@SammeMotley glad everyone is ok!! Super scary my dh has had 2 accidents and every time he drives I get a little freaked out. I have an ergo but it didn't work that great for lo because she got really hot in the infant insert.
@SammeMotley I have the Moby. Wore it today to shop & it went really well! I saw a video that explained wearing the BF, but haven't tried it yet! Maybe will attempt at home this weekend & let you know!!
Random... But anyone else get annoyed that anytime LO stretches or makes a noise, everyone automatically assumes they're pooping? Like no, they're a live baby, not a statute. They move around and make noises...
My SO thinks that our little one is always pooping. All she has to do is stretch her legs out and make a grunt and he looks at me and says "I think she pooped". Or if she starts crying he looks at me and says "babe, why is she crying?" and then I look at him like he is a jackass and say "well babe, she IS a baby and babies DO cry and I couldn't tell you why she is crying"...so I feel ya lol @beckyk9109
DH thinks every time our kid cries, a) he's hungry (ie, give the crying kid back to mom), or b) he can just console him for a while. Dude, stop trying to calm the baby and just change the freaking diaper already!!
I swore I'd not boss DH about caring for the baby, but it kills me to see LO get increasingly upset while DH just keeps rocking him in the wet diaper...
My LO laughed in his sleep this morning! Such a sweet sound - I wasn't expecting him to do that so early, as I'm not even sure if he's properly smiling yet.
My SO thinks that our little one is always pooping. All she has to do is stretch her legs out and make a grunt and he looks at me and says "I think she pooped". Or if she starts crying he looks at me and says "babe, why is she crying?" and then I look at him like he is a jackass and say "well babe, she IS a baby and babies DO cry and I couldn't tell you why she is crying"...so I feel ya lol @beckyk9109
I went out alone for the first time today with LO! Went to the laundromat, the co-op, and the hardware store while DH was at home building a chicken coop. He was pretty fussy once in the store for too long...wondering if that's because all the noise was too much, since DH and I are the only ones in the house usually? But either way, we did it! Then we came home and he ate, then DH and I went out to eat at a a place that's like a roadside stand, just in case he was fussy-he was so tired from the previous outing he slept through our dinner and he's been asleep ever since!
I have been struggling with the idea that this little dude is pretty much my only responsibility, that and the things I can do in the house while he sleeps, so it was really nice to get out and do SOMETHING ELSE and contribute to another part of our lives for a change-even if him getting fussy was a little stressful!
6 week pp appointment is tomorrow. I'm excited but anxious, and I'm still not sure what I'm doing about BC. Not to mention I have a 45 minute trip, and have to leave WITH LO at 7:30 am. Ugh... She was up all night last night, so hopefully she lets me sleep tonight..
@SmashJam congrats! It's so hard to cross the hurdle of actually getting out of the house!
Ps DH wanted to start a chicken coop this year. I said absolutely not the same year as the birth of LO. But it means I'm on the hook for next year. How is yours going?
Hello, everyone. First time mommy here! I've been the one to get up at night, all night with our DD. My DH is getting ready to start a new job and has to study a manual for a orientation test on Tuesday. He gets to go in the bedroom and study while I'm still up with DD in the middle of the day, I'm a little jealous of that. The only time alone I have is in the shower or when using the bathroom....is that awful of me? I love our DD soooooo much, I just wish I didn't WANT a break, if that makes sense. I feel guilty for wanting time to myself, and to eat with two hands.
Hello, everyone. First time mommy here! I've been the one to get up at night, all night with our DD. My DH is getting ready to start a new job and has to study a manual for a orientation test on Tuesday. He gets to go in the bedroom and study while I'm still up with DD in the middle of the day, I'm a little jealous of that. The only time alone I have is in the shower or when using the bathroom....is that awful of me? I love our DD soooooo much, I just wish I didn't WANT a break, if that makes sense. I feel guilty for wanting time to myself, and to eat with two hands.
Totally normal, don't feel guilty. I love our LO to pieces but when DH gets back from work I'm always ready to hand him over and have a bit of a break. And showers are essential for sanity. You might have heard the phrase "You need to put on your own oxygen mask before you can help others" - it's very true here. You need to look after yourself, including sometimes taking a break, in order to be the best mother possible.
