So I weighed myself this morning and the scales say I have lost 2 pounds, however I don't get to see my doctor till next Wednesday, and I see him in the late afternoon, and my weight increases by the end of the day. I have still gained 8 (13 if you count the 5 I lost due to morning sickness...). I worry about my weight only because I'm a big girl to begin with. That is on my list of questions to ask my dr- how much weight should I be aiming to gain. To put things into perspective without giving away exact numbers, 3 years ago I topped out at 300 pounds. With the diagnosis of PCOS and a doctor's help I have lost 60+ since then, but now have to gain back some for baby.
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So I weighed myself this morning and the scales say I have lost 2 pounds, however I don't get to see my doctor till next Wednesday, and I see him in the late afternoon, and my weight increases by the end of the day. I have still gained 8 (13 if you count the 5 I lost due to morning sickness...). I worry about my weight only because I'm a big girl to begin with. That is on my list of questions to ask my dr- how much weight should I be aiming to gain. To put things into perspective without giving away exact numbers, 3 years ago I topped out at 300 pounds. With the diagnosis of PCOS and a doctor's help I have lost 60+ since then, but now have to gain back some for baby.
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I've gone back and forth so far. I am 14 weeks and I lost a pound from morning sickness, gained it back, and when I weghed myself this morning I was down 2.5 again. I'm overweight and my doctor told me it was okay to lose "fat" as long as I still gained all of my pregnancy weight. She wants me to shoot for 20LBs. I'm not sure if I should be concerned that I've dropped weight since I went to the doctor last because it's only been about 2 weeks, but maybe I'm just not hydrated enough. I've been eating plenty and well.
I am over the "I'm a better pregnant person because I have gained weight and you lost it" attitude, @lanatalia. You're 32? You sound like you're 17. Not one of the women that has posted that they lost weight has said they are proud. A few have mentioned they are overweight and that their doctors are okay with the loss and most of the others have added that they've had horrible MS. Even if they are proud, as long as they are doing it safely (which IS possible for some), what does it matter to you?
What did you think was going to happen when you got KU? ALL women gain weight during pregnancy. EVERY woman is different and will gain at different rates than others. I only need to gain 15-20 pounds and from you're "I have the best body ever" rant it sounds like you are going to be suggested to gain closer to 25-30. Nothing wrong with that and that might explain others gaining slower/not at all/losing weight at this point.
I understand that you are hormonal and had a bad weekend, but taking that out on a group of women that literally did nothing to you that I assume you come to for some manner of support is ridiculous. I hope this is a better week for you.
And BTW, my "skinny" friends sure do mention to me when they are feeling fat, bloated, etc. and while it makes me feel uncomfortable because they are tiny and I am a little flabby, I am aware that just because they are skinny doesn't mean that they don't have body issues as well so I let them vent about their issues.
Some of us would gladly gain some weight. Some of us would love to not feel like they can't provide their child with basic nutrients because they cannot keep from getting sick. Put yourself in someone else's shoes before judging. Congrats on your weight gain, I'm jealous.
This exactly! Most of us who have lost weight are not happy about it. I am pregnant with #5 and started this pregnancy @ 142lbs and I am 5'5". I am now 15+ weeks pregnant and am down to 128. The ms was terrible but has slowed down the past two weeks but I still haven't gained any of the weight back. It is stressful. It is nice to see everyone's journey and know that whether you are gaining, losing or maintaining weight that we are not alone. As much as someone who is gaining weight is fearful of gaining too fast there is someone who is fearful of losing too much weight. I have been obsessively been weighing myself daily hoping for any gain even if it is a teeny amount.
Let us try not to be totally ignorant to cultural norms while we post on the Internet. I don't see many models getting weight sympathy looks from you or anyone because they are so skinny and it's so hard on them.
You guys are all acting like your underweight and stressed out when in reality your BMI is still in the totally normal range which is what your Dr is going to use to determine the safety of your baby and your expected weight gain.
I'm all out of sympathy dust on this topic. I let the first comment go but now I can't. Hormones.
