2 weeks?!??! Are you freakin' kidding me?!?!

hlmdeck · August 2015

@stephz44, many of the women who've taken issue with your post have built a rapport with one another over the last few months, so even if you have been lurking and observing on here no one knows your history. In your original post (or anywhere else on the board), you didn't mention anything you have gone through so we take it for exactly what it says. Imagine before you were pregnant and struggling through your own fertility issues how you would feel if someone complained about two weeks to find out the sex of their healthy (yay) baby. It comes off as not very empathetic. I understand now that you were looking for ways to pass the time, it was just an unfortunate way of going about it. Seriously though. Consider sticking around, posting on other people's threads, and letting people get to know you. It really is a great group of supportive, and truly hilarious women.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

stephz44 said:

This will be the last thing I say in regards to this monstrosity of a so called "support" forum. In regards to my original post, it was a suggestion thread for how to past the time in waiting. Obviously, there are other people in the world who are waiting the two weeks to find out something whether it be serious or fun. I was merely asking what they are doing to pass the time. Maybe I should have been more clear.

Dude. No. This isn't a support forum. If you have bad news you'll get support, but this is not a forum where every speshul snoeflayk post gets the same attention as something more serious. Just wait until you've been here a few weeks and every other day you see 10 posts on "It's a boy!", "Morning sickness", "No morning sickness" etc. It gets old when everyone wants their own post instead of contributing to existing posts and getting to know each other. I promise you if you would have posted this in any of the NT scan posts someone would have responded. It's when people start AWing that the regs get irritated.

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

stephz44 said:

stephz44 said:

oh. wow....I'm so sorry that I forgot to worry about everyone else's problems. Forgive me for trying to find some ways to past the time. p.s. don't judge me for a simple post that I made concerning the fact of waiting. You have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. Thanks though.

This will be the last thing I say in regards to this monstrosity of a so called "support" forum. In regards to my original post, it was a suggestion thread for how to past the time in waiting. Obviously, there are other people in the world who are waiting the two weeks to find out something whether it be serious or fun. I was merely asking what they are doing to pass the time. Maybe I should have been more clear.

Again- people have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. It was a lot of money, timing, medicine, tears, etc. So, don't assume I'm completely in my own world oblivious to other people's problems. I'm just curious if this is how you react to every thread in this forum. Actually, I know the answer. It's not. As I might not be spending all of my time making comments on people's threads for comment numbers and what not. I am on here reading, finding out information, feeling sorry for others, and finding out that other people are in the same situation.

Let me remind people for the future-don't be so judgmental and if you are going to be, then be judgmental to every thread on here. Or if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. Thanks and I'm done.

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You're so funny! You love to judge these women as being exactly what you're accusing us of being when your whole first page of responses was women supporting you and telling you to be happy! We don't comment to make numbers and if you have been on here reading and finding out information then you would know the certain type of posts to make.

I'm not asking for sympathy or trying to get women to feel sorry for my situation either and putting it in their face that I've been through so much because honey, I guarantee its been the same if not more than you. You berate us/me for assuming we don't know what you've been through and we don't because you just said that you don't post.

Let me give you pointers: 1. If you have a question, just ask the question. We don't need caps.

2. Post more so we can find out about you. Don't judge the women on here for giving you helpful information and answering your question with poise and respect.

3. Lastly, follow your own advice and if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything!

Bye

minivanmafia · August 2015

tboslet said:

stephz44 said:

oh. wow....I'm so sorry that I forgot to worry about everyone else's problems. Forgive me for trying to find some ways to past the time. p.s. don't judge me for a simple post that I made concerning the fact of waiting. You have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. Thanks though.

**Removed for TOU Violation**

Again- people have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. It was a lot of money, timing, medicine, tears, etc. So, don't assume I'm completely in my own world oblivious to other people's problems. I'm just curious if this is how you react to every thread in this forum. Actually, I know the answer. It's not. As I might not be spending all of my time making comments on people's threads for comment numbers and what not. I am on here reading, finding out information, feeling sorry for others, and finding out that other people are in the same situation.

