Ok I'm sure this is really going to be an unpopular opinion but-I love being pregnant. I was blessed with 2 very easy pregnancies and didn't have any complications with either one. i know a lot of you ladies had difficult pregnancies and I applaud you all because the worst I had to deal with was swollen feet around 8-9 months and having to take iron for low iron count that was causing chest pain. I also got my pre-preg body and weight back within the first month both times, even though I'm lazy as hell and didn't work out (sorry humble brag) The thought of having another baby and being pregnant again is really exciting, even though it won't happen for a while!
Same here! I didn't get my body back quite as quickly as you did and some areas are still different (I don't think my belly will ever look the same), but I was blessed with a super easy pregnancy and, thanks to my wonderful epidural, an easy delivery - my pp hemorrhoids hurt worse than L&D!
And another clearly unpopular opinion of mine that I spoke of briefly earlier - I would LOVE to have a house full of kids. For me, 4 is the minimum (DH is good with stopping at 4, so we'll have to see what happens with that). And, like many of you, I'd love to adopt someday.
@kes166 I think that's great! I think we'll have 4, but children are such a blessing and gift from God, so if He chose to give us more, we'd be happy.
And.....I sort of like pumping sometimes. I like to see how much I can get! I think it's amazing how our bodies are designed! But, I don't have to pump for going back to work and it's not something I have to do (I do once per day), so I get where that would be stressful.
My UO (even though it's Friday...) is bows. I've tried to put bows/headbands on LO's head. Here in the South people make SUCH a big deal about GIANT bows on little girls. She doesn't mind them one bit, but I get so pissed about them moving & get worried she's uncomfortable, so they last like 5 min before I put it in the bag....
Going back to work: I am ready. My toddler just about broke me this summer.
Pacifiers: lo takes it from time to time but I judge and side eye when I see a three year old with one. Just no.
Black Lives Matter: no issue with the movement itself but the chapter in our area seems to think that peacefull demonstration means that the can break the law and not be punished. They have closed major highways during rush hour and other roads on multiple occasions and then pitched a fit when people got arrested. Demonstrate, please, but be smart about it.
My uo: If i intervene on a playground situation between my kid and another (while their mom watches) and the other kid does not change their behavior but my child does .... I have no issue with my kid leveling her. It may have happened yesterday. Not sorry. I will not parent other kids at the playground.
I like pumping too. It's more efficient than breastfeeding. You can just sit down and get it done. You can even do something else for entertainment like bumping, reading etc during pumping. I'm not usually able to do that much while BFing anymore. LO sucks a short while, wiggles, pops off, needs a burp, needs a diaper change, can't decide if he wants to nurse again or not...don't get me wrong, breastfeeding is magical and special and I'm glad I can sown that time with him, but it is so time consuming to go through that whole process for every ounce of milk. Pumping means I can have a life outside of being a mommy, I can support our family, I can go back to school, and DH can share the work of childcare more equitably. My other UO is that I'm glad I went back to work at 7 weeks pp. It snapped me out of postpartum depression, and taught me better than anything that I CAN trust DH to take care of the baby all day. It is so freeing. And I love seeing the bond they have now.
I couldn't wait to get back to work. I love my kids but staying home with them leads to PPD for me. I never get my head straight until I'm back to work.
I really don't think it's okay to post your student's artwork online, especially to demonstrate that this child has an unusual name. It just strikes me as mean.
I really don't think it's okay to post your student's artwork online, especially to demonstrate that this child has an unusual name. It just strikes me as mean.
Oh, I don't know... There's no last name attached, and we've had a giggle over plenty of names. If she'd just typed it, there wouldn't be an issue - and she's not mocking the art. I bet she's kind to the student, and she didn't say anything bad about the kid, just noting the parents' choice of a Yoonik name, and a running booze theme.
I really don't think it's okay to post your student's artwork online, especially to demonstrate that this child has an unusual name. It just strikes me as mean.
As a former teacher, there's no last name...so it's all good.
