LO fussed and grunted enough to wake me up, I waited an appropriate amount of time before deciding he was actually waking up and not just making noise. Got up, went pee. Came back, homie is asleep again. But since I got up, my body is awake. Its been 15 minutes already and not a peep from sleeping baby while I just lay here. FML.
And then he will wake when you're falling asleep. Or it seems that's how it works
2 hours later! At least I did end up falling back asleep at some point. Doesn't feel like it was for very long, but hey, at least I got a little more sleep. Long stretch for LO, too. (If you include the half crying, half fussing section)
@mellymar I can never fall back asleep between the 2:30 and 4:30 wake ups. Sucks to be wide awake while lo is sleeping...especially since after 4:30 the rest of the night is a crapshoot as far as how much longer he'll sleep and how...we tend to have 5:30 poops that turn into getting up way too early...
I'm in the midst of my first official time out. After the wake up at 2 that resulted in baby going back to sleep and mom NOT going back to sleep, I've had maybe 60 minutes of sleep broken up into 3 segments while my husband slept and my baby either slept or cried/fussed. Earlier I was restraining myself from throwing the baby AT my husband (and I don't mean figuratively, I mean LITERALLY) and was about to time myself out right then but then I noticed LO had fallen asleep and I could finally put him down (and try to sleep some more). So when, less than an hour later (and maybe 20 minutes of sleep later for me) he started to cry again (he's not upset, he's just awake and bored) I had to get up, and go downstairs. Just straight left the kid starting to wind up and hubby asleep in the bed in our room. Poured myself a chocolate milk stout (yes, at 730am. Flame away, I don't care) and went into the backyard. Its green back here. There's dew on the grass. The sun is slanting thru the trees.
Two nights ago LO STTN for the first time ever. For fear of jinxing it, I said nothing to no one -- not even DH. HA! WTF was I thinking? Babies be babies, right? LO was down at 7:30 last night, up at midnight, 3:30 and again at 5:00.
I didn't even get to enjoy the night she STTN because I was up every hour starting at 2:00 am. My body hates me.
@mellymar good for you for knowing when to take a step away. LO was safe, DH deserved a turn, and you needed a break. No judgements here.
I too had a very active night, not as painful as yours, but I did end up bringing LO to bed to nurse on two different occasions. I cannot function if she wakes around 12:30. It's my deepest sleep time. I pass out in the glider every time so I figure LO is safer in the bed.
Now I'm home with a sick toddler who begs not to go to school because of separation anxiety and a LO who is starving. It should be an interesting day. Good luck to you today Melly.
@mellymar No judgments here. One night I left LO in our bedroom with DH and went and slept on the floor of the nursery because I couldn't take any more and needed some f-ing sleep. I get it. You did the right thing by stepping away. And a chocolate milk stout sounds like the perfect breakfast beer anyway. I hope tonight goes better for you.
@mellymar I can never fall back asleep between the 2:30 and 4:30 wake ups. Sucks to be wide awake while lo is sleeping...especially since after 4:30 the rest of the night is a crapshoot as far as how much longer he'll sleep and how...we tend to have 5:30 poops that turn into getting up way too early...
Ugh, that was me last night. I prayed and prayed that this 3.5 week streak of waking every two hours was coming to an end, because I have just about lost my ability to function. And voila, LO slept 6 hours last night! Then after feeding and pumping, I couldn't get back to sleep. Just laid in bed and cried.
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@mellymar No judgments here. One night I left LO in our bedroom with DH and went and slept on the floor of the nursery because I couldn't take any more and needed some f-ing sleep. I get it. You did the right thing by stepping away. And a chocolate milk stout sounds like the perfect breakfast beer anyway. I hope tonight goes better for you.
For sure.. stepping away when needed is definitely smart.
Me-37, DH-38
Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012
Baby Boy born June 1, 2015
He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)
@mellymar I can never fall back asleep between the 2:30 and 4:30 wake ups. Sucks to be wide awake while lo is sleeping...especially since after 4:30 the rest of the night is a crapshoot as far as how much longer he'll sleep and how...we tend to have 5:30 poops that turn into getting up way too early...
Ugh, that was me last night. I prayed and prayed that this 3.5 week streak of waking every two hours was coming to an end, because I have just about lost my ability to function. And voila, LO slept 6 hours last night! Then after feeding and pumping, I couldn't get back to sleep. Just laid in bed and cried. :
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I'm in that streak, too. Thanks for posting that. So hoping it ends soon! I try not to be resentful since he really seems to need to eat that often... But I wouldn't mind at all if he decided he only needed to eat every 3-5 hours at night again!
