UO (Unpopular Opinion) Thursday

Nunuu

@vinerie In my humble opinion, but never did I say it was a universal truth or one that should be Enforced by compulsion. There are exceptions to every rule I just happen to think t is ideal.

@yogahh Um... Look at what two grand will afford you outside NYC in housing. Oh the hyperbole! If you can't afford to stay home there, then you should move elsewhere according to my standards. Choice is yours, not mine! Shacks are a delightful choice for those interested in gentrification and saving a shiny nickel tho

UO: men who want bjs are very immature and/or have wives with sandy vaginas.

Only continuing because it's mildly hilarious that so many people are insisting I am oppressed or somehow subservient to my husband because I stay at home and make sure he's well taken care of? And then also insisting that they are being oppressed by my opinion. Calm thyselves, people be thinking they are oppressed by a mailbox these days.

aamm04

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yogahh

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I am starting to think the same. MUD. No one is this stuck in the dark ages, are they?

aamm04

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I am starting to think the same. MUD. No one is this stuck in the dark ages, are they?

I think it's a sad message if it's not. You better believe I will teach my future daughter that she is a value inside and outside the home.

Nunuu

@lest12 a few hundred? You do realize that women in the work force is so so much younger than that. Women didn't truly integrate into the workforce until WWII.

It's the era of capitalism that has convinced women they need to work. That money empowers them. That they need certain comforts. It creates competition in the work force, it creates disparity between classes, it creates the idea that we are not complete unless we are earning and suspending.

I hope we evolve out of this consumeristic isea that we are nothing but money makers and money spenders. When we go back to the idea that our lives revolve around experiences and our loved ones. We need to stop letting our economic system oppress us into thinking we need to achieve and buy MORE.

The women's rights movement fought for the choice, and modern women are doing nothing but denigrating those women who choose to stay home, work hard, and take care of her family. I'm tired of it being ruined by slobbish moms who constantly complain, and by working moms who say imply you can't be empowered in the role.

missnc77

Nunuu said:

 I also see women complain about maternity leave... You should quit and stay home with the kids Families need someone to take care of them full time. If more women stayed home, there would be more jobs available. People would stop consuming things at a ridiculous rate because they are more money conscious (please don't tell me you can't afford to not stay home, down size your life and create a budget). Fact: most kids do not grow up with toys and those that grow up with a whole room of them are very unlikely to ever value material thing a in their life. Lastly, our teachers would be able to focus on educating children and not teaching them manners. And our families would be less fat and obese because we would be cooking real food and not things from a box. I'm ready for the hate to flow in. I'm pregnant and cranky and I wanted to voice this opinion. I really think all women should consider staying home because of the happiness it provides to everyone (including the wife)

This doesn't even make sense.

"Lastly, our teachers would be able to focus on educating children and not teaching them manners." - Well, I mean hey, if in your scenario women leave the workforce and teachers are all men, they'd probably get more respect anyway. AMIRIGHT?

" And our families would be less fat and obese because we would be cooking real food and not things from a box." - LOL. Because being a SAHM is completely associated with having a healthy family. Working mothers only serve food from a box. No. It's an economic thing and a lifestyle choice. I've seen plenty of obese families with a stay at home mom. I've seen plenty of organic only families who are healthy and active with two working parents - more money means more money to shop at places like whole foods, more money to buy sports equipment for the kids, active vacations, etc.

There's no sense in arguing or pointing these things out to you. You clearly see the world in tunnel vision. If whatever is growing inside of me turns out to be a girl, I want her to dream as big as she can. I want her to want to be a lawyer, a doctor, the President of the United States. I want her to see positive female examples out in this world as proof she can do whatever she wants. And if at the end of the day she ends up staying home to take care of a family, that's fine too. Either way, she's a valued member of society who can do whatever the hell she wants no thanks to people like you who think she only provides value in the home. And you know who taught me to value myself for more? My dad.

skiingstark

Nunuu said:

@skiingstark @kbrands7 Daddy can always stay home. I think women do it better, but I think the ideal situation is to have one parent at home. Go on income based repayment for student loans. We did this! Downsize dat mortgage. I have families back home that live 8 people to a one bedroom. We ain't better than them over here in The Western Hemisphere. We are unwilling to cut luxuries. You may not be able to stay home tomorrow, but you can make decisions that will enable you to.

