BuzzBee614 said:

sincerelymom said:

I don't like that women feel obligated or pressured to keep their pregnancies a secret during the first several weeks. I think it's totally fine if you want to keep things private... But I don't think it should be, like, taboo to share your news early if you want. The implication is that you should keep an early loss private/to yourself. Again, that up to the individual woman, but we shouldn't feel pressured either way to keep things hush-hush.

This. I'm an open book and told people I was pregnant when I found out. Not some grand AW announcement or on social media, but I told close friends and family as well as some people I work with. When people ask why I'm not drinking, I just say because I'm pregnant. Some people are mortified I'm telling people this early and I totally get why some women don't want to until 1st trimesters over, but it's MY decision. Whether you want to keep it a secret or want to tell people, there should be no stigma and every woman should be able to do what she wants.

Yes yes yes. I'm not shouting from the rooftops but I just don't get why people are so charged on the topic. I have no issue with those who choose to keep it a secret until 20+ weeks, nor do I have issues with those who share as soon as they know. I only have an issue with pee sticks on social media

doozer1345 · September 2015

Chrissy Teigen. I.Can.Not.Stand.Her. She makes stupid faces and is just rude. She's like that popular girl that is oblivious to others breathing around her. Also, I'm sorry but she's not pretty either. Certainly not as much as people try to make her out to be. She's kind of like the word fetch. STOP TRYING TO MAKE FETCH AND CHRISSY TEIGEN A THING!

yogahh · September 2015

doozer1345 said:
Chrissy Teigen. I.Can.Not.Stand.Her. She makes stupid faces and is just rude. She's like that popular girl that is oblivious to others breathing around her. Also, I'm sorry but she's not pretty either. Certainly not as much as people try to make her out to be. She's kind of like the word fetch. STOP TRYING TO MAKE FETCH AND CHRISSY TEIGEN A THING!

Urg she is the worst. And ugly ugly ugly!

benicode · September 2015

lionstigersbears said

This. I'm an open book and told people I was pregnant when I found out. Not some grand AW announcement or on social media, but I told close friends and family as well as some people I work with. When people ask why I'm not drinking, I just say because I'm pregnant. Some people are mortified I'm telling people this early and I totally get why some women don't want to until 1st trimesters over, but it's MY decision. Whether you want to keep it a secret or want to tell people, there should be no stigma and every woman should be able to do what she wants.
Yes yes yes. I'm not shouting from the rooftops but I just don't get why people are so charged on the topic. I have no issue with those who choose to keep it a secret until 20+ weeks, nor do I have issues with those who share as soon as they know. I only have an issue with pee sticks on social media

I was just thinking about this the other day. I agree. If more people would do this, then I think more people would be aware of how common MC is, b/c as it is, people don't realize when others experience one and feel very alone. All for people making their own decision on this one though.

Also, I had no idea who Chrissy Teigen was and I had to google her

morganakeene · September 2015

Drinking wine while pregnant. I personally enjoy a glass of red wine 2-3 times a week. Did it with my first and will do it again.
Some women always freak on me when I say it and I'm just over here like "I'm drinking my wine, I can't hear you"

rlworzalla · September 2015

JacksonMolly1 said:
I hate whole grain noodles. They are disgusting and I'm mad they exist because they make the regular noodles not the healthiest option.

How about the vegetable based multi colored?

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

**LURKER FROM TTGP, but part of the BF club... but not necessarily a lactivist.***
Sharra13 said:

Agree with the college thing to some extent--some careers are ALL about experience and no class can help you with that. I don't get the point of going to college to be an artist or actor, especially.

On the sex thing: I really enjoy sex during. But when I was on the pill, I had pretty much NO drive and never WANTED to have sex. (watch my favorite TV show before bed or get sweaty with hubby...hmmm...meh). Then I got off the pill and finally realized how much more awesome sex was! Never want to get back on them again. Yuck. Pregnancy has decreased my drive again but not nearly as bad as being on the pill.

OK, I am sure I will be totally banned from this board after this, but here goes. I am SO OVER all the breast feeding Nazi craziness. No one wants to see you boob out. Just be friggin' discreet and shut up about it and it will be a non-issue. It's Not. That. Hard. I know women who are totally chill about the whole thing and it doesn't bother anyone around them. Then there are those women who just WANT to cause an issue and whip it out with a challenging look on their face, hoping for a confrontation, post pics all the time because it's so "beautiful"... To be fair, I am on the more conservative side anyway, when it comes to the body. I don't like super low-cut tops or super high-cut bottoms, I think thongs are gross. I don't think anyone's "bits" should be hanging out, in any situation.

I'm not sure you've actually seen many people breast feeding. I BF without a cover because my kid won't take one. Are you a FTM? Because some kids won't take one and if you've ever tried to nurse a kid that doesn't want to be covered its even MORE of a distraction. I am not lying when I say you see more cleavage/boob in a Victoria's Secret Calendar than you do when nurse my kid. I have size H-I boobs. So my boob is not hanging out. My kid covers most of it.