Let me remind people for the future-don't be so judgmental and if you are going to be, then be judgmental to every thread on here. Or if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. Thanks and I'm done.

----------- You're so funny! You love to judge these women as being exactly what you're accusing us of being when your whole first page of responses was women supporting you and telling you to be happy! We don't comment to make numbers and if you have been on here reading and finding out information then you would know the certain type of posts to make. I'm not asking for sympathy or trying to get women to feel sorry for my situation either and putting it in their face that I've been through so much because honey, I guarantee its been the same if not more than you. You berate us/me for assuming we don't know what you've been through and we don't because you just said that you don't post. Let me give you pointers: 1. If you have a question, just ask the question. We don't need caps. 2. Post more so we can find out about you. Don't judge the women on here for giving you helpful information and answering your question with poise and respect. 3. Lastly, follow your own advice and if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything! Bye

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I think you needed to end with the "Drop the mic" gif too.

chitownparent · August 2015

I don't know. You could...learn to knit from youtube tutorials and make some booties in white, or green, or yellow?

In the meantime, even though I know the biological sex of my little one, I'm waiting to find out whether my husband is a carrier for Cystic Fibrosis, and that will take about two weeks.

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

I'm sorry to hear that, I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis and my H and I had to go through that 2 week wait too while putting off our IVF transfer for 2 months. Let me know how it goes!

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

@thebeggsbunch I was on mobile

chitownparent · August 2015

tboslet said:

I'm sorry to hear that, I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis and my H and I had to go through that 2 week wait too while putting off our IVF transfer for 2 months. Let me know how it goes!

Thank you!! I had no suspicions that I'd be a carrier--we have no one with CF on either side of the family. I'm so thankful science is as it is and we are able to safely do these tests so we can be best prepared. Thanks for sharing your experience.

minivanmafia · August 2015

@Chitownparent. HUGS.

@tboslet Im really crappy at GIFing on mobile too. So I assume that he isn't a carrier then?

Knottie1455832158 · August 2015

Congrats on getting pregnant and having a healthy baby thus far! I'm not in your shoes, but growing up my family was really into games...Rummy, Dutch blitz, othello, sequence, the list can go on forever. That always helps pass the time for me! Maybe get creative and do a game week, where you pick a game every night for next week and play a "best out of 5" with your spouse/family.

MamaFroFro · August 2015

It's interesting how it's always the WKs who get warnings in these threads... LOL.

stephz44 · August 2015

lindseylou33 said:

Congrats on getting pregnant and having a healthy baby thus far! I'm not in your shoes, but growing up my family was really into games...Rummy, Dutch blitz, othello, sequence, the list can go on forever. That always helps pass the time for me! Maybe get creative and do a game week, where you pick a game every night for next week and play a "best out of 5" with your spouse/family.

Thanks for the suggestions! My family is always into playing games. I mean my parents who are like in their 60's play guitar hero on the wii. The only problem playing games with my husband...he always wins. You should see his record against me. men! lol Currently, I'm binge watching TV shows on Netflix (Ghost Adventures & SOA) and catching up on Arrow!

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

TheBeggsBunch said:

@Chitownparent. HUGS.

@tboslet Im really crappy at GIFing on mobile too. So I assume that he isn't a carrier then?

He came back negative, but we did end up doing testing on our embryos. There is still a chance that our kids may have CF but it's a 1-10,000 chance. I'm hoping for the best and on our last US the baby look healthy!

jdoten5832 · August 2015

2 weeks is FOREVER when you are waiting for something so huge! Fingers crossed for you that it's a boy

I have to wait another 5 weeks.... sucks

Sprinkles07 · August 2015

I've got 5 weeks and 3 days! I've been pinning both boy and girl nursery stuff!

miritako · August 2015

I have to wait until September 30th until I can see the little bean again and do the anatomy scan (where I will find out the sex). The waiting is long, do in the meantime I look at the US thread on here... It keeps me happy...

