How soon did you leave LO with someone else?

jasd33 · July 2015

im feeling a little like a crazy mom because I don't want to leave my EBF 11 day old daughter for an hour with my in laws. How soon did you leave your LO?

KonaCoffeeBean · July 2015

Someone else besides Dad? Haven't yet. LO is 3 weeks. Left him Dad for 45 minutes or so while I ran to the store at 2 weeks.

jasd33 · July 2015

I've left LO with dad basically to shower or nap but she's always sleeping. My in laws want to take her for a walk in the stroller and it gives me anxiety. It seems so stupid to me that I feel this way but I can't help it

henrytviii · July 2015

2 weeks but it was with DH. I went to the pool to swim some laps. Laps felt good but I did not feel good about being away from LO. I do not think you are crazy. This is an important time for bonding and your hormones are still in flux. Don't leave her if you don't feel completely okay with it. This would be a little nuts in another 4-6 weeks. Right now its completely normal and there's no reason you should separate from LO until you are ready. My two cents.

jasd33 · July 2015

henrytviii said:
2 weeks but it was with DH. I went to the pool to swim some laps. Laps felt good but I did not feel good about being away from LO. I do not think you are crazy. This is an important time for bonding and your hormones are still in flux. Don't leave her if you don't feel completely okay with it. This would be a little nuts in another 4-6 weeks. Right now its completely normal and there's no reason you should separate from LO until you are ready. My two cents.

Thanks for the support

jasd33 · July 2015

I'm sure in a few weeks I'll be very excited to have someone offer to take her for a walk but not quite yet

klkonwi · July 2015

I must be terrible. I went to a derby 4 blocks away when he was 5 days old. He was with my sister at our house. We survived. It's not crazy for you not to want to leave. I just liked the social interaction after being cut off for 9 months plus

jasd33 · July 2015

You are not terrible that's great for you that you got out we just bring LO with us since she's been so great we still get out a lot

MrsCaliRN · July 2015

5 days old. LO was born on Sunday and my mom watched him for 3 hours on Friday while DH and I went for drinks and appetizers. It takes planning though especially since I'm exclusively breastfeeding on demand. I fed him right before running out the door and as soon as I got back. It was so needed and DS did great!

katyertl · July 2015

We left a few days after coming home from the hospital and ran to get groceries and prescriptions but she was with my mom and aunt. She slept the whole 2 hours lol
We also just went on a date night movie and dinner 2 weeks ago and she was 4 weeks then. I had some anxiety during the night but it felt awesome to be out

virginiaunicorn11 · July 2015

LO is 4.5 weeks and I've never left him, other than to shower or go do laundry in the basement. My parents offered to watch him overnight when he's 2 months old, so we could attend a wedding. I'm EBF and don't want to pump and give him a bottle, or leave him, so that's not happening. I'm not sure when I'll feel comfortable leaving him. My guess is he will be 4-6+ months old, and it will be work related.

I don't think it's crazy, and I don't think any decision at all about when to leave or not leave your LO with others deserves judgment. Do what feels right for you, and that's it. Don't worry about what others are doing or saying, just establish that critical bond! (Easier said than done, I know!!)

aliciac2008 · July 2015

I left mine on day 3, and my mom watches her for a few hours a day at least a 3 times a week. If she had a bad night sleeping I just call my mom and she will watch her for a few hours while I sleep. I'm pretty lucky. I don't have a problem leaving my baby with her, I trust her completely and really need my "me" time. I have anxiety issues, so if I get too overwhelmed or tired it can quickly go downhill.

dancegurl1118 · July 2015

5.5 weeks and I haven't even left her alone with Dad yet. Leaving her with the in laws for 2 hours on Saturday while we go get dinner ~X( but it's a good thing it's not my parents because I'd be texting incessantly.

jasd33 · July 2015

Thank you all for the support and encouragement I guess when the time is right I'll know

rklinge0 · July 2015

I left little one after 8 days to go and get a better breast pump. I didn't feel like putting her in the car for 40 min there and then back. However at 5 weeks dh and I went to a concert and we were gone for 8 hrs. That was a little harder, but thats what dh got me for my bday.

