You got this @Sjeff0816 !! I don't know if you use white noise but that was a game changer for us!
I'm using it!! It's already helped her naps. Nice for me too because I don't feel like I'm tip toeing around her!
Yes it's the best!! I'd never even heard of it before having a baby. I guess I was living under a rock.
We live right next to a highway and sometimes it is obnoxiously loud. I've slept in LO's room a couple times to get a better rest (fiancé is not a white noise fan).
LO fell asleep on the couch a half hour before I was about to feed him. And that was THREE HOURS AGO (its 1020pm). I hung out, fully expecting him to wake up in 10-20 minutes cause he'd been fussy before that, used the time to get a snack and something to drink. Finished my snack and he still wasn't up so I sorted my mail and did some recycling. Waited for my phone to finish charging. Finally decided to go to bed and figured hed wake up when I move him and I'd feed him upstairs. Nope. Asleep still.
I just know he is going to wake me up in the middle of the night tonight. I just know it. Well, if it saves me from waking up at 530am, I'll do it. I hate waking up between 5-6am. Too early to get up, too late to go back to sleep, then.
Has anyone else noticed a three month regression when it comes to sleep? My lo has never been a great sleeper: I'm used to putting her down and getting five hours of sleep, nursing, then another two to three hours. These last few night my five hours have been more like two hours and she's walking up after just 30 minutes! I'm hoping this is a growth spurt and won't last long!!
You guys. After surviving yesterday on less than 4 hours of sleep, I got lo to bed at 730 and myself at 930 last night. And, despite the fact that her first wake up of the night hasn't been earlier than 230 in over 3 weeks...tonight she was up at 1145. I'm going to get fired if I can't get some effing sleep tonight. I'm going to crawl under my desk George Costanza style and sleep all day.
She sounded stuffy so we used the drops and bulb...I hope that helps because I am moments from having a nervous breakdown here. Again, I'm not sure why we're dreading this weekend's planned crib transition...it can't be worse than this.
I don't know how my lo wakes up always at different times. She's been sttn and used to sleep until 7 ish. Them recently it's been 5/6 ish but sometimes she's been up at 2, yesterday 4, today 3:20.. And she only took one 50 min nap yesterday. 3 months old means less sleep apparently?
I've been awake since 2am feeding. Going back to work has me so stressed out- sitting on the couch crying bc all I can think about is everything needed to be done at work and how I'm not asleep. Today's going to be a long day.
Here's why nighttime sucks for me when I'm off..... My boobs wake me up every night at 3 am. I get up and pump. Then I think I can't get to sleep in time because he wakes up at 4-5 am. Ugh...... Why can't my boobs just chill out until 4-5 am. Not complaining about supply and consider myself really lucky to have it but yes..... Zombie mode. 13 weeks and counting.
@klkonwi@Sammy K@dancegurl1118 and I'm sure there is someone else I have forgotten... I certainly do not envy your having to wake in the middle of the night to pump. This is one of the blessings of a middling supply. When I wake in the morning they are full, and left boob may have a leaked a tad bit, but they aren't painfully full. I actually feel bad every time I read about one of you waking up specifically to pump. Might as well add @virginiaunicorn11 in here, too, even tho she is not pumping, she is still up feeding her LO and that's boob related
My nighttime sucks gripe - now I know. Earlier bedtimes are not going to do it in our house. Since he fell asleep so early he woke at 1230am. No bid deal, i dont mind a MOTN feed, but he did not go back to sleep until 245am. And woke up at 630am. Unless I had gone to bed at 7 when he fell asleep, this does not work for mama. Nope
Here's why nighttime sucks for me when I'm off..... My boobs wake me up every night at 3 am. I get up and pump. Then I think I can't get to sleep in time because he wakes up at 4-5 am. Ugh...... Why can't my boobs just chill out until 4-5 am. Not complaining about supply and consider myself really lucky to have it but yes..... Zombie mode. 13 weeks and counting.
This happens to me always. Sigh.
Last night I was such a zombie when I fed her at her 1145 wakeup that I neglected to pump the side she didn't feed off of. She didn't wake up again, and I was just so tired from the night before that I slept right through to my alarm at 5. And I stood up, and that boob was hard and extraordinarily painful. I heeded to pump it for 10 minutes just for some relief. Sigh. If I'm up anyway I need to clean them both out. Lesson learned.