AdventureMama · August 2015

I have to wait until February 1st or so! HOW WILL I DO IT!?!?!?! :-O

graceinchaos · August 2015

SarahS06 said:

tboslet said:
I didn't find this post funny. I also have a great sense of humor. When random people, (Stephz44, Oxfordlanding, courteli), posts on a board that they have never contributed to before, posting about how she can't wait to know the sex of a healthy baby, and then get upset when people actually tell her that waiting to find the sex out isn't as bad as she makes it out to seem, then she and all you white knights are going to have a hard time. For someone who went through many fertility issues before getting pregnant, I don't find it funny at all when some random person makes a thread like this to get attention. It's not funny to those who have to suffer waiting two weeks to see if there will even be a heart beat on their next visit. So no, there was nothing funny or humorous about this post and I hope you get some great info about posting to this board next time before you dare talk to the women on this board who have helped and contributed way more than you all have.
This. I wasn't going to chime in but against my better judgement, here I go.

I'm so happy that you found out you have a healthy baby! At the same time, please consider that some of us have gone through very difficult two week waits. Like what? How about waiting two weeks to find out that you have to have a d&c instead of miscarrying naturally? Or to find out your baby has no heartbeat? Or if you might have to make one of the most difficult decisions of your life regarding your pregnancy when having a baby is all you've wanted? Or what about the women who struggle(d) with infertility and waited two weeks every month?

Like pps said - we can't wait to share in your excitement. And, you can't expect others to be sensitive to the things you've gone through when you can't see that others may have shared in difficult times too.

I was extremely hesitant to jump in on this thread, because typically people like the OP aren't even open to differing opinions.

I also wanted to say that I'm thrilled you're expecting a healthy baby! I'm sure the two week wait must seem overwhelming to find out something so exciting, but consider this. Like @SarahS06 said, there are countless others who have to wait for two weeks to find out tragically life-changing things.

For me, I'm in the office every other week for ultrasounds and monitoring, because my last pregnancy ended randomly as a stillborn at 37w, for unknown medical reasons. I had a healthy baby, I was healthy, everything was great. I was so naive to the idea that pregnancy could be anything less than rainbows and unicorns. This time around, I spend the two weeks between appointments barely sleeping, wondering if my next appointment will be the one where they can't find the heartbeat.

So while I get that you're excited, and ready to know if you're having a boy or girl, bear in mind that it comes down to this: you've got a fifty-fifty shot either way, so just be excited that baby is healthy and developing properly. In the meantime, maybe take up some sort of craft or something to occupy your time. And next time you decide to start a thread, maybe take two minutes, see if there's another thread that would be an appropriate place to post, and if not, consider your words before you post. Thanks.

*edited because I can't type my words properly today.

cantobean · August 2015

So much love to @graceinchaos

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine.

minivanmafia · August 2015

cantobean said:
So much love to @graceinchaos

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine.

This. a million times over. I'm so very sorry for your loss

thank you for your insight.

pbtoast · August 2015

Hugs, @graceinchaos. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that and that now you're, rightfully so, very nervous with this pregnancy. And very well said re: the OP.

Jellybelly119 · August 2015

So unbelievably sorry for your loss @graceinchaos

cbou · August 2015

So sorry @graceinchaos . Sending positive vibes your way.

mommyaviles · August 2015

Yeah I'm waiting weeks to find out if my baby will even be healthy...

Aussiechicka · August 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss @graceinchaos. As others said, well said re OP.

camusoh2011 · August 2015

Oh good grief. I get that you're excited. Yay for you, waiting sucks, blah blah. There are women on here due the first of the month who don't know the sex of their baby yet and it's really not the end of the world. Want to know what you can do to pass the time? Read a book, lurk on boards to see what kinds of posts go over well, look over those ultrasound pictures that other ladies here still don't have to look at, etc. Don't come here wanting some special attention and getting mad because people point out how silly it sounds to whine about this.