Today we just chilled at home all day. LO took a 2.5 hour nap with DH this morning, then we took a 2 hour nap together this afternoon (consolidating his noon and 3:00 naps). On the one hand, I feel like maybe we are reinforcing bed sharing. On the other, LO was in a great mood today and went to bed at his old 7/7:30 bed time. So here's hoping for some longer stretches of sleep tonight!
PS, I used to crave a 2 hour nap. And I'm certainly not complaining, but at this point, I'm so chronically tired that a nap like that does not leave me refreshed. I think I need a week of good sleep to feel restored. Not gonna happen.
We were waking up several times a night for weeks and LO has done much better this past week. He has slept anywhere from 5-8hrs the first stretch. I'm not saying this to rub it in, but maybe to offer some hope? Though I also realize that next week may be another story... Hang in there mamas!
I let LO lay in her crib and talk to herself for an hour this morning while I went back to sleep. Maybe she fell back to sleep, I will never know. Do I feel guilty since I get her to feed as soon as she stirs? Maybe. Did I care at that moment. Nope.
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^^Me too. My feeling is they cry and tell you when they need something. If they're content, they're content.
Our dude actually really needs some alone/chill time. He will occasionally cry if we try to cuddle him - he just wants to be left alone with his hands and his voice. No need to feel guilty, IMO.
^^^ yup. If my little dude is awake but just chillin' and I'm trying to nap / sleep, I'll let that dude chill. Usually he starts to give his 'I'm bored' half cry, tho, so this happens not very frequently. But yeah, sometimes he just wants to chill and look at stuff and play with his hands. I'm cool with that. He's safely secured and I'm tired = quick nap time for mom.
LO is in the crib for the first time. He's been asleep for 40 min. I'm glued to the baby monitor. He's been thrashing around like crazy but still asleep... So weird.
How did this turn out? Did he make it the whole night? I plan to move my LO to the crib next week. We've tried twice and failed.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one going through a rough patch. My previously up once per night 14 week lo is up every two hours the last week or so (maybe longer) and its wearing on me for sure. Finding hope in the idea that it can only get better.
LO caught DS's cold. Now the whole family has it. Last night was rough. Boogers, coughing, choking on mucus, and a fever. I think I totaled two hours of solid sleep by myself. The rest is patched together with a co sleeping baby on the boob.
DH woke up and said, "I think I caught the cold too." I'm thinking, great now I have another sick child to care for. Probably not a fair judgment, I just didn't want to hear it after the night I had. Maybe my attitude will change when I get some sleep.
LO caught DS's cold. Now the whole family has it. Last night was rough. Boogers, coughing, choking on mucus, and a fever. I think I totaled two hours of solid sleep by myself. The rest is patched together with a co sleeping baby on the boob.
DH woke up and said, "I think I caught the cold too." I'm thinking, great now I have another sick child to care for. Probably not a fair judgment, I just didn't want to hear it after the night I had. Maybe my attitude will change when I get some sleep.
That was our weekend. And I also get irritated at DH when he complains about being sick. Suck it up, dude. I can only handle so many dependents.
LO is in the crib for the first time. He's been asleep for 40 min. I'm glued to the baby monitor. He's been thrashing around like crazy but still asleep... So weird.
How did this turn out? Did he make it the whole night? I plan to move my LO to the crib next week. We've tried twice and failed.
It went really well! His first stretch of sleep was only 2 hours when it's usually 4 or 5. I think he would've just got himself back to sleep if I didn't go in there though. Then he slept a full 4 hours after that! Then another 2. I don't think he slept all that well because he took a two hour nap a couple hours after he got up but he will get used to it.
Last night (day two) was pretty similar! But we were able to cut down our night time routine to an hour instead of two.
I have to put him down when he's in a deep sleep though. If he's sleepy but awake or light sleeping, it's a no go. He will cry and scream.
We had one failed attempt a few weeks ago, too. He screamed bloody murder and I gave up. Since then we have been spending a good amount of time in his room everyday so he's comfortable in there. Now he loves it!
LO caught DS's cold. Now the whole family has it. Last night was rough. Boogers, coughing, choking on mucus, and a fever. I think I totaled two hours of solid sleep by myself. The rest is patched together with a co sleeping baby on the boob.
DH woke up and said, "I think I caught the cold too." I'm thinking, great now I have another sick child to care for. Probably not a fair judgment, I just didn't want to hear it after the night I had. Maybe my attitude will change when I get some sleep.
That was our weekend. And I also get irritated at DH when he complains about being sick. Suck it up, dude. I can only handle so many dependents.
Yes! Men seem to be bigger babies than the babes when they are sick...
LO is usually a great sleeper at night. But it's only 9:45 and he has already woken up twice screaming. I don't have high expectations for the rest of the night. Hoping this isn't the dreaded 4 month regression. FML.