Speaking of being totally ignorant, assuming a BMI within normal range especially while pregnant means you are healthy is ignorant. Women who do not gain enough or lose weight in pregnancy are at higher risk of premature birth, underweight babies and the infant mortality rate is much higher than those who have gained the recommended amount or more. The reason some of us are losing weight is because the baby is not getting sufficient vitamins and nourishment to grow so our bodies are using our stored fat. Which is unhealthy. I can assure you that I feel like utter crap because I am depleting my body of essential vitamins and healthy fat. Being super skinny, model skinny as you put it isn't as glamorous as it looks on a magazine. I have struggled with anemia most of my life and it sucks. It sounds like you are taking your insecurities about your weight gain on those who are struggling to gain weight. There will always be someone heavier than you and someone thinner than you. That's the reality of life. Btw, my last baby was born full term weighing barely 5lbs because of the inability to gain a good amount of weight. So yes it is concerning this go around since my weight loss has been even more than the last pregnancy. But I guess that's just me being a "skinny" person bragging. Smh.
I have gained 8 lbs @15wks. I have never been anything but a size 2 and my boobs are now double d's instead of just regular d's. I'm 5'10 and have legs for days. In fact, I rarely ever see a woman who I believe has a better looking body than me. I'm 32 and have been the same size since high school. I have never been on a diet and I eat whatever I want. I don't have a stretch mark anywhere and have never had a speck of cellulite. One of my best girlfriends that I have known since I was 4 recently asked me if I was pregnant because she has never seen my stomach be anything but FLAT in the past 28 years.
Oh am I bragging? No I'm not bragging I'm just saying bye bye to my perfect body and hello to pregnancy and post pregnancy body. Were you guys bragging? I didn't notice I was too busy being pregnant with my first child and being wildly insecure about how skinny you are.
You know what they say about skinny bitches? We are always hungry that's why we are so ANGRY.
This bothered me more than it probably should. That was like a very conceded diary entry. And you're not bragging? You seriously just had a 140 word (yes that's a guess) paragraph on your "never seen a woman look better than me", "legs for days", "same size since high school" body. Seriously? I'm a little nervous how you're going to handle a post-pregnancy (or even 9 month pregnant) body. I do hope you have a h & h pregnancy but good grief you're very self-involved.
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I'm willing to organize a cash collection to get you a very nice diary if it will keep this hateful nonsense off the board.
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Some of us would gladly gain some weight. Some of us would love to not feel like they can't provide their child with basic nutrients because they cannot keep from getting sick. Put yourself in someone else's shoes before judging. Congrats on your weight gain, I'm jealous.
This exactly! Most of us who have lost weight are not happy about it. I am pregnant with #5 and started this pregnancy @ 142lbs and I am 5'5". I am now 15+ weeks pregnant and am down to 128. The ms was terrible but has slowed down the past two weeks but I still haven't gained any of the weight back. It is stressful. It is nice to see everyone's journey and know that whether you are gaining, losing or maintaining weight that we are not alone. As much as someone who is gaining weight is fearful of gaining too fast there is someone who is fearful of losing too much weight. I have been obsessively been weighing myself daily hoping for any gain even if it is a teeny amount.
Let us try not to be totally ignorant to cultural norms while we post on the Internet. I don't see many models getting weight sympathy looks from you or anyone because they are so skinny and it's so hard on them.
You guys are all acting like your underweight and stressed out when in reality your BMI is still in the totally normal range which is what your Dr is going to use to determine the safety of your baby and your expected weight gain.
I'm all out of sympathy dust on this topic. I let the first comment go but now I can't. Hormones.
@ACleanLife24 I'm not concerned about my skinny jeans fitting me when pregnant
Some of us would gladly gain some weight. Some of us would love to not feel like they can't provide their child with basic nutrients because they cannot keep from getting sick. Put yourself in someone else's shoes before judging. Congrats on your weight gain, I'm jealous.
This exactly! Most of us who have lost weight are not happy about it. I am pregnant with #5 and started this pregnancy @ 142lbs and I am 5'5". I am now 15+ weeks pregnant and am down to 128. The ms was terrible but has slowed down the past two weeks but I still haven't gained any of the weight back. It is stressful. It is nice to see everyone's journey and know that whether you are gaining, losing or maintaining weight that we are not alone. As much as someone who is gaining weight is fearful of gaining too fast there is someone who is fearful of losing too much weight. I have been obsessively been weighing myself daily hoping for any gain even if it is a teeny amount.
Let us try not to be totally ignorant to cultural norms while we post on the Internet. I don't see many models getting weight sympathy looks from you or anyone because they are so skinny and it's so hard on them.
You guys are all acting like your underweight and stressed out when in reality your BMI is still in the totally normal range which is what your Dr is going to use to determine the safety of your baby and your expected weight gain.
I'm all out of sympathy dust on this topic. I let the first comment go but now I can't. Hormones.
