The other day at work a co-worker told me I had been putting on weight and I should lay off the carbs. Thanks girl! I wanted to hit her in the face but instead I gave her a look that said if you want to keep your jugular in tact, you should probably leave this conversation.
Most of my family is pretty okay but they do say things like 'don't gain too much' and my boyfriend chided me on drinking juice instead of eating the real fruit this morning. He also got a very scary look. I won't be bothered about that anymore.
We go "public" in about a week and I just can't WAIT for the comments we'll get. I will be three months pregnant and we have a 6 month old. We know we're in for it, but after 9 years of infertility, an IVF baby and this natural baby we were supposed to have less than a 3% chance of making on our own, I can't wait for the comments. I plan to use the word sex in my responses as much as possible because it makes people squirm.
When I told my assistant manager (I wanted her to have a heads up in case I ever have to go on sudden bed rest because then she's in charge) her response was "Oh...good luck!" Umm...thanks? After talking to her (she's new) I learned she's at a point in life where pregnancy is a huge "Oh sh*t!" so I think it took her a few minutes to figure out how to respond. However, I came back from a week off tonight and as she's leaving she goes "Is everything okay with..." and just motions for her belly. I almost laughed and all I could think was "It's a baby, not an STD. You can say it out loud." I think she's afraid of jinxing herself and catching a case of pregnancy. )
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
I'm very sorry for your loss. My own mother passed last year. It's hard. Punch 'em in the face and grieve. I'm sure there are studies somewhere confirming that the chemicals released by crying are good for you. That has to be a thing. Do whatever feels right by you so you can move forward healthy and with peace.
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
I am so very sorry for your loss. My dad had a stroke when I was 6 months pregnant with my son. My sister was in a horrible car accident an life flight when I was 7 months and my FIL passed from cancer 22 days after he was born. I understand the stress. My doctor said that normally if the baby doesn't show signs of stress - early contractions. She finds that they are healthy and happy little people. She reassured me so many times. I would speak to your doctor about hat you are goin thru. They might even give you a couple extra US for reassurance - mine did!!
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
So sorry for your loss. Your baby is fine, grieve because you need to. Thoughts and prayers to you.
@soxfan9968 I would have kicked him where the sun don't shine. Not even kidding. What an ahole.
Please excuse swearing. Apologies if I offend anyone. But these are the shit things that have been said to me so far in my pregnancy.
My mum - you are to mentally unstable to have more children. (Thanks ma and thank you for leaving 2 children in my full time care! Great parenting idea that was)
@BrooksMommy33 I'm so sorry for your loss. Like the pp said, just grieve! No one in their right mind can seriously expect you not to! Thoughts and prayers go out to you!
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I had a childless reception but some children did show up. Most were infants. I don't see what the problem is with little babies coming to a wedding. I have been to two wedding out of state where we were told we could not bring our son who was at the time 2 months old and 1 year old. After the ceremony and dinner we left both times. It was late and we had to make a 5 hour drive home both times that night. Neither cared when we showed up with him.
We have recently been invited to a wedding where the venue will not let children under 12 in the building because of historical reasons and safety. We are fine leaving him with a sitter on that day.
I am sure once the baby is here she will change her mind. And if it is your sister most people you would leave such a small infant in their care will be at the wedding.
I have a friend who thinks because she's a nurse I a) need to birth at her hospital b) she WILL be my nurse and c) if either of those things don't happen, at least she will be in the room instructing the nurses.
a) no, b) no and c) oh hell no.
A friend said, "Oh it's going to be girl..."
I asked, "What makes you think that?"
She said, "Bc I have three girls and you and I have a smile at laugh. Then she just smiled and walked away...THAT DOESNT EVEN MEAN ANYTHING!!!!
Also, when I told my aunt I was pregnant, her response, "Okaaaaay...Why would u do that?"
I asked what she meant...
"Lol.You're a newly wed, your marriage is over before it even began. I can't stand my kids. Don't know any mom who can. Good luck with your new life."
Dude, I mean really, who says that.
A friend also said, "omg you already have massive boobs, they are going to be HUGE!!"