I used some saline spray on LO nose after a good session with the Nose Frieda. Hoping that makes a difference in her congestion tonight. She definitely ate less today so I'm hoping she will still give me some good stretches of sleep tonight and not power feed to make up for it. Ugh nighttime with a sick LO...double suck.
LO is usually a great sleeper at night. But it's only 9:45 and he has already woken up twice screaming. I don't have high expectations for the rest of the night. Hoping this isn't the dreaded 4 month regression. FML.
I'm in the exact same boat! It's 9:45 here and I'm in his room for the 2nd time. I'm scared for the rest of the night as well. May the odds be ever in your favor (or whatever that saying is).
I used some saline spray on LO nose after a good session with the Nose Frieda. Hoping that makes a difference in her congestion tonight. She definitely ate less today so I'm hoping she will still give me some good stretches of sleep tonight and not power feed to make up for it. Ugh nighttime with a sick LO...double suck.
I wish I had cleared LO's nose before bed. She was up twice and then got up at 4 and won't sleep unless she's upright on my shoulder. So I've been up since 4 too. Work today will not be fun. I think I'm going to need a real coffee.
LO is usually a great sleeper at night. But it's only 9:45 and he has already woken up twice screaming. I don't have high expectations for the rest of the night. Hoping this isn't the dreaded 4 month regression. FML.
I'm in the exact same boat! It's 9:45 here and I'm in his room for the 2nd time. I'm scared for the rest of the night as well. May the odds be ever in your favor (or whatever that saying is).
I know I shouldn't complain about a 7 hour stretch for lo, but when she wakes up to feed at 330 instead of 430 and I have to start getting ready for work at 5 it is a huge bummer. Not enough time to get more sleep but enough time that I need to pump before leaving the house bc I won't make it all the way to the office before needing to. Boooo.
Ugh, LO is passed out on my shoulder and I need to start getting ready for work. Do I try to set her down and risk waking DS? Or do I go in late to work? This is when I hate being a working mom.
I know I shouldn't complain about a 7 hour stretch for lo, but when she wakes up to feed at 330 instead of 430 and I have to start getting ready for work at 5 it is a huge bummer. Not enough time to get more sleep but enough time that I need to pump before leaving the house bc I won't make it all the way to the office before needing to. Boooo.
I know EXACTLY what you mean. Its just that *smidge* too early. Ugh, sorry
LO is usually a great sleeper at night. But it's only 9:45 and he has already woken up twice screaming. I don't have high expectations for the rest of the night. Hoping this isn't the dreaded 4 month regression. FML.
I'm in the exact same boat! It's 9:45 here and I'm in his room for the 2nd time. I'm scared for the rest of the night as well. May the odds be ever in your favor (or whatever that saying is).
How did it go, ladies?
I got two 4 hour stretches so far! Which is really good for us. We usually only get one. He's back to sleep now but it's 6am and LO is not a good sleeper after 6.
I think I just tried to put him to bed earlier than his liking last night. He rarely goes to sleep before 10
It was a rough night to say the least. She was up eating every two hours, averaging half an hour per session. So I slept in hour and a half chunks. Then DS woke up at 3:30 and needed a snuggle to go back to sleep. I am sincerely hoping she will get back to one six hour stretch soon. I was so tired last night I couldn't even bump or Facebook during nursing. I just closed my eyes and rocked us.
DH says to me this morning, "did you sleep as crappy as I did?" Me: "oh do you mean getting up every two hours and getting both kids back to sleep in the middle of the night?! No I didn't sleep well!"
Internal thought: are you fucking kidding me? Every time I woke up you were sleeping. My guess is you've slept better, but not getting out of bed once?!...yeah I win the crappy sleep award of the night.
LO is usually a great sleeper at night. But it's only 9:45 and he has already woken up twice screaming. I don't have high expectations for the rest of the night. Hoping this isn't the dreaded 4 month regression. FML.
I'm in the exact same boat! It's 9:45 here and I'm in his room for the 2nd time. I'm scared for the rest of the night as well. May the odds be ever in your favor (or whatever that saying is).
How did it go, ladies?
I got two 4 hour stretches so far! Which is really good for us. We usually only get one. He's back to sleep now but it's 6am and LO is not a good sleeper after 6.
I think I just tried to put him to bed earlier than his liking last night. He rarely goes to sleep before 10
That's exactly what we did! He didn't nap well yesterday so when he started fussing at 7:30, we put him to bed. I guess he knew his bedtime is usually at 9.
He slept from 9:45-4:15, I did a quick nurse to get him back down, then he woke up again at 6:15. I wasn't ready to start the day so i pulled him in bed with me and nursed him and we slept again until 8:45. But now he isn't napping well again today so who knows what I'm in for tonight.