Speaking of being totally ignorant, assuming a BMI within normal range especially while pregnant means you are healthy is ignorant. Women who do not gain enough or lose weight in pregnancy are at higher risk of premature birth, underweight babies and the infant mortality rate is much higher than those who have gained the recommended amount or more. The reason some of us are losing weight is because the baby is not getting sufficient vitamins and nourishment to grow so our bodies are using our stored fat. Which is unhealthy. I can assure you that I feel like utter crap because I am depleting my body of essential vitamins and healthy fat. Being super skinny, model skinny as you put it isn't as glamorous as it looks on a magazine. I have struggled with anemia most of my life and it sucks. It sounds like you are taking your insecurities about your weight gain on those who are struggling to gain weight. There will always be someone heavier than you and someone thinner than you. That's the reality of life.
Btw, my last baby was born full term weighing barely 5lbs because of the inability to gain a good amount of weight. So yes it is concerning this go around since my weight loss has been even more than the last pregnancy. But I guess that's just me being a "skinny" person bragging. Smh.
I have gained 8 lbs @15wks. I have never been anything but a size 2 and my boobs are now double d's instead of just regular d's. I'm 5'10 and have legs for days. In fact, I rarely ever see a woman who I believe has a better looking body than me. I'm 32 and have been the same size since high school. I have never been on a diet and I eat whatever I want. I don't have a stretch mark anywhere and have never had a speck of cellulite. One of my best girlfriends that I have known since I was 4 recently asked me if I was pregnant because she has never seen my stomach be anything but FLAT in the past 28 years.
Oh am I bragging? No I'm not bragging I'm just saying bye bye to my perfect body and hello to pregnancy and post pregnancy body. Were you guys bragging? I didn't notice I was too busy being pregnant with my first child and being wildly insecure about how skinny you are.
You know what they say about skinny bitches? We are always hungry that's why we are so ANGRY.
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@ACleanLife24 I'm not concerned about my skinny jeans fitting me when pregnant
Some of us would gladly gain some weight. Some of us would love to not feel like they can't provide their child with basic nutrients because they cannot keep from getting sick. Put yourself in someone else's shoes before judging. Congrats on your weight gain, I'm jealous.
This exactly! Most of us who have lost weight are not happy about it. I am pregnant with #5 and started this pregnancy @ 142lbs and I am 5'5". I am now 15+ weeks pregnant and am down to 128. The ms was terrible but has slowed down the past two weeks but I still haven't gained any of the weight back. It is stressful. It is nice to see everyone's journey and know that whether you are gaining, losing or maintaining weight that we are not alone. As much as someone who is gaining weight is fearful of gaining too fast there is someone who is fearful of losing too much weight. I have been obsessively been weighing myself daily hoping for any gain even if it is a teeny amount.
Let us try not to be totally ignorant to cultural norms while we post on the Internet. I don't see many models getting weight sympathy looks from you or anyone because they are so skinny and it's so hard on them.
You guys are all acting like your underweight and stressed out when in reality your BMI is still in the totally normal range which is what your Dr is going to use to determine the safety of your baby and your expected weight gain.
I'm all out of sympathy dust on this topic. I let the first comment go but now I can't. Hormones.
Speaking of being totally ignorant, assuming a BMI within normal range especially while pregnant means you are healthy is ignorant. Women who do not gain enough or lose weight in pregnancy are at higher risk of premature birth, underweight babies and the infant mortality rate is much higher than those who have gained the recommended amount or more. The reason some of us are losing weight is because the baby is not getting sufficient vitamins and nourishment to grow so our bodies are using our stored fat. Which is unhealthy. I can assure you that I feel like utter crap because I am depleting my body of essential vitamins and healthy fat. Being super skinny, model skinny as you put it isn't as glamorous as it looks on a magazine. I have struggled with anemia most of my life and it sucks. It sounds like you are taking your insecurities about your weight gain on those who are struggling to gain weight. There will always be someone heavier than you and someone thinner than you. That's the reality of life.
Btw, my last baby was born full term weighing barely 5lbs because of the inability to gain a good amount of weight. So yes it is concerning this go around since my weight loss has been even more than the last pregnancy. But I guess that's just me being a "skinny" person bragging. Smh.
I have gained 8 lbs @15wks. I have never been anything but a size 2 and my boobs are now double d's instead of just regular d's. I'm 5'10 and have legs for days. In fact, I rarely ever see a woman who I believe has a better looking body than me. I'm 32 and have been the same size since high school. I have never been on a diet and I eat whatever I want. I don't have a stretch mark anywhere and have never had a speck of cellulite. One of my best girlfriends that I have known since I was 4 recently asked me if I was pregnant because she has never seen my stomach be anything but FLAT in the past 28 years.