Well, that was a horrible night. She hates the crib. Absolutely hates it. She was waking up every 30 minutes and then would take at least that long to fall asleep again. Eventually I decided we both needed some sleep and I put her in her RNP in the nursery. She fell right asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying every night until it sticks. Anyone have any experience with a crib wedge?
Another rough night for us. After a loooonnnng drawn out process of getting her to finally go down for the night (4 tries and two burps later) it was 11 before my head finally hit the pillow. Then she was up four more times between 1-3. I'm not sure when I finally threw in the towel, but we ended co sleeping the rest of the night. I'm ready for her cold to be over now. :!!
Then 7 am rolls around and DS walks in bottomless. DS: "Morning mom! It's sunshine time!" Me: "where are your pants?" DS: "Downstairs. I pooped." Oh lord....
Well, that was a horrible night. She hates the crib. Absolutely hates it. She was waking up every 30 minutes and then would take at least that long to fall asleep again. Eventually I decided we both needed some sleep and I put her in her RNP in the nursery. She fell right asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying every night until it sticks. Anyone have any experience with a crib wedge?
I heard that putting her down in the crib during the day for naps can significantly help with the transition. Is this an option for you?
Worst night ever. LO was down at 10, up from 11-4, slept until 5, and now we're up again. She only stops crying if you walk her or are on the ball. I've given gas drops twice and now she's nursing again. She has the worst sounding booger rattle in her nose. It's like nails on a chalk board for me. Ugggg...I need sleep.
I'm sorry ..I hope tonight is better... As far as the boog, suck that sucker out
The bigger rattle was a vicious cycle last night. She would scream bloody murder when I sucked them out, leading to more crying and thus more boogers. She had three good poops today and quite a few naps to make up for last night. Me? I chased a toddler around in my free time. I did manage to get an hour nap in with her at one point. I'm ready for bed now though. Fingers crossed all will be well tonight. Thanks for your sympathies ladies. ❤️
Anyone introduce a lovey for bedtime/ naptime? Anyone plan to? Any STM with lovey experience? My LO loves to pet/rub my hand while being put to sleep and to fall asleep in the middle of the night. Would love to transfer that sleep association to a blankie or something!
Have done it twice, blanket with a silky edge that I picked... Daughter was very attached but was always fine leaving it car to say if we went out to eat.. She still has it in her room in great condition (she's twelve). And now LO loves his in blue... It's super softy so it benefits us both when I'm holding him
Well, that was a horrible night. She hates the crib. Absolutely hates it. She was waking up every 30 minutes and then would take at least that long to fall asleep again. Eventually I decided we both needed some sleep and I put her in her RNP in the nursery. She fell right asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying every night until it sticks. Anyone have any experience with a crib wedge?
I heard that putting her down in the crib during the day for naps can significantly help with the transition. Is this an option for you?
We've been napping in the crib occasionally for weeks. Today I've made sure to put her in there for every nap. We'll see if it helps tonight.
@rrcameron21 what white noise machine do you use? And what type of white noise? I'm using waves on our baby monitor app and it keeps cutting out when repeating, which is kind of jarring. Looking for something better!
@Sjeff0816 I downloaded a white noise app on my Microsoft surface. It has a ton of noise options but I just use the basic white noise static option. I haven't tried any other noises... I wonder if it makes a difference?
Last night went a lot better in the crib! Keep in mind "a lot better" is still relative. She slept 3.5 hours in the first stretch, then one hour, and then two. When I tried to put her down again she was over it. So I put her in her RNP without the motion at 5am. I used the ocean waves white noise, a sleep sack, and her wubbanub for the crib. She actually hates pacifiers, but held on to that thing for dear life last night. She soothed herself to sleep twice after I put her down. I hope this works out after all.
LOL didn't sleep more than several 30 min naps at daycare yesterday. She fell asleep at 6:15 without eating, woke up at 10, 11:30, 3 (and wouldn't go back to sleep until 4) and 5:45. Then she was ready to party. 6-6 is not a good schedule. I wish I could nap while pumping at work.
