Secrets to Surviving the Waiting Game

BumpCaitlin · May 2015

Does trying to conceive feel like a constant waiting game? Here are some Bump secrets to get you through the conception process with your sanity intact!

How do you keep sane while trying to conceive?

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lostkyte · May 2015

Just had a really good, positive experience yesterday and wanted to share. I practice yoga on a regular basis to supplement my other gym rat habits. Most of the time I just use it as an extended stretching session. Yesterday, the teacher paid special attention to me, even though it was only my second time in her very crowded class. She doesn't know I'm TTC, but still, she pampered me, helping me to stretch more deeply, adjusting my poses. I ended up crying after class, because I was so grateful that someone cared about my body.

I've spent a lot of time these last few months judging my body, and that helps no one, least of all me. Her gentle care and attention reminded me that my body is a strong, amazing thing. I carried that with me the rest of the day.

I've also started journaling before bed. It's messy and short and I hope no one ever reads it. But it helps to empty my mind. I still wake up once in the middle of the night. For this, I don't yet have a bulletproof suggestion. It's easy to fret in the dark, so I've started forcing myself to get up, walk around, have a bit of water. Anything to reset and try to calm my mind.

So I think that's my advice: try to empty your head (with journaling, prayer, meditation, whatever works for you) and find places in your life to be proud of your body.

BumpCaitlin · May 2015

lostkyte said:
Just had a really good, positive experience yesterday and wanted to share. I practice yoga on a regular basis to supplement my other gym rat habits. Most of the time I just use it as an extended stretching session. Yesterday, the teacher paid special attention to me, even though it was only my second time in her very crowded class. She doesn't know I'm TTC, but still, she pampered me, helping me to stretch more deeply, adjusting my poses. I ended up crying after class, because I was so grateful that someone cared about my body.

I've spent a lot of time these last few months judging my body, and that helps no one, least of all me. Her gentle care and attention reminded me that my body is a strong, amazing thing. I carried that with me the rest of the day.

I've also started journaling before bed. It's messy and short and I hope no one ever reads it. But it helps to empty my mind. I still wake up once in the middle of the night. For this, I don't yet have a bulletproof suggestion. It's easy to fret in the dark, so I've started forcing myself to get up, walk around, have a bit of water. Anything to reset and try to calm my mind.

So I think that's my advice: try to empty your head (with journaling, prayer, meditation, whatever works for you) and find places in your life to be proud of your body.

Really beautifully said. Thank you so much for sharing that. So glad you are finding ways to calm your mind and body!

ACleanLife24 · May 2015

I have an autoimmune disease which has made the last year of my life a constant up and down and TTC unsuccessfully (while it seems like EVERY one of my friends gets GTFU including those not "really" trying!). My health and work life has been a mess and I honestly have felt like I was going through an early mid-life crisis.

I have had to learn to let go of that which I can't change and learn to roll with the punches. I make plans and schedules but don't define dates things need to be done. So I didn't go the gym three times this week because I felt like crap and instead took painkillers and slept 12 hours... is it that "window" well unless I am feeling up to it and sex is going to be enjoyable I am not going to just lay there like a starfish for the purpose of some timing. I have learned to focus my time on things that I will see the benefits from in more ways than one- fantastic heirloom garden, growing traffic on the blog, leaving my job to go back to school for the career I always wanted. Days that I am in pain, exhausted or once again AF has showed up... just treat with a nice long dog walk, a bottle of Malbec and some Netflix... because its OK to just recognise that things suck and wallow for a bit. But then once your wallowing is done, pick yourself up and just keep swimming!

leela20999 · May 2015

Honestly this month is rough, i feel like i am going crazy. We have been ttc since january, and every month has been 28 or 29 day cycle, but this month im on day 33 and nothing. I have taken two dollar store tests, one on sunday late night and the other on tuesday but both negative. Usually im really sick day leading up to period and i feel nothing. Last night i started feeling a tad tender on the side of my breasts. I know depending on the hormone or lack there of, some people can find out they are pregnant when they are two weeks late! I am planning on taking another test sat morn if aunt flow doesnt comeby then. Crossing my fingers its a positive test though. I feel like i want to try to busy myself but i keep finding myself doing more research instead. Argh!

ecmb · May 2015

leela20999 said:
Honestly this month is rough, i feel like i am going crazy. We have been ttc since january, and every month has been 28 or 29 day cycle, but this month im on day 33 and nothing. I have taken two dollar store tests, one on sunday late night and the other on tuesday but both negative. Usually im really sick day leading up to period and i feel nothing. Last night i started feeling a tad tender on the side of my breasts. I know depending on the hormone or lack there of, some people can find out they are pregnant when they are two weeks late! I am planning on taking another test sat morn if aunt flow doesnt comeby then. Crossing my fingers its a positive test though. I feel like i want to try to busy myself but i keep finding myself doing more research instead. Argh!