AlyLynn07 · July 2015

LO is 4 weeks old. I've really only left him with DH or my mom to shower or spend time with DS1. We have been out and about a lot with him though!

marlener25 · July 2015

AlyLynn07 said:
LO is 4 weeks old. I've really only left him with DH or my mom to shower or spend time with DS1. We have been out and about a lot with him though!

Glad to hear I'm not the only one that has been out and about with the little one! We took him furniture shopping yesterday! He's 3.5 weeks. I've left him at my parent's house while I went shopping for nursing bras, but other than that, I haven't left him with anyone but DH, but that doesn't really count. I don't think I left DS1 for months. Things change quickly with baby #2!

ksimo6 · July 2015

With my first child, it was a long time before I left her with anyone but DH.....Several weeks for sure. And I didn't do an overnight away for almost 6 months.

This time (baby 2) it was a lot sooner. I actually had to send him to my mom for 2 night because the stomach flu ripped through our house and both me and my husband were too sick to take care of him. I cried ugly tears the entrie time I was away from him but it could not be helped.

btm013 · July 2015

I left LO for an entire day at 4
Weeks! I was in a wedding and the festivities started for me early (hair, makeup etc.) Thankfully it was local so I could get to him if there was a problem. It was tough but he was with my sister who has three children so I know he was in good hands. Other than that just on Tuesday for an hour with my mother as I went to my postpartum appointment.

aligons · July 2015

I left LO with my mom at 2 wks old for a PP visit. I rushed back home.

esampson1983 · July 2015

With DH at 2 weeks.
With my mom at 6 weeks.

queequeg09256 · July 2015

I left lo with Dh probably within the first week. I do take her with me a lot. My mom just got into town and offered to babysit tonight! So excited we are going to dinner and a movie! Yesterday I left longer 2 hours to see a movie and I've certainly left her for more than that with dh. I think there must be something wrong with me I have no worries about leaving her with others. I worry something is going to happen to me not her like getting in a car accident and not getting to see her grow up. Silly but I work in car insurance so that stuff freaks me out.

MrsMeganClark.defunct635768260875757324 · July 2015

My LO is 3 weeks today and I'm having to "leave" him with my MIL since I managed to come down with bronchitis even though I haven't left the house!!! I'm here but locked away in my bedroom to not contaminate the whole house. DH couldn't get off work, so we're lucky grandma could save the day. I'm terrified of my little man getting a fever or having to go into the hospital.

staceyfern · July 2015

I had to leave LO with a very good friend at 12 days for an hour and a half. I had s job interview for a job much closer to home and I really wanted it so I could stop driving an extra hour and s half each day. I think I'm gonna get the job!! That was over two weeks ago and since then I have left him 2 more times just for 2 hours max with my sister in law. I trust her more than my parents.

aj1327 · July 2015

I think I left him with DH at around 2 weeks to run to the pharmacy. I've left him a few times with my sister in law for 30 minutes to run and get coffee or to the store for groceries. Just this week at 4 weeks I pumped and left him with my mother in law for about 2 hours. I almost chickened out and was nervous, but all went well!

mlindzz · July 2015

I left LO with dad and my sister while I drove to Starbucks down the street, so for about 15 minutes. That was at 2 weeks.

My MIL also took LO for a walk alone at 2 weeks while I was sleeping 'because he was fussing'. Not cool. If he's fussing, bring him to me so he can eat.

queequeg09256 · July 2015

Good luck @staceyfern hope you get it

HoosOnFirst · July 2015

With DH I left her with him in week 3 for my first alone time - running to the grocery store. It was heavenly.

With others? I have left LO with my mom and sister to run quick errands. Both times it was in our home and both under an hour.

We have our first summer wedding in August and the plan is to leave her with MIL - but I think we'd come back that night, not stay in a hotel without her.

katyertl · July 2015

Wish me luck! I go back to work. Well not a full day. Just a 5 hour shift at my bar job. The owners mom is actually babysitting for us. And in good old wisconsin tradition...the bar is connected to their house lol so she's camping out in the house with LO so I will literally be 100 ft away from her

wish my other job was like that lol

Sammy K · July 2015

With DH, 1 week. Otherwise I take her with. We run errands and take her to lunch regularly (she's 3 weeks). But no way would I leave her with my ILs (my parents wouldn't even offer at this stage). We have had issues with them not respecting our parenting decisions, not following schedules, and not changing dirty diapers. I would let some friends watch her for a couple hours, but we have a history with them and similar parenting styles. So, follow your gut and do what is comfortable.