LOL didn't sleep more than several 30 min naps at daycare yesterday. She fell asleep at 6:15 without eating, woke up at 10, 11:30, 3 (and wouldn't go back to sleep until 4) and 5:45. Then she was ready to party. 6-6 is not a good schedule. I wish I could nap while pumping at work.
@Sammy K we had the same problem last night. There must be something in the water (milk?) DH and I have an arrangement where if she wakes before 3am he gets her, if it's after 3 I get her. We were both up several times. No fun at all. Solidarity on making it through the worknday.
Well, that was a horrible night. She hates the crib. Absolutely hates it. She was waking up every 30 minutes and then would take at least that long to fall asleep again. Eventually I decided we both needed some sleep and I put her in her RNP in the nursery. She fell right asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying every night until it sticks. Anyone have any experience with a crib wedge?
I heard that putting her down in the crib during the day for naps can significantly help with the transition. Is this an option for you?
We've been napping in the crib occasionally for weeks. Today I've made sure to put her in there for every nap. We'll see if it helps tonight.
@rrcameron21 what white noise machine do you use? And what type of white noise? I'm using waves on our baby monitor app and it keeps cutting out when repeating, which is kind of jarring. Looking for something better!
Do you have an old iphone by any chance? I took my old 4s and downloaded the sound sleeper app. We put it on airplane mode so the battery lasts longer. It is perfect. We use rain and turn it up pretty loud.
Well, that was a horrible night. She hates the crib. Absolutely hates it. She was waking up every 30 minutes and then would take at least that long to fall asleep again. Eventually I decided we both needed some sleep and I put her in her RNP in the nursery. She fell right asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying every night until it sticks. Anyone have any experience with a crib wedge?
I heard that putting her down in the crib during the day for naps can significantly help with the transition. Is this an option for you?
We've been napping in the crib occasionally for weeks. Today I've made sure to put her in there for every nap. We'll see if it helps tonight.
@rrcameron21 what white noise machine do you use? And what type of white noise? I'm using waves on our baby monitor app and it keeps cutting out when repeating, which is kind of jarring. Looking for something better!
Do you have an old iphone by any chance? I took my old 4s and downloaded the sound sleeper app. We put it on airplane mode so the battery lasts longer. It is perfect. We use rain and turn it up pretty loud.
I'm actually using an old iPod as a baby monitor. I'm sure I have an old iPhone somewhere to use for white noise!
What time do your kiddos go to bed? We have to be up eating at 6:30 to start our day, so I've been putting her down by 7 but since moving her bedtime up she wakes up every 3 hours still!
What time do your kiddos go to bed? We have to be up eating at 6:30 to start our day, so I've been putting her down by 7 but since moving her bedtime up she wakes up every 3 hours still!
He WAS going to bed around 9-10pm. And then sleeping thru until 5-6am. He has been so very cranky in the evenings now tho that the past two nights I've put him to sleep around 7-8pm (8pm last night, night before he fell asleep at 7pm and I didn't want to wake him). But both nights he has woken up around midnight - 1am and again at 5-6am (which is him waking up to start the day). It takes him quite a while to fall back asleep at the 1am feeding too. Unless I go to bed when he does, this schedule means less sleep for me
What time do your kiddos go to bed? We have to be up eating at 6:30 to start our day, so I've been putting her down by 7 but since moving her bedtime up she wakes up every 3 hours still!
LO just turned 4 months and I don't have a set bedtime yet. He is still so inconsistent with sleeping (two nights ago he STTN and last night he was up four times.). Typically we try to have him asleep between 9 and 10. I tried earlier than 9, and he was up a half hour later. Once he gets a little more consistent with sleeping, I will try to establish a set bedtime. We do, however, have a bedtime routine that is the same every night.
If I put him to bed before 930 he will wake up within the next hour no matter what. But he gets soooo tired between 8-9 so i do it anyway and get chores done until he wakes up
LO goes down around 8:30. On good nights she wakes for a feeding at 3:30 and 5:30-6. She wakes up for the day around 7:30. Lately she's throwing in a 11 and 1 am feeding. I'm so tired.
@lovethatcolosun I am so with you on all of that! Last night LO was down at 930 then up at 11:30, 4, 7, then up at 830. Usually it's just 3:30 and 630.