AdventureMama · August 2015

camusoh2011 said:

Oh good grief. I get that you're excited. Yay for you, waiting sucks, blah blah. There are women on here due the first of the month who don't know the sex of their baby yet and it's really not the end of the world. Want to know what you can do to pass the time? Read a book, lurk on boards to see what kinds of posts go over well, look over those ultrasound pictures that other ladies here still don't have to look at, etc. Don't come here wanting some special attention and getting mad because people point out how silly it sounds to whine about this.

amvega87 · August 2015

I'm really sad that some of you are giving this woman such a hard time! This is not any way to treat an excited, happy momma who is simply EXCITED about her sweet baby!

As far as I had understood, this community is supposed to be a SUPPORT system for mothers. Nowhere have I read that this is a community specifically for bad news, losses, hardships of all kinds. It is supposed to be for normally progressing healthy pregnancies as well. This woman is a MOTHER excited as can be about her CHILD! Finding out the sex of your baby (for those who want to know it) is such a special time and an exciting way to connect to this new life for the whole family, especially since (as the original poster noted) her family has been having mostly girls and she may get the special experience of a sweet baby boy. She's been blessed with a healthy child? Of course. She should be happy knowing this? No question that she is!!! But still she has excitement and she has a right to that emotion! Be happy and rejoice with those who are being blessed and comfort those who are experiencing hardships. I'm so disappointed reading these harsh replies to an innocent and joyous post.

And original poster, I am very very excited for you and if I'm one of just a few who can share this, so be it. I for one still have 7 1/2 weeks to find out if I'm having a prince or a princess and I just know once it gets to that smaller countdown the days will turn into years! I don't think I'll be able to sleep! My advice would be to cherish this feeling of excitement, this is one of life's biggest and best surprises and I hope you follow up with the results! Blessings to your sweet baby and your family!!!!

@stephz44

MamaFroFro · August 2015

amvega87 said:
I'm really sad that some of you are giving this woman such a hard time! This is not any way to treat an excited, happy momma who is simply EXCITED about her sweet baby!

As far as I had understood, this community is supposed to be a SUPPORT system for mothers. Nowhere have I read that this is a community specifically for bad news, losses, hardships of all kinds. It is supposed to be for normally progressing healthy pregnancies as well. This woman is a MOTHER excited as can be about her CHILD! Finding out the sex of your baby (for those who want to know it) is such a special time and an exciting way to connect to this new life for the whole family, especially since (as the original poster noted) her family has been having mostly girls and she may get the special experience of a sweet baby boy. She's been blessed with a healthy child? Of course. She should be happy knowing this? No question that she is!!! But still she has excitement and she has a right to that emotion! Be happy and rejoice with those who are being blessed and comfort those who are experiencing hardships. I'm so disappointed reading these harsh replies to an innocent and joyous post.

And original poster, I am very very excited for you and if I'm one of just a few who can share this, so be it. I for one still have 7 1/2 weeks to find out if I'm having a prince or a princess and I just know once it gets to that smaller countdown the days will turn into years! I don't think I'll be able to sleep! My advice would be to cherish this feeling of excitement, this is one of life's biggest and best surprises and I hope you follow up with the results! Blessings to your sweet baby and your family!!!! @stephz44 </p>

I have nothing to say but QFP.

wisco29 · August 2015

@MamaFroFro haha great minds. I came in and got my post all set to quote and then never posted because I couldn't decide. Glad you did it!

VitaLuna · August 2015

@amvega87 You know what else is sad? Dragging up a thread that ended 3 days ago just to stir the pot.

ETA: words

ohbaby714 · August 2015

@VitaLuna that is exactly what I was going to say.

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

VitaLuna said:

@amvega87 You know what else is sad? Dragging up a thread that ended 3 days ago just to stir the pot. ETA: words

Was going to say the same thing. I thought, "God, we're back to this!?"

amvega87 · August 2015

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