Also, its terribly offensive and rude to compare a woman exercising her right (in many states) to nurse (uncovered if that's her preference) wherever she is legally allowed to be to anything Hitler-related. We are not even in the same zip code as mass genocide, bigotry, and general hate. That's WAY over the line. Its not out of line to assert your rights as a nursing mother. Its not about anyone else's comfort but yours and your baby's. The Good Lord gave us all necks and eyelids. Anyone that takes issue with my NIP can turn their head or avert their gaze.

That's all.

mrstmoose · September 2015

@PrimRoseMama I sure have missed seeing you around since I've moved primarily over here!

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

mrstmoose said:

@PrimRoseMama I sure have missed seeing you around since I've moved primarily over here!

Hey guuuuuuurl. I'm stoked to see any TTGP Grad over on the BMB. You know me though, just lurking like I do.

) >:D< :x

SGPhotography · September 2015

Fifty Shades of Grey was the worst book I've ever read. I barely got through it because of how bad the writing was but did so for a naughty book club. The millions of people that loved those books must not read very much literature IMO. I get that the hype was because of the content, but really it didn't even portray a healthy D/s relationship.

mrstmoose · September 2015

@PrimRoseMama I'm always lurking in the shadows. I love creeping!

)

benicode · September 2015

@PrimRoseMama @mrstmoose - also love lurking!

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

mrstmoose said:

@PrimRoseMama I'm always lurking in the shadows. I love creeping! )

This is me hahahaha

Just drinking some wine and cruising the boards.

:ar!

lest12 · September 2015

Dude, mother's "whip it out" because they are feeding their babies. Like, so the babies can thrive. Not because they want to rub it in their face. Maybe if people didn't stare like it was an alien-concept.

And also maybe if there weren't people like you who think nursing moms should stay locked in bathrooms while they are out in public, they wouldn't need to blast pictures of their nursing children all over facebook.

Oh and lastly, it is beautiful.

That post was really aggressive for absolutely no reason. May you always have the perfect place of privacy to nurse your child when they are hungry.

josie12367 · September 2015

PrimRoseMama said:

**LURKER FROM TTGP, but part of the BF club... but not necessarily a lactivist.***
Sharra13 said:

Agree with the college thing to some extent--some careers are ALL about experience and no class can help you with that. I don't get the point of going to college to be an artist or actor, especially.

On the sex thing: I really enjoy sex during. But when I was on the pill, I had pretty much NO drive and never WANTED to have sex. (watch my favorite TV show before bed or get sweaty with hubby...hmmm...meh). Then I got off the pill and finally realized how much more awesome sex was! Never want to get back on them again. Yuck. Pregnancy has decreased my drive again but not nearly as bad as being on the pill.

OK, I am sure I will be totally banned from this board after this, but here goes. I am SO OVER all the breast feeding Nazi craziness. No one wants to see you boob out. Just be friggin' discreet and shut up about it and it will be a non-issue. It's Not. That. Hard. I know women who are totally chill about the whole thing and it doesn't bother anyone around them. Then there are those women who just WANT to cause an issue and whip it out with a challenging look on their face, hoping for a confrontation, post pics all the time because it's so "beautiful"... To be fair, I am on the more conservative side anyway, when it comes to the body. I don't like super low-cut tops or super high-cut bottoms, I think thongs are gross. I don't think anyone's "bits" should be hanging out, in any situation.

I'm not sure you've actually seen many people breast feeding. I BF without a cover because my kid won't take one. Are you a FTM? Because some kids won't take one and if you've ever tried to nurse a kid that doesn't want to be covered its even MORE of a distraction. I am not lying when I say you see more cleavage/boob in a Victoria's Secret Calendar than you do when nurse my kid. I have size H-I boobs. So my boob is not hanging out. My kid covers most of it.

Also, its terribly offensive and rude to compare a woman exercising her right (in many states) to nurse (uncovered if that's her preference) wherever she is legally allowed to be to anything Hitler-related. We are not even in the same zip code as mass genocide, bigotry, and general hate. That's WAY over the line. Its not out of line to assert your rights as a nursing mother. Its not about anyone else's comfort but yours and your baby's. The Good Lord gave us all necks and eyelids. Anyone that takes issue with my NIP can turn their head or avert their gaze.

That's all.