Oh am I bragging? No I'm not bragging I'm just saying bye bye to my perfect body and hello to pregnancy and post pregnancy body. Were you guys bragging? I didn't notice I was too busy being pregnant with my first child and being wildly insecure about how skinny you are.
You know what they say about skinny bitches? We are always hungry that's why we are so ANGRY.
This bothered me more than it probably should. That was like a very conceded diary entry. And you're not bragging? You seriously just had a 140 word (yes that's a guess) paragraph on your "never seen a woman look better than me", "legs for days", "same size since high school" body. Seriously? I'm a little nervous how you're going to handle a post-pregnancy (or even 9 month pregnant) body. I do hope you have a h & h pregnancy but good grief you're very self-involved.
Exactly. I'm not allowed to love my body openly or I am self involved.. I'm not allowed to be bothered by other peoples weight loss because then it makes me insecure about my body and weight gain. If I say i dislike this thread I am insensitive to all the women who are skinny and continue to lose weight during their pregnancy.
@lanatalia You went FAR out of your way to completely eviscerate all of the women here that said they have lost weight, going as far to say that they are starving their babies. You're like the kid that apologizes to someone they bullied years down the road because they were taking out all of their self loathing on an easy target. Except you already said you refuse to apologize....
I can truly empathize that weight gain is new for you and thus really hard to accept. I also love a woman that loves her body - confidence is amazing and inspiring to me. But if you can set aside your bias, surely you'll admit that the rant about how perfect your body is was not exactly you being confident, it was rubbing it in that while you might be gaining weight now, but you're the prettiest of us all when you're not pregnant.
I really hope that you can accept your growing belly and also take a step back from comparing your journey to those on TB. From what you described, I am sure you are going to be a beautiful pregnant woman.
@lanatalia If you've always had the same body, it's possible you'll go back to that if not close. I have friends who had the perfect little baby bump on their thin frame and went back to looking flawless a few weeks later.
No one *wants* to gain weight under normal circumstances, but it's kinda part of the pregnancy deal. Most of it is all funky stuff that goes away at some point afterwards.
Everyone just needs to try to be supportive of each other. I'm not a bad mom because I've lost some weight. Trust me, I eat and I do the best I can. No one is a bad mom for gaining lots of weight or being glad that they've gained less than they have in the past. It's weight! No one wants it whether it's 2 pounds or 20. Just take care of baby and everyone will be fine (:
12 weeks and +7lbs. I don't love it or hate it as I gained 10lbs immediately with my first 2 daughters also.
1st pregnancy started at 140 and ended up at 200 with 60 lb gain....caved to every craving.
2nd pregnancy started at 110 and ended up at 145 with 35lb gain...ate a very healthy diet.
I did nothing differently with either and had moderate MS with both so in my experience my body gains @ 10lbs immediately regardless of what I do. My mother lost weight regardless of what she did.
I had to be put on Reglan for severe MS and same results as far as 1st Trimester weight gain. My Dr said some people just gain at first then level off which I seem to be doing.
Try not to worry yourselves and just focus on happy pregnancies and doing what you can either way unless your Dr tells you otherwise.... whether you want to gain more or feel like you have gained too much. Happy mamas make happy babies!
@lanatalia You went FAR out of your way to completely eviscerate all of the women here that said they have lost weight, going as far to say that they are starving their babies. You're like the kid that apologizes to someone they bullied years down the road because they were taking out all of their self loathing on an easy target. Except you already said you refuse to apologize....
I can truly empathize that weight gain is new for you and thus really hard to accept. I also love a woman that loves her body - confidence is amazing and inspiring to me. But if you can set aside your bias, surely you'll admit that the rant about how perfect your body is was not exactly you being confident, it was rubbing it in that while you might be gaining weight now, but you're the prettiest of us all when you're not pregnant.
I really hope that you can accept your growing belly and also take a step back from comparing your journey to those on TB. From what you described, I am sure you are going to be a beautiful pregnant woman.
I have no problem accepting myself. That's the point. Was it surprising to gain 8 lbs in a month and a half? Absolutely! Am I surprised that I am gaining weight? No. I am pregnant. I realize this is going to happen. Then I am being accused of caring more about my skinny jeans than I care about my baby. Thats ok though right?