When I told my coworker I was pregnant early on, because she knew I did IVF, she told me not to tell anyone else cuz I'll jinx it! Ok...sorry I even told you then!
Oh, my mom and I have a running joke because every time I'm with her, I say, "So, guess what [insert my step-mom's name] said this time."
It's insane.
First, when she found out my mom got my various "What to Expect" books along with some other pregnancy and motherhood books (because we're both bookworms and she knew I was nervous about some things), my step-mom scoffed, "Well, what is she going to leave me? Did she even get you one of those baby journals where you record their first memories?"
My mom just replied, "I used the one for you only a handful of times. It's a waste of money, but if she really wants, yes. I totally left that one for her."
Another one was my step-mom and her best friend going on about how when I'm huge, they're going to rub my belly and squeeze my boobs to see how rock hard they've gotten because it's adorable. I'm ok with belly rubs, but I told them that if they touch my boobs, I will punch them.
The latest one was just yesterday. My ultrasound is on Tuesday, scheduled specifically at a time that my DH can come with me. He just started a new job, so he can't quite come to regular appointments with me just yet. I'm too nervous to go alone, so I've invited my mom to come with me until then. My paternal grandmother (who I consider a second mom) and my step mom usually drive me places (personal reasons) because they both are at home all of the time and offered, and I guess they assumed they were going to come to all of my doc appointments with me.
My step-mom randomly called me yesterday to tell me, "Granny and I talked yesterday, and she said I could take her place at the ultrasound."
All I could think was: When was Granny going to the ultrasound? I told her that it was just be DH and me at the ultrasound.
She said, "Ok, but you are going to have everyone at the ultrasound when you find out the gender right?"
Let me take the time to say, I have a large family thanks to my parents divorcing at a young age. We are NOT having all of those people crowd the ultrasound room, if it's even allowed. O.o
I said, "Uh, no."
She laughed, "Ha ha, you're funny."
I repeated, "Yeah, but it's still just me and Richie."
She got all aggravated after that saying that we'll figure it out as it gets closer. What "we"? I'm pretty sure it's DHand my baby. She's not even a legal grandmother because her and my dad officially divorced while she was in jail several years back, and slowly got back together when she got out because she had no where else to stay but his house. Now, they have a surprise one year old in addition to my teenaged half brother on that side and are still not remarried.
I am SO sick of people asking me if it was on purpose! This is my third, and I never heard that question with my first two. I feel like they're "nicely" saying it's weird to have more than two. Plus, they're basically asking me about my sex life. Yep, we pulled the goalie and screwed...is that what you want to hear?!?
I finally get to add my own! My sister-in-law is getting married in a few weeks and both my husband and I are in the wedding. At the bachelor party this weekend, my future brother-in-law told my husband it was great I'm pregnant because now I can be the designated driver and drive the entire wedding party back to the rented house in a massive van. It was perfect, he said, because now they don't have to hire a driver!
How wonderful for me! That's exactly what I want to do. Drive a huge van filled with drunk ass people up a 20 mile narrow mountain road at 11pm. Sorry, but my bed time is 7:30! Thanks, but no thanks. This pregnant lady is not a chauffeur!
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Don't let people's comment upset you. I know that is easier said than done. If they keep badgering tell them they are stressing you out and their negativity isn't helping. Good luck and take the time you need to grieve the way you feel you need to no one grieves the same way.
My MIL (who drives me crazy, in general): "DH told us the good news. Congratulations. So, mum's the word, huh?"........
As we are in the most public place in our town of the summer, the fair.
So the other day a new co-worker was sitting next to me asking about my pregnancy (someone told her), and looks at me and says "So... Are you... Like... Keeping it?"
I know I'm young but I JUST met you 5 minutes ago. Back off of my life please d:
My mom always comes up with the weirdest things... Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
So I'm an X-ray tech and had to tell work very early. So I told them at like 6 weeks. Anyways this one dingbat lady I work with asked me at 6weeks if I knew what the baby was yet?? Really?!?! Se people are stupid!
My mom always comes up with the weirdest things... Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
I have heard people use the word twittering in a way of giggling together, having little secret conversations, etc. Could she maybe have meant that?