THANK YOU.....THANK YOU. I don't think people realize how hard it is to breastfeed your child without having to worry about this kind of judgement as well. I was ridiculed, belittled, and judged harshly when I would breastfeed in public. It was always other women, AND I was always using a cover. That didn't stop comments about how "inappropriate" I was being or how "gross" it was for them to see.....(all they could see were two little feet hanging out from underneath my cover btw). Each time this happened I was reduced to tears, and felt ashamed, but knew I had nothing to be ashamed about. After my DD wouldn't tolerate the cover anymore, and only wanted to play peek-a-boo with it, I became too worried about being harassed. I knew it would be even worse without our cover, and I would ultimately feed her sitting out in our car. I'm sure the "challenging" look you refer to is just simply the mother preparing to throat punch the next person that says anything hurtful to her, or if it was my case, a look of fear.

Oh, and I for one have never seen a woman "whip" her breast out....sounds painful to me.

elsa1688 · September 2015

lest12 said:
Dude, mother's "whip it out" because they are feeding their babies. Like, so the babies can thrive. Not because they want to rub it in their face. Maybe if people didn't stare like it was an alien-concept.

And also maybe if there weren't people like you who think nursing moms should stay locked in bathrooms while they are out in public, they wouldn't need to blast pictures of their nursing children all over facebook.

Oh and lastly, it is beautiful.

That post was really aggressive for absolutely no reason. May you always have the perfect place of privacy to nurse your child when they are hungry.

Preach.

josie12367 · September 2015

TheThornBird said:

So, maybe I misunderstand people sometimes, but it seems like some women only have sex with their SO to conceive. I've heard things like, "last month we only had sex on the day I ovulated so I know that's when we conceived!"

This is so weird to me. Sex is fun. We do it all the time. I have no idea when we conceived, because it could have been any of, oh, I dunno, all the days?

And I imagine that sex is completely awkward. "Hey honey I'm just going to lay here and read a baby book while you deposit your sperm in me".

I get if someone can't for medical reasons, but otherwise people should be getting naked and having fun!

TTC is stressful.....it took months for us. There were many doctor visits, lots of painful tests, and many, many tears. I did, and still do feel like I was less of a woman because my body doesn't function right. I was angry because I felt betrayed by my body. I apologized to my husband numerous times because I felt guilty that I could not give him the child he desired. So no, sex is not always fun. We did our best to focus on each other during sex, but having to have sex on a schedule so that we could try and hit ovulation during what I didn't know was anovulatory cycles that lasted 40-90 days each....SUCKS. Your statements almost make me think of all the people that told me, "Oh, just relax....have fun....it'll happen." Please never say sentiments like this to anybody that you know that is TTC or confides in you about their TTC struggles....It's like salt in an already very raw wound.

mariaalene · September 2015

@PrimRoseMama on breastfeeding
It's still disgusting and offensive. If I was BF I would never do it in public, I'd go to the restroom or car or whatever out of respect to everyone else in the world. But I do appreciate the women who have enough decency to cover. That should be minimum. If I ever saw a woman BF in public I'd Freak out then have my husband start sucking on my tit too and say it's beautiful I'm nourishing him.

Jenly17 · September 2015

mariaalene said:
@PrimRoseMama on breastfeeding
It's still disgusting and offensive. If I was BF I would never do it in public, I'd go to the restroom or car or whatever out of respect to everyone else in the world. But I do appreciate the women who have enough decency to cover. That should be minimum. If I ever saw a woman BF in public I'd Freak out then have my husband start sucking on my tit too and say it's beautiful I'm nourishing him.

Are you actually serious? Cue the flames.

sincerelymom · September 2015

mariaalene said:
@PrimRoseMama on breastfeeding
It's still disgusting and offensive. If I was BF I would never do it in public, I'd go to the restroom or car or whatever out of respect to everyone else in the world. But I do appreciate the women who have enough decency to cover. That should be minimum. If I ever saw a woman BF in public I'd Freak out then have my husband start sucking on my tit too and say it's beautiful I'm nourishing him.

Ew. Did you read this before you posted it? Way to be rude and judgmental.

DutchLucyLu · September 2015

WTAF, @mariaalene?

The reason breasts exist is literally to nurse babies. It's attitudes like yours that are disgusting and offensive.

mariaalene · September 2015

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Kurrant · September 2015

Very glad I live in a country where BFing is socially acceptable. How can anyone say BFing is disgusting? Breasts are there to feed your babies and it is proven to be healthier than formula. Breastmilk has been proven to help prevent things like allergies and build resistances. I get that some people aren't comfortable with public feeding (though I do agree that it is a woman's right to do so) but I think anyone declaring breastfeeding in general as a disgusting act is seeing something perverted and dirty in something that is natural and healthy.

sincerelymom · September 2015

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You have a right to your opinion, but you are being vulgar. Which is ironic. First of all, you can't see the breast when the child is latched. Second, the child is eating, not randomly sucking. Third, what happened to you that you are scared of/grossed out by a little boob?

nbgmom · September 2015

sincerelymom said:
I don't like that women feel obligated or pressured to keep their pregnancies a secret during the first several weeks. I think it's totally fine if you want to keep things private... But I don't think it should be, like, taboo to share your news early if you want. The implication is that you should keep an early loss private/to yourself. Again, that up to the individual woman, but we shouldn't feel pressured either way to keep things hush-hush.