I think I explained when asked by another member on this exact thread why I didn't feel like reading about other peoples weight loss. I am also not the only person who has ever said this. The only time I have ever mentioned starving the baby was in reference to the ONE woman who posted a thread about being threatened with hospitalization if she didn't start gaining but still didn't want to eat anything not deemed healthy. Then I made mention of the people who were proud of there weight loss (which I believe you can see on page 4 of this exact thread one example).
Also, posters were referencing all the issues with not gaining enough weight and how it impacts your child but not even realizing that over gaining does the same thing. Its a pointless argument.
My comments about my body were exaggerated and wildly immature. I was being dramatic to make my point. You cant win in reference to your body. I wasn't trying to skinny shame anyone or make them feel bad for their weight loss at any point. I was simply saying that I don't care to offer them sympathy when I have gained almost double of the expected weight gain in my first trimester. Clearly, this feeling is not allowed.
If you @lanatalia would have said that reading about people's weight loss was hard for you since you are gaining weight and never had to deal with extra weight that would have been totally different and fine. I am glad you love your body. It took me years to love my body and still love it if I am 115lbs or 150lbs. A woman's body is truly amazing, we grow humans. I hope every woman thinks her body is the best they've seen. Your comments went overboard and showed no concern for anyone else or their insecurities. There are plenty of women who aren't near a size 2, did you think your comments made them feel better about themselves? I know quite a few women who were your size before getting pregnant and they never were able to get to their pre-pregnancy weight. Your comments were uncalled for, inconsiderate and plain nasty. You can love your body without putting others down. I hope you will see your body as more than a size and a number on the scale, especially if you have a daughter.
Annoyed with all the "i got pregnant and lost 10 lbs" postings. Nothing personal. Just the fattest I have ever been in my whole life and not overjoyed to hear about everyones weight loss!
EDIT: I also loved this thread when I had not gained an LB yet. I was feeling so good Oh how times change...
I actually did say this exact thing. I also said nothing personal. Then you and your friend commented and made it seem like it was something else..insecurity or jealousy. If you start at the beginning you can see all my comments. I did also stated that I ate 4 asiago bagels in one day @kynbar5. I don't have a problem eating. What the baby wants the baby gets.
Along with what @lindscnn1 said- I think women all together put way too much into their weight and appearance. What happened to inner beauty? Sounds lame yes but you can take the most beautiful woman in the universe, give her a conceded bad attitude and she quickly becomes extremely ugly. I agree in that I hope you get a little more leveled headed in the body image department especially if you have a daughter.
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Annoyed with all the "i got pregnant and lost 10 lbs" postings. Nothing personal. Just the fattest I have ever been in my whole life and not overjoyed to hear about everyones weight loss!
EDIT: I also loved this thread when I had not gained an LB yet. I was feeling so good Oh how times change...
I actually did say this exact thing. I also said nothing personal. Then you and your friend commented and made it seem like it was something else..insecurity or jealousy. If you start at the beginning you can see all my comments. I did also stated that I ate 4 asiago bagels in one day @kynbar5. I don't have a problem eating. What the baby wants the baby gets.
It becomes insecurity when you make a page long post about how you're the most beautiful woman alive. Edited for spelling.
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Along with what @lindscnn1 said- I think women all together put way too much into their weight and appearance. What happened to inner beauty? Sounds lame yes but you can take the most beautiful woman in the universe, give her a conceded bad attitude and she quickly becomes extremely ugly. I agree in that I hope you get a little more leveled headed in the body image department especially if you have a daughter.
I agree, but I think it's a message that we internalize from society and the media. I'm not tall and leggy, but I've always been athletic--grew up doing gymnastics and dance. I definitely got a lot of attention for my appearance in my early 20s and I enjoyed it! But I also internalized the message that my physical appearance determined my value, and I didn't even realize it at the time.
The changes my body went through during my first pregnancy were shocking to me, and I often felt like I had absolutely no control over them. I only gained about 40 lbs, which isn't terrible, but near the end I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin. It was a little depressing! Then afterwards I couldn't seem to lose the last 20 lbs despite working out every day and breastfeeding. It was frustrating, and it forced me to really examine myself and my beliefs about my appearance and my value as a woman.
Running helped a ton. It made me feel strong and powerful again, and yes it helped me drop the extra weight. But I learned a lot about myself and my body during that whole process, and thankfully I learned to value my body for what it can DO rather than how it LOOKS. Of course, that's not to say that I don't feel bad when I get out of shape (which I totally am right now, I blame grad school.) But I am more bothered by the fact that I can't run a 49minute 10k than I am by the new dimples on my backside.
