MIL keeps bringing over 35 year old baby toys from when DH was a baby. I don't want to give them to LO, but DH wants me to because it would mean a lot to his mom. I'm just thinking of chemicals, lead paint, and scared they'll disintegrate in her mouth. They look kind of gross, but probably fading with age. They're rubber and plastic chew toys. Am I overreacting?
MIL keeps bringing over 35 year old baby toys from when DH was a baby. I don't want to give them to LO, but DH wants me to because it would mean a lot to his mom. I'm just thinking of chemicals, lead paint, and scared they'll disintegrate in her mouth. They look kind of gross, but probably fading with age. They're rubber and plastic chew toys. Am I overreacting?
MIL keeps bringing over 35 year old baby toys from when DH was a baby. I don't want to give them to LO, but DH wants me to because it would mean a lot to his mom. I'm just thinking of chemicals, lead paint, and scared they'll disintegrate in her mouth. They look kind of gross, but probably fading with age. They're rubber and plastic chew toys. Am I overreacting?
Take a couple photos of LO with them... Then hide them far far away until an appropriate time to trash them.
MIL keeps bringing over 35 year old baby toys from when DH was a baby. I don't want to give them to LO, but DH wants me to because it would mean a lot to his mom. I'm just thinking of chemicals, lead paint, and scared they'll disintegrate in her mouth. They look kind of gross, but probably fading with age. They're rubber and plastic chew toys. Am I overreacting?
I wouldn't give them to my LO, I'd be totally freaked out. My mil and mom have given me old baby clothes and I took them and will dress him up in them and that will make them happy. I have said no to toys, cribs (no way) and anything else I feel probably isn't safe 30 years later. We are the mommies and we decide what's ok. I would rather have someone offended then risk my baby getting hurt or sick.
MIL keeps bringing over 35 year old baby toys from when DH was a baby. I don't want to give them to LO, but DH wants me to because it would mean a lot to his mom. I'm just thinking of chemicals, lead paint, and scared they'll disintegrate in her mouth. They look kind of gross, but probably fading with age. They're rubber and plastic chew toys. Am I overreacting?
I would rather have someone offended then risk my baby getting hurt or sick.
10 weeks pp and finally getting a d&c tomorrow.. This will be the fifth attempt (drugs, in office procedures) to get rid of the placenta that's been hanging around. Doctor is 50% sure this will finally get it out. Next step would be chemo, so god willing the d&c will work. Pretty sure I've had more than 20 ultrasounds in the last year now. So frustrated and ready to just be recovered already!
10 weeks pp and finally getting a d&c tomorrow.. This will be the fifth attempt (drugs, in office procedures) to get rid of the placenta that's been hanging around. Doctor is 50% sure this will finally get it out. Next step would be chemo, so god willing the d&c will work. Pretty sure I've had more than 20 ultrasounds in the last year now. So frustrated and ready to just be recovered already!
Holy crap! I didn't realize it could take so many attempts! I had a D&C 10 days pp and I felt better within 48 hours. Good luck!
10 weeks pp and finally getting a d&c tomorrow.. This will be the fifth attempt (drugs, in office procedures) to get rid of the placenta that's been hanging around. Doctor is 50% sure this will finally get it out. Next step would be chemo, so god willing the d&c will work. Pretty sure I've had more than 20 ultrasounds in the last year now. So frustrated and ready to just be recovered already!
Holy crap! I didn't realize it could take so many attempts! I had a D&C 10 days pp and I felt better within 48 hours. Good luck!
UGH further proof that this shouldn't be happening to me. I went in a few weeks after birth because I fainted from blood loss. They said I was fine and didn't even do an ultrasound even though my placenta got ripped out in 4 pieces so like obviously it was a potential problem. So it got left so long that now it's grown farther into the uterine wall and is proving very difficult. My dad (mr. fix it) keeps joking about suing the doctors because he is so frustrated that I'm stuck like this.. I defended my midwife for a while but now I'm just as mad at her as I am at everyone else involved haha it's making me sad because I feel like my whole birth experience is just tainted by this now
10 weeks pp and finally getting a d&c tomorrow.. This will be the fifth attempt (drugs, in office procedures) to get rid of the placenta that's been hanging around. Doctor is 50% sure this will finally get it out. Next step would be chemo, so god willing the d&c will work. Pretty sure I've had more than 20 ultrasounds in the last year now. So frustrated and ready to just be recovered already!
I hope the procedure goes well and that you finally start to feel better! I definitely would look into taking legal action (especially if you end up needing to go through chemo!!), sounds like negligence to me.
