Baby number 4

SaltyMcNulty

mommypof4 said:

So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

No. This is your fourth child. Short of diapers and wipes and maybe some hygiene products, you really shouldn't "need" anything. And you have three other kids. This is your fourth. Time to get off the "give me free stuff because I'm having a kid" ride and pay for your own baby items.

jrouge12

Agree with previous posters. It's your 4th child. You should never throw your own shower and showers for 2nd, 3rd or beyond children is greedy and tacky (especially if you're throwing it yourself). If I was an invited guest I would not be thinking the best of you. I would still attend the shower and bring a really small gift (under $10).

I don't understand this mindset that showers are this "right". If I am thrown a shower or not, I know I am financially responsible for providing for my baby not my friends or family (if they choose to help then I am very grateful). I knew that the day I stopped the pill, I knew that every time I had sex, I knew that when I got my BFP. DH and I are not rich or well off, but we will make it work.

4N6s

I think you should be able to afford the small things for your fourth baby... I don't like going anywhere where people expect to get presents.
I think you should be able to afford everything for your first... But that's just me.

ddjay315

If you just want to have a party to bring everyone together and celebrate a new baby but want to frame it as a "shower" or sprinkle, since you likely don't need anything for your family instead of gifts for you encourage attendees to bring small gifts or diapers that will be donated to a diaper bank or charity toy drive, especially as we get closer to the holidays. Then you get to throw the party but can use it as a way to help others in need (and as a way to teach your older kids about helping others).

FinePlacentaPie

ddjay315 said:

If you just want to have a party to bring everyone together and celebrate a new baby but want to frame it as a "shower" or sprinkle, since you likely don't need anything for your family instead of gifts for you encourage attendees to bring small gifts or diapers that will be donated to a diaper bank or charity toy drive, especially as we get closer to the holidays. Then you get to throw the party but can use it as a way to help others in need (and as a way to teach your older kids about helping others).

Eh. I like your intent here, but I still don't like dictating what people bring to a shower. You are still asking people to bring something to attend. 

pettycrocker

I am on team one shower, and I would maybe understand a sprinkle if the kids were years apart and a different sex. I just think multiple showers are so tacky and gift grabby. 

ChiccoBeanz

I'd send you a card and not attend, unless there were special circumstances surrounding the shower. Then I'd get you a gift.

kabnpauj

My friend is about to throw her 5th shower, and her youngest is still a baby. [-(