Either planning to wait till we find out the gender so I can buy outfits for each one of the NFL teams SO and I are fans of and during football season say there is going to be a big decision in April....or possibly posting the videos of out family finding out once I hit the 2nd tri.
We probably won't announce on FB, because I kicked the habit a couple years ago and my dude is more of a lurker than a poster. If anything, our online announcement will be when I make my baby board public on Pinterest.
First! I have had multiple losses also so why does her loss mean anything different than mine. Second look everyone gets offended these days over the smallest things. It's a thread and was curious what other mommas were doing! Why does that have to be such a big deal? Like seriously guys I didn't mean anything by it but the fact it a thread "rubbed her the wrong way" is ridiculous !
And third !!! I didn't ask for opinions and was still going to "do what I want" please go re read the top! I never asked for opinions on if I should or shouldn't !!! It was asking what other mommas do and when they announce. !!! So you got all the rubbed wrong way for Nothing !!
I am totally planning on doing that now. Make my "baby # 3" boats public and start pinning. My phone will be ringing off the hook within the hour... after 1st tri, of course
We are thinking about doing our announcement to extended family and friends on FB on our 3rd Wedding Anniversary in October, I will be around 14 weeks then. We are going to tell our parents sometime after our first u/s next week. This is our 2nd pregnancy, first one ended in m/c early and only told our parents about that one. Trying to think of a creative way to surprise our parents, it will be my moms first grandchild.
I announced two days ago (I'm 7 wks tomorrow). I know it's super early, but we aren't very private people. Also, my pregnancy is such a huge deal to me - being unexpectedly pregnant after 6 years of infertility and 2 adoptions - that I could hardly stand keeping it a secret any longer!!
No way! That's OUR story, too! How old are your other two kids?
The reason a lot of people wait is for fear of loss and having to announce that. My thoughts are that if I do have a loss I'm probably going to be a mess and want my friends and family to be there for me, I don't want to pretend nothing happened because it was still a secret. Telling people when they should or should not announce and how they can do it is just dumb. Do what you want and how you want. Personally I love seeing all my friends cute announcements and I'm not going to not post mine because I may have one or two grouchy friends who think its stupid. It took us a year of TTC DS2 and during that time I had MANY friends post announcements, sure it stung and I wished it was me. But I was still so happy for them and loved seeing them.
I announced two days ago (I'm 7 wks tomorrow). I know it's super early, but we aren't very private people. Also, my pregnancy is such a huge deal to me - being unexpectedly pregnant after 6 years of infertility and 2 adoptions - that I could hardly stand keeping it a secret any longer!!
No way! That's OUR story, too! How old are your other two kids?
My bios are 8 and 7 (boys) and adoptees are 3 and 2. Our youngest's adoption isn't finalized yet (because it takes stinking' forever. It will be finalized just about when the baby is due!)
okay so I know there are several discussions on when you will tell loved ones, friends and such but when will you make the big Facebook announcement. I ordered my 2 boys shirts that say big brother and they are doing a photo shoot. I was planning on Facebook announcing when I have the ultrasound pic and the pictures to go with it. I'll be 9 weeks. Too early?
Tell me when you ladies will social media announce and anyone doing it in a cute way?
And third !!! I didn't ask for opinions and was still going to "do what I want" please go re read the top! I never asked for opinions on if I should or shouldn't !!! It was asking what other mommas do and when they announce. !!! So you got all the rubbed wrong way for Nothing !!
@bostonbaby1 and @queenwaldorf4 were just answering your question. You asked if 9 weeks was too early and when others announced on facebook (perhaps you should reread the original post, since you seem to have forgotten your question)Based on their experience they are telling you yes, that 9 weeks is early and they either wouldn't announce in the first tri, or would not announce at all.
FWIW the only people that care about seeing ultrasounds pics are the parents and close family, no one else really cares to see the inside of a uterus.
okay so I know there are several discussions on when you will tell loved ones, friends and such but when will you make the big Facebook announcement.
I ordered my 2 boys shirts that say big brother and they are doing a photo shoot.