@carajeanp37 hoping the d&c works for you and ends the nightmare
FIL and step-MIL are so good with LO. We are visiting them for two days, and it's heaven. They're big drinkers and their friends are from the local bar, so it was really important we took LO there to meet everybody. Within two minutes, a woman slurring her words grabbed LO from my hands. I panicked but it was my in-laws' best friend and DH said it was fine. I went to the bathroom so I wouldn't have to watch.
I'm way less protective than a lot of what I see on here, and I still don't think I could have done anything different, given my personality and our dynamic. But will be talking to DH about just not going back there since we can't control the situation and it's just not safe.
@virginiaunicorn11 I would have walked away too! I took l/o to d/h work the other day and this really nice older lady grabbed her from d/h arms to hold. I was fine with it until I saw her gross yellow (not nail polish) finger nails. I wanted to vomit just looking at them! I turned and talked to another coworker so I didn't have to look at them. As soon as she fussed once I grabbed her to go change her diaper even though I had just changed it.
@virginiaunicorn11 I don't think I would've reacted as gracefully as you did! Our church is having a carnival this week and in Wednesday night when we were there, we let some good friends of ours hold LO. Then, a lady they knew, but who was a stranger to us, asked to hold LO. I was so grateful that our friend took one look at my face and then said, "Sorry, it's my turn!" Her laughing it off made me look less paranoid, which I really appreciated.
It's so hard! I'm a big believer in socializing LO and that some dirt and germs won't hurt him. And I'm Midwest nice. So I need a go-to response for when people take LO and I'm not comfortable with it. I was just so shocked, and it had never happened to me before.
DH said he already talked to his dad about it, and will tell him next time we can't go because it's just too hard to control the situation. Aaaand not really appropriate for an infant to be in a bar...!!!
@virginiaunicorn11 My go-to response is to just snatch LO back when someone takes him and I'm not comfortable. Or just stand/hover reallllly close till they hand him back
Today I went to Old Navy to try and find some clothes that fit while I finish losing my pregnancy weight. I'm soooo tired of wearing my maternity shorts!
While trying some clothes on, I started bawling in the fitting room! It's probably lack of sleep, but I just feel like my body is so different and nothing fits right.
While trying some clothes on, I started bawling in the fitting room! It's probably lack of sleep, but I just feel like my body is so different and nothing fits right.
I feel you. I know it took 9 months to gain, but I feel awful every time I try to put real pants on. I know I need to cut myself some slack, but I go back to work next month and don't want to spend money on clothes. I hate how squishy I am and I am not losing it nearly as quickly as with DS. Ugh.
@virginiaunicorn11 My go-to response is to just snatch LO back when someone takes him and I'm not comfortable. Or just stand/hover reallllly close till they hand him back
Today I went to Old Navy to try and find some clothes that fit while I finish losing my pregnancy weight. I'm soooo tired of wearing my maternity shorts!
While trying some clothes on, I started bawling in the fitting room! It's probably lack of sleep, but I just feel like my body is so different and nothing fits right.
I did the same thing at Old Navy! Nothing fits right because of my belly. I hate my maternity shorts and maternity yoga pants. That's all I wore for weeks. I ended up just grabbing some regular shorts on clearance at Target that were a little small (but still a much larger size than pre-pregnancy). I'm just considering them a constant reminder to keep working on losing the weight. Hope to fit into my old pants soon. Ugh. It's okay though. Our LOs are worth the flab.
I was complaining about not being able to wear most of my old clothes the other day and DH started teasing me about being chubby. I think he thought it'd be ok because he doesn't actually think I'm fat but he soon realised it was very much not ok when I started crying. I know logically that for 2 months postpartum my body is fine but emotionally I can't take teasing right now.
I love being back in my hometown. Yesterday I went to the gym I used to go to and it was perfect. I am friends with the people who work there and a few of the regulars who went late at night like I did. It was so great seeing everyone. I really enjoy working out. Getting back to it and being social really took my mind off of everything going on. I'm heading to the gym again. Now if I could only stop eating like a tank..
i found this picture and it made me laugh so hard i almost cried, hopefully makes someone else smirk at least. or you can laugh at my stupid sense of humor.
@aliciaspinnet I would have cried too! My DH knows he can never say something like that unless he wants to pick up the pieces (of me, that is). And you are right, it's too fast so expect to be back to your former size in 2 months. We'll get there!
10 weeks pp and finally getting a d&c tomorrow.. This will be the fifth attempt (drugs, in office procedures) to get rid of the placenta that's been hanging around. Doctor is 50% sure this will finally get it out. Next step would be chemo, so god willing the d&c will work. Pretty sure I've had more than 20 ultrasounds in the last year now. So frustrated and ready to just be recovered already!