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I am over the "I'm a better pregnant person because I have gained weight and you lost it" attitude, @lanatalia. You're 32? You sound like you're 17. Not one of the women that has posted that they lost weight has said they are proud. A few have mentioned they are overweight and that their doctors are okay with the loss and most of the others have added that they've had horrible MS. Even if they are proud, as long as they are doing it safely (which IS possible for some), what does it matter to you?
What did you think was going to happen when you got KU? ALL women gain weight during pregnancy. EVERY woman is different and will gain at different rates than others. I only need to gain 15-20 pounds and from you're "I have the best body ever" rant it sounds like you are going to be suggested to gain closer to 25-30. Nothing wrong with that and that might explain others gaining slower/not at all/losing weight at this point.
I understand that you are hormonal and had a bad weekend, but taking that out on a group of women that literally did nothing to you that I assume you come to for some manner of support is ridiculous. I hope this is a better week for you.
And BTW, my "skinny" friends sure do mention to me when they are feeling fat, bloated, etc. and while it makes me feel uncomfortable because they are tiny and I am a little flabby, I am aware that just because they are skinny doesn't mean that they don't have body issues as well so I let them vent about their issues.
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@lanatalia You went FAR out of your way to completely eviscerate all of the women here that said they have lost weight, going as far to say that they are starving their babies. You're like the kid that apologizes to someone they bullied years down the road because they were taking out all of their self loathing on an easy target. Except you already said you refuse to apologize....
I can truly empathize that weight gain is new for you and thus really hard to accept. I also love a woman that loves her body - confidence is amazing and inspiring to me. But if you can set aside your bias, surely you'll admit that the rant about how perfect your body is was not exactly you being confident, it was rubbing it in that while you might be gaining weight now, but you're the prettiest of us all when you're not pregnant.
I really hope that you can accept your growing belly and also take a step back from comparing your journey to those on TB. From what you described, I am sure you are going to be a beautiful pregnant woman.
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No one *wants* to gain weight under normal circumstances, but it's kinda part of the pregnancy deal. Most of it is all funky stuff that goes away at some point afterwards.
Everyone just needs to try to be supportive of each other. I'm not a bad mom because I've lost some weight. Trust me, I eat and I do the best I can. No one is a bad mom for gaining lots of weight or being glad that they've gained less than they have in the past. It's weight! No one wants it whether it's 2 pounds or 20. Just take care of baby and everyone will be fine (:
I don't love it or hate it as I gained 10lbs immediately with my first 2 daughters also.
1st pregnancy started at 140 and ended up at 200 with 60 lb gain....caved to every craving.
2nd pregnancy started at 110 and ended up at 145 with 35lb gain...ate a very healthy diet.
I did nothing differently with either and had moderate MS with both so in my experience my body gains @ 10lbs immediately regardless of what I do.
My mother lost weight regardless of what she did.
I had to be put on Reglan for severe MS and same results as far as 1st Trimester weight gain. My Dr said some people just gain at first then level off which I seem to be doing.
Try not to worry yourselves and just focus on happy pregnancies and doing what you can either way unless your Dr tells you otherwise.... whether you want to gain more or feel like you have gained too much.
Happy mamas make happy babies!
I have no problem accepting myself. That's the point. Was it surprising to gain 8 lbs in a month and a half? Absolutely! Am I surprised that I am gaining weight? No. I am pregnant. I realize this is going to happen. Then I am being accused of caring more about my skinny jeans than I care about my baby. Thats ok though right?
It becomes insecurity when you make a page long post about how you're the most beautiful woman alive.
Edited for spelling.
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The changes my body went through during my first pregnancy were shocking to me, and I often felt like I had absolutely no control over them. I only gained about 40 lbs, which isn't terrible, but near the end I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin. It was a little depressing! Then afterwards I couldn't seem to lose the last 20 lbs despite working out every day and breastfeeding. It was frustrating, and it forced me to really examine myself and my beliefs about my appearance and my value as a woman.
Running helped a ton. It made me feel strong and powerful again, and yes it helped me drop the extra weight. But I learned a lot about myself and my body during that whole process, and thankfully I learned to value my body for what it can DO rather than how it LOOKS. Of course, that's not to say that I don't feel bad when I get out of shape (which I totally am right now, I blame grad school.) But I am more bothered by the fact that I can't run a 49minute 10k than I am by the new dimples on my backside.
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