Hard day today. Started with projectile spit up (thought we addressed that a week ago, but LO took advantage of me while I slept in the side lying position!). Then his "witching hour" tonight turned into two, with super aggressive comfort nursing and lots of scratching and grabbing my chest and throat while I tried to rock him to sleep.
I feel old. I'm sad that I've somehow phased from a happy young person to a cranky old mom, seemingly overnight. I don't feel like me, mentally or physically. I miss my sexual connection with DH.
Just a hard day. Tomorrow will be better.
This.. I got mad at LO because he clawed me while in a tantrum .. Then all I wanted was just to be with DH after that so he could make it better
Hello, everyone. First time mommy here! I've been the one to get up at night, all night with our DD. My DH is getting ready to start a new job and has to study a manual for a orientation test on Tuesday. He gets to go in the bedroom and study while I'm still up with DD in the middle of the day, I'm a little jealous of that. The only time alone I have is in the shower or when using the bathroom....is that awful of me? I love our DD soooooo much, I just wish I didn't WANT a break, if that makes sense. I feel guilty for wanting time to myself, and to eat with two hands.
Not awful AT ALL!! Let go of that guilt right now, it's wasted energy. Lots of great mamas on here are excited to be going back to work. I make DH take the baby for an hour every day so I can shower, do laundry, etc. It's beyond normal both to need a break and to need alone time. Sounds like you're a very loving, normal mama!
Hello, everyone. First time mommy here! I've been the one to get up at night, all night with our DD. My DH is getting ready to start a new job and has to study a manual for a orientation test on Tuesday. He gets to go in the bedroom and study while I'm still up with DD in the middle of the day, I'm a little jealous of that. The only time alone I have is in the shower or when using the bathroom....is that awful of me? I love our DD soooooo much, I just wish I didn't WANT a break, if that makes sense. I feel guilty for wanting time to myself, and to eat with two hands.
Not awful AT ALL!! Let go of that guilt right now, it's wasted energy. Lots of great mamas on here are excited to be going back to work. I make DH take the baby for an hour every day so I can shower, do laundry, etc. It's beyond normal both to need a break and to need alone time. Sounds like you're a very loving, normal mama!
I have a theory that anyone who cares enough to worry about whether they're a good mother is almost certainly a good mother!
@hoodoll82 we already had chickens, he wanted a fancier coop we could walk into. They all already have a place to live so its less pressure! You will love chickens they are hilarious little birds! Just make sure they can't get to the porch or you'll have to clean it every few days like me lol
Thank you both! This is exactly what I needed to read. It's 3am, I'm up with DD again. Less than an hour of sleep, and DD peed thru 2 diapers and all over the changing pad and her onsie. I'm not going to lie, I cried. I cried out of exhaustion. I'm just glad that feeling like I need a break and needing more than 2 minutes to myself isn't selfish.
Just wanted to take a moment to toot my own horn! After worrying that baby wasn't getting enough to eat (I am EBF) I am happy to report that he is healthy and has gained 2 lb and 3 oz in the last few weeks! So for all the BF mamas out there who are worried or having a hard time, stick with it. Baby is probably getting just what they need!
Today we went to lunch then a long walk through the city because I have family in town. Out for 4 hours!
LO did great til the last 10 minutes, walking home, when he needed to nurse and went ballistic.
I feel like he was hurt/mad at/lost trust in me, because we had three very rough hours after he nursed, where he wouldn't nurse again or let me cuddle him, but was inconsolable.
QUESTION: am I overreacting due to something I read (about building baby's trust in you), and baby was just being a baby? or is my LO actually losing trust in me and responding angrily to that?
I took personal offense when offering the boob made him cry harder. Ugh. Hurts my heart!