I was planning on Facebook announcing when I have the ultrasound pic and the pictures to go with it. I'll be 9 weeks.
Too early?
Tell me when you ladies will social media announce and anyone doing it in a cute way?
And third !!! I didn't ask for opinions and was still going to "do what I want" please go re read the top! I never asked for opinions on if I should or shouldn't !!! It was asking what other mommas do and when they announce. !!! So you got all the rubbed wrong way for
Nothing !!
@bostonbaby1 and @queenwaldorf4 were just answering your question. You asked if 9 weeks was too early and when others announced on facebook (perhaps you should reread the original post, since you seem to have forgotten your question)Based on their experience they are telling you yes, that 9 weeks is early and they either wouldn't announce in the first tri, or would not announce at all.
FWIW the only people that care about seeing ultrasounds pics are the parents and close family, no one else really cares to see the inside of a uterus.
This. Curious what you meant by "Too Early?" in your OP if you weren't asking for opinions.
I was asking if it was too early to post at 9 weeks. NOT asking if I should or shouldn't post on Facebook. I made it clear I was obvi going to do that just was curious at the timing. And what other mommas have done. This is seriously the third time I'm explaining myself lol.
And I appreciate all the good advice for the positive ones and the ones who aren't questioning why I asked a question ! I announced early with my other littles and then miscarried twice and was curious if it was too early at 9 weeks. We have decided to wait until the second trimester but I will def be posting the ultrasound on here lol I can't keep it bottled up and want to share with people who already know I'm pregnant and are just as excited since we are all going through the same things !
I was asking if it was too early to post at 9 weeks.
NOT asking if I should or shouldn't post on Facebook. I made it clear I was obvi going to do that just was curious at the timing.
And what other mommas have done.
This is seriously the third time I'm explaining myself lol.
Then you're obviously not doing it very well... You asked if 9 weeks was too early. They answered you. Why all the defensiveness?
Because I keep getting asked why I asked it lol! Or how me saying how I felt "rubbed someone the wrong way"
That's it.
They weren't rubbed the wrong way because you asked. They were offended because your response to why you'd want to announce so early was a sophomoric and insensitive "lol because I can!!" The fact that you can't distinguish between the responses explains why you're having issues "explaining yourself"
First! I have had multiple losses also so why does her loss mean anything different than mine. Second look everyone gets offended these days over the smallest things. It's a thread and was curious what other mommas were doing! Why does that have to be such a big deal? Like seriously guys I didn't mean anything by it but the fact it a thread "rubbed her the wrong way" is ridiculous !
First, do not bring my losses into justifying what you've said and Secondly quote where I said you shouldn't have a FB announcement. The only one getting their panties in a twist is you. I was nothing but nice. Andplusalso quote function is your friend.
First! I have had multiple losses also so why does her loss mean anything different than mine. Second look everyone gets offended these days over the smallest things. It's a thread and was curious what other mommas were doing! Why does that have to be such a big deal? Like seriously guys I didn't mean anything by it but the fact it a thread "rubbed her the wrong way" is ridiculous !
First, do not bring my losses into justifying what you've said and Secondly quote where I said you shouldn't have a FB announcement. The only one getting their panties in a twist is you. I was nothing but nice. Andplusalso quote function is your friend.
I do apologize for offending anyone though. It was literally just a question and looking for opinions as to wait for second trimester or 9 weeks to post on Facebook. I didn't think it would get this serious. I'm a super sarcastic person and didn't know saying "because I can" would be such a big deal. I also don't see what the big deal was about be posting looking for opinions.
Wow, we get really picky about wording here! Thse types of things are always easy to read way too much into and assume someone took a position they didn't. Grace is a good thing.
Yes, we'll announce on facebook after the first trimsester, like we did with our son, and after we have told all the people we are close to in person. Facebook is just such a nice way to "blast" announce to people who we know would like to know but we don't see regularly. It's hard to wait!!
Wow, we get really picky about wording here! Thse types of things are always easy to read way too much into and assume someone took a position they didn't. Grace is a good thing.