@CillyMama I was subbing long term in a classroom, and the teacher had an alpha and omega. I am pretty sure when the assistant principal saw that he decided hey lets give this teacher some laughs!
I had a student named Vijaya a few years back. Very sweet girl. But I had to call her "V" because I couldn't say it in front of a class of middle schoolers without someone cracking up.
I had a student named Vijaya a few years back. Very sweet girl. But I had to call her "V" because I couldn't say it in front of a class of middle schoolers without someone cracking up.
Was she Caucasian???? In the end no excuse Haha there's no reason to ever do this to your children.
If you think you'll ever move to another country research it! My husband (asian) wanted to use a name for our daughter that's a really racist word here but a beautiful name there. I wanted ollie for a boy but that meant devil in his language so we had to search and find one that's not offensive in both languages.
I always feel sorry for Vietnamese with the name phuc yu haha
Germans are very straightforward, and our kid's first name is not known there. Their reactions were hilarious! When people asked his name, we'd have to first say, "He's named after my grandfather who passed away in September, so it's X." They'd be a little less mean with that preface.
Before we started doing that, we got some very strong reactions. One person said, "I am surprised you were able to get that approved for the birth certificate." And there were a lot of scrunched noses.
Then they'd ask if he had a middle name. We'd tell it (it's German), and without fail, they'd say, "Oh good." Or even, "Phew!"
Germans are very straightforward, and our kid's first name is not known there. Their reactions were hilarious! When people asked his name, we'd have to first say, "He's named after my grandfather who passed away in September, so it's X." They'd be a little less mean with that preface.
Before we started doing that, we got some very strong reactions. One person said, "I am surprised you were able to get that approved for the birth certificate." And there were a lot of scrunched noses.
Then they'd ask if he had a middle name. We'd tell it (it's German), and without fail, they'd say, "Oh good." Or even, "Phew!"
Do you mind me asking LO's name?
My SIL is Swiss German, lively girl but she has the sense of humour of a cardboard box.
Germans are very straightforward, and our kid's first name is not known there. Their reactions were hilarious! When people asked his name, we'd have to first say, "He's named after my grandfather who passed away in September, so it's X." They'd be a little less mean with that preface.
Before we started doing that, we got some very strong reactions. One person said, "I am surprised you were able to get that approved for the birth certificate." And there were a lot of scrunched noses.
Then they'd ask if he had a middle name. We'd tell it (it's German), and without fail, they'd say, "Oh good." Or even, "Phew!"
Do you mind me asking LO's name?
My SIL is Swiss German, lively girl but she has the sense of humour of a cardboard box.
I'm sorry, but I'm being a freak about not posting it because there are no Google hits with that name. And I don't know enough about technology to know where/when I need to worry about anonymity. (I'm actually more worried about coworkers seeing posts about my virginia than anything related to LO, lol)
ETA: that part about your SIL cracks me up! And true about sense of humor - people weren't joking when they made these comments! We just decided to respond as if they were jokes.
My UO maybe fits here is I discharged my LO from hospital last night.
She hasn't been feeding properly, we had this Young doctor come along and tell me she has stage 2 bronchilitis and needs to be admitted and dosed up on antibiotics. I pushed and argued for a urine sample that she didn't want to do. I'd just seen my doctor the day before who said she was perfectly good. The kids either side of us had whooping cough so I said I wanted to seek 2nd opinion before they start all this shit for the opinion of a very young doctor and exposing LO to a disease that could kill her. They couldn't provide 2nd opinion so I discharged her to take her o my gp 3 hrs later. As I was leaving the dr told me that if she died overnight I should know it was preventable (WTF?). Went to dr, nothing wrong with her chest, hospital called me back in she has a UTI which has effected her feeding. No chest problems at all. Then the bitchy little dr said "see I told you she was unwell" so I replied with I'm aware she wasn't well but you totally misdiagnosed my daughter and wanted to put catheters, canulas and NGT in for no good reason
@mishmardhiono Oh my goodness!! That hospital would most definitely be hearing from me again about the misdiagnosis AND the unnecessary, hurtful comments. I hope your LO feels better soon!
