Baby number 4

mommypof4

So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

taysun

I'm going to say forget about it unless someone really really wants to throw you one. I'd register for what you plan on buying yourself and if anyone asks about buying you something you can direct them there

hplunkett2883

*Warning*
OP you do what you want but I hope you are wearing some big girl panties. Because the etiquette police will rip you apart. They will come. And it won't be pretty.

kynbar5

Since you were warned I'll be blunt.
Are you serious?! This is your 4th child, you still have stuff left from previous child that is under 2 and also a girl and you want to throw this shower yourself?! I just can't even. I'm personally on my 6th and would you like to know how many showers I had? ONE. Sorry lady, but no. This is so beyond ridiculous it's not even funny. You decided to have another child, you should be able to support that child. On your own (SO included). Good luck.
ETA- there is no way to NOT come off greedy. This is downright greedy.

ambercakes92

Forget it.

ecwk

mommypof4 said:

We want to do a shower but not come off greedy,

Well that there is a fine catch 22. Do you not get the irony of this statement?

contourhands

yeah, I absolutely would not have a baby shower...

cMichelle0423

mommypof4 said:

So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

A) Baby showers are for first time moms to welcome them into motherhood. You are NOT a FTM.

You should NEVER throw yourself a baby shower. There meant to "shower" the mother to be with gifts. So if you throw one yourself, FOR yourself, you're basically sending out invitations saying "please come over and bring me gifts".

No... Just no.

ArtlessIbex

mommypof4 said:

So we're expecting another girl in January. We want to do a shower but not come off greedy, plus I have stuff left over from my 22 month old. Should we still do a shower for the little things we need, or just forget about it?

You want another shower (that you throw for yourself???) but don't want to seem greedy?
I don't think there is any way to accomplish both of those completely opposing goals.
Dig out your old baby stuff and wash it up. It will be fine.

GinnyJ2012

Do not throw yourself a baby shower for your 4th child. Register for things you need to keep your own thoughts organized and the completion coupon. If anyone wants to buy you something for new baby girl then you can direct them to the registry. Do not advertise that you have created this registry.

oceanchild

hey, this is my 4th too! would you mind throwing me a shower while you're at it? we could really use a new infant seat since the one we used for the first three babies is expired. and i don't like the color of my current stroller. in fact, just save yourself the trouble of the shower and send me a gift card so i can pick out exactly what i want - amazon will do, or one of those visa ones. maybe about 500 bucks should cover it?

FORGET IT 

kynbar5

@oceanchild lmao. Do you have any complaints on having a combined shower with me? @mommypof4 could just double that order! )

oceanchild

that is actually a spectacular idea, @kynbar5!

oceanchild

but we need separate cakes. bc i want mine to be all about me. and i want to eat it all by myself haha!

kynbar5

oceanchild said:

but we need separate cakes. bc i want mine to be all about me. and i want to eat it all by myself haha!

I will agree with you on that! Also, we really need to incorporate the diaper raffle (ticket through the door) into this somehow. Hahahha

oceanchild

i am only registering for the collectible limited edition bumgenius cloth diapers that are selling at triple retail, but that works for me!

skruhmin

Is there any room for a combined third baby shower in there? Because cake.

kynbar5

@skruhmin how could we deny you?!!!

skruhmin

Wait is this a Skype shower or are we flying across the country for it?

oceanchild

as long as we are each still getting our own cake! but no room for first-timers; remember this shower is for mamas with more that one baby who already have baby stuff and are pros at being guests of honor at showers

kynbar5

I vote Skype shower! And yes, no ftm please! Lmao

oceanchild

i guess we can do skype - but there must be a deposit into my paypal from each guest before i will acknowledge her ..

oceanchild

bc i need more stuff guys!

kynbar5

Maybe we could also set up GFM's?!

flowerpower5838

I'd like an invite to this shower so I can shower all of you multi-mommies with things to don't need for your little ones! Then side-eye you and talk about you behind your back because of how gift-grabby showers are after the first!

skruhmin

/sigh @flowerpower5838 I can't even

kynbar5

@flowerpower5838 how rude!

oceanchild

@flowerpower5838 that is SO not the answer i was looking for so i am going to never return to this thread

Parker16772

No to a shower for your fourth and def. no to throwing your own shower. If you have a 22 month old I can't imagine that you would need much. Either way going to come off greedy.

skruhmin

Did you have showers for babies 2 and 3?

nlwz123

I would be pissed if someone I knew was throwing a shower for themselves for their FOURTH baby.

ecwk

lmao @oceanchild, @flowerpower5838 @skruhmin @kynbar5 you all are hilarious  I'm so glad we're on the same BMB! 

I gotta call MUD on this post though, right? OP is gonzo! 

smount2011

Wow... you ladies crack me up!

skruhmin

Unless she was talking about TAKING a shower. Then by all means, yes please. No greed where hygiene is concerned. Especially washing all that MUD off.

PrimRoseMama

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff?

No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think.

With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

PrimRoseMama

FWIW-- I had a small shower for DS thrown by a close friend. I got mostly clothes (yay! More laundry but also yay more cuteness) & diapers. It was small (5 people) & I didn't throw it myself. If I'm lucky enough to have #3 I figured I'll just have a meet the baby party afterward.

smount2011

Yeah- the only reason I'm having a second shower (and I've had several offers from people to throw me one) is because there is an 11 year difference between my kids- thanks to infertility.  The only thing I still have is my crib, and will need EVERYTHING.  If I had kids a couple years apart like we had originally planned I would still have all my stuff.  But car seats expire, and crap even my crib was recalled!  So I need to start over new.

redfallon

@PrimRoseMama said:

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff? No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think. With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

Whoa! What? Craziness...

Bigboobsmcgee

clairemwalker

U ladies crack me up! Im totally going to say no to 4th baby shower. Seems very gift grabby

ChiccoBeanz

PrimRoseMama said:

I just want to know how many showers (total) OP has had. If you have one for each kid-- what happened to all the stuff? No joke, a mom I am an acquaintances with (not friends necessarily, but polite in passing) had a shower for each of her 8 children. She SOLD the items on craigslist starting with the fourth kid. She bragged about it to a group of moms at a play date. I'm talking hundreds of dollars from the generosity of her friends/family. Eventually it got back to her friends I think. With posts like these I always wonder-- "yeah sure celebrate every baby? But after the second shower you should have every essential..."

WOW that is freaking insane. I'd have lost my sh*t on her if we were associated and I got her a gift.