Yes, we'll announce on facebook after the first trimsester, like we did with our son, and after we have told all the people we are close to in person. Facebook is just such a nice way to "blast" announce to people who we know would like to know but we don't see regularly. It's hard to wait!!
Yes I agree! Facebook is fun to do a blast announcement in a cute way or whatever way. And yes I think it got read into way to much.
I do apologize for offending anyone though. It was literally just a question and looking for opinions as to wait for second trimester or 9 weeks to post on Facebook. I didn't think it would get this serious. I'm a super sarcastic person and didn't know saying "because I can" would be such a big deal. I also don't see what the big deal was about be posting looking for opinions.
I thought you weren't looking for opinions? Well color me confused.
Wow are you serious? Like why keep going! How many times do I have to say I WAS LOOKING FOR OPINIONS ON WHEN PEOPLE POST ON FACEBOOK !! Not whether or not to post on face book at all! Yall are seriously mean girls !
Wow are you serious? Like why keep going!
How many times do I have to say I WAS LOOKING FOR OPINIONS ON WHEN PEOPLE POST ON FACEBOOK !! Not whether or not to post on face book at all!
Yall are seriously mean girls !
And third !!! I didn't ask for opinions and was still going to "do what I want" please go re read the top! I never asked for opinions on if I should or shouldn't !!! It was asking what other mommas do and when they announce. !!! So you got all the rubbed wrong way for
Nothing !!
"I didn't ask for opinions"...."I WAS LOOKING FOR OPINIONS"
If mean girls = I know how to read and detect contradictions, call me Regina George. It's really less about the FB thing now and more about inability to use logic.
I think we will go ahead and announce it after our ultrasound next week (8weeks). We've told all the important people already. If I have a MC I'll tell people about that too. I don't understand why it's suppose to be a big secret when it's something that happens to lots of women. I live far away from almost everyone I love and FB is a way I keep in touch. Plus three very close relatives are preggo (due Dec, Jan and Feb) and I love hearing and seeing their progress on FB. I share bits of my life on FB and try not to do TMI but I have no problem using that media to stay in touch. Everyone knows DH and I have been trying to get pregnant for nearly a year now, it seems weird to all of a sudden be closed lipped about it. Our philosophy at work and with casual friends right now is to tell them if they ask. Plus it's so fun to tell people! I like to live in the moment and I figure I might as well enjoy this no matter what happens next.
I think we will go ahead and announce it after our ultrasound next week (8weeks). We've told all the important people already. If I have a MC I'll tell people about that too. I don't understand why it's suppose to be a big secret when it's something that happens to lots of women. I live far away from almost everyone I love and FB is a way I keep in touch. Plus three very close relatives are preggo (due Dec, Jan and Feb) and I love hearing and seeing their progress on FB. I share bits of my life on FB and try not to do TMI but I have no problem using that media to stay in touch. Everyone knows DH and I have been trying to get pregnant for nearly a year now, it seems weird to all of a sudden be closed lipped about it. Our philosophy at work and with casual friends right now is to tell them if they ask. Plus it's so fun to tell people! I like to live in the moment and I figure I might as well enjoy this no matter what happens next.
Love your outlook on things ! Hubby is in the military so Facebook is a huge way we kept in touch with friends and distant family. They get to see our littles grow up all because of Facebook. We have told all the important people also so now it's just waiting for that first ultrasound. Ours is next Wednesday and gosh I'm soooo ready lol! So congrats to you and your hubby !
We'll do our Facebook announcement at 20 weeks, partially because I wanted to wait until halfway and partially because the timing is right for our actual announcement.
I'm a Penn State grad and hubs is a Michigan grad. So, we'll take a picture with onesies from each school and a caption something like this "the battle for the next generation's school allegiance begins in April." We'll post the day of the PSU/UM game - right before Thanksgiving.
We'll do our Facebook announcement at 20 weeks, partially because I wanted to wait until halfway and partially because the timing is right for our actual announcement.
I'm a Penn State grad and hubs is a Michigan grad. So, we'll take a picture with onesies from each school and a caption something like this "the battle for the next generation's school allegiance begins in April." We'll post the day of the PSU/UM game - right before Thanksgiving.