Thanks, she's fine she's got a good doctor now. God I'm so paranoid they are going to call CPS on me for it but she's 11 weeks old. She's not on an episode of greys anatomy and I'm not letting you try and find something that's not there because your bored. If I was a neglectful parent discharging for lack of care rather than attempt to protect her telling me that wouldn't change the situation. If you had of backed up your diagnosis or showed some evidence then we would have stayed but you didn't and then you were so wrong.
@mishmardhiono I am so sorry you were treated that way. What an awful thing to say a mother. He could of just said, "I strongly disagree with discharge, and I believe it could be dangerous." Would that have gotten your attention any less?
I guess posting a picture of a kid's name was an UO after all! There was really no ill intent behind it. Just wanted to share how funny it is that parents would name their kids after alcoholic drinks. It did however bring attention to how I should be more aware when posting student work, which I can appreciate.
It just didn't seem like that big a deal to me since I have teacher friends that post student work on social media all the time. Either to show lessons they've taught or to poke fun. Usually it's for a good laugh. Some teachers post pictures or videos of or with their students, which personally, is not a boundary I would cross.
@mishmardhiono so sorry you had to go through that with your LO. I'm glad you trusted your instincts and left the hospital. I hope she feels better soon!
@CillyMama I don't think it was a UO. Just an "O". I see no problem in it. I do see a problem in naming your child hennessie but..I don't think that's a UO either.
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I guess posting a picture of a kid's name was an UO after all! There was really no ill intent behind it. Just wanted to share how funny it is that parents would name their kids after alcoholic drinks. It did however bring attention to how I should be more aware when posting student work, which I can appreciate.
It just didn't seem like that big a deal to me since I have teacher friends that post student work on social media all the time. Either to show lessons they've taught or to poke fun. Usually it's for a good laugh. Some teachers post pictures or videos of or with their students, which personally, is not a boundary I would cross.
@mishmardhiono so sorry you had to go through that with your LO. I'm glad you trusted your instincts and left the hospital. I hope she feels better soon!
There really was nothing wrong with it ... Like pp said there was no last name
@mishmardhiono wow!! I'm glad your LO is okay and that you were able to get her a second opinion and proper care. The doctor's comments were so inappropriate, so sorry you had to deal with that
@mishmardhiono - oy, that's insane. I'm so glad you stood up for LO and did what you needed to get good care. I'm not a litigious person, but it may be worth writing a letter to the head of the department and telling your story. Inexperienced doctors need to learn to take more care before making interventions. I am not saying get them in trouble, just help them learn to be a better doctor. Anyway, am just glad LO is getting treated appropriately. Mama love to you, lady
Not sure if this is an UO, but I wouldn't tolorate a man complaining about using condoms as protection. Especially during the months after pregancy where doctor's recommend you wait before conceiving again since the other options are more evasive to your body. Unless you don't want to use condoms either and would have picked another option anyway.
@enigmaticjj, I agree, if we can go through pregnancy and childbirth, plus healing, they can suck it up and wear condoms! DH has never complained. I don't particularly enjoy them, but we both agree it's for the best until I start back on birth control.
I also kind of like pumping...I like the competition of trying to "beat my high score" each time. Right now my PR is 13 ounces! (Pat on my own back here!!
Also I am still not ready to leave LO with anyone besides DH. MIL is helping in the morning while DH is sleeping in the other room and I am already having anxiety about it.
@virginiaunicorn11 it's been a long time since I stopped by and this thread gave me the warm and fuzzies from my time on this site during pregnancy thank you!
My U/O is that TV had saved my sanity on more than one occasion and people who say screen time is evil are evil
@virginiaunicorn11 it's been a long time since I stopped by and this thread gave me the warm and fuzzies from my time on this site during pregnancy thank you!