I totally agree. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I have told people immediately every time. Thankfully I haven't lost a pregnancy yet, but I feel that if I did, I would hate to have to explain that I was sad because I was pregnant but now I'm not. I would rather have the support system in place.

mariaalene · September 2015

sincerelymom said:

mariaalene said:
The topic is unpopular opinions correct? And that's my and many ppls opinion. It doesn't change the fact that we think breastfeeding in public is offensive and disgusting. My opinion is I don't want to see anyone's tit out or their kid sucking on it. Have some decency
You have a right to your opinion, but you are being vulgar. Which is ironic.

First of all, you can't see the breast when the child is latched. Second, the child is eating, not randomly sucking. Third, what happened to you that you are scared of/grossed out by a little boob?

Just conservative that's all. Luckily I live in an an area of similarly conservative women who have enough respect for the public and themselves to cover up.

Jenly17 · September 2015

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lalala2004 · September 2015

mariaalene said:

sincerelymom said:

mariaalene said:
The topic is unpopular opinions correct? And that's my and many ppls opinion. It doesn't change the fact that we think breastfeeding in public is offensive and disgusting. My opinion is I don't want to see anyone's tit out or their kid sucking on it. Have some decency
You have a right to your opinion, but you are being vulgar. Which is ironic.

First of all, you can't see the breast when the child is latched. Second, the child is eating, not randomly sucking. Third, what happened to you that you are scared of/grossed out by a little boob?
Just conservative that's all. Luckily I live in an an area of similarly conservative women who have enough respect for the public and themselves to cover up.

Conservative has nothing to do with it. A woman I grew up going to church with was ultra conservative (didn't cut her hair, only wore dresses, homeschooled her kids) but you better believe she BF her babies in the middle of church.

BF can be done very discreetly, with or without a cover. I understand if your personal opinion would be to want to do so in private, but your militant opinion about this is ridiculous. And you compared women who BF to Nazis?

Maybe where you live women are terrified to feed their babies because of ignorant people like you. Shame on you.

JacksonMolly1 · September 2015

rlworzalla said:

JacksonMolly1 said:
I hate whole grain noodles. They are disgusting and I'm mad they exist because they make the regular noodles not the healthiest option.
How about the vegetable based multi colored?

I don't even know about this! Is it better than whole grain?? I have such a hard time with healthy food:( I like the real stuff!

LadySamLady · September 2015

I am really sick of the whole gluten-free movement. Five years ago most people didn't even know what gluten was. If another person tells me their life was revolutionized when they stopped eating gluten I might barf.

nlwz123 · September 2015

mariaalene said:

@PrimRoseMama on breastfeeding It's still disgusting and offensive. If I was BF I would never do it in public, I'd go to the restroom or car or whatever out of respect to everyone else in the world. But I do appreciate the women who have enough decency to cover. That should be minimum. If I ever saw a woman BF in public I'd Freak out then have my husband start sucking on my tit too and say it's beautiful I'm nourishing him.

Breastfeeding is disgusting and offensive?! What do you think your boobs are for?! They aren't for show or just something for your husband to enjoy. Have you ever nursed before? Enjoy nursing sitting in a bathroom stall.

And your husband sucking on your boob is not comparable. That is just a silly comparison. It's a sad day when someone believes feeding a baby is disgusting. THAT is disgusting.

aamm04 · September 2015

mariaalene said:
@PrimRoseMama on breastfeeding
It's still disgusting and offensive. If I was BF I would never do it in public, I'd go to the restroom or car or whatever out of respect to everyone else in the world. But I do appreciate the women who have enough decency to cover. That should be minimum. If I ever saw a woman BF in public I'd Freak out then have my husband start sucking on my tit too and say it's beautiful I'm nourishing him.

POST IT.

BuzzBee614 · September 2015

LadySamLady said:
I am really sick of the whole gluten-free movement. Five years ago most people didn't even know what gluten was. If another person tells me their life was revolutionized when they stopped eating gluten I might barf.

I agree with this for people that treat gluten like a fad diet. For people that have celiacs, however, this is very real and can cause terrible reactions even if very small amounts of gluten are ingested. I also think that people who are using gluten as a fad diet are taking away from the seriousness of people that have a medical condition and therefore many restaurants and other people aren't respecting it as much. I know as a server, when I wait on someone with celiacs I am sure to have a conversation with the chefs about food preparation to ensure there is no cross contamination. I also get customers all the time who say they're gluten free but then go on to say it's a diet they're trying and their food can be cooked in our pizza oven (which is NOT gluten free).

When I see the gluten free selections in grocery stores I think about how great it is that there's options for adults and children with celiacs disease.

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