Wow, talk about assumptions, you assume I must live in a huge house. I live in about 1,000 square feet house with my mom. We already have cut the luxuries out of our budget to save for the baby. But yes my baby does not need those luxuries like heat or food and a roof over our head. Just so we can live they way you think is best.

LadySamLady

@Nunuu WE GET IT. You love your life and it is perfect and magical. Congrats!

edited because grammar is hard

Nunuu

Those who are defensive are usually the most insecure ☺️

Glad I won the title of most unpopular opinion! It truly is an honor. Please excuse me while I adjust my tunnel vision to "more narrow".

lest12

Also thinking MUD. 

LadySamLady

You guys, I can't stand Taylor Swift. I'm so sorry. 

kbrands7

I'm leaving the other conversation behind; it's not productive.

My UO: I think that fall/winter boots look nice (not uggs...they're Frankenstein shoes imo) BUT I hate wearing shoes, so I'm not really looking forward to that aspect of the season. I'd much rather go barefoot if it were practical and socially acceptable.

BuzzBee614

@LadySamLady Noooooooooooooooooo

LadySamLady

@BuzzBee614 I knooooow it's turrible. I don't know what it is about her, she bugs!!

@kbrands7 me too! I loathe shoes and socks.

tgortney

Being pregnant gives me anxiety (about everything that could go wrong) and I don't like it. It only feeds into my usual anxious personality. I want a baby that is mine and my husband's genes but don't want the carrying and childbirth process :-SS (although too late lol!)

iamtheoracle

Unpopular opinion of an unpopular opinion: I actually like it when people touch my stomach. It makes me feel more pregnant, idk. I thought I would hate it but I don't!

trisl

I hate pumpkin-anything. All pumpkin things gross me out.

swflJD

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people encroach on my personal space.  So, I swear if anyone other than MH touches my belly when I start showing, I will break their effing arm!

I also hate all the slang pregnancy terms like "preggers" or "preggo."  I don't know why it irritates me so much.  I guess it just sounds so juvenile to me, like something a teenager would say when they couldn't bring themself to say the word "pregnant."

laurenmdrn16

I actually don't mind being overweight. I struggled so much with it when I was younger, but now it really doesn't bug me at all. No, I don't wear bikinis and crop tops, but I think I look fantastic in a sweater dress, leggings, and boots. I am relatively healthy and do work on being active and eating well, but I don't focus on the scale. I actually think I wear the weight well. No one can ever guess my weight, even my very honest fitness obsessed sister. I feel sexy, powerful, and beautiful. Maybe others might look at me and think I don't take care of myself or that I am lazy etc. Whatever. I would rather be healthy and happy no matter what size!

jdrdnr

I can't stand how now a days every uses gofundme accounts for everything. My daughter wants to go to school, I need help with my dogs surgery ugh get a job take it loans that what you do! I will not give my money that I work my butt off for because you don't wanna take out loans or work harder. Sorry rant over

TheThornBird

kbrands7 said:

I'm leaving the other conversation behind; it's not productive. My UO: I think that fall/winter boots look nice (not uggs...they're Frankenstein shoes imo) BUT I hate wearing shoes, so I'm not really looking forward to that aspect of the season. I'd much rather go barefoot if it were practical and socially acceptable.

Check out Xero shoes! They are almost like walking barefoot, I love mine. They do look a little like Jesus sandals though, ha. 

My UO: I love Uggs. I haven't bought a new pair since my last one died, but I was totally one of those girls who wore Uggs with black leggings and a northface jacket. 

missnc77

swflJD said:

I also hate all the slang pregnancy terms like "preggers" or "preggo."  I don't know why it irritates me so much.  I guess it just sounds so juvenile to me, like something a teenager would say when they couldn't bring themself to say the word "pregnant."

YES! I also hate when adults use the word "tummy" when not used context of dealing with a child. You're 35! It's a stomach!

schicksal

UO: I don't understand why for some people everything [b]has[/b] to be new. Anything not new is somehow scary, unreliable and intimidating. Houses, cars, appliances, you name it. If it's over 5 it's not for them.

yogahh

schicksal said:

UO: I don't understand why for some people everything [b]has[/b] to be new. Anything not new is somehow scary, unreliable and intimidating. Houses, cars, appliances, you name it. If it's over 5 it's not for them.