My U/O is that TV had saved my sanity on more than one occasion and people who say screen time is evil are evil
Re: Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday - 8/26
And another clearly unpopular opinion of mine that I spoke of briefly earlier - I would LOVE to have a house full of kids. For me, 4 is the minimum (DH is good with stopping at 4, so we'll have to see what happens with that). And, like many of you, I'd love to adopt someday.
Basically, just give me all the kids. I love 'em!
I think we'll have 4, but children are such a blessing and gift from God, so if He chose to give us more, we'd be happy.
And.....I sort of like pumping sometimes. I like to see how much I can get! I think it's amazing how our bodies are designed! But, I don't have to pump for going back to work and it's not something I have to do (I do once per day), so I get where that would be stressful.
Pacifiers: lo takes it from time to time but I judge and side eye when I see a three year old with one. Just no.
Black Lives Matter: no issue with the movement itself but the chapter in our area seems to think that peacefull demonstration means that the can break the law and not be punished. They have closed major highways during rush hour and other roads on multiple occasions and then pitched a fit when people got arrested. Demonstrate, please, but be smart about it.
My uo: If i intervene on a playground situation between my kid and another (while their mom watches) and the other kid does not change their behavior but my child does .... I have no issue with my kid leveling her. It may have happened yesterday. Not sorry. I will not parent other kids at the playground.
My other UO is that I'm glad I went back to work at 7 weeks pp. It snapped me out of postpartum depression, and taught me better than anything that I CAN trust DH to take care of the baby all day. It is so freeing. And I love seeing the bond they have now.
Being a teacher has its perks. Especially when it comes to names. I've had students named Princess Champagne, Alizey and...
No lie. That's an actual student name card from one of my classes.
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
If you think you'll ever move to another country research it! My husband (asian) wanted to use a name for our daughter that's a really racist word here but a beautiful name there. I wanted ollie for a boy but that meant devil in his language so we had to search and find one that's not offensive in both languages.
I always feel sorry for Vietnamese with the name phuc yu haha
They'd be a little less mean with that preface.
Before we started doing that, we got some very strong reactions. One person said, "I am surprised you were able to get that approved for the birth certificate." And there were a lot of scrunched noses.
Then they'd ask if he had a middle name. We'd tell it (it's German), and without fail, they'd say, "Oh good." Or even, "Phew!"
My SIL is Swiss German, lively girl but she has the sense of humour of a cardboard box.
ETA: that part about your SIL cracks me up! And true about sense of humor - people weren't joking when they made these comments! We just decided to respond as if they were jokes.
My UO maybe fits here is I discharged my LO from hospital last night.
She hasn't been feeding properly, we had this Young doctor come along and tell me she has stage 2 bronchilitis and needs to be admitted and dosed up on antibiotics. I pushed and argued for a urine sample that she didn't want to do. I'd just seen my doctor the day before who said she was perfectly good. The kids either side of us had whooping cough so I said I wanted to seek 2nd opinion before they start all this shit for the opinion of a very young doctor and exposing LO to a disease that could kill her. They couldn't provide 2nd opinion so I discharged her to take her o my gp 3 hrs later. As I was leaving the dr told me that if she died overnight I should know it was preventable (WTF?). Went to dr, nothing wrong with her chest, hospital called me back in she has a UTI which has effected her feeding. No chest problems at all. Then the bitchy little dr said "see I told you she was unwell" so I replied with I'm aware she wasn't well but you totally misdiagnosed my daughter and wanted to put catheters, canulas and NGT in for no good reason
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
It just didn't seem like that big a deal to me since I have teacher friends that post student work on social media all the time. Either to show lessons they've taught or to poke fun. Usually it's for a good laugh. Some teachers post pictures or videos of or with their students, which personally, is not a boundary I would cross.
@mishmardhiono so sorry you had to go through that with your LO. I'm glad you trusted your instincts and left the hospital. I hope she feels better soon!
Anyway, am just glad LO is getting treated appropriately. Mama love to you, lady
My U/O is that TV had saved my sanity on more than one occasion and people who say screen time is evil are evil