My mom always comes up with the weirdest things... Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
I have heard people use the word twittering in a way of giggling together, having little secret conversations, etc. Could she maybe have meant that?
Yes that's along the lines of what she meant, but when we told her, she hadn't been around us before we'd even started trying, hence my whuuuh? We hadn't spoken to her, let alone be around her all atwitter
My mom is so strange. She came in to the hospital room during my labor, and I was cursing. I apologized, and she said not to worry, she'd heard lots of "blue" words before. Where she gets these I have no clue...
I told my family at 5 weeks at a get together (we are really close). My aunt said "oh ok, I thought I noticed a big tummy under there ". First of all, I was bloated. And second, I wasn't even bloated that much. I was wearing a flowy dress. But thanks for calling me fat. She has 2 kids of her own and is 50. You'd think a little common sense would have kicked in by now.
My friends/family have been pretty normal so far, which is weird in itself because my family is anything BUT normal! Lol
About the worst one I have had so far was from an old lady at our Fire Dept. Bingo (which I work 1ce a month to wrangle in the old ladies). DH announced that we're pregnant and she looks at me and says, "Well it took ya long enough!"- knowing we have struggled with infertility for the last 4 years.
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Coworker told me I should be reading to the baby... now.
Hello, I don't think s/he can hear much of ANYTHING right now, and even if s/he can, can the baby tell the difference between me talking normally and me reading aloud? My baby is still working on growing major organs; I'm not really that worried about making sure s/he has a head start to reading at this point.
I was going to a family wedding last weekend and we hadn't told anyone besides my parents that we are expecting. I was feeling bloated and gross and asked my mom if I looked pregnant.
"No, you just look like you let yourself go."
In her defense I think she said it to be funny. DH thought it was hilarious and has been weaseling in that comment as often as he can ever since.
My mom always comes up with the weirdest things... Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
I have heard people use the word twittering in a way of giggling together, having little secret conversations, etc. Could she maybe have meant that?
Yes that's along the lines of what she meant, but when we told her, she hadn't been around us before we'd even started trying, hence my whuuuh? We hadn't spoken to her, let alone be around her all atwitter
My mom is so strange. She came in to the hospital room during my labor, and I was cursing. I apologized, and she said not to worry, she'd heard lots of "blue" words before. Where she gets these I have no clue...
Haha, I'm going to start calling them Blue Words now. That's awesome.
My mom always comes up with the weirdest things... Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
I have heard people use the word twittering in a way of giggling together, having little secret conversations, etc. Could she maybe have meant that?
Yes that's along the lines of what she meant, but when we told her, she hadn't been around us before we'd even started trying, hence my whuuuh? We hadn't spoken to her, let alone be around her all atwitter
My mom is so strange. She came in to the hospital room during my labor, and I was cursing. I apologized, and she said not to worry, she'd heard lots of "blue" words before. Where she gets these I have no clue...
Blue as in blue collar as in working class... used slightly derogatory as in these people are crass enough to curse all the time
A rugby playing scientist and educator who is looking to solve metabolic and age related diseases through research
I already have a strained relationship with my MIL. We put our 3 year old twins in matching shirts that said big brother big sister on them with2 big owls and a baby owl in the middle. (Their nursery was owl themed). We went to her house to tell her and got this reaction... "Are you f*cking kidding me?" Umm, no we're not... And we'll be leaving now. And my FIL said "well if you guys are happy then I guess I'm happy." Of course we're happy! We tried for over 2 years!
I already have a strained relationship with my MIL. We put our 3 year old twins in matching shirts that said big brother big sister on them with2 big owls and a baby owl in the middle. (Their nursery was owl themed). We went to her house to tell her and got this reaction... "Are you f*cking kidding me?" Umm, no we're not... And we'll be leaving now. And my FIL said "well if you guys are happy then I guess I'm happy." Of course we're happy! We tried for over 2 years!
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Re: Dumb Things People Have Said?
Most of my family is pretty okay but they do say things like 'don't gain too much' and my boyfriend chided me on drinking juice instead of eating the real fruit this morning. He also got a very scary look. I won't be bothered about that anymore.
