has anyone ever heard of a beer and diaper party! I wondering what everybody thinks... It is more for the husbands... You have it on the same day as your baby shower... They invite who they want (girls go to the shower, guys go to the beer & diaper party) all of the guys bring a 6 pack and a box or package of diapers and they just drink and have a good time! I thought it would be kind of fun, especially since it would make the husbands feel more involved.. I was going to do a diaper raffle at my shower, but instead we might just do this! What is everybody's thoughts? Does it sound lame? Or am I just overthinking this?
Re: Beer & Diaper Party
My brother had his second child and they did a diaper party. A lot of people complained it was a "cash grab", and I kind of see their point.
UNLESS, you just do one combined party? I don't know having 2 different parties like that just seems wrong.
Women get all the hoopla (which we most definitely should lol) but I've decided to throw a big bonfire for mine- he deserves a little celebration too!
Edited at add: by the time I got through my way too long response I realized you already said you were considering a diaper raffle! Lol
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If anyone thinks it is "gift-grabby" or has a negative opinion- then they shouldn't come or feel obligated to send a gift.
We found lots of fun invite ideas online- see ex!
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If he's supposed to be included in the celebration, why wouldn't he be with you and the other guests?
A group text saying "hey all the guys are getting together for their own thing while the girls are at the shower. We've got the food, feel free to bring some beer, cigars, diapers, whatever" is pretty low key in my mind and hard to take offense to . A formal invite to the guys listing your registry info or asking for gift cards- now that I would find inappropriate.
I could be ignorant to this whole thing but isn't a box of diapers like $25 assuming it's not economy size? And a pack of diapers like 10.99? I'm not saying that's cheap but it's like a case of (good) beer and a nice cigar.
I guess what I'm saying is if DH were invited to a guys cookout while I was attending the wifes shower, I wouldn't be like "well we better return those pacifiers because you're bringing him beer and that's too much to give them"
I didn't bat an eye when DHs friends gave him gifts at his bachelor party, even though their wives had attended my bridal shower. That's why I have a hard time seeing how overlapping guest lists is a huge deal.
Personally I'm planning one for DH because the guys never have a chance to get together without wives and kids around, and I know he'd like the quality time with his brothers. If only one guy brings diapers, who cares. If I don't get that crib skirt because someone had to choose between that and bringing diapers to a cookout, who cares! At least my DH got a fun afternoon out of it.
**long post I know but wanted to add- the cigars thing has nothing to do with the traditional "give dad a congratulatory cigar" thing, DH smokes them at least once a week and every time all the guys in the family get together, it's what they do.
TLDR: my hormones have me ragey and argumentative to the point where I'm defending a beer and diaper party like it's a damn thesis. Just do what works for your friends/fam. Carry on
However, you know your friends and family better than any of us. If it's something they are into and want to do, then by all means celebrate and throw the party. I know a lot of people who do it and have a great time. My husband is not a super social person, but his buddies did buy us a couple cases of diapers and take him out for the night to celebrate becoming a dad. It's whatever works for you and your situation. Have fun! ;;)
We're doing one invite which will have the registry, but if gifts aren't brought, no one will care. We'll still have food, beer, games and really nice gifts regardless. It should be a celebration of becoming parents, not a gift expectation. As long as you treat it that way, who cares what people think? They don't have to come just because they're invited.
Everyone has different opinions of it, and different situations. This one just happened to work out perfectly for him. Best of luck!
When we go to a party that says BYOB, or a potluck, we know the couple isn't being greedy and trying to stock their fridge with leftovers, and we certainly don't think "well if they can afford to host a party then they can buy their own beer, ya know, since its THEIR party" As invitees, we're within our rights to either a) bring stuff b) don't bring stuff c) don't attend.
Let's be honest here, NO one is under the delusion that they won't have to buy anymore diapers after a beer and diaper party. Anyone attending knows the couple will be spending hundreds more on diapers throughout the year, so it's not like the couple is avoiding some big expense with these parties.