Is this rude? On the back of the invitation I'm putting 'Though we are expecting a girl, we would prefer gender neutral items for preparations sake if you decide to gift us.' I just feel like it's rude to ask for specific things as gifts but I don't trust my gender determination! And I want to be prepared
Re: Gender Neutral Baby Gifts
I would side eye the hell out of an invitation that put stipulations on what gifts I should buy.
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
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That is how the above comes across.
If this isn't about gifts, just have a party instead of a shower. Or speak to your mom of sister or another close relative about it...it's entirely possible that they planned to host one for you before you told them you were hosting your own.
Also, yes, your first pregnancy is your only opportunity to have a shower bc the shower welcomes a new mom to motherhood and that only happens once. A shower is a gift, not a right. I'd back off unless someone offered to throw one for you.
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DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
I would do this also. But I would monogram it so it couldn't be returned.
On second thought, I wouldn't be attending a baby showers that an expectant mom throw for herself. So I wouldn't be buying a gift at all.
This is the equivalent of flat out asking your friends and family to buy you stuff. The offer to throw a shower is a GIFT in itself from the host, a shower is not something that we as pregnant women are entitled to. Not everyone gets a shower, that's life. Babies can be celebrated after they're born, and people actually get to meet them.
The money you'll have to spend to provide food and drink appropriate for the time day for this shower should be put toward buying baby items yourself. It's nobody else's responsibility to provide things for your baby.
Nobody has ever come up with a valid reason for why they should be throwing their own shower.
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
If there is "NO ONE TO THROW YOUR SHOWER" then WHO IS COMING? seriously. That's not bashing. It's a question. You have people lining up to buy you stuff but not one who will hold the party at their house and Put out a tray of cookies?
Well that sucks, but in this case, I certainly don't think "we" is the proper pronoun to be used on your shower invite.
Now I'm calling total BS on this post. You started off and continue to say "we". Who is the other party have this child if the dad is not in the picture? It's physically impossible to spend a 'great amount of money' on your own shower with no guests unless you are planning on buying a lot of decor and food for an empty room. I'm sorry if you feel unsupported by your loved ones in your pregnancy, but you're just not maki any logical sense.
She still refuses to answer that question, and when called on it gets fake outraged. Calling MUD
Who is this "she" you are referring to? Aren't YOU the OP?
If your life truly is in shambles like you claim, then maybe you should be focusing your time and energy on fixing that before your baby comes rather than planning your own shower?