The worst comment that I got from EVERYONE in my family: (me and my cousin are both pregnant and she is about 3 days ahead of me)
"You guys planned it didn't you!?" "Tell me you guys didn't plan to get pregnant at the same time!?" - Oh yes! We phoned each other right before the act and made sure we were both in! *facepalm* uhm, no. Stop being weird.
Also, my mother just died- literally 2 weeks ago and what I consider to be a terrible comment:
"Stop being so upset you are going to hurt the baby"
"If you can't keep it together you are going to lose your baby"
"Your baby is going to be such a stressed out person"
"Your baby is definitely going to be colic-y"
JESUS. I know it is not great to be so stressed out, but honestly is it not better to let out all of your emotions than to keep them bottled up inside? I feel like its more natural and healthy to let it out. Why would I want to keep it all inside where it is tearing both me and my baby apart? I don't cry everyday, but when I do, I DO.
@soxfan9968
I would have kicked him where the sun don't shine. Not even kidding. What an ahole.
To make matters worse I had a vanishing twin around week five so I definitely know there is one baby in there.
My mum - you are to mentally unstable to have more children. (Thanks ma and thank you for leaving 2 children in my full time care! Great parenting idea that was)
A lot have asked if we know what they are yet. I am just 11 weeks now. Do you think I know yet?
We have recently been invited to a wedding where the venue will not let children under 12 in the building because of historical reasons and safety. We are fine leaving him with a sitter on that day.
I am sure once the baby is here she will change her mind. And if it is your sister most people you would leave such a small infant in their care will be at the wedding.
The last time she had seen me, I had literally peed on the stick that morning.
a) no, b) no and c) oh hell no.
A friend said, "Oh it's going to be girl..."
I asked, "What makes you think that?"
She said, "Bc I have three girls and you and I have a smile at laugh. Then she just smiled and walked away...THAT DOESNT EVEN MEAN ANYTHING!!!!
Also, when I told my aunt I was pregnant, her response, "Okaaaaay...Why would u do that?"
I asked what she meant...
"Lol.You're a newly wed, your marriage is over before it even began. I can't stand my kids. Don't know any mom who can. Good luck with your new life."
Dude, I mean really, who says that.
A friend also said, "omg you already have massive boobs, they are going to be HUGE!!"
...I'm so over people lol
WTF
How wonderful for me! That's exactly what I want to do. Drive a huge van filled with drunk ass people up a 20 mile narrow mountain road at 11pm. Sorry, but my bed time is 7:30! Thanks, but no thanks. This pregnant lady is not a chauffeur!
I know I'm young but I JUST met you 5 minutes ago. Back off of my life please d:
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Last pregnancy when I told my mom we were expecting, she said she had just known we were, because DH and I had been twittering... For background, my mom doesn't know about Twitter. Like, what are you even talking about, mom??
My mom is so strange. She came in to the hospital room during my labor, and I was cursing. I apologized, and she said not to worry, she'd heard lots of "blue" words before. Where she gets these I have no clue...
First of all, I was bloated. And second, I wasn't even bloated that much. I was wearing a flowy dress. But thanks for calling me fat.
She has 2 kids of her own and is 50. You'd think a little common sense would have kicked in by now.
My friends/family have been pretty normal so far, which is weird in itself because my family is anything BUT normal! Lol
About the worst one I have had so far was from an old lady at our Fire Dept. Bingo (which I work 1ce a month to wrangle in the old ladies). DH announced that we're pregnant and she looks at me and says, "Well it took ya long enough!"- knowing we have struggled with infertility for the last 4 years.
Hello, I don't think s/he can hear much of ANYTHING right now, and even if s/he can, can the baby tell the difference between me talking normally and me reading aloud? My baby is still working on growing major organs; I'm not really that worried about making sure s/he has a head start to reading at this point.
"No, you just look like you let yourself go."
In her defense I think she said it to be funny. DH thought it was hilarious and has been weaseling in that comment as often as he can ever since.
A) I have lost 18 pounds to date, so I doubt you noticed my weight gain.