So I think this is just a longer cycle for you. Not saying you aren't or won't get pregnant but you have either ovulated later than normal or you haven't even ovulated yet. If people don't test positive until they're "two weeks late" this is because they ovulated later than normal and they only think they are two weeks late. Most people will turn a HPT positive at 14 days past ovulation which is usually 4 days late at the most.

I'm sorry you are having a rough month and I can understand your frustration. I used to follow a calendar app on my phone and it can only guess your estimated ovulation and in my case it was usually wrong (most of my cycles are between 30-33 days but I have also had cycles that are anywhere from 28-42 days). When I got really fed up that's when I found myself here, learning so much and realizing there was so much more I could be doing to help myself get pregnant.

I would recommend you keep testing every 2-3 days until you get your period or a BFP. I would also recommend you order a basal body thermometer (BBT), download Fertility Friend, order a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni W. (used copies available on Amazon for under $5) and then start temping and charting.

You will learn so much and I think be much less frustrated. Good luck to you and I hope your journey is short!

leela20999 · May 2015

Hey, well i have ff and a do have the bbt, anf i chart but its really confusing this month. I also use opks as well. I feel like i didnt even ovulated. Although i did get a positive on day 12 i believe it was, ah well that doesnt mean i actually did ovulate though. I just wish it would come if im not pregnant so it doesnt drive me looney. Or im not disapointed. Two week wait is hard enough, tacking more time to it is making it harder.

Kells318 · June 2015

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 8 months now. We have a beautiful 5 year old daughter who came as a total surprise. So this is the first time I have tried to get pregnant. It's heartbreaking. I am doing everything I know to do...get my timing right on ovulation, take my temperature in the mornings, try to stay stress free and other things. Today I am 8 days late for my period and I came home today and was so sure I would see a positive test result and I did not. I am BLESSED to have my little girl, but we desperately want to expand our family. I joined this site for some motivation and positive vibes because I'm just beside myself right now.

God's timing is perfect.

BGG77 · June 2015

I have been TTC for just over a year now. It's been really hard for me.
I get mood swings, I'm constantly Irritable. Sometimes I wake up in despair and anx.
I know I have to stay positive to be able conceive but each month gets harder to bear. I'm seeing my doctor to determine treatments but I think my mental state is suffering the most from this experience.

Beautifulbodysynergy · June 2015

Thank you for this. I am having a hard time in the 2ww!

Beautifulbodysynergy · June 2015

That is fantastic! Good for you

I thing writing your emotions down in a private journal is a great way to work through your feelings.

Beautifulbodysynergy · June 2015

I have 2 autoimmune diseases, and one has left me so unhealthy that I stopped ovulating for a year =( We are so strong that the only thing that can hurt us is ourself lol

Abikutty · June 2015

Hi ya, I'm new to tiz group.
Me n Mr Hubby TTC since November (right after tying the knot). First 3 months of trial no good news. After a long chat with Mr Hubby, I found that he's suffering from phimosis for past few years. Stat we met a Urologist and circumcision was done. 2 months of rest(a big NO to SI), n juz tried again tiz month. Supposed to AF today, fingers crossed...To miss AF, N hoping for a UPT +ve.

Clynn2 · June 2015

We have been ttc for roughly a year. And each month it seems to get harder and harder. Meanwhile multiple friends are popping up pregnant. One wasn't trying at all and the other decided to try and the next month boom! So hard for me not to be jealous or angry which then makes me feel like a terrible person

wolleys10 · June 2015

That's the worst! I've had three friends have babies in the past couple of weeks and another just told me she's preggers. I want to be happy for them, but it's getting harder and harder. But we just keep trying.

diddly92 · June 2015

I know how you feel iv been ttc since February after the loss of my first baby. Time seems to be going so quick but yet every second drives me mad wondering when il conceive. Hopefully waiting will bring what we are wanting, good luck!

ck1986 · June 2015

Love your honesty hear--it's really comforting to hear!

cammlyn · June 2015

We got a puppy

8 weeks old and just let me tell you I don't have time to think about anything other than house breaking at the moment so our little AJ has been great at keeping me busy while we are ttc again

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jtsabo · June 2015

I am on my 4th cycle so have had 3 tww so far. I did not in any way stay sane on the 2nd tww and it totally messed me up but for the latest I stayed sane by:
- journalling my freaking out ans then letting it go
- banning myself from symptom googling or talking about symptoms with people, including forums
- being firm with myself that at that point any symptoms are pms so allowed myself to slowly realise I wasn't getting a bfp, so I was ok with it by the time af came.
- decided to get a tattoo. This was great because it gave me something to look forward to that I couldn't do if I was pregnant. I was like "yuss!" When af came lol

TiffanyFarris · June 2015

I've used 5 pregnancy tests trying to survive the tww. I still have 6 days before my missed period. Does anyone have any advice? This is my first month trying to conceive.

jtsabo · June 2015

My advice would be don't use them until AF Is due. If you don't think you can stand not testing with the tests in the house, then don't buy them or give to SO to hold on to for you.