I'm up every 2-3 hours with LO on the regular. He eats then goes back to sleep, so not a huge deal, but not great. The past few days, he cries unless he is in bed with us. He is seemingly in a deep sleep, but the moment his head hits the PnP, he cries.
I've said before that I don't really mind this, since he needs to eat that often apparently. He has been falling asleep between 6:00-7:00 pm regularly. (Too early?) He naps around 9:00, noon, and 3:00, though we are often out and about, so sometimes these are cat naps. (Bad mom for not being home?)
I am weakening. I can't decide whether this is just what he needs, or if I am doing something wrong. I am losing faith that I'm not establishing bad habits (though he's only 15 weeks and I KNOW it's too soon for that), and that things won't stay this way forever. I can't imagine letting him cry, so I have anxiety about getting to a point where we have to let him cry it out, as a result of me messing things up.
So much anxiety. My emotional self is a mess. My rational self can't understand my concern, and thinks I need to just deal with it and pull myself together. I've been trying to nap with LO, but even a two hour nap is not leaving me rested. (Sorry, I don't mean to complain - I know many mamas would kill for that nap. I'm just too chronically sleep deprived for it to leave me refreshed.)
Despite decent daycare naps today totalling about 2.5 hours, LO was so tired tonight that she almost fell asleep both in the bathtub and when I was putting her pjs on her. 645 seems early for bedtime but if she's tired she's tired.
She seems to need to go to bed earlier and earlier as the week progresses. Guess daycare wares her out. She's been putting herself to sleep at nap time the past week or so which is exciting. This is officially her last night in the bassinet. This weekend is crib transition. Scary.
I'm up every 2-3 hours with LO on the regular. He eats then goes back to sleep, so not a huge deal, but not great. The past few days, he cries unless he is in bed with us. He is seemingly in a deep sleep, but the moment his head hits the PnP, he cries.
I've said before that I don't really mind this, since he needs to eat that often apparently. He has been falling asleep between 6:00-7:00 pm regularly. (Too early?) He naps around 9:00, noon, and 3:00, though we are often out and about, so sometimes these are cat naps. (Bad mom for not being home?)
I am weakening. I can't decide whether this is just what he needs, or if I am doing something wrong. I am losing faith that I'm not establishing bad habits (though he's only 15 weeks and I KNOW it's too soon for that), and that things won't stay this way forever. I can't imagine letting him cry, so I have anxiety about getting to a point where we have to let him cry it out, as a result of me messing things up.
So much anxiety. My emotional self is a mess. My rational self can't understand my concern, and thinks I need to just deal with it and pull myself together. I've been trying to nap with LO, but even a two hour nap is not leaving me rested. (Sorry, I don't mean to complain - I know many mamas would kill for that nap. I'm just too chronically sleep deprived for it to leave me refreshed.)
So many Dear Diary posts today, sorry ladies.
My LO is so inconsistent too. Often waking every two or three hours still. She is 4 months tomorrow. I had the same concerns as you. Only thing I can suggest that I've been trying is if she has eaten recently like in the last two hours I will try to get her back to sleep without nursing. I'll put the pacifier in or lie her down in bed next to me and sometimes this works. So even though she still wakes up every two hours I consider it a success if she goes four hours between feedings just so she doesn't get used to always nursing everytime she wakes at night. Or I've had DH take her part of the night to feed her with my pumped milk. If she's really hungry she'll drink from the bottle. If she doesn't he tries a bunch of things to soothe her back to sleep. Sometimes he is able to quite quickly, other times poor guy is up with her for a few hours. All part of the learning process I guess. Have you tried anything like that? It's hard when it seems like everyone else's baby is sleeping longer stretches but believe me I've noted that yours is waking just as much as mine & while it sucks to be so sleep deprived at least we are not alone in it. My step mom tells me don't say bad habits just habits. I think it helps to look at things that way too. Even if you are establishing a habit that's all it is, a habit. It doesn't mean it's necessarily a bad one.
Got too big for my britches in trying to let her go unswaddled. Put her down at 730 and she just was crying at 1030. Hasn't woken up like that in 6 weeks. You bet your ass I ran right in there and swaddled her right up.