@virginiaunicorn11 no! Just like we say they are too young to cry it out because they are too young to manipulate you for attention, he is too young to manipulate you into feeding him "or else". I'm sure he got worked up crying and it just took him a little bit to relax and get into the "zen" calm of nursing. Don't beat yourself up! There are going to be times where he's going to have to wait a lot longer than 10 minutes. He trusts you, you're all he knows
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Update on PP appointment: everything went swimmingly and cleared for all activity, including work. I'll be returning when LO is 8 weeks 1 day and I am super excited. A little frustrated though because the nurse said the doctor would send my BC prescription over to the pharmacy this afternoon so I could pick it up, but I called the pharmacy at 4:30 and they hadn't heard from him yet. When I called the OB's office a different nurse told me I had gotten bad information and that it could take days to get it to the pharm. And that even when I do get it it takes a month to be effective. I'm just a sexually frustrated hormonal mom who diligently waited the whole 6 weeks and now I have to wait 10. I'm just really frustrated.. And on top of that, LO didn't sleep at all for th second night in a row. I did what I said I'd never do and let her sleep on my chest while I got 45 minutes of sleep just so I could drive to the doctor. I don't feel guilty at all. You do what you gotta do...
@virginiaunicorn11 Definitely not! When they get super hangry, it gets harder to get them to accept a feed. My prenatal class prepared me for that one. The more hungry, the more upset, the more stubborn. Don't worry!
@lwyz and @dancegurl1118 thank you for the reassurance. I hadn't thought of this in terms of (non-) manipulation, but that helps me put it back into perspective, thank you.
It is such a weird experience. I feel like the "real me" or "old me" rationally knows this... And is watching "new mama me", who is hormonal and irrational, and wondering wtf is going on! Lol
I downloaded Wonder Weeks, and LO is going through a Leap. We've canceled travel plans to stay home and cuddle. Old Me is dying. Mama Me is thrilled.
Hope you ladies are having smooth days, thanks again xo
@lwyz and @dancegurl1118 thank you for the reassurance. I hadn't thought of this in terms of (non-) manipulation, but that helps me put it back into perspective, thank you.
It is such a weird experience. I feel like the "real me" or "old me" rationally knows this... And is watching "new mama me", who is hormonal and irrational, and wondering wtf is going on! Lol
I downloaded Wonder Weeks, and LO is going through a Leap. We've canceled travel plans to stay home and cuddle. Old Me is dying. Mama Me is thrilled.
Hope you ladies are having smooth days, thanks again xo
I'm picking up Wonder Weeks from the library tomorrow!
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I swore I'd not boss DH about caring for the baby, but it kills me to see LO get increasingly upset while DH just keeps rocking him in the wet diaper...
https://www.essentialbaby.com.au/baby/caring-for-baby/every-parent-knows-the-poo-face-20150703-gi4f34.html
Ps DH wanted to start a chicken coop this year. I said absolutely not the same year as the birth of LO. But it means I'm on the hook for next year. How is yours going?
Thank you both! This is exactly what I needed to read. It's 3am, I'm up with DD again. Less than an hour of sleep, and DD peed thru 2 diapers and all over the changing pad and her onsie. I'm not going to lie, I cried. I cried out of exhaustion. I'm just glad that feeling like I need a break and needing more than 2 minutes to myself isn't selfish.
LO did great til the last 10 minutes, walking home, when he needed to nurse and went ballistic.
I feel like he was hurt/mad at/lost trust in me, because we had three very rough hours after he nursed, where he wouldn't nurse again or let me cuddle him, but was inconsolable.
QUESTION: am I overreacting due to something I read (about building baby's trust in you), and baby was just being a baby? or is my LO actually losing trust in me and responding angrily to that?
I took personal offense when offering the boob made him cry harder. Ugh. Hurts my heart!
And that even when I do get it it takes a month to be effective. I'm just a sexually frustrated hormonal mom who diligently waited the whole 6 weeks and now I have to wait 10. I'm just really frustrated.. And on top of that, LO didn't sleep at all for th second night in a row. I did what I said I'd never do and let her sleep on my chest while I got 45 minutes of sleep just so I could drive to the doctor. I don't feel guilty at all. You do what you gotta do...
It is such a weird experience. I feel like the "real me" or "old me" rationally knows this... And is watching "new mama me", who is hormonal and irrational, and wondering wtf is going on! Lol
I downloaded Wonder Weeks, and LO is going through a Leap. We've canceled travel plans to stay home and cuddle. Old Me is dying. Mama Me is thrilled.
Hope you ladies are having smooth days, thanks again xo