I hope the procedure goes well and that you finally start to feel better! I definitely would look into taking legal action (especially if you end up needing to go through chemo!!), sounds like negligence to me.
Ugh my OB said I was "fine" when I called to say I had a blood clot bigger than a golf ball - which was the directions I received when released from the hospital. That was on day 4. Only on day 9, when I passed a ton more and talked to the doc on call - not my doc - was it taken seriously. If I have another kid I'll probably switch docs.
I just clipped the tip of my LOs finger while clipping her nails. She cried, I cried. I know I'm not the first or the last to do this, but I feel like such a bad mom.
Heading to a wedding with LO! Half terrified she'll choose today to throw an uncharacteristic fit during the mass, but we deemed this wedding not babysitter worthy. Haha It's an 11:30 wedding where the bride said, "Hopefully the reception is over by 5 or 6 because we don't want to inconvenience everyone's day." Sounds terrible and boring! My idea of a good wedding is drinking too much wine and embarrassing myself on the dance floor.
For once, thank god for pumping. All of the grandparents are here this weekend so I've been pumping so they can feed LO and it's good practice for her before she starts daycare. So every few hours I go to a quiet room to pump. Alone. For this introvert, it's how I'm staying sane with a house full. 8-}
So upset DH has to go to work today because he is the only one who can fix an issue with a system at his lab. I was so looking forward to having a family day. Plus he is out of town next weekend.
We are on a weeklong visit across a Midwest state to introduce LO to all our family. Today we spent with my cousin and his four kids, and my parents and aunt and uncle. It's so nice to be around big families, my family, and couples who have been together for a long time. Puts our bickering and crap into perspective. Shows us we are normal. We are not meant to parent in a bubble - we need our village to raise these babies!!
I'm someone who moves at a million a second. My mind and my emotions work this way too. I've been pretty upset about my separation from my husband. A few days ago I found out that my husband is not only smoking a lot of weed, he's also selling it. That helped me be a little less upset. Today I found out my husband downloaded tinder (a dating app) and I was FURIOUS for like 30 minutes. I had a panic attack and couldn't breath. Then I realized I wasn't upset over HIM, I was upset about something else and felt immediate guilt and couldn't stop crying. I felt like my freedom had been taken away because now I have a daughter and even though he can shake his whole family off and be a single man, I have this person to take care of. He can turn around and go out while I can't do that. He can start dating and no one even has to know he's married or has a daughter. I, however, can't hide that. And not that I want to but for a second I felt like it was so unfair that he left me with this huge responsibility. With the rest of her life people asking me about her father or for the next few months people telling me how much she looks like him. You all can shake the feeling of feeling guilty over bumping your kid on the head or letting her cry because for a little while, I totally resented her for not being able to live my life free as a bird. Bad mom award definitely goes to me. All I want to do is cry for feeling that way.
@mvargas12 I'm so sorry. Some men can just start living the single life so easily after having a baby. But it shows that you ARE a good mom by knowing you have to take care of her and don't just rush out to try and live the single life. I think everyone has a moment of resentment and it doesn't make you a bad mom, it makes you human. I don't know you but hugs to you, hang in there.
I don't aim to bring every body down with my troubles sooo on a less depressing note, I just ate a big salad and it did nothing for me. Bring on the pizza!
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@carajeanp37 I hope the procedure gets rid of the last of it and you feel better soon
FIL and step-MIL are so good with LO. We are visiting them for two days, and it's heaven. They're big drinkers and their friends are from the local bar, so it was really important we took LO there to meet everybody.
Within two minutes, a woman slurring her words grabbed LO from my hands. I panicked but it was my in-laws' best friend and DH said it was fine. I went to the bathroom so I wouldn't have to watch.
I'm way less protective than a lot of what I see on here, and I still don't think I could have done anything different, given my personality and our dynamic. But will be talking to DH about just not going back there since we can't control the situation and it's just not safe.
DH said he already talked to his dad about it, and will tell him next time we can't go because it's just too hard to control the situation. Aaaand not really appropriate for an infant to be in a bar...!!!
Today I went to Old Navy to try and find some clothes that fit while I finish losing my pregnancy weight. I'm soooo tired of wearing my maternity shorts!
While trying some clothes on, I started bawling in the fitting room! It's probably lack of sleep, but I just feel like my body is so different and nothing fits right.
ETA-we shaved our husky he looks so scrawny now
Hope it all goes smoothly with the baby...eek!