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I'm up every 2-3 hours with LO on the regular. He eats then goes back to sleep, so not a huge deal, but not great. The past few days, he cries unless he is in bed with us. He is seemingly in a deep sleep, but the moment his head hits the PnP, he cries.
I've said before that I don't really mind this, since he needs to eat that often apparently. He has been falling asleep between 6:00-7:00 pm regularly. (Too early?) He naps around 9:00, noon, and 3:00, though we are often out and about, so sometimes these are cat naps. (Bad mom for not being home?)
I am weakening. I can't decide whether this is just what he needs, or if I am doing something wrong. I am losing faith that I'm not establishing bad habits (though he's only 15 weeks and I KNOW it's too soon for that), and that things won't stay this way forever. I can't imagine letting him cry, so I have anxiety about getting to a point where we have to let him cry it out, as a result of me messing things up.
So much anxiety. My emotional self is a mess. My rational self can't understand my concern, and thinks I need to just deal with it and pull myself together. I've been trying to nap with LO, but even a two hour nap is not leaving me rested. (Sorry, I don't mean to complain - I know many mamas would kill for that nap. I'm just too chronically sleep deprived for it to leave me refreshed.)
So many Dear Diary posts today, sorry ladies.
Unfortunately sleep deprivation in itself causes anxiety! I say it's too early anyway to get him on a schedule, and he's exclusively Bf so I think you are doing everything right. He will eventually sleep through the night and it will happen when he's ready so no point in worrying if you are making a mistake, because you def are not. It will happen... On his time.... Do what works for you and your LO and what's best at the time... My DH hates it but I pull LO in bed when he wakes and I'm not ready to get up and we both get a couple more hours while he nurses side lying.. Some people disagree with doing this, but it works for us. Hang in there...are you able to snooze while he's on the boob? Or do you get up and feed elsewhere?
Why is my 3 month old sleeping less and less every night! Ugh.. We were consistently getting 10hr stretches and it's been less and less every night now. 5 1/2 hrs last night.. Is there a growth spurt around 14 weeks? She seems to be eating and sleeping her normal ways during the day..
Despite decent daycare naps today totalling about 2.5 hours, LO was so tired tonight that she almost fell asleep both in the bathtub and when I was putting her pjs on her. 645 seems early for bedtime but if she's tired she's tired.
She seems to need to go to bed earlier and earlier as the week progresses. Guess daycare wares her out. She's been putting herself to sleep at nap time the past week or so which is exciting. This is officially her last night in the bassinet. This weekend is crib transition. Scary.
Update: she woke up the first time at 1130 (after I went to bed at 10 ugh) so we figured F it...let's just out her in the crib. She woke up in there around 2 but put herself back to sleep (she would do that around the same time in the bassinet) and was up again at 4 (she does normally wake to eat between 4 and 5). So I think the only difference the crib made was that I was up staring at her on the video monitor! Hopefully by the end of the weekend we'll all be completely used to it!
We're in the same boat with waking up often. Finally had to have DH do a 2 ounce for the early wake up feed. We did dream feed at 9 last night only for her to fall asleep on the first boob so i put her back down. She actually slept until 1 but then woke up at 2, 3, 4. We start day at 6:30. I figure oh well, one day I'll look at the clock and it'll be 5am and she'll start sleeping all the way through when she wants. Sad but that's the reality
I'm up every 2-3 hours with LO on the regular. He eats then goes back to sleep, so not a huge deal, but not great. The past few days, he cries unless he is in bed with us. He is seemingly in a deep sleep, but the moment his head hits the PnP, he cries.
I've said before that I don't really mind this, since he needs to eat that often apparently. He has been falling asleep between 6:00-7:00 pm regularly. (Too early?) He naps around 9:00, noon, and 3:00, though we are often out and about, so sometimes these are cat naps. (Bad mom for not being home?)
I am weakening. I can't decide whether this is just what he needs, or if I am doing something wrong. I am losing faith that I'm not establishing bad habits (though he's only 15 weeks and I KNOW it's too soon for that), and that things won't stay this way forever. I can't imagine letting him cry, so I have anxiety about getting to a point where we have to let him cry it out, as a result of me messing things up.