It was a rough night to say the least. She was up eating every two hours, averaging half an hour per session. So I slept in hour and a half chunks. Then DS woke up at 3:30 and needed a snuggle to go back to sleep. I am sincerely hoping she will get back to one six hour stretch soon. I was so tired last night I couldn't even bump or Facebook during nursing. I just closed my eyes and rocked us.
DH says to me this morning, "did you sleep as crappy as I did?" Me: "oh do you mean getting up every two hours and getting both kids back to sleep in the middle of the night?! No I didn't sleep well!"
Internal thought: are you fucking kidding me? Every time I woke up you were sleeping. My guess is you've slept better, but not getting out of bed once?!...yeah I win the crappy sleep award of the night.
I'm surprised you kept that in. Complaints about lack of sleep from DH infuriate me.
Since it is now relatively dependable for lo to sleep from 8-830 to 4-430, and I started work this week, I decided to try to cut my MOTN pump. I've been running a 5-10 ounce surplus daily and I'd just rather sleep. The first few nights I woke up annoyingly at 3 needing to pump (I pumped at 10 before going to bed). Tonight I made it to 4! Lo should be up any minute now to eat and I've already pumped the side I won't feed her with. Victory is mine!
Tonight we're going to try to transition from bassinet to flat pnp mattress...so I'm sure she'll be up like 100 times and this victory will be short lived, but whatever. Baby steps.
Baby man up screaming for awhile at us last night. So unlike him. He seemed like he was in pain and he did settle down after getting some gas out with moving his legs, etc. I really feel for you ladies whose little ones have GI issues regularly - it's heartbreaking when they're so upset and you can't help them quickly enough.
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
I too had a very active night, not as painful as yours, but I did end up bringing LO to bed to nurse on two different occasions. I cannot function if she wakes around 12:30. It's my deepest sleep time. I pass out in the glider every time so I figure LO is safer in the bed.
Now I'm home with a sick toddler who begs not to go to school because of separation anxiety and a LO who is starving. It should be an interesting day. Good luck to you today Melly.
My kid skipped a feeding today. Not sure if it's because of the better night or what. Now we're all off schedule...go figure
I'm finding it harder to take time outs than I used to. Because LO seems to be processing and understanding things, I worry she'll hold it against me!
And then I think about how she won't remember any of this when she's grown.
But still.
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I'm in that streak, too. Thanks for posting that. So hoping it ends soon! I try not to be resentful since he really seems to need to eat that often... But I wouldn't mind at all if he decided he only needed to eat every 3-5 hours at night again!
Today we just chilled at home all day. LO took a 2.5 hour nap with DH this morning, then we took a 2 hour nap together this afternoon (consolidating his noon and 3:00 naps).
On the one hand, I feel like maybe we are reinforcing bed sharing. On the other, LO was in a great mood today and went to bed at his old 7/7:30 bed time. So here's hoping for some longer stretches of sleep tonight!
PS, I used to crave a 2 hour nap. And I'm certainly not complaining, but at this point, I'm so chronically tired that a nap like that does not leave me refreshed. I think I need a week of good sleep to feel restored. Not gonna happen.
Our dude actually really needs some alone/chill time. He will occasionally cry if we try to cuddle him - he just wants to be left alone with his hands and his voice.
No need to feel guilty, IMO.
DH woke up and said, "I think I caught the cold too." I'm thinking, great now I have another sick child to care for. Probably not a fair judgment, I just didn't want to hear it after the night I had. Maybe my attitude will change when I get some sleep.
Last night (day two) was pretty similar! But we were able to cut down our night time routine to an hour instead of two.
I have to put him down when he's in a deep sleep though. If he's sleepy but awake or light sleeping, it's a no go. He will cry and scream.
We had one failed attempt a few weeks ago, too. He screamed bloody murder and I gave up. Since then we have been spending a good amount of time in his room everyday so he's comfortable in there. Now he loves it!
Good luck!
How did it go, ladies?
I think I just tried to put him to bed earlier than his liking last night. He rarely goes to sleep before 10
DH says to me this morning, "did you sleep as crappy as I did?"
Me: "oh do you mean getting up every two hours and getting both kids back to sleep in the middle of the night?! No I didn't sleep well!"
Internal thought: are you fucking kidding me? Every time I woke up you were sleeping. My guess is you've slept better, but not getting out of bed once?!...yeah I win the crappy sleep award of the night.
He slept from 9:45-4:15, I did a quick nurse to get him back down, then he woke up again at 6:15. I wasn't ready to start the day so i pulled him in bed with me and nursed him and we slept again until 8:45. But now he isn't napping well again today so who knows what I'm in for tonight.
Tonight we're going to try to transition from bassinet to flat pnp mattress...so I'm sure she'll be up like 100 times and this victory will be short lived, but whatever. Baby steps.