So i found out today at my regular prenatal appointment that I'm having twins. I had my anatomy almost 2 weeks ago and the Tec didn't say a word about there being two babys. All she said was it was a boy and looked great. Today my ob informed me that the ill guy looks great and so does his sister. And she also explains why the Tec could tell me this information. So my ob spent about 30 mins showing me the different in the altrasound photos and why one one them look like the baby had three arms. Right now I feel vary over whelmed and decided this will make a great surprise for ever one at the hospital including my H! We were really hopping for a girl this time around and it looks like we're getting both!
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Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
I can imagine this is overwhelming and exciting for you. You may want to take some time and do some research on twins before making any final decisions. The research you do should help guide your decision making process.
I can't even read most of this.
If my partner kept a secret like this from me I would be mortified and very angry. Surprising family is one thing, lying to your husband is another.
Honestly, I think it is totally disrespectful to your husband, especially since you told your sister.
I can't...
I'd surprise my husband with a second birthday cake but never with an extra baby!
Agreed with PP, very disrespectful to your husband if you've told someone else something so personal.
I think the moms with twins should comment on this because I assume that wanting another baby after the 3rd would be real different than 2 infants at the same time.
This is a bad idea....
Seriously as the father he has the right to share in the joy! Does he have a birthday soon? Surprise him then!
DD1 born 11/2014
DD2 born 6/2016
Tell your husband. Having twins is surprising enough without adding in the whole "haha I didn't tell my husband" angle.
If I pulled a stunt like you're thinking about pulling I can almost guarantee as soon as my SO was reassured that the babies and I were fine, I'd be a single woman real quick. Not telling someone something that important is cruel and is the biggest lie by omission I've ever heard of.
I'm with @LSRoo - this has to be MUD
Am I reading this right. You've found out your having twins but your not telling your Husband till you go into labour?
That is absurd. He is the father of your children & has a right to know. The fact your sister knows before your husband to me is a bit disrespectful. If I were your husband & I found out someone knew before I did I'd be most upset. I guess you know him best & will know how he'd react.
I know if I kept that from my OH & told a family member before him he'd be pissed.
If the US tec did know know there were 2 babies, how did she know the gender of the 2nd one. I did not know you could tell gender from an arm.
There's literally no way to have a close relationship with your spouse and not share this. I have ultrasounds at every appointment, need to double up on all baby supplies (even though I have two toddlers already), and owe more for prenatal care and the delivery. Also, during delivery most moms of multiples are moved to the operating room in case anything goes south. What about preparing for things like potential bedrest or preterm delivery?
I agree with what others said. If this is even true, I'm sure your head is spinning. I understand not sharing with family but there's really no fair or feasible way to not share with a spouse...