So much anxiety. My emotional self is a mess. My rational self can't understand my concern, and thinks I need to just deal with it and pull myself together. I've been trying to nap with LO, but even a two hour nap is not leaving me rested. (Sorry, I don't mean to complain - I know many mamas would kill for that nap. I'm just too chronically sleep deprived for it to leave me refreshed.)
So many Dear Diary posts today, sorry ladies.
Between sleep deprivation and everything else you have on your plate, I can understand why you're stressed. Have you talked to your pedi about any of this? I know all babies are different, but I was told at our 2 month appt that they should be sleeping at least one 4-5 hour stretch at night most nights. I agree with pp about trying to soothe him back to sleep every other waking and see if he really needs to eat or just needs help falling back asleep.
I know you're EBF, but can you pump one bottle and let DH rake a feeding this weekend so you can sleep? I bet you'll have a different outlook after a 5-6 hour sleep.
Big hugs lady. I know what it's like to feel like you're falling apart.
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
We live right next to a highway and sometimes it is obnoxiously loud. I've slept in LO's room a couple times to get a better rest (fiancé is not a white noise fan).
I just know he is going to wake me up in the middle of the night tonight. I just know it. Well, if it saves me from waking up at 530am, I'll do it. I hate waking up between 5-6am. Too early to get up, too late to go back to sleep, then.
She sounded stuffy so we used the drops and bulb...I hope that helps because I am moments from having a nervous breakdown here. Again, I'm not sure why we're dreading this weekend's planned crib transition...it can't be worse than this.
My nighttime sucks gripe - now I know.
Earlier bedtimes are not going to do it in our house. Since he fell asleep so early he woke at 1230am. No bid deal, i dont mind a MOTN feed, but he did not go back to sleep until 245am. And woke up at 630am. Unless I had gone to bed at 7 when he fell asleep, this does not work for mama. Nope
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Last night I was such a zombie when I fed her at her 1145 wakeup that I neglected to pump the side she didn't feed off of. She didn't wake up again, and I was just so tired from the night before that I slept right through to my alarm at 5. And I stood up, and that boob was hard and extraordinarily painful. I heeded to pump it for 10 minutes just for some relief. Sigh. If I'm up anyway I need to clean them both out. Lesson learned.
Then 7 am rolls around and DS walks in bottomless.
DS: "Morning mom! It's sunshine time!"
Me: "where are your pants?"
DS: "Downstairs. I pooped."
Oh lord....
@rrcameron21 what white noise machine do you use? And what type of white noise? I'm using waves on our baby monitor app and it keeps cutting out when repeating, which is kind of jarring. Looking for something better!
Do you have an old iphone by any chance? I took my old 4s and downloaded the sound sleeper app. We put it on airplane mode so the battery lasts longer. It is perfect. We use rain and turn it up pretty loud.
I hate the inconsistency!!
I've said before that I don't really mind this, since he needs to eat that often apparently. He has been falling asleep between 6:00-7:00 pm regularly. (Too early?) He naps around 9:00, noon, and 3:00, though we are often out and about, so sometimes these are cat naps. (Bad mom for not being home?)
I am weakening. I can't decide whether this is just what he needs, or if I am doing something wrong. I am losing faith that I'm not establishing bad habits (though he's only 15 weeks and I KNOW it's too soon for that), and that things won't stay this way forever. I can't imagine letting him cry, so I have anxiety about getting to a point where we have to let him cry it out, as a result of me messing things up.
So much anxiety. My emotional self is a mess. My rational self can't understand my concern, and thinks I need to just deal with it and pull myself together. I've been trying to nap with LO, but even a two hour nap is not leaving me rested. (Sorry, I don't mean to complain - I know many mamas would kill for that nap. I'm just too chronically sleep deprived for it to leave me refreshed.)
So many Dear Diary posts today, sorry ladies.
She seems to need to go to bed earlier and earlier as the week progresses. Guess daycare wares her out. She's been putting herself to sleep at nap time the past week or so which is exciting. This is officially her last night in the bassinet. This weekend is crib transition. Scary.
I know you're EBF, but can you pump one bottle and let DH rake a feeding this weekend so you can sleep? I bet you'll have a different outlook after a 5-6 hour sleep.
Big hugs lady. I know what it's like to feel like you're falling apart.