Baby number 4

mommypof4 · September 2015

So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

taysun · September 2015

I'm going to say forget about it unless someone really really wants to throw you one. I'd register for what you plan on buying yourself and if anyone asks about buying you something you can direct them there

hplunkett2883 · September 2015

*Warning*
OP you do what you want but I hope you are wearing some big girl panties. Because the etiquette police will rip you apart. They will come. And it won't be pretty.

kynbar5 · September 2015

Since you were warned I'll be blunt.
Are you serious?! This is your 4th child, you still have stuff left from previous child that is under 2 and also a girl and you want to throw this shower yourself?! I just can't even. I'm personally on my 6th and would you like to know how many showers I had? ONE. Sorry lady, but no. This is so beyond ridiculous it's not even funny. You decided to have another child, you should be able to support that child. On your own (SO included). Good luck.
ETA- there is no way to NOT come off greedy. This is downright greedy.

ambercakes92 · September 2015

Forget it.

ecwk · September 2015

mommypof4 said:
We want to do a shower but not come off greedy,

Well that there is a fine catch 22. Do you not get the irony of this statement?

contourhands · September 2015

yeah, I absolutely would not have a baby shower...

cMichelle0423 · September 2015

mommypof4 said:
So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

A) Baby showers are for first time moms to welcome them into motherhood. You are NOT a FTM.

You should NEVER throw yourself a baby shower. There meant to "shower" the mother to be with gifts. So if you throw one yourself, FOR yourself, you're basically sending out invitations saying "please come over and bring me gifts".

No... Just no.

ArtlessIbex · September 2015

mommypof4 said:
So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

You want another shower (that you throw for yourself???) but don't want to seem greedy?
I don't think there is any way to accomplish both of those completely opposing goals.
Dig out your old baby stuff and wash it up. It will be fine.

GinnyJ2012 · September 2015

Do not throw yourself a baby shower for your 4th child. Register for things you need to keep your own thoughts organized and the completion coupon. If anyone wants to buy you something for new baby girl then you can direct them to the registry. Do not advertise that you have created this registry.

oceanchild · September 2015

hey, this is my 4th too! would you mind throwing me a shower while you're at it? we could really use a new infant seat since the one we used for the first three babies is expired. and i don't like the color of my current stroller. in fact, just save yourself the trouble of the shower and send me a gift card so i can pick out exactly what i want - amazon will do, or one of those visa ones. maybe about 500 bucks should cover it?

FORGET IT

kynbar5 · September 2015

@oceanchild lmao. Do you have any complaints on having a combined shower with me? @mommypof4 could just double that order!

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oceanchild · September 2015

that is actually a spectacular idea, @kynbar5!

oceanchild · September 2015

but we need separate cakes. bc i want mine to be all about me. and i want to eat it all by myself haha!

kynbar5 · September 2015

oceanchild said:
but we need separate cakes. bc i want mine to be all about me. and i want to eat it all by myself haha!

I will agree with you on that! Also, we really need to incorporate the diaper raffle (ticket through the door) into this somehow. Hahahha

oceanchild · September 2015

i am only registering for the collectible limited edition bumgenius cloth diapers that are selling at triple retail, but that works for me!

skruhmin · September 2015

Is there any room for a combined third baby shower in there? Because cake.

kynbar5 · September 2015

@skruhmin how could we deny you?!!!

skruhmin · September 2015

Wait is this a Skype shower or are we flying across the country for it?

oceanchild · September 2015

as long as we are each still getting our own cake! but no room for first-timers; remember this shower is for mamas with more that one baby who already have baby stuff and are pros at being guests of honor at showers

kynbar5 · September 2015

I vote Skype shower! And yes, no ftm please! Lmao

oceanchild · September 2015

i guess we can do skype - but there must be a deposit into my paypal from each guest before i will acknowledge her ..

oceanchild · September 2015

bc i need more stuff guys!

kynbar5 · September 2015

Maybe we could also set up GFM's?!

flowerpower5838 · September 2015

I'd like an invite to this shower so I can shower all of you multi-mommies with things to don't need for your little ones! Then side-eye you and talk about you behind your back because of how gift-grabby showers are after the first!

skruhmin · September 2015

/sigh @flowerpower5838 I can't even

kynbar5 · September 2015

@flowerpower5838 how rude!

oceanchild · September 2015

@flowerpower5838 that is SO not the answer i was looking for so i am going to never return to this thread

Parker16772 · September 2015

No to a shower for your fourth and def. no to throwing your own shower. If you have a 22 month old I can't imagine that you would need much. Either way going to come off greedy.

skruhmin · September 2015

Did you have showers for babies 2 and 3?

nlwz123 · September 2015

I would be pissed if someone I knew was throwing a shower for themselves for their FOURTH baby.

ecwk · September 2015

lmao @oceanchild, @flowerpower5838 @skruhmin @kynbar5 you all are hilarious

I'm so glad we're on the same BMB!

I gotta call MUD on this post though, right? OP is gonzo!

smount2011 · September 2015

Wow... you ladies crack me up!

skruhmin · September 2015

Unless she was talking about TAKING a shower. Then by all means, yes please. No greed where hygiene is concerned. Especially washing all that MUD off.

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff?

No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think.

With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

FWIW-- I had a small shower for DS thrown by a close friend. I got mostly clothes (yay! More laundry but also yay more cuteness) & diapers. It was small (5 people) & I didn't throw it myself. If I'm lucky enough to have #3 I figured I'll just have a meet the baby party afterward.

smount2011 · September 2015

Yeah- the only reason I'm having a second shower (and I've had several offers from people to throw me one) is because there is an 11 year difference between my kids- thanks to infertility. The only thing I still have is my crib, and will need EVERYTHING. If I had kids a couple years apart like we had originally planned I would still have all my stuff. But car seats expire, and crap even my crib was recalled! So I need to start over new.

redfallon · September 2015

@PrimRoseMama said:

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff? No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think. With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

Whoa! What? Craziness...

Bigboobsmcgee · September 2015

clairemwalker · September 2015

U ladies crack me up! Im totally going to say no to 4th baby shower. Seems very gift grabby

ChiccoBeanz · September 2015

PrimRoseMama said:

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff? No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think. With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

WOW that is freaking insane. I'd have lost my sh*t on her if we were associated and I got her a gift.

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