LaurenAnn0405 · July 2015

@Sammy K I feel the same way with my IL's they don't respect our parenting decisions at all. DD who is 3.5 has still not spent a night alone with them or been at their house without us there. When we have left her alone with them things happen in the few hours we aren't there like her dinner consists of ice cream and a milkshake, she doesn't get a nap, and she's not in bed on time. I didn't leave DD alone with anyone except for DH until I went back to work which made that first day back extremely hard so I think I'm going to leave DS alone with my parents for half a day at some point to ease my way into it.

dancegurl1118 · July 2015

@katyertl wait how do I get a bar connected to my house?

DolphinLover2002 · July 2015

Sammy K said:
But no way would I leave her with my ILs (my parents wouldn't even offer at this stage). We have had issues with them not respecting our parenting decisions, not following schedules, and not changing dirty diapers.

This! My in laws are horrible! They have a small dog that HATES kids. We have a ds that is almost 3. Last summer she had her dog running around our yard so we held ds. She told us to let him down to play with the dog. We said no because she'd bite him. So she picked up her dog and we let ds down. She let her dog down super fast knowing ds would try to pet her. Of course the dog tried to bite him. We freaked and told her she needed to leave. She said to just let him get bit. Needless to say she's never been alone with our ds. She actually hasn't even met our twin girls yet. She's been so horrible that we cut off communicating with her months ago.

I've left our twins with my DH several times to run to the grocery store. I love my kids, but having 3 under 3 all day at home myself gets hard. I need some me time. We left the twins with my parents at 2 weeks, because my c-section incision broke open and we had to go to the er. We've left them with my patents one other time to go grocery shopping. Other than that, they've been with me. Twins that are breastfed are hard to leave. They usually eat together, but sometimes get hungry on opposite schedules. I have to be able to leave where I'm at and come home soon to feed them.

dancegurl1118 · July 2015

We left LO with the IL's while we went to dinner. All was fine. They said they brought her to mass which is fine but the more I think about it I'm nervous people were touching her. Oh well can't change what's already done..

queequeg09256 · July 2015

We left lo with my mom and step dad last night she is 5 weeks first time leaving her with someone other than Dh. Went really well I wasn't that worried and they kept her on the same sort of schedule we have so no issues we were gone for about 5.5 hours. I think I'm going to ask my ils to watch her while we go on another date in August.

akanini · July 2015

2 days old with my mom and grandmother. I totally trust them or DH. He will be 3 weeks tomorrow and no one else can stay alone with him besides them!!

HayesRN13 · July 2015

I'll leave him with family who all live close as much as I can. If I need to go to store and other errands..it's good for the psyche, good for him as he's not exposed.. But I will say it's only family I've left him with for short periods

aliciac2008 · July 2015

LO stayed with my mom overnight last night to give DH and I a break. I told her the schedule we have been following and how well it's been working. Well, she didn't follow it at all so the baby was up most of the night (she sleeps most of the night with us). I'm worried she's completely off her schedule now and won't sleep for me tonight. Not looking forward to the hours ahead.

mrs1374a · July 2015

I'm thinking as soon as my pump comes in, should be this week, and I can pump for her, maybe DH and I will go to dinner or something. We also have a 3 year old so I kind of feel bad now asking anyone to watch both, but I know my parents will and I know Mil will, no hesitation and I'm good with both situations. So far, she's 3 weeks, I haven't left her at all.

bobjo31 · July 2015

I just left my 5.5wo alone with DH for the first time for a few hours....and it's our 3rd baby. I don't think it makes us crazy...it just means we're inately good mamas for not wanting to leave our LOs. Or at least that's what I'm going with...;)

momtobe613 · July 2015

As long as baby takes the bottle of pumped milk this week without issue I am guiltlessly going to lunch and a movie with my husband on Saturday while he spends the day with his nana. He will be almost three weeks old.

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