Honestly, what's the point in testing early, you'll just drive yourself nuts and tell yourself it's only negative because it's too early. I have been there, in my first cycle I used an early test and tested every day from 2 days before they said to just in case I was wrong about the day, AF ended up being 5 days late so I used heaps of tests and had myself convinced I was pregnant. It was devastating when I wasn't!

Sorry, this is in response to TiffanyFaris. I am rubbish at getting this all to work on my phone.

TiffanyFarris · June 2015

Thank you @jtsabo ! I will try not to buy any next month. I think that would be helpful for the wasted money issue. I wish that there was just some clarity or peace of mind to all of this. Grrrrrrr

brwnidgrl3 · June 2015

Hello all! I'm Julie and my husband and I recently started TTC for our first baby. For years I have had a very irregular cycle and then had an IUD for 5 years that I just had removed this April. Since my cycle is so different every month, I decided to get an ovulation test kit to help. I have literally been taking a test everday because I have no idea when I should ovulate and don't trust body to do it when it's supposed to. I also started taking Vitex about 1 month ago to help regulate everything. According to every app I have, I should be able to take a pregnancy test this weekend. However, I never got a positive ovulation test. So I'm not terribly optimistic. Anyway, I am looking forward to reading through everyone's suggestions and getting to know you all :-)

tennisbabymama · June 2015

Hey guys. I'm new to the bump! But my husband and I are on our first month of TTC baby #1. I just finished ovulation, and the wait is already killing me!

6a6y · June 2015

It's horrible isn't it? We started this month too and I took a test yesterday (bfn). AF due on Friday though so I am going to try and wait until then to take another test (or it could get very expensive!)

Chichi85 · June 2015

Hi my wife and I are ttc this is my second iui and I'm now in day four of my 2ww. I'm trying not to stress about it , but the wait is killing me. I'm really hoping for my bfp Cuz the next step for us will be an ivf . so finger crossed , thank for listening, advice always wanted Lol

JessieandAdam · July 2015

I've been trying to have a baby for 2 years now. We've had 3 MC

I'm currently on the TWW hoping to have good news soon

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

JLaVO888 · July 2015

@jessieandadam Sending good wishes your way.

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jtsabo · July 2015

@TiffanyFarris Hey how are you getting on?

AL_TwinCities · July 2015

@JessieandAdam so sorry for your losses. I have only lost one and can't imagine losing three. Thinking of you.

rel1988 · July 2015

Thank you I needed this today and I head into our 4th cycle TTC our first. I'm not the only one jealous and a little sad everytime another friend gets pregnant. Trying to focus less on the end result and distract myself more. It's a struggle!

Lottiesmom17 · July 2015

TTC with hypothyroidism. I'm tired always and so tired of waiting...

Karissie · July 2015

Hey all! So me hubby are ttc! I have been off the pill for 6 days now, melodene, and I have this constant cramping. It is more annoying at this stage, than painfull. Is this normal? Then I'm taking the ovulation test and taking my temp everyday, and comparing yesterdays with todays, the second line is getting darker, does this mean I might be time to ovulate? Ps. New at this!

MrsEtheridge324 · July 2015

How can people stand this ugh, I'm so anxious and every time I lurk on here I just freak out because so many people are going through the exact same feelings or aches that I have but no bfp. =(

mommygrams0730 · July 2015

@MrsEtheridge324 have you been lurking on the TWW threads? We've had quite a few move in with bfp's! If you use the search function and go back through the last few you weeks I think you'll find at least 5, if not more.

cattlebride · July 2015

My suggestion is get a bigger data plan and learn to gif!

Daybird11Six · July 2015

@cattlebride Unrelated, YGPM

kato89 · July 2015

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AL_TwinCities · July 2015

Seriously @kato89 !?! Have you read anything on this board? The internet can't tell you if you're pregnant. Asking is against Bump rules. Read first, lurk more. Go to your BMB if you've got a BFP.

sarahmariekinney · July 2015

Why can't I get pregnant? I've been trying for two months having sex every day but still no luck. I got off my birth control three months ago. What's going on?

shyshywells · July 2015

Sometimes it takes a while to become pregnant. Also I have read to have sex every second day or 3-4 times a week.

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