This is such a cool idea !! I love Yall are doing it on game day!! Yall will probably know the sex then too right? So yall can announce that also? Congrats to you also!
Thanks, @smithers01! The PSU/UM thing has been a theme througout our relationship, so we figured it was fitting. We aren't finding out the sex, so it will just be a baby announcement.
We don't plan to announce to our family and friends until 12 weeks (which will be in mid-October). It will all be in-person and won't be on FB since we really aren't FB ppl. But I don't knock anyone who does, to each his/her own!
And third !!! I didn't ask for opinions and was still going to "do what I want" please go re read the top! I never asked for opinions on if I should or shouldn't !!! It was asking what other mommas do and when they announce. !!! So you got all the rubbed wrong way for
Nothing !!
As another loss mama, trying my hardest to get pregnant with my rainbow baby, I was "rubbed the wrong way" because of this:
You CAN do a lot of things. Whether or not you can do them tactfully is another barrel of monkeys. And for you now to be accusing other users who've experienced losses of getting their "panties in a wad" is insensitive, and calling other users "mean girls" for not hopping on the facebook train is so beyond childish. No one here is being a "mean girl." People are offering differing opinions in a public forum.
Re: Face booking it ?
Second look everyone gets offended these days over the smallest things. It's a thread and was curious what other mommas were doing! Why does that have to be such a big deal?
Like seriously guys I didn't mean anything by it but the fact it a thread "rubbed her the wrong way" is ridiculous !
Nothing !!
It took us a year of TTC DS2 and during that time I had MANY friends post announcements, sure it stung and I wished it was me. But I was still so happy for them and loved seeing them.
Edit: autocorrect fail
FWIW the only people that care about seeing ultrasounds pics are the parents and close family, no one else really cares to see the inside of a uterus.
NOT asking if I should or shouldn't post on Facebook. I made it clear I was obvi going to do that just was curious at the timing.
And what other mommas have done.
This is seriously the third time I'm explaining myself lol.
I announced early with my other littles and then miscarried twice and was curious if it was too early at 9 weeks.
We have decided to wait until the second trimester but I will def be posting the ultrasound on here lol I can't keep it bottled up and want to share with people who already know I'm pregnant and are just as excited since we are all going through the same things !
Then you're obviously not doing it very well... You asked if 9 weeks was too early. They answered you. Why all the defensiveness?
That's it.
They weren't rubbed the wrong way because you asked. They were offended because your response to why you'd want to announce so early was a sophomoric and insensitive "lol because I can!!" The fact that you can't distinguish between the responses explains why you're having issues "explaining yourself"
This is my point exactly!
The only one getting their panties in a twist is you. I was nothing but nice. Andplusalso quote function is your friend.
It was literally just a question and looking for opinions as to wait for second trimester or 9 weeks to post on Facebook. I didn't think it would get this serious. I'm a super sarcastic person and didn't know saying "because I can" would be such a big deal. I also don't see what the big deal was about be posting looking for opinions.
And yes I think it got read into way to much.
Well color me confused.
How many times do I have to say I WAS LOOKING FOR OPINIONS ON WHEN PEOPLE POST ON FACEBOOK !! Not whether or not to post on face book at all!
Yall are seriously mean girls !
"I didn't ask for opinions"...."I WAS LOOKING FOR OPINIONS"
Thanks to the ones who have helped like really!
Like totally. For sure. Totes hateful.
Hubby is in the military so Facebook is a huge way we kept in touch with friends and distant family. They get to see our littles grow up all because of Facebook. We have told all the important people also so now it's just waiting for that first ultrasound. Ours is next Wednesday and gosh I'm soooo ready lol!
So congrats to you and your hubby !
Congrats to you also!
You CAN do a lot of things. Whether or not you can do them tactfully is another barrel of monkeys. And for you now to be accusing other users who've experienced losses of getting their "panties in a wad" is insensitive, and calling other users "mean girls" for not hopping on the facebook train is so beyond childish. No one here is being a "mean girl." People are offering differing opinions in a public forum.
Tact. Look it up.
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