I am trying to find a gif of Teresa Guidice saying used houses gross her out.. cant find one, but you get the idea.

mrstmoose

Are we going to keep a running thread of UO? Usually they are done every Thursday...thoughts? 

JessicaB0627

@mrstmoose I was wondering why a new one wasn't started?

schicksal

yogahh said:

schicksal said:

UO: I don't understand why for some people everything [b]has[/b] to be new. Anything not new is somehow scary, unreliable and intimidating. Houses, cars, appliances, you name it. If it's over 5 it's not for them.

I am trying to find a gif of Teresa Guidice saying used houses gross her out.. cant find one, but you get the idea.

LOL yep... some friends are builders and they say all kinds of grossness goes on during construction!

Also I have no clue how it happened since their place is kind of elevated, but some friends had a sewage backup in their ~3 week old house too. It's not a funny thing to happen, but they're the same people who sold their 5 year old place since they couldn't live in a house that was getting old and built a new one, only to sell it at age 2 for the same reason.

mrstmoose

@JessicaB0627 I don't think everyone realized that you do this primarily on Thursday and restart it every week. So I think people just kept posting. And posting. 

yogahh

mrstmoose said:

Are we going to keep a running thread of UO? Usually they are done every Thursday...thoughts? 

My UO was going to be that I wish this thread would close. But then I thought, screw it. Bring on the crazy

m6agua

mrstmoose said:

Are we going to keep a running thread of UO? Usually they are done every Thursday...thoughts? 

I think every Thursday. This board needs some more organization.

aamm04

mrstmoose said:

Are we going to keep a running thread of UO? Usually they are done every Thursday...thoughts? 

Maybe we should just roll with it this week.

mrstmoose

@m6agua I thought it would be like TTGP and it would be done on a weekly basis...not on and on and on. Which this group clearly has a lot of UO's! 

aamm04

mrstmoose said:

@m6agua I thought it would be like TTGP and it would be done on a weekly basis...not on and on and on. Which this group clearly has a lot of UO's! 

We have a lot of newbies who don't understand board etiquette and only joined when they got there positive. I am more than happy to steer things in the right direction. I think we maybe should ask Admin to pin a thread to the top for spotting/cramping questions.

Thoughts?

yogahh

aamm04 , can we include "no symptoms" to that pin?

mrstmoose

@aamm04 yes please! Maybe start explaining what the weekly threads mean (FFFC, UO Thursday, Twatwaffle Tuesday, etc) and being more on top of daily ticker changes. We need to start having some organization here and "normalcy." @yogahh @m6agua @pooputtette @vinerie @MrsCase14 - you ladies were in TTGP, add some opinions here! 

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aamm04

mrstmoose said:

@aamm04 yes please! Maybe start explaining what the weekly threads mean (FFFC, UO Thursday, Twatwaffle Tuesday, etc) and being more on top of daily ticker changes. We need to start having some organization here and "normalcy." @yogahh @m6agua @pooputtette - you ladies were in TTGP, add some opinions here! 

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Alright. I'm on it. I will take care of it in a few minutes.

yogahh

mrstmoose said:

@aamm04 yes please! Maybe start explaining what the weekly threads mean (FFFC, UO Thursday, Twatwaffle Tuesday, etc) and being more on top of daily ticker changes. We need to start having some organization here and "normalcy." @yogahh @m6agua @pooputtette - you ladies were in TTGP, add some opinions here! 

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I agree... only reason I am posting here is because some of the posts today have been too good to pass up If we are going to have daily tickers, it needs to be DAILY ladies! I miss Twatwaffle Tuesdays and would like to have them added. I will say that having these posts go on and on past a week irks me less than those that just don't lurk at all. But we are over 200 posts now, and its time to start clean. Glad to know we have a lot of vocal ladies on this board though to keep it interesting. Maybe if we add a date (ie, UO 10/1) people will get that its supposed to be a weekly thing?

mrstmoose

@yogahh I think adding a date is a great idea. I love that we are vocal, we just need to keep it more organized so our board doesn't look like a hot mess, and those that need to lurk, can do so easier. 

aamm04

Monday bitchfest, twatwaffle Tuesday, AW Wednesday, UO Thursday, FFFCs? Weekly random thread, weekly symptoms, and questions about spotting/cramping main thread?

I will post a PSA: Board Organization thread in the next half hour or so.

mrstmoose

@aamm04 yes to all of them. Don't we